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03-13-2013 11:16 AM
sarafi

My two intact DS's have had not problems at all. 7 years, and 4 years running.

 

Our almost 10 year old DD has had so.many.adhesions, multiple UTI's and kidney infections. And two surgeries to correct reflux. Oddly enough, no one suggested circumcision as a cure for herPeace.gif Funny how that works.

01-24-2013 06:38 PM
bmcneal

DS is four, and never had a problem.

01-24-2013 06:10 PM
*GreenMama* Two boys, ages 6 and 5. Not a single problem.
01-20-2013 08:34 AM
bankamundi

never had a problem.  Never even heard of a problem in "real life."

01-20-2013 12:48 AM
moving toward

without revealing too much - none of my previous partners had a problem - I live in a culture where it is normal to be intact  - I have NEVER heard of an issue mot once, not ever., my son at 9 weeks is intact and circumcision was never mention by any of the medical staff I dealt with. I didn't even have a passing thought of whether to cut his penis or not - no one else needs to either

01-16-2013 02:34 PM
Sunflower223

Husband is circed. But baby boys (3 and 5) have never had the slightest issue. =)

01-16-2013 07:16 AM
hakunangovi
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Much like a girl's body matures at it's own rate, so too will a boys.  Unfortunately, many doctors in the US are completely ignorant of normal male development.  If you're being told there's a problem, as long as your son is urinating, then he's likely fine.  When the male starts to mature, that's when the hormones start working on the body to finish the development of the sex organs.  Because most doctors in this country do not have a fulling functioning body, they do not know how one matures.  Most males will be retractable by the time they're an adult.  I've read here about a father who did not retract & had a sex life, obviously, or he wouldn't be a father. winky.gif

 

If this is bothersome to the child, once he's past puberty, if it still hasn't changed, a knowledgeable, intact friendly doctor can discuss options w/ him.  I would not suggest he see a random, run of the mill doctor though, for the reasons I stated above.  He'd have to see one that knows how to do more than just cut it off.

 

 

I agree.  I have a nephew who was not retractable until about 15, then almost overnight it happened. Also, there are men who never achieve retractability and lead perfectly normal lives with no issues whatsoever.  They are in a much better place that a man who had his foreskin amputated.

 

If, as Sus stated above, it becomes an issue fo him after puberty, there are many options which do not involve amputation.  For your own peace of mind, you might wish to read the following:

 

www.cirp.org/library/treatment/phimosis

 

www.biomedcentral.com/1471-2490/8/6

01-15-2013 08:24 PM
mama24-7
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Originally Posted by fjuyftriujn View Post

At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?

Welcome!

 

Much like a girl's body matures at it's own rate, so too will a boys.  Unfortunately, many doctors in the US are completely ignorant of normal male development.  If you're being told there's a problem, as long as your son is urinating, then he's likely fine.  When the male starts to mature, that's when the hormones start working on the body to finish the development of the sex organs.  Because most doctors in this country do not have a fulling functioning body, they do not know how one matures.  Most males will be retractable by the time they're an adult.  I've read here about a father who did not retract & had a sex life, obviously, or he wouldn't be a father. winky.gif

 

If this is bothersome to the child, once he's past puberty, if it still hasn't changed, a knowledgeable, intact friendly doctor can discuss options w/ him.  I would not suggest he see a random, run of the mill doctor though, for the reasons I stated above.  He'd have to see one that knows how to do more than just cut it off.

 

Best wishes,

Sus

01-14-2013 07:02 PM
MCatLvrMom2A&X
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Originally Posted by fjuyftriujn View Post

At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?
It could be years yet or it could happen sometime in the near future. As long as he is able to urinate I wouldnt worry.
01-14-2013 06:24 PM
fjuyftriujn At what ages should my boy foreskin retract cause he is 13 now and it still haven't happen?
01-12-2013 01:09 PM
3sacharm

my ds is 3 and no issues at all.  my next door neighbor has 4 sons and a dh that are all intact and no issues from any of them.  i personally don't have issues with circ vs. non-circ it was just what we chose for our ds.  hopefully our ds will continue to be trouble free.

01-10-2013 02:23 PM
dayiscoming2006

I use burt bees baby wash on my kids or sometimes castor soap. And he doesn't use any more than what he'd use on the rest of his body. Guess each kid is different.

01-10-2013 12:07 PM
incorrigible

Ds only got red and irritated if he did use soap. I think that changed with puberty though. I can't imagine how careful he'd have to be with all the scented products he uses in the shower now, if it was still an issue! lol

01-10-2013 07:39 AM
dayiscoming2006

I just meant making sure he washes with soap and water down there at bath time. No moving any foreskin or anything. Just thought I should clarify.


At one point I wasn't making sure he did that and he was getting baths so I didn't think anything, but his wee wee got a little red and irritated looking. As soon as I made sure he used soap, it cleared up and looked healthy again. I have his circed older brother wash with soap and water there too now, but he has never had any irritation like that. I don't know if it's because of circed or not. I still wouldn't consider that a good enough reason to circ.

01-10-2013 05:21 AM
Mitchell756 It is not necessary to clean them or to teach them how to clean unlike what many individuals would have you believe. Please read through this thread here for mor on this subject http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1367332/when-should-they-learn-how-to-clean. I would like to say that it is safe to use soap to clean the foreskin but going overboard with it can cause problems. Also, forcibly retracting the foreskin before it is naturally able to retract can cause problems with phimosis later in life. The equivalent of this in females would be breaking a girls hymen to clean the inside of her vagina. The only person that should be cleaning it is him once he discovers that his foreskin is naturally able to retract on its own. The obsession with hygene is a myth that was created by physicians to scare parents into having their sons circumcised in order to benefit themselves monetarily. If he is naturally retractable then it is safe for him to continue doing it, but there is no reason for you to be overtly concerned about the cleanliness aspect of this.
01-09-2013 07:33 AM
dayiscoming2006

4 year old boy with no problems. Just need to make sure to wash it with soap at every bath. Taught him to do that.

01-06-2013 10:44 PM
EchoSoul

21 months in. No problems.

01-02-2013 01:15 PM
CrunchyChristianMama

No problems here 6 months in.  :D
 

01-02-2013 12:55 PM
~Bug~

I have 3 intact boys and none have ever had a problem. When my oldest was 4 the pediatrician tried to check to see if he was retractable. I asked her not to do that. She got all upset with me and told me she had a 10 year old patient "who had to be circumcised" because he couldn't retract. We switched doctors. As far as I know, he still can't retract. But since 10 years old is the average ago of retractibility, I'm not the slightest bit worried.

12-17-2012 07:15 AM
AntoninBeGonin

Might as well update this thread.  When I posted earlier my son was six and had never had a problem with his foreskin.  He is now eight and has still never had a single problem.  He knows what circumcision is and thinks it is horrendous.  He is very happy that he wasn't put through that. 
 

11-24-2012 09:36 PM
momasana

DS is five and we've never had any problems.

11-19-2012 02:05 PM
incorrigible

I think I might have posted in this thread somewhere, but I'm not willing to dig through and see. lol Ds is 14 now. We've never had problems, but we've had a little excitement a couple times. 

 

The first was when he was a toddler and xh used dishsoap as bubble bath. Ds's foreskin was inflamed, but even the pro-circ pediatrician didn't claim circ would have changed anything. lol

 

The second was when he was 8 and said ped was feeling particularly frustrated that there hadn't been any issues with ds's genitals. We went in for a camp check up, and he forcibly retracted ds's not entirely retractable foreskin so hard and fast that he tore ds's frenulum!!! Then tried to claim it wouldn't have happened if he was circ'd. >=/ Ds made a full recovery, though, not to worry. 

 

Now, he's homeschooled but taking classes part time at the high school, including PE. He plays sports, camps out with boy scouts, goes on leadership excursions with 4H where he shares hotel rooms with other boys, etc. etc. etc.. No one has ever had anything negative to say (some curiosity, some jealousy, some harmless "boy" antics, mostly disinterest), and he's never had any infections or issues with his genitals...unlike his feet!!!! (Good thing we don't see that ped anymore. He'd have had them amputated by now, for sure!!! lol)

11-10-2012 09:33 AM
stacyann21

My (almost) 6 year old has never had a problem with his foreskin. It does balloon up when he pees but that is normal and does not cause any issues for him. He had a UTI once when he was 3 yo but that could happen to a circumcised boy or a girl so I don't consider that to have anything to do with his foreskin. I think it mainly had to do with him holding in his pee because he didn't want to stop playing and go to the bathroom haha. My partner is circumcised and was really concerned about leaving DS intact at first but now he agrees it's the right thing to do since there have been no actual problems. I would never circumcise without a valid medical reason.

08-31-2012 05:59 PM
mare54

I'm glad to hear you have a perfectly normal boy!

08-31-2012 05:28 AM
woogs My son is 10, and no issues. Pretty sure it retracts, but I haven't been checking. Sometimes I wonder if the ones who retract easily had/have more "playtime" when little..lol
Mine had plenty of bath time, and alone time/naked time. He didn't keep his hands off it from ages 1-4...lol
08-31-2012 03:09 AM
mummyof5now

Hi

I dont know any man or boy who has been circumsized (perhaps because i am in the UK). I have only ever heard of one problem which was n a boyfriend who had tenderness retracting foreskin at the age of 16 he was told by his doctor that they didnt worry until he was closer to 20 and that it would resolve itself - and it did. Other than that I have never heard of any issues at all.

I also have never heard of any special care instructions, I just put my son in the bath the same as my daughters it has never occured to me to do any special care of his penis at all not has he ever been seen by a doctor.
 

08-30-2012 09:40 PM
begoniamama
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Originally Posted by mt_gooseberry View Post

 

DH is from a country that doesn't routinely circumcised and he's never heard of anyone having problems b/c they weren't circed.  You'd think that if being intact routinely led to serious problems it would be more widely known in such countries.

DH is also from a country that doesn't circumcise, and he said the same. Problems are not the norm!

08-30-2012 10:10 AM
mt_gooseberry

DH is 26 and never had a problem.  DS is 12mo and no problems so far. 

 

DH is from a country that doesn't routinely circumcised and he's never heard of anyone having problems b/c they weren't circed.  You'd think that if being intact routinely led to serious problems it would be more widely known in such countries.

08-30-2012 05:46 AM
abiyhayil

4 years and no regrets
 

08-29-2012 07:28 PM
~Nikki~
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Originally Posted by MyName View Post

. I'm 25 and I've had more problems than any male in my household has. winky.gif I managed to solve them without cutting parts of my genitals off though.

 

Hah, sounds about right!

 

My son is 7 and has never had a problem.  He doesn't fully retract yet, but his pediatrician (who won't touch anything, just asks him how things are going down there) is not concerned in the least and says that he's progressing normally. 

 

My son's father is 35 and has never had a problem

 

His grandfather is....jeez, 60?  And never had a problem and openly discusses it as much as we don't want to hear it.

 

My brother - at least in his childhood years (he wouldn't DARE discuss it with me now) has never had a problem.

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