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11-01-2010 02:03 PM
~Katie~ New thread for November and December
11-01-2010 01:42 PM
justKate
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Question for you all..

Now that you've been living the military lifestyle for awhile, do you find that you get the "PCS itch" about two years after living at a particular duty station? We've been at Lewis for almost two years now, and I'm already looking at housing for our next move (Ft. Huachuca for MI Captain's Career Course). Am I crazy? I suppose it comes from living in the same little town for the first 16 years of my life, and having a bit of wanderlust as a result. I especially think I'm a little batty because I'm 37w3d pregnant with DS #5, and shouldn't even be devoting an ounce of brain power to the idea of PCS-ing .
Depends on where we are. I didn't want to leave our last assignment AT ALL, and we had asked for an extension right when we found out that Huz got into the school program he's doing now. Bleh. It was the right thing to do for his career, but hard for both of us to leave.

Our next move will be this year--June?--and we won't have orders until mid-February. Is it just the Coast Guard that does it this way? It drives me crazy to be thinking all winter about where we'll be. It's hard not knowing, because I'd like to plan. Plus this time we'll have to rent our house here, which will be a whole new experience.

Soul-O, how's the pregnancy going? It's November already, can you believe it?
10-31-2010 04:22 PM
EdnaMarie
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Question for you all..

Now that you've been living the military lifestyle for awhile, do you find that you get the "PCS itch" about two years after living at a particular duty station? We've been at Lewis for almost two years now, and I'm already looking at housing for our next move (Ft. Huachuca for MI Captain's Career Course). Am I crazy? I suppose it comes from living in the same little town for the first 16 years of my life, and having a bit of wanderlust as a result. I especially think I'm a little batty because I'm 37w3d pregnant with DS #5, and shouldn't even be devoting an ounce of brain power to the idea of PCS-ing .
I've never lived any place more than four years in my entire life (I was a child of hippies, then a humanitarian bohemian sort, finally military) and my average is 1.75 years in one town. I do get itchy feet! But I want my kids to have more stability so we're hoping to move around Germany for a while now so we can get them in the schools and such.
10-31-2010 04:02 PM
~Katie~
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Question for you all..

Now that you've been living the military lifestyle for awhile, do you find that you get the "PCS itch" about two years after living at a particular duty station? We've been at Lewis for almost two years now, and I'm already looking at housing for our next move (Ft. Huachuca for MI Captain's Career Course). Am I crazy? I suppose it comes from living in the same little town for the first 16 years of my life, and having a bit of wanderlust as a result. I especially think I'm a little batty because I'm 37w3d pregnant with DS #5, and shouldn't even be devoting an ounce of brain power to the idea of PCS-ing .
I'm the same way. It has a lot to do with the fact that I'm a planner and I have this crazy idea in my head that if I plan and know what to expect it'll decrease some of the stress and anxiety, though I don't know if it ever does. I think you do just get used to moving after a while, we're naturally nomadic people and places do get boring after a while and it's fun to see new places out there. I don't think we've ever found a place that feels like home yet, either.
10-31-2010 03:18 PM
MaerynPearl re: the roaches

my mom had a horrible problem with them in navy housing in S.D.

they ended up moving with our family into our new home back in illinois and it took them YEARS to finally get rid of them (bombing, sprays, nothing completely worked)

i will find out from her what finally did it.
10-31-2010 01:54 PM
Soul-O Question for you all..

Now that you've been living the military lifestyle for awhile, do you find that you get the "PCS itch" about two years after living at a particular duty station? We've been at Lewis for almost two years now, and I'm already looking at housing for our next move (Ft. Huachuca for MI Captain's Career Course). Am I crazy? I suppose it comes from living in the same little town for the first 16 years of my life, and having a bit of wanderlust as a result. I especially think I'm a little batty because I'm 37w3d pregnant with DS #5, and shouldn't even be devoting an ounce of brain power to the idea of PCS-ing .
10-31-2010 01:50 PM
Soul-O
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Originally Posted by MommaKitten21 View Post
Well we made it to GA and being a family again is wonderful!! 4 months apart really didn't do any "damage" to us. We seemed to have blended back together perfectly (kids included) I'm thanking my lucky stars for that one!!

However, we have one problem. We are living on post (have to) and our place is infested with roaches!!!! Seriously! The property management doesn't seem to be in any hurry to fix this. I mean... what can we do when they don't seem to care?
We had the same problem at Gordon. Are they the big flying cockroaches, or the smaller, indoor variety? What often happened while we were there is that housing would bomb one house, so the roaches would just take up residence at the next house. Yuck. My best suggestion with that particular housing agency is to be a squeaky wheel - call the maintenance line every day until someone comes out to spray for roaches. Give it a week. If nothing happens, have your DH mention it to his 1SG, then let it go up the chain of command. You can also ICE the housing agency yourself.

Glad to hear that all is well with you and your family. Congrats on surviving the move!
10-31-2010 11:08 AM
~Katie~ You may need to bomb it yourself. We had ants one time and I was 39 weeks pregnant with a toddler and had to do it. Eventually they did come out after I pleaded with them but not after I did it. Maybe tell them you have very small children and cannot live in the home safely unless they have a professional exterminator come, otherwise they need to provide you with safe housing. There are ways to file formal complaints, it should be in the contract you signed.
10-31-2010 12:26 AM
MommaKitten21 Well we made it to GA and being a family again is wonderful!! 4 months apart really didn't do any "damage" to us. We seemed to have blended back together perfectly (kids included) I'm thanking my lucky stars for that one!!

However, we have one problem. We are living on post (have to) and our place is infested with roaches!!!! Seriously! The property management doesn't seem to be in any hurry to fix this. I mean... what can we do when they don't seem to care?
10-26-2010 12:59 AM
Soul-O
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Originally Posted by MovingMomma View Post
We're leaving our girls with my parents for a week. Does anyone know what we need to do/leave with them in order for my parents to get them medical care if necessary?
I would suggest getting a medical power of attorney from JAG. Attach a copy of one of your IDs (which your parents will need if they take the girls to a medical facility for treatment). Make sure they understand that the PCM must be notified within 24 hours if your DDs receive emergency medical care at a facility other than their MTF (or PCMs office). Have fun on your trip!
10-25-2010 11:10 PM
hdeering Possible is good. And this is the Air Force....

He's in computers. Really, not an essential thing to have tons of guys on in such an established location. It's just dumb, really. But we'll see.
10-25-2010 09:20 PM
MaerynPearl hdeering hubby says its possible... but depends more on what they are forecasting for that position than what is going on right now
10-25-2010 08:53 PM
hdeering
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Originally Posted by gagin37 View Post
that's exactly what happened to my dh. He got to Afghanistan, and found out they didn't need him and he wasn't supposed to be there. So he was there about 2.5 months then got sent home.
Thanks for giving me some hope!

Anytime less than his 6 months would be great.

I emailed the commander's wife to thank her for calling and checking on me, and while I was at it, I mentioned how silly it seems to have him there when there's no work to do... not in so many words, but you know.

I'll be praying...
10-25-2010 08:33 PM
MovingMomma We're leaving our girls with my parents for a week. Does anyone know what we need to do/leave with them in order for my parents to get them medical care if necessary?
10-25-2010 08:11 PM
gagin37
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I don't know if anyone's had any experience with this... but DH just left for a 6 month deployment to Qatar. Upon arrival, he learns that the already slow (as in not much work to do) shop is going to have 2 more people on this rotation than the last one. Any hope of him getting sent home? I'm talking slow as in private laptops are allowed in the shop at slow times to play WoW and talk on Skype.

I know of one friend's DH that got sent home from a deployment because they didn't need him, but I never heard any details.

You'd think if they pick anyone, it would be the guy with a pregnant wife about to give birth...
that's exactly what happened to my dh. He got to Afghanistan, and found out they didn't need him and he wasn't supposed to be there. So he was there about 2.5 months then got sent home.
10-25-2010 08:06 PM
hdeering I don't know if anyone's had any experience with this... but DH just left for a 6 month deployment to Qatar. Upon arrival, he learns that the already slow (as in not much work to do) shop is going to have 2 more people on this rotation than the last one. Any hope of him getting sent home? I'm talking slow as in private laptops are allowed in the shop at slow times to play WoW and talk on Skype.

I know of one friend's DH that got sent home from a deployment because they didn't need him, but I never heard any details.

You'd think if they pick anyone, it would be the guy with a pregnant wife about to give birth...
10-24-2010 01:49 PM
WifeofAnt
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Originally Posted by MaerynPearl View Post


phone call this morning. rarely is it good when he calls me from work. this was the second worst from-work call yet. Worst was when he told me he was deploying to Kuwait and Iraq.

This time its a ship somewhere in the pacific... for the first half of next year.


I really should check here more often. DH left last night for NTC. I feel like such a wimp because I've never spent such a long time by myself. Last deployment I was living with my parents. I hope the baby stays put so DH doesn't miss the birth. Of course then once he comes home I'm going to be anxious for him to come out so DH can spend some time with him before deployment. Its hard to imagine he'll be walking before DH comes back home.
10-23-2010 01:26 PM
Soul-O Safe travels, MK! Please update us when you arrive in Augusta. I hope the weather cooperates for you.

MP: Sorry to hear about the orders . Your DH's cruise sounds like an adventure. Perhaps you'll be able to arrange to meet him at one of the stops?? Kinda pricey, unless Space A travel is possible. Anyhow, I know how tough it is to be without a DH while caring for small children. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
10-23-2010 07:19 AM
MommaKitten21 Welp... officially leaving!!! This means, being with DH is only 15.5 hours away. Yeahhhhhhhhh
10-23-2010 01:40 AM
MaerynPearl south korea is one of the destinations he mentioned, as well as japan, Australia and Thailand.

if it weren't for the fact that this is his job, i would be seriously jealous. We wanted our first trip to Australia to be together.
10-23-2010 12:20 AM
MommaKitten21 Thanks ladies! I will let you know when we get in and get settled.

Yorktown is awesome. I didn't live there, but we tried to! We really enjoyed that area.

MP- I am so sorry... here starts the roller coaster of emotions. It seems like everyone I know is getting orders on a ship in the Pacific or stationed in Korea. I know we are trying to make our presence known and I have a feeling that is where the next war is going to take place when their leader dies and his son(right?) takes over. Seems like the military is preparing for some issues out that way.

DH is most likely going to be stationed in Korea. We will know in the next few months what the game plan is exactly.
10-22-2010 01:57 PM
~Katie~ Have a good trip tomorrow, MK!

I'm sorry MK.
10-22-2010 01:39 PM
MaerynPearl

phone call this morning. rarely is it good when he calls me from work. this was the second worst from-work call yet. Worst was when he told me he was deploying to Kuwait and Iraq.

This time its a ship somewhere in the pacific... for the first half of next year.
10-22-2010 01:32 PM
justKate Hi Lisa.

How far are you from Yorktown? I might have to pick your brain if we end up there...

MK, hope you can put this move behind you soon. Yay for reunions!
10-22-2010 01:13 PM
jellybeanandkids
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Originally Posted by MommaKitten21 View Post
welcome Lisa!!!

How do you like Norfolk? We enjoyed our time stationed in DC and we enjoyed taking weekend trips down your way to the beach.... but we didn't have kids then.


So I am leaving Saturday, ladies!! I can not believe only a couple days until I'm back with DH !!!!! Time to make baby number 3!!!
Thanks!

I like it fairly well. I wish we actually lived in Virginia Beach, because it's a little bit nicer area and the schools are better. We bought a house here 5 years ago, and I'm making do with what I have.
We have actually been in Norfolk ever since we met, in 1999. DH has been stationed here since he got out of training back in like '98. There are so many ships and Navy bases around here that we will likely just keep picking orders for this area until he hits 20 years (which is 5 years away).

Congrats to getting to see your DH again, I know how exciting that is!
10-21-2010 12:37 PM
MommaKitten21 welcome Lisa!!!

How do you like Norfolk? We enjoyed our time stationed in DC and we enjoyed taking weekend trips down your way to the beach.... but we didn't have kids then.


So I am leaving Saturday, ladies!! I can not believe only a couple days until I'm back with DH !!!!! Time to make baby number 3!!!
10-21-2010 11:39 AM
jellybeanandkids Hello, I am Lisa and my DH is in the Navy. We are in Norfolk, VA.
10-19-2010 05:08 PM
MommaKitten21 Oh my gosh. Can you read my brain?!?! haha.

I'm in school online, and this is final project week. (at least I contacted about internet and the guy is going to meet me this weekend to install it so I don't have a delay and can submit my homework)

We are also in a court battle for custody (we had custody of DH's daughter... mom was gone for years, and she took off and fled with her after Christmas break... still trying to track them down.. it's been heartbreaking)

Ughh. The only thing is, I gave our cat away to a neighbor. I just cant deal with one. more. thing.

Moving day is this Friday. The movers are estimating our stuff to arrive in GA on November 10th. Seriously? that far away? So I have a friend following me down with our beds and necessary stuff because, well, I just don't know what to do otherwise. Cant go that long with no beds and no basics.

Oh the joys of PCSing by yourself, and with kids hahaha. Oh, and mapquest is estimating an 11 hour drive. That's without stopping to breastfeed every 30 min ha.
10-19-2010 03:16 PM
Soul-O MK: I had a PCS like that.. did it all myself with a toddler, a newborn, and a cat. Had to clear housing, drive four hours to the new duty station, and stay in temp housing until our apartment was ready. Oh, and still complete a graduate class (including a 10 pg paper and a group project), and prep for court with my ex DH. The only saving grace is that my older DSs were at Grandma's for the move. DH was in OCS at the time and couldn't contact me, much less help out. It was miserable.

I'm sorry that your family doesn't want to help . Is there a friend who could come over to help with the kids at least?

10-18-2010 11:46 PM
MommaKitten21 Can I just say that I forgot how crappy PCS moves are?!?!


Well, I guess it wouldn't be horrible at all if DH were here. Grr. My family doesn't want to help so I'm trying to do it all with just me and the toddler, and the new baby. Really?

I'm supposed to leave this Friday... but don't see that happening. Just needed to vent. Grrrr.
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