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08-23-2011 11:06 AM
TriciaRawks

Alrighty, so I'm back from vacation and it took me forever to figure out how to tell my family the news. I was lucky because for a little while everyone was there. My brother was in the process of looking for an out-of-state job and moving there so I had to jump right in and take advantage of the circumstances. 

 

One night we were all together, having dinner to celebrate our family birthdays (it was mine too, yay!) and then after we all gathered around and were talking about some fun things we've done recently. It was like a casual Family night. Well, I got the idea to tell everyone then and there but I didn't want to just yell it out randomly. So I have a niece who is about 5 years old and she's just a cute little princess, that everyone loves. I figured whatever she had to say, everyone would probably listen. So I tell her to come over to me so I can tell her something. I whispered the news in her ear and told her to tell everyone she had something to say and then to "spill the beans" and tell everyone.

 

Well, being the soft and kind-hearted girl she is, she wouldn't interrupt anyone so finally I said "Hey everyone, I think Braylie has something to say to all of you." So then she said, "I'm gonna have new cousins!" And everyone looked at me with extra surprise in their eyes (because we have no proof of twins, and don't think we'll have them) and then I told her to say it the right way and she said, "I'm gonna have new cousins!" So I just told everyone that we aren't aware of two babies in there just yet but there certainly is one. 

 

Then they all cheered and whooped and yelled. It was great. On a sidenote, my sister is pregnant too! Although she is due next month with a little boy. We have a feeling that our little neonate is a girl though, so if that turns out to be true then it'll be funny! B'cuz she always wanted cousins of a same gender to be able to play together...like last time she had a girl and then I had a boy...and she kept saying "well maybe it'll be a girl" but I knew it wasn't, even before the sonogram. It might happen the same way but backwards! And both times the babes are 6 months apart. Funny!

08-21-2011 12:15 PM
Bobbys

We just told our families this weekend. I had a shirt made for my son that read, "This little all star is going to be a big brother." My inlaws, who are observant to a fault, never noticed it and my husband had to drop a big hint. (ie "Ma, did you see what Bobby's shirt says?") My parents, who are oblivious to most things, noticed within minutes of walking in the door. They were both like, "Oh, what does your shirt say?" Figures.

 

It was exciting to tell, but I had to give them all instructions that they should keep it under wraps until we hear a heartbeat at our next appointment and it is absolutely forbidden to mention is on facebook. I think they understood. I hope everything is fine. I would hate to have to go back and tell them bad news, but since I had no reason to suspect anything is wrong, I will stay positive and assume the bebeh is growing.

 

 

08-20-2011 05:40 PM
Dandy Lion

I just posted it on Facebook. Eeek! Now it must be real :)

 

preggo.jpg

Caption: We're pregnant!

 

I'm pushing out just as much as he is, but somehow he still won.

08-16-2011 06:58 PM
RachaelsMommy

I found out at 3 weeks and told everybody (including FB) the next day. Everybody thought I was crazy.

08-16-2011 03:34 PM
Kiyla

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Wow, I'm really bad at checking this thread often! Here's to hoping I get better. Okay, so I actually live in Texas, not Colorado. We're going to Colorado for a family reunion. Just north of Colorado Springs. We told my in-laws we were pregnant over Skype (they live in Brazil right now) and it sucked because it was like they already knew what we were going to say! I was kind of mad! Next time I'm going to catch everyone totally off guard so its a surprise. They did cheer and clap though, so that is good.

 

We have this idea to ask the photographer during the family photo session to say a bunch of weird things like, "Say cheese, say watermelon, say hocus pocus, say Tricia is pregnant!" And then she/he can snap a shot of their faces after he says it. Hopefully that turns out good. Maybe I'll have to make sure he/she isn't a soft-spoken person and can actually carry a clear message before we do that one for sure. Otherwise everyone will just have a normal face and not know what was said.



What a FAB idea:)

08-16-2011 03:32 PM
Kiyla

That's what gave it away to my BFFs.  Girls nite and I didn't drink a margarita;)  Haven't posted on FB but immediate fam and best friends know.

08-16-2011 01:29 PM
RosieL

What are the chances I can carry around a beer all weekend and touch it to my lips without anyone realizing I'm not *actually* drinking anything?

08-10-2011 03:09 PM
TriciaRawks

So the photography session went AWESOME! Everyone was surprised and the photographer snapped shots of everyone's faces as they realized what she'd just told everyone. I can hardly wait to see the photos from our session. I recommend that method! It was great!

 

Now I just have to figure out how to tell my side of the family. We aren't planning any family photo shoots so can't do that one...

08-08-2011 01:00 PM
my2girlz

Just you guys and dh. I'm still in shock! With this being #5 I'll have to start soon!

08-08-2011 05:39 AM
RosieL

I saw my mom for the first time since our BFP last night. She know's we've been trying a little while, and has asked a couple times "How's the weather at your house" as code to ask if my temp as spiked, or what's going on in my cycle. I was terrified she'd ask this time, but thankfully she didn't. DH wasn't with me so we didn't want to tell. 

 

SIL's wedding is two weeks away. I'm trying to hold out to tell parents until after the wedding. I don't want to overshadow SIL's joy and excitement in the least, and SIL and MIL are kind of running around worried and stressed about this wedding. So, here's to hoping I can hold out at least two more weeks!

08-07-2011 04:54 PM
tantylynn

Immediate family on both DH and my side know now...which is quite extensive actually. I'm sure word will spread fast now but I asked them to keep it off of FB so hopefully when they spill my beans for me they will add that little tidbit as well! Everyone knew we were trying (I blog about it) so I couldn't keep them from knowing much longer anyway.

08-01-2011 11:36 PM
mollsworth

 

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Originally Posted by TriciaRawks View Post

We have this idea to ask the photographer during the family photo session to say a bunch of weird things like, "Say cheese, say watermelon, say hocus pocus, say Tricia is pregnant!" And then she/he can snap a shot of their faces after he says it. 


OMG what a fantastic idea!!

 

08-01-2011 07:12 PM
TriciaRawks

Wow, I'm really bad at checking this thread often! Here's to hoping I get better. Okay, so I actually live in Texas, not Colorado. We're going to Colorado for a family reunion. Just north of Colorado Springs. We told my in-laws we were pregnant over Skype (they live in Brazil right now) and it sucked because it was like they already knew what we were going to say! I was kind of mad! Next time I'm going to catch everyone totally off guard so its a surprise. They did cheer and clap though, so that is good.

 

We have this idea to ask the photographer during the family photo session to say a bunch of weird things like, "Say cheese, say watermelon, say hocus pocus, say Tricia is pregnant!" And then she/he can snap a shot of their faces after he says it. Hopefully that turns out good. Maybe I'll have to make sure he/she isn't a soft-spoken person and can actually carry a clear message before we do that one for sure. Otherwise everyone will just have a normal face and not know what was said.

08-01-2011 04:37 PM
RosieL

cygknit - Sounds fun! Even in my fittest of days I've always had a little fat pooch. If I walked around holding it in my hand I'm sure everyone would think I was in early pregnancy! Hehee. 

 

I hit an interesting place today that I don't really understand. I don't want to tell my parents yet. They're going to be 100% supportive and excited, as will DH's parents. They all know we're trying and all know we've had trouble. I don't worry about miscarrying so much as the though of telling them right now just feels weird. For some reason I don't feel like hearing the congratulations right now. Even though I'm excited about the baby. 

 

I told DH this and he started cracking up. He asked, "Did youread the daily tip today?" (I asked what daily tip, because I had no idea hwat, if anything, he's been reading of what I've been sending.) It said, "Mom's feelings about pregnancy range from ambivalence, excitement, to nervousness. All are normal." He assumes I'm going through a phase of hormonal emotion. He's probably right!

08-01-2011 07:16 AM
cygknit

Yesterday was the first day I attempted to "pass" as pregnant. I'm 6.5 weeks, so I shouldn't be showing, but my pooch seems to be traveling north and with bloating added...well, my clothes were looking terrible and maternity was looking just right. It was so weird to walk around in public advertising my condition instead of hiding it. Today I'm back to hiding at work.

07-31-2011 10:41 PM
MeesterMama

We went ahead and told everyone already except DH's family, they live out of town so its not too hard to keep a secret.  They get mad when they find out we are expecting AGAIN so we wait till as long as possible to tell them.  Last time we waited to tell others till I was 12 weeks but this time its my fifth and I got very bloated right away look like I am months pregnant already. LOL

07-31-2011 06:25 PM
sagewinna

Since out last 2 were missed miscarriages, we are waiting to tell most people until after my 8 week ultrasound on Friday. If the baby is ok we'll spill it. :)

 

 

07-31-2011 03:35 PM
mollsworth

Ohhhhh goodness...I'm just coming up on 9 weeks and I think keeping it a secret is no longer an option. Went to a party last night and not a single girlfriend offered me an alcoholic beverige or tried to coerce me into the hot tub, plus I got lots of double-takes at my belly. :-P In the morning it is pretty flat but by afternoon/evening I swear I look 5 moths pregnant. Yikes. 

One of my closest friends said the second we left she got a barrage of questions from the women that she had trouble fending off (the men of course were blissfully unaware). ;) So I guess we'll be 'coming out' sooner than expected!

07-31-2011 03:29 PM
mollsworth

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Oh my Molls... I landed in Longmont when I first moved here in May of last yr now up in Loveland hoping to go back down in the fall. ;0) How long ago did you move to Seattle? My mom lives in Portland, Or. We sure have thought of moving to the southern part of Oregon.


 

Madeit, Fun! My family now lives in Johnstown, so when we come home we are always in Loveland. :)

 

I've been in Seattle off and on (a few years in other countries) for about 10 years now. Moved here just after 9/11, when they were first letting planes fly again. How quickly time goes. After 10 years I am still head-over-heels in love with this place. So green and lush, with islands everywhere, and friendly open-minded people. Plus I met my hubby here, I'm a little biased. And Oregon is fantastic too! We love Portland.

07-31-2011 01:30 PM
JunebugsMom

so the other day I was at a friend's house for a playdate and she just came out and asked me if I'm pregnant yikes.gif I was pretty surprised, she's just really intuitive and she claims is had nothing to do with my *ahem* belly.  So I am 9ish weeks and 2 people know so far.

07-31-2011 10:54 AM
Bobbys

I ordered a t-shirt from etsy that says "This little all-star is going to be a big brother." I was going to wait until after my first appointment to even order it as we are not telling family until after we know viability. I decided to order it today just so I would have it when the time came. I am still nervous about jinxing myself, but deep down, DS will be a big brother at some point in his life. So I bit the bulllet.

 

I told my best friend.

 

My fear about telling family early is if there was a problem or miscarriage, then I feel like I'd be pitied. Or if way after that, anytime I felt sick or didn't look like myself, they'd assume I was pregnant. I'd love to tell my parents, but I can't tell them without telling the inlaws and by extension, their close extended family. So, we must wait. Only a few more weeks hopefully.

07-30-2011 07:26 AM
Brisen

lol.gif  Rosie!

07-30-2011 04:16 AM
RosieL

I just got an email from my mom (who doesn't yet know because she's on vacation with extended family). It said "Louise spilled the beans about Stacy, they're pregnant! But it's a secret."

 

LOL, now I'm sure of my decision to wait to tell her...if I do EVERYONE will know.

07-29-2011 08:58 PM
cameragirl It took me liking the "I'm pregnant" page on Facebook for someone to figure it out. smile.gif
07-29-2011 07:21 PM
lilkat

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I posted a picture of a cinnamon bun in an oven on facebook...and I don't think anyone gets it. I think they're thinking I cooked it...darn me for posting pictures of what I bake. redface.gif


I have a friend who did this and nobody got it. We're all too dense lol.gif

07-29-2011 06:05 PM
thegalawayhouse

I want to tell people (at least the ones I know who will care), but I want to get a little further along, I'll be 6w on sunday.  I'm hoping I can hide it till 8w, but my jeans are already getting tight.  I've only told 3 people (none of them family), they are the only ones I can trust to not pass the info on to anyone else.  I just had to tell someone.

07-29-2011 05:52 PM
cameragirl I posted a picture of a cinnamon bun in an oven on facebook...and I don't think anyone gets it. I think they're thinking I cooked it...darn me for posting pictures of what I bake. redface.gif
07-29-2011 08:53 AM
Rainey Daye

I was thinking I'd take a pic of my little dude wearing a "Big Brother" t-shirt and put it as his profile pic (yes, my child has a Facebook profile, but it's MINE till he turns 13 for me to post his milestones and such on...and he's got about 50 "friends" who are mostly family and a few of his mom and dad's friends really). That will be VERY subtle, since I've got his profile set at the highest settings possible...so only a select few people will see and "get" that.

 

Then for my Facebook I thought I'd either post this pic on my wall and say something like "I love spaghetti" and see how long it takes for people to "get" it!! 

 

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OR, I'll get my neighbor who is an amateur photographer to take a family photo of us where the little dude is wearing his "Big Brother" shirt and post that as my profile pic and see if people "get" it.

 

But since I'm only 7w3d, I want to wait at least till eight weeks to spill to friends on my one other forum I frequent...and till after my sono and I hear the heartbeat at least till I spill on Facebook, etc. But, it is SOOOO hard to keep mum!!

 

07-29-2011 07:07 AM
lilkat

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I'm kind of debating when I should let the extended family/friends on facebook know. I really want to post something, but then again, it is a little fun to keep it secret. Not that it really IS secret - DD blabbed to my aunts and grandma, and the neighbors, and my husband's parents, etc. smile.gif


I'm DYING to post our announcement on Facebook, but I'm only 6w2d so it feels a little like tempting fate. We've already told all our immediate family and close friends. I've already made the video for our FB announcement, too, I just have to sit on it for another week or two :( But I can share it with you guys! When the time is right, I'm just going to post it with no fanfare and see how many people watch it ;) Here it is:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ho9slqycuk

07-29-2011 06:50 AM
madeitX2

Oh my Molls... I landed in Longmont when I first moved here in May of last yr now up in Loveland hoping to go back down in the fall. ;0) How long ago did you move to Seattle? My mom lives in Portland, Or. We sure have thought of moving to the southern part of Oregon.
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