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09-24-2011 05:40 PM
Mulvah

The only two things people have commented on are cloth diapering and (lengthy) breastfeeding. 

09-21-2011 04:03 PM
jillyofthevalley

Family cloth wipes in the bathroom.  People get really grossed out by this so we just stopped explaining it to people.  We keep toilet paper in the powder room on the main floor and when guests come over we just mention that the tp is under the sink and use the excuse that if we put it on the roll youngest dd just unrolls it all. LOL

09-20-2011 02:45 PM
rainbow_mandala

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09-20-2011 11:28 AM
Caneel

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Originally Posted by MadiMamacita View Post

DH won't even accept family cloth.. I haven't even mentioned that to anyone outside the family.
 



When I was "educating" my DH about family cloth, the idea of it grossed him out so much, he wouldn't let me finish.  To say he doesn't "get it" is an understatement.  He is totally cool with all other sorts of crunchy things.

 

My family practices a lot of things we talk about on this forum so they don't roll eyes.  If we saw the ILs on a regular basis, I am confident their eyes would roll around like gum balls!

 

09-19-2011 10:08 PM
triana1326

My inlaws have a hard time with the CDing, the extended and sometimes tandem nursing, the homemade deoderant, detergents, and cleaning products, the list could go on forever...

 

However, my mother (who lives with us in a inlaw apartment attached to the house) is completely cool with everything, right down to my placenta smoothies and pills after my kids were born. What finally got her was the family cloth. I just don't get it. We use cloth wipes for the kids, so what is the difference when DH and I use them for ourselves? I get a lot of eye rolls on that...

09-03-2011 09:53 PM
Siouxsie

Cloth diapering is gross, Breastfeeding past 1 is creepy, co sleeping is dangerous, and did you know vegetarians are incapable of living a normal life? duh.gif

08-30-2011 06:41 AM
Imakcerka I'm thinking lately it's the state of my house, only homemade cleaning products and the fact that we don't eat fried foods seem to puzzle a lot of people. Crunchy or not it's different and different is not okay.
08-20-2011 10:17 AM
Mittsy

Everything, really. Lately though it's going no-poo, making my own deodorant, not forcing kiddo's to brush hair/bathe x times weekly, continuing to bf/co-sleep with ds(4.5).....

08-20-2011 05:15 AM
meemee

bfeeding and cosleeping since dd is almost 9. she just weaned a few months ago. in fact it still shocks many APers too. 

08-16-2011 06:33 PM
bignerpie

Cloth Diapering - "Yeah, we'll see how long THAT lasts."

 

Making my own cleaning products. Certain people think my house is dirty because I don't bathe it in bleach every day. 

 

Making my own deodorant. I must be stinky and gross because nothing homemade works as well as what you buy in the store.

 

This one isn't too bad, but I think my "circle" is tired of hearing me brag about how my car gets 48mpg while they complain about their 12mpg trucks and SUVs.... VW diesels FTW!

 

If we're talking about AP stuff, I'm not even going to start because everything I do in that respect is wrong. irked.gif

08-16-2011 06:08 PM
Agatha_Ann

The main thing people roll their eyes at is that I don't like to be away from my babies until they are over a year old. It is totally my own issue. When my oldest was a baby, I went out for a girl's night and he had a seizure when I was gone. Never had another, but I haven't been able to leave my kids as babies ever since. Really don't see why this bothers my MIL so much though, we spend tons of time with her...why do I need to leave in order for it to be meaningful? shrug.gif

 

My mom used to be worried about cosleeping because she says she tosses and turns all night, but I assured her we do not. She also saw the "Who Wants to Sleep Alone?" Mothering cover and it seriously changed her whole outlook. She didn't even read the article, just the cover lol.gif

 

 

08-16-2011 05:38 PM
Smokering

 

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MIL knows we don't have t.v. or let DS2 watch videos (he's 16 months) and she still asks what his favorite shows are and kind of worries that he doesn't know who Elmo is.  She will hold up toys from shows and say "Oh, you know who this is!"  Uh, no, he doesn't, but he has memorized the cadence of plenty of board books, let me tell you!

I occasionally get funny looks when DD doesn't recognise certain kid "celebrities". We're not TV-free (well, come to think of it, we technically are; we don't own an actual television set. But she watches Pingu and Sesame Street on YouTube, and Star Trek on our projector, and movies and stuff); but I do avoid shows I find annoying or ones I just haven't heard of (ie. most of them). So she doesn't recognise Dora or Spongebob or Teletubbies. She got a haircut recently and the hairdresser made a big deal of giving her a Wiggles cape; I felt vaguely, illogically guilty that she didn't know who they were. And when we go to friends' houses, one of the kids will bring a Thomas book or a Ben 10 book and say "Who's this?" and I'll be all "Er, um, is the green one Percy? Or is he red? I only really know Thomas and Annie and Clarabell"... thereupon losing any possible cool points and causing the kids to leave me severely alone, which sometimes is no bad thing. Except now I have a new baby and so I'm cool again. :p

 

Placentaphagy definitely gets odd looks, but I don't bring it up to all and sundry for that very reason. One of DH's callow male friends is horrified by my breast pump, of all things - he saw it lying on the bench one time, disassembled, and started whispering and giggling about it like a teenager. He also has Opinions about breastfeeding past 18 months. Why 18 months, you ask? Why, his sister-in-law weaned her kids at 18 months, and therefore anything longer is inappropriate and weird.

 

My inlaws disapprove of most of it, especially cosleeping and not vaxing. For a while there MIL would forward us all the "Baby dies on couch with mother's drunk boyfriend ohnoes cosleeping is evil" articles she could find... and gave us a copy of a magazine with an anti-anti-vaxing article in it, with a graphic picture of a girl missing most of her limbs on the cover. I was NOT impressed, especially as the article was incredibly badly researched and written.

08-16-2011 12:47 PM
McGucks
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Originally Posted by sosurreal09 View Post

greensad.gif Now the mom guilt kicks in. I *wanted* to be TV free but DH wouldn't let me and well DD is intense as heck and watches TV. It was very limited but now she has tantrums for Blue's Clues....I do only let her watch select PBS shows and Blue's Clues if that counts for anything LOL


You can unhook your guilt, mama!  If I was any kind of good at limiting t.v. time and had access to free PBS, I'd allow some.  I was terrible at limiting (even good) t.v. with DS1 and had to do an all-or-nothing approach.  There really are very good shows out there and really good families with t.v.  I never judge families who have t.v.  I do, however, think permitting unlimited amounts of t.v. or viewing clearly inappropriate shows is a mistake.  I will also say that our "no t.v." thing would fly very quickly out the window if I had two small children.  For me, it's do-able since I only have one little kiddo.  There is a 15 year age difference between my children.

 

08-16-2011 12:25 PM
frogautumn

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Originally Posted by sosurreal09 View Post

greensad.gif Now the mom guilt kicks in. I *wanted* to be TV free but DH wouldn't let me and well DD is intense as heck and watches TV. It was very limited but now she has tantrums for Blue's Clues....I do only let her watch select PBS shows and Blue's Clues if that counts for anything LOL



Aww, sorry. I didn't mean to incite any guilt!

 

Usually I just blame it on the school--"Sorry, it's the school's rule!" (he goes to Waldorf kindy).

08-16-2011 11:17 AM
Adaline'sMama
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Originally Posted by swede View Post



 

 

Why wouldn't you just empty into the plant directly - what was the purpose of storing it up?  How long did it take you to fill a jar?  I would imagine it might smell really bad after a couple of months.
 

 


It took all year to fill a jar. I did it for three years (produced three jars, but one got dropped) and it never smelled any different than when it first came out of my body. We lived on the third floor of an apartment building and didnt really have any house plants. We poured it on our garden, so thats why we didnt empty it each time.
08-16-2011 11:01 AM
sosurreal09

greensad.gif Now the mom guilt kicks in. I *wanted* to be TV free but DH wouldn't let me and well DD is intense as heck and watches TV. It was very limited but now she has tantrums for Blue's Clues....I do only let her watch select PBS shows and Blue's Clues if that counts for anything LOL

08-16-2011 10:38 AM
McGucks
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Originally Posted by frogautumn View Post

What kind of kids don't watch TV? You're gonna make them weird! rolleyes.gif


I would be really, really tempted to pop off with something like:  "Gosh, he's my son.  He's already weird...runs in the family."  Kind of a joke, kind of not.

 

 

 

08-16-2011 10:36 AM
McGucks

I haven't owned a t.v. since DS1 was three (around 1999) and we have no plans to have one around for DS2.  DS1 has unlimited t.v./videos/everything/etc. at xh's, so he has avoided any stigma of being outside of popular culture.  I do wonder how not having t.v. will impact DS2 when he hits public school.  We do plan to allow the occasional video on our computer, but other than that, his influences in regards to t.v.-stuff will be limited to what he sees when he is at friend's houses or IL's (though we don't leave him there alone with them, the t.v. is usually on when we visit).

 

MIL knows we don't have t.v. or let DS2 watch videos (he's 16 months) and she still asks what his favorite shows are and kind of worries that he doesn't know who Elmo is.  She will hold up toys from shows and say "Oh, you know who this is!"  Uh, no, he doesn't, but he has memorized the cadence of plenty of board books, let me tell you!

08-16-2011 07:58 AM
hildare

talking or facebook posting about eating a placenta is a jaw dropping conversation stopper in our neck of the woods.  ;)

08-16-2011 07:24 AM
frogautumn

Maybe not exactly a "crunchy" thing, but...

 

Our families just can't wrap their heads around our kids being TV-free.

 

What kind of kids don't watch TV? You're gonna make them weird! rolleyes.gif

08-16-2011 03:47 AM
sosurreal09

The only juice my kids getting is freshly juiced juice, period. It's pointless for her tough b/c all she wants to eat are veggies and fruits.

 

Juice is nothing more than sugar when your body breaks it down, even organic juice, as long as you can see through it. (not cloudy with fiber etc)

 

I'm surprised no one has mentioned the juice thing to me to tell you the truth!

 

 

We are totally not letting anyone babysit! I have a close friend who I trust and IDK that may be it...I can not imagine anyone in my family being able to handle a tantrum at all. I would be too afraid she would get hit or abandoned. Yes they are all that nuts...

 

Maybe....leaning more towards no...but maybe when she's much older...

08-15-2011 08:37 PM
Marissamom


I have gotten some eyerolls/surprise about DD not drinking juice. she recently started having the occasional, really watered down, cup of juice a month or so ago. (she's 27 months)

 

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Originally Posted by caedenmomma View Post

This thread has inspired me to use FC for #1.  I think. 



do it! do it! do it! smile.gif since I'm still diapering it has been super easy, just toss in the diaper pail, which lives in the bathroom anyway, a little extra sorting when the diapers come out of the wash. 

08-15-2011 04:03 PM
crunchy_mommy
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Originally Posted by kathymuggle View Post

True story, definitely more crunchy than AP related:

 

We went swimming at a busy pool.  My daughter accidentally left the shampoo bar on the bench.  It was blue and looks like this:

 

 

http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=picture+of+lush+shampoo+bars&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

 

Everyone in the locker room was keeping a wide berth of it as they thought it was a urinal cake!

 

 

 

 


LOL!!

Strangely, the thing that people seem to think is weirdest is that we buy everything used (thrift store, side of the road, etc.) I don't really see what's so weird about that, but whatever. Good thing that they don't know we use family cloth... or that DS is still nursing...
08-15-2011 03:22 PM
purslaine

True story, definitely more crunchy than AP related:

 

We went swimming at a busy pool.  My daughter accidentally left the shampoo bar on the bench.  It was blue and looks like this:

 

 

http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=picture+of+lush+shampoo+bars&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

 

Everyone in the locker room was keeping a wide berth of it as they thought it was a urinal cake!

 

 

 

 

08-15-2011 02:41 PM
PennyRoo

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Originally Posted by peainthepod View Post

Encapsulating and consuming my placenta (twice!) has probably elicited the most bigeyes.gif expressions from the few people who know about it. There's other stuff that they think is silly or crazy, of course...cleaning with vinegar, homebirth, extended breastfeeding, eating strictly organic and whole foods, cosleeping...

 

...but the placentophagy is the one that really makes 'em squirm. lol.gif



Wow, this would be a great word for a trivia game!  yummy.gif

 

I think people think it's pretty odd that we try to be more self-reliant producers, as opposed to consumers - making mayo, hummus, dish and laundry detergent, all manner of things.  I try to ask, if there's something on a to-buy list, if we really need to buy it or if we can do it ourselves.

 

Also my younger DD and I are obsessed with our compost and our red wigglers.  We dig stuff up and look at it, checking out the worms, and marveling at what happened to the corn cob we put in just last week.  This is a little gross, but super fun, and I think qualifies as crunchy?

 

 

08-15-2011 10:27 AM
McGucks

We are still very, very restrictive about food with our 16 month old.  The one that seems to confuse folks the most is that we don't give him juice.

 

I got a lot of comments about "babywearing" my almost-30 pound toddler ("Isn't it for babies?").  Lots of questions about whether it hurts my back.  Eh, less than trying to wrestle with him or pick him up 10 times in 10 minutes.  I had detractors, too, who said, "He's never going to learn how to walk if you carry him everywhere."  Well, he's pretty hard to catch these days, so the proof's in the pudding.  That Ergo saves my bacon routinely and he gets to walk and run and tumble plenty, believe me!

 

However, the biggest one with ILs (actually, just MIL as far as I can tell) is that we aren't using sitters (including them).  DH is gone around 60 hours a week...what time we have, we have together.  A forced date just so MIL can get to babysit?  Nope.  She sees him with regularity (minimum 1x/wk.), which I am frequently reminded isn't the same/good enough/similar to what SIL & BIL did/not as much as her friends get to see their grandkids/whatever.  Well, it is for us!  I know as DS2 gets old enough to express his preferences in regards to that, we will have to see, but 'til then, status quo.

 

This thread has inspired me to use FC for #1.  I think. 

08-15-2011 04:57 AM
sosurreal09

I use FC for both and it's still not gross...I mean come on I wipe DD's wicked gross squishy breast milk BMs with it LOL We do use actual wipes though (one side flannel, one side black terry) and not t-shirt or something.

 

IDK I don't think it's gross. Just saying....

 

I get a lot of eye rolls for handling tantrums compassionately instead of punishing...it's sad really.

 

People think I'm nuts we don't have a car (well DH has one but he's always at work or school) and we don't have buses here, or sidewalks so I walk miles and miles to get anything done with my 25lb toddler on my back in a wrap or ergo...

 

 

08-15-2011 04:45 AM
P.J.

Since I try my best to ignore eyerolls (it helps me feel more self-confident if I just pretend no one is judging me), I'm just assuming here, but:

 

cosleeping

BFing past a year (some people maybe even past 6 months)

using non-toxic cleaning products

using cloth wipes for DS

that I'm vegetarian and trying to keep DS veg too until he's old enough to make the choice himself

avoiding sugar (I usually try not to make a point of this when other well-meaning parents offer DS sugary treats. I just silently do not give him any, if possible, and let it go at that.)

 

and I just started using FC for myself only (and only for pees). I haven't even told DH, although I'm sure I will someday (he never notices anything). Besides him and maybe a couple close friends (maybe) I don't think I'll let that one out of the bag. Not even sure why, but it just seemed like the last frontier. Now that I do it, it's so simple, easy and NOT AT ALL dirty or messy (again, no poos just pee). But I know it's just "too weird". When I first heard of it I was like: WTF!? Only after reading old threads about it here did I realize you could keep it to only pee and it's not a big deal. Anyway besides a few select people, I really wouldn't feel like being the FC ambassador, trying to convince others it's really not gross at all, ya know.

 

08-15-2011 12:21 AM
Italiamom

Most eye rolls would probably be nursing DS past a year.

 

Most actual conflict would probably be a toss up between delayed vax'ing and having a home birth.

08-14-2011 09:36 PM
swede

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Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama View Post

Oh you know, the usual.

Recycling
Composting
Using natural products

But more than anything, our parenting style. Our hormone free meat, and our lack of chemical cleaners. They think we are filthy, dirty hippies.

But, a few years ago I lived in an apartment with a girlfriend of mine and she and I both used Diva cups. We poured our blood into mason jars and stored it into the fridge until the jar was full and then we gave it to the plants. One day our friend who lived in the upstairs apartment was down and I was in the other room when she asked "What is this red stuff? Is it any good?" and I responded, "It's menstrual blood," only to hear her respond with a gasp and walk in to find it all over her clothes because she had dropped it. This girl has dreadlocks down to her butt and Ive never seen her in anything other than huge handmade skirts, scarf head wraps,and ridiculously hippy jewelry. Too crunchy for her.

 

 

Why wouldn't you just empty into the plant directly - what was the purpose of storing it up?  How long did it take you to fill a jar?  I would imagine it might smell really bad after a couple of months.
 

 

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