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01-06-2012 06:37 AM
AfricanQueen99

Woot!  Another baby!!  Can't wait to hear the story!

01-06-2012 06:06 AM
redbirdlady

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Originally Posted by begoniamama View Post

baby arrived today at 39 weeks 1 day!!!! born at home after about 9 hours of labor - definitely THE most adventurous day of my life. crazy. will post birth story soon, thanks for all your support girls!



CONGRATS mama!! 

01-05-2012 09:36 PM
begoniamama

baby arrived today at 39 weeks 1 day!!!! born at home after about 9 hours of labor - definitely THE most adventurous day of my life. crazy. will post birth story soon, thanks for all your support girls!

01-04-2012 10:54 PM
sarah_bella1050

I'm still here waiting for baby too.  Having prodominal labor for 4 days now but it obviously isn't producing anything.  I'm 39+2 and baby is still not engaged.   Trying my best to stay distracted and keep myself busy.  I have reorganized, cleaned and spruced up every room in the house and might just have to tackle th garage if I make it to the weekend!  Today I got a pedicure, tomorrow I am going out to lunch for my birthday (which is on the 8th) and the next day I have coffee and thrifting with a friend planned.  Also going on tons of walks with dh which are kinda like mini dates.  Having a good time but seriously ready to meet this babe!!!

 

Oh and I totally rocked dinner tonight and made 3 chicken pot pies! 2 are for the freezer of course.

01-04-2012 10:00 PM
Devaskyla

Barring medical issues (diabetes, broken pelvis), your body won't grow a baby too big to birth. So long as you allow labour to start naturally & labour and push in positions which allow gravity and your pelvis to work.

 

Despite what drs believe, the research shows that inducing for suspected "big baby" only increases the cesarean rate. Several reasons for that. Big one is that induction ties you to the bed & increases pain, making you more likely to get an epidural, all of which means you can't work with your body and your pelvic outlet is much smaller.  The other big reason is that when you go into labour naturally, your body is ready for birthing. You have more relaxin so that your pelvis can give the baby more space, you have the right hormones in the right amounts, and so does baby. When you induce, neither of you is ready (or you'd be in labour already), which means if the baby is actually big, you're decreasing your chances of being able to birth.

 

Shoulder dystocia is a genuine concern but a) while bigger babies are more likely to get stuck, dystocia happens "commonly" with smaller babies too (the commonly is in quotes because shoulder dystocia itself is extremely rare, occurring in between .5-1% of births) and b) one reason drs are so terrified of it is that their methods to deal with it are..not the greatest. And a lot of them have panicked and caused damage trying to yank the baby out.The best way to resolve it is to change the position of the mother, which with an epidural can be very difficult, so instead of using the FLIPFLOP method http://www.spinningbabies.com/spinning-babies-and/resolving-shoulder-dystocia they use HELPERR http://midwifethinking.com/2010/12/03/shoulder-dystocia-the-real-story/ (great article in general, you'll have to read down for the info on HELPERR)

 

Sorry if that's a bit much info, hopefully you'll find something reassuring in all of that.

 

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Originally Posted by chilichiki View Post
His reason for not wanting me to go past 39 weeks is the size of the baby.  I know the ultrasounds aren't 100% accurate, but there is definitely a big difference between this baby and my first son.  He worries that the baby may grow too big and get stuck in the birth canal...which I have to admit I worry about too. 

 

My mom tells me not to worry about that since I have already had one child (even if he was small) and that my hips are more than sufficient enough to pass a bigger kid.  She also thinks that the U/S weight measurements are off.

 

 

 

01-04-2012 08:39 PM
moonSnail

chilichicki, also, don't forget that hormones do amazing things to a woman's pelvis when she is birthing.  I totally believe that a woman grows a baby that within her capabilities of birthing... barring pelvic abnormalities of some sort.  I went to 42 weeks with my son... he was 9 lb. 14 oz, 23 inches long..... and posterior.  I was vegan at the time so he grew this huge regardless of my worry that I was eating enough protein.  Everything was fine.  I had a beautiful homebirth.  I am certain that had I been in the hospital and had all sorts of ultrasound dating to let them take a guess at his size (and given that he was posterior and I had a long labor), I would have been a cesarean.  Don't let the doctor pressure you into doing anything with your baby and your body that you are uncomfortable with.  It is YOUR decision.  Your little guy may not be ready at 39 weeks!

01-04-2012 07:57 PM
Kaitlyn811

Also, any tips for nausea, headache, discomfort? I can't be comfy sitting, or laying down. I feel sick to my stomach. My head and neck hurt..thus not being able to get comfy. Anyone else experiencing this? And what are you doing? Is this what my first trimester was like? It feels so far away now lol that it's hard to remember. 

01-04-2012 06:57 PM
cedarwoman

Thinking about the hips thing... there is really no way to tell how wide a woman's hips open to birth a baby from what I've read! The angles change so dramatically during birth (well, little tiny changes really, but in the big picture... dramatic...) Like the way the tailbone opens on hands and knees - you can check this by placing a hand on your pubic bone and a hand on your tailbone... as you bend forward the angle increases and I find that reassuring ;)

 

This link http://www.givingbirthnaturally.com/birth-positions.html talks a little more about it and is well-cited imho.

 

I think a lot of it is about the head-and-shoulder sizing too - you can have a heavy baby with a regular-sized head, like my 9+ lbs and 27-inches-at-birth DH apparently was! 

 

This is what I'm telling myself. MW commented that the baby was "heavy" as she helped me turn over the other day and I just went "heavy? um..." 

 

And no one in my family has guess less than 8.5lbs ;P

01-04-2012 06:43 PM
chilichiki

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Originally Posted by Kaitlyn811 View Post

Sort of off topic because I feel like a total jerk..

 

My appointments have been on Thursdays for the last several months..so I assumed this appointment was for Thursday..it was for today ): I missed it - I never got a call from the office saying I missed it, or a reminder call yesterday for today. So now I have to call tomorrow and tell them how sorry I am for being such an unintentional jerk. For whatever stupid reason this is really eating at me..I feel terrible. But I can't understand why no one called to tell me I missed my appointment. ): 



I had that happen a couple of weeks ago.  i was never called for the reminder, and I had thought my appointment was for the usual Wednesday instead of Tuesday.  they called me a half hour after what time they had me coming in to ask where I was... they told me if I was able to come in anyways they would fit me in, which worked out.  They insisted that they had called me and left a message about the appointment, but they never did.  I figured it wasn't worth the argument.  We're pregnant women, we can always claim forgetfulness and people will nod in agreement :o)

01-04-2012 06:22 PM
Kaitlyn811

Sort of off topic because I feel like a total jerk..

 

My appointments have been on Thursdays for the last several months..so I assumed this appointment was for Thursday..it was for today ): I missed it - I never got a call from the office saying I missed it, or a reminder call yesterday for today. So now I have to call tomorrow and tell them how sorry I am for being such an unintentional jerk. For whatever stupid reason this is really eating at me..I feel terrible. But I can't understand why no one called to tell me I missed my appointment. ): 

01-04-2012 05:59 PM
redbirdlady

 

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My mom tells me not to worry about that since I have already had one child (even if he was small) and that my hips are more than sufficient enough to pass a bigger kid.  She also thinks that the U/S weight measurements are off.

I tend to agree with your mom.  I had multiple ultrasounds with my first baby, she was expected to come out in the 7 pound range, and she was 9 pounds even.  Same thing happened with #2 - had an ultrasound the week before I was induced with her, supposedly 7 pounds, she was 8 1/2.

 

It is a very very rare occasion that a baby cannot pass through a woman's hips.  I think that's more doctor-speak for wanting to control a birth, IMO.

01-04-2012 05:53 PM
chilichiki

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Originally Posted by Devaskyla View Post

chilichiki .... He won't "let" you? That's utter bs, it's entirely your decision. Drs have no right to make decisions like that, they just want you to believe they can. As for sex, why not? It's not going to put you into labour if baby isn't ready, it'll just help your cervix get ready.


His reason for not wanting me to go past 39 weeks is the size of the baby.  I know the ultrasounds aren't 100% accurate, but there is definitely a big difference between this baby and my first son.  He worries that the baby may grow too big and get stuck in the birth canal...which I have to admit I worry about too. 

 

My mom tells me not to worry about that since I have already had one child (even if he was small) and that my hips are more than sufficient enough to pass a bigger kid.  She also thinks that the U/S weight measurements are off.

 

Honestly, I am so damned uncomfortable all the time that I wouldn't mind going a week early.  But then again, I do not want to be induced.  I dread the idea of that almost as much as that of a c section.

 

I was lucky with my first son.  I was scheduled for an induction ( I had a lot of problems in the first pregnancy and my doctor was going to be out of town for a week, so she left the decision of induction to me. I chose to go ahead with it because I was comfortable and familiar with her), but woke up a few hours before in labor.  Went to the hospital a few hours later and had my son within six hours.

 

This pregnancy has been so vastly different than the first one, that I wonder how different the labor will be.

 

I have a sneaking suspicion that I won't make it to 39 weeks though...I really do think this little (or big) guy is getting ready to make his entrance sooner.

 

Of course now that I said that...he will most likely stay put!! nut.gif

01-04-2012 05:52 PM
juneboymum

Yay Chili!!!  So happy the baby turned for you!!  Now, stay put, baby!!!

01-04-2012 05:49 PM
coldandsleepy

Good luck kewpie!  I hope everything goes (already went??) really well!

 

Chili, how exciting that your little one turned... that's such a relief.

 

I had a great day today... my first day of maternity leave.  I did absolutely nothing of consequence.  Basically everything I had to do pre-baby other than daily chores has been done since last week.  So I gave myself today to just slack slack slack.  And amazingly, despite sleeping terribly and waking up at 4:30, I had energy.  I got some knitting done, walked for an hour (the first time I've been able to walk without crippling pelvic pain in weeks-- no idea why it felt okay today), met up with friends at the farmer's market, came home and cooked a lengthy and involved dinner... all sorts of fun stuff.  Still feeling lots of annoying prodromal stuff but at least I had fun today!

 

Tomorrow I have a checkup and am going to ask for a membrane sweep.  Not that I think it'll make a difference, but I'm reaching the point where I'm ready to try whatever... also going to see my friend who is my doula hopefully for a bit.

01-04-2012 04:54 PM
demoonunit

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Originally Posted by chilichiki View Post

 

Considering I have had the mindset for the past week that this kid was content to stay where he was and I was going to have to have a c section...I feel like a drastic weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Add to that that LO could quite possibly be here 'anytime' (in the doctor's words)....ELATED!!



That's fantastic! Throughout my whole pregnancy I was paranoid about baby being breech. Luckily, my baby has been head down for the past few months and hasn't budged from her favorite spot (my right side). I call her my little Moonunit because she's been positioned like a crescent moon forever! But enough about me...I just wanted to say that because of my paranoia of breech-itude, I can totally understand where you were coming from with having a heavy head about your baby being breech, and I'm so happy for you that he decided to switch! I heard that sitting upright and getting on your hands & knees is good for keeping them in position. I've been doing this *just in case* my baby decides to change her mind at the last minute. I do very little lounging unless it's on my side and my knees are curled up. Even in the car I position my seat super upright. It's worked so far!

01-04-2012 04:48 PM
HardCoreMom

chili, i am SO seriously stoked for you.  yay, baby!  way to turn!

 

i say you have some sex to celebrate.  :)

01-04-2012 04:40 PM
Devaskyla

chilichiki .... He won't "let" you? That's utter bs, it's entirely your decision. Drs have no right to make decisions like that, they just want you to believe they can. As for sex, why not? It's not going to put you into labour if baby isn't ready, it'll just help your cervix get ready.

 

Begoniamama All of my labours have started with my water breaking. With my oldest, I bought into their time restriction bs (& I was kind of stuck at the hospital due to our transportation situation at the time) and wound up with a cesarean. With my 2nd, my water was broken for 90 hours before I got any labour at all. He was born about 20 hours after that. With my 3rd, I started getting very distantly spaced contractions after about 8 hours, they went to 20 minutes after about 15 hours and he was actually born within 22 hours of my water breaking.

01-04-2012 04:31 PM
begoniamama

is it true that squatting will help engage the baby and keep him in place?  I am so horribly paranoid that he will decide he was more comfortable breach and flip back around, so I want to do everything possible to encourage to stay head down!



yes it is true! now that he is in place i would squat, walk up and down stairs (even sideways) to encourage further engagement. 

01-04-2012 04:29 PM
begoniamama

everyone seems so close!  and yay for kewpie, can't wait to see photos. 

 

i'm officially 39 weeks today, and last night i was up every few hours to leakage, little gushes of fluid soaking my underwear and when i finally got out of bed this morning i realized it's definitely amniotic fluid and my waters are leaking for sure. small gushes throughout the day, way more tightening in my belly, menstrual like cramps and a nagging lower backache. BUT - no real or regular contractions. i napped and then cleaned and walked and am going to walk more later. MW is coming by tonight to check in. any thoughts girls? my mind is now so preoccupied! does it sound like early labor?

01-04-2012 03:59 PM
chilichiki

Had my 36 week check up and BPP today and received some excellent news, little man has finally moved out of breach and is head down!!!  I am so ecstatic!!  I was amazed when the tech told me.

 

The only indication I had was some pains/discomfort about two this morning, but I thought it was just a more painful version of his usual stretching.  His head is now down and in position, and his foot has officially taken up the spot that his head previously occupied...the exact same spot which is sort of weird.

 

Baby is still measuring two weeks ahead, while my stomach still measures right on target.  My cervix is still thinning as well, which they say is from my constant BH.  The doctor tells me he is not letting me go past 39 weeks, which would be the 25th...but he doesn't think I will make it that long. 

 

Considering I have had the mindset for the past week that this kid was content to stay where he was and I was going to have to have a c section...I feel like a drastic weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Add to that that LO could quite possibly be here 'anytime' (in the doctor's words)....ELATED!!

 

Got home from the appointment and the first thing my husband asks is "Does that mean we can have sex now?" hahaha...we have had to sustain the last couple of weeks because of the condition of my cervix and the baby's position.  I hadn't even thought to ask the doctor about that, and it feels odd to me to call up to the office to ask....awkward.

 

On the other hand, now that I have been given the okay for delivery...sort of tempting!!

 

Hope everyone is doing well in their neck of the woods biggrinbounce.gif

 

 

 

 

Also wondering- is it true that squatting will help engage the baby and keep him in place?  I am so horribly paranoid that he will decide he was more comfortable breach and flip back around, so I want to do everything possible to encourage to stay head down!

01-04-2012 03:44 PM
Devaskyla

Hoping everything is going well for Kewpie.

 

I am not holding up well. My pelvis has decided to go on strike. I can barely walk or do much of anything. My mom was in and drove me up to the mall to get some wool. Normally I have to walk since we don't have a car & I was worried it was too far for me now. Boy, was I right. Even with the ride, just walking around the store was enough to have everything seized up when I got up to pee that night. Then yesterday I made cookies, got into the crawl space to find the rest of the newborn diapers (and found yet another box of newborn clothes, I swear I have enough clothes for triplets at least) and swept the cat litter from the last people who lived here which was under my washing machine & dryer (before they got shoved back when we got a new water heater). I was in tears my pelvis hurt so much. So, I guess I'm officially useless until after the baby comes now.

 

Dh is getting antsy about having everything done. He went out and got a pump yesterday to drain the pool & tried to get a faucet adaptor for the hose, but was told they didn't have one. Checked on-line last night and that store has THREE of them, all in stock. Needless to say he is annoyed with the sales person who told him they didn't carry them, since he'll have to walk all the way back up there to get one.

 

I'm going to hang some sheets in the basement, hopefully today, to try to make my birthing space a little nicer & more peaceful. If I can figure out how, I might put up a few pretty posters on them, too. Dh bought a bunch of tea lights & some really pretty holders for them, so we'll get those set up, put blankets down for under the pool & do a test fill. I'm also going to try to sort things out so that I can easily manage everything by myself in case labour goes really fast or I just don't feel like having anyone else around. I just really need to find the cable to charge the video camera. Fingers crossed we find it today!

 

Baby is still floating. No surprise to me, I don't think I've ever had a baby engage before labour. It's so funny watching my bump moving, though. If I stand for awhile, the big bulge that I'm sure is the baby's bum moves way down, near my belly button, but after I've been sitting awhile, it's back up near my ribs.

 

Got a henna kit yesterday and we already had rigid wrap, so now we just need to find a good time to do a belly case & henna my belly. Think I'm going to let the kids do some of the henna stuff. Won't be beautiful like having a professional do it, but it will be special.

01-04-2012 02:55 PM
moonSnail

Good luck, Kewpie!!  I hope everything goes beautifully.... happy healthy little ones and a wonderful birth!!

 

I hope no one hates me, but I am doing fairly well... pregnancy wise.  I'll be 38 weeks tomorrow and I have been surprised how patient I have been with this little one.  My son went to 42 weeks and the last week or so just crawled!  It was the idea that this huge unpredictable and mysterious thing was about to happen to me and I just didn't know when it would come.  I have been blessed with good third trimesters, though, for each of these little ones.  It is the first trimester that is awful for me..... I get so sick!  My biggest physcial complaint now is just being tired.  I also have low blood pressure so standing up for a bit makes me incredibly weak. 

 

The most trying thing for me now, though, is how my son is going to cope with being at the birth and the transition of a new sibling.  I also have family drama concerning a sister who was previously going to be there for my son at the birth.  Not so sure it is going to happen now... she feels like the extra time I want her to spend with my son beforehand in order to prepare is just too much.  She is in a funk and I think my expectations for her participation are just too high for her now.  I am sad about it though..... and not sure how to handle it yet.  Do any other mamas have older ones that they are preparing for the birth now?  How are you going about it?  Who is going to care for them during and how are you feeling about it?

 

Hang in there, mamas who are ready to go.... I know the last weeks can be hard, but it is closer than you think.  I remember thinking to myself after my son was born how short those last few weeks really were, in retrospect.... lotta good that does now, though, huh? :)  My advice to first time mamas in these last few days or weeks is take lots of long, uninterrupted showers or baths!!

01-04-2012 02:27 PM
hannabee

Thinking of you Kewpie, hope all goes well!

 

I'll be 40 weeks tomorrow (according to my midwife), had an appointment today and she did a stretch and sweep; baby's dropped even further and I'm 50% effaced and 3cm dialated and she could stretch me to 4!!  When she was doing the stretch and sweep she could feel the baby's head!!!!!  Even tho last night was a really crappy sleep, I've felt good all day.  Ended up going to see my sister for a few hours after my appointment; she had her baby on Dec 30 (4 weeks early), and the baby got admitted to the hospital today for jaundice, and they're keeping her there for a minimum of 3 days...sis is very discouraged, and totally sick of hospitals.  (When Teegan was born, they kept her and my sister from Friday night until Monday, because of potential jaundice issues and low blood sugar levels.  And now 2 days later and she's back in there again....)  Now I'm just waiting on my massage therapist friend to come over for a visit/treatment...woot!

 

I'm craving Kraft Dinner, so that'll be supper tonight :)

01-04-2012 12:45 PM
HardCoreMom

thinking of you and the babies, kewpie!  blowkiss.gif

01-04-2012 12:09 PM
mamasmoman

Kewpie- So excited for you :D!!!!! Sending healthy labor and delivery thoughts your way!

 

Glad to hear I'm not the only one in a funk...or feeling funky for that matter. Had a bout of intestinal cleansing, nausea and some contractions early this morning, but everything is calm now.

 

My pelvis feels like it's splitting in two.

 

NO energy. NO appetite.

 

BLECH!

01-04-2012 11:48 AM
element2012

@kewpie - I am so excited for you!!!! Can't wait to see those babies! Hoping all goes super easy and peaceful for you and the babies.

 

@redbirdlady- just like when trying to conceive, DH has a job to do now! He's gotta help this baby come out! Give him a pep talk and get in there!  ROTFLMAO.gif

 

@wombjuice- that birthing wave sounds serious, fingers crossed for you that the birthing waves continue!

 

@montessorimama- hug2.gif Hit those hills, girl!

 

I have to laugh when reading this thread, its good to see that everyone else is grumbling around like me.  We're almost there!

01-04-2012 10:40 AM
juneboymum

Nothing new here.  Feeling much less sad and depressed today.  I took my son to a playgroup this morning which was fun.  Now we're home and I'm trying to get him to have some quiet time (so I can take a little cat nap) but he is only interested in walking the dog.  It's 20 degrees out so that's not happening! 

 

Good luck Kewpie!!!  Can't wait to hear about the twins!!

 

I have a MW appointment tomorrow morning, then I have to work at noon. 

01-04-2012 09:50 AM
biophdmom


we have the same due date and I don't need to be told this baby's staying put...i can just feel it! And I have everyone around me telling me she's coming any minute. my boss is so paranoid i'm going to go into labor at work lol.gif

 

i'm sorry you're not sleeping, though...that's the worst! I've been having off and on nights of good sleep and bad sleep...last night was okay, thank goodness.

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Went to the MW yesterday... She thinks baby's staying put at least another week.  Great... angry.gif  I'm in the foulest mood ever, I had three hours of insomnia last night so who wouldn't be grumpy???  I'm going to go walk some hills.


Here's good labor vibes for everyone that's imminent!!

 

01-04-2012 09:49 AM
demoonunit

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Originally Posted by Kewpie80 View Post

 

Time to have some babies.



Woohoo! Thinking of you!



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Originally Posted by redbirdlady View Post


I had a dream last night that I gave birth to the baby, it was a girl but I gave her a very boy name, and was told - at a class about the card game Bridge - that it was Rick Santorum's baby and I had to give her back to him.  I really shouldn't have watched the talking heads yap about the Iowa caucus right before bed.  nut.gif

 


That is HILARIOUS! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

 

 

 

Not too much new to speak of. Baby's head is low but I haven't had any signs of labor and she's stretching and squirming lots & lots. Might go browse cameras today to find a nice one to document this little one's life, and hubby's very close to finishing painting the baby's room...it might even be done today...WOOT WOOT! Can't wait to decorate!!

 

01-04-2012 09:47 AM
HardCoreMom

i'm in a personal funk today, and it has little to do with pregnancy.  stayed up working waaaay too late last night, and i don't feel well now.  our furnace has been working only intermittently for the recent past, despite a lengthy parade of repair people claiming they've fixed it, and we had windchills down in the -20s(F) last night, so this place is really cold and it has me feeling grumpy.  mostly, i feel totally drained of energy and cold and i don't want to do anything.  pregnant-wise, i'm surprisingly comfortable, and grateful for that.

 

i don't feel like cooking tonight.  gotta find something i can make everyone, though.  c'mon inspiration!

 

funk, begone!

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