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01-30-2012 05:49 PM
emmaegbert

oh and baby has such busy hands these days! She ripped a tissue... she pulls big sister's hair... funny! 3 months on Saturday and I can so tell. She is just changing so fast.

01-30-2012 05:47 PM
emmaegbert

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I was so mad at DH last night - DD1 woke up at 4am and started losing it in that overtired, half asleep, irrational toddler way.  And she woke up the baby.  And he like...couldn't cope with it.  He was all annoyed and bordering on angry.  And I'm like...dude....you're not HERE enough to lose your patience with them.  I get that it's 4am, but suck it up - YOU don't have to do anything but roll over while I deal with it.  


 

 

same exact thing happened here the other night-- and the 2yo was getting over a long sickness, and I had been up vomiting with the same sickness... anyway I refused to nurse her and she rolled around and cried and complained and DH started yelling at her! I was so mad at him, like THIS IS NOT HELPING. Eventually she accepted that I wasn't going to nurse her and went to sleep. And I guess eventually DH accepted that she was a toddler and he also went back to sleep. I swear.

 

potty pause- totally. still catching lots but many more wet diapers. what gives? I don't know. Still catching almost all poop so that is awesome.

 

liva I felt like I might have typed my other response re getting housecleaning help wrong (I was in a hurry)... your MIL is an insane and horrible person. You should just do whatever works for you. If your house is not unhealthy and it works for you, then fine. But for me, I really, really could tell when I had some help and it made a huge difference. I don't have it now (can't afford it, and I don't work for income, so I really can't prioritize it). But I literally fantasize about it. It was so great. Some friends I know just have someone who comes like once a month and "deep cleans", others a maid 2x a week for all the laundry and cleaning, my parents have someone once a week who does floors, bathrooms, kitchen... there are many arrangements.

 

01-30-2012 02:40 PM
theboysmama

Saphira had her hearing screen today. Everything looks good. The audiologist said it is common for kids with lots of older siblings to not respond to noise as they are so used to so much noise. tee hee. makes since.

 

I really did not like the audiologist. She chastised me for not having the test done sooner and said she still needs the other test (the one where she has to be asleep) to check past the coclia. I asked her if she was at risk and she said oh it is not very likely that she has issues since this test is good BUT it is a state law you have to have it done. She said not to feed her for a while and keep someone in the back seat with her on the way there to keep her awake and make sure she is pissed that way she will nurse well and fall asleep (ummm I don't think so). If she doesn't sleep then they can just sedate her and do the test (ummm NOT). I talked to dh and I think we are going to skip it. She will report us (to whom i'm not sure) if we don't get it done. I am assuming there is just a paper we can sign. This IS MY child right?

Since the hearing seems fine we are going to possibly call early intervention and see if there are any issues there (she just doesn't respond, has trouble making eye contact, etc.) I assume it is sensory issues (like my 3 older kids) so it won't hurt to get on the radar now.

 

01-30-2012 10:55 AM
AKislandgirl

Liv: my DD1 got her first teeth right as she turned 4 months. She wasn't overly fussy but some of the other ones did bother her and her sleep a bit. I'm not sure why some were some much harder for her then others but that was definitely the case. She also tested her new teeth on me almost every time they came in. Yowsers did that hurt! Especially since I would be all relaxed nursing her - then bamm! She'd bite down. I'm shuddering a little remembering it! Every kid is different so things may be harder or easier for your little one. Maeve is teething now. She's not super fussy but a drooly mess and is gnawing on anything she can get to her mouth. Dh's fingers are her preference!

 

Pi~ What a nice run indeed! How is your son doing now that a few days have passed? I'm thinking of weaning my DD1 soon. She will be 3 in a couple of days. She nurses first thing in the morning and right as she falls asleep now. Some days she does skip those. This weekend she skipped 3 of her normal nursing sessions in a row! I think I'll gently try to nudge her in that direction. I always figured I'd wean her around 3 so well see what the next few months do for us.

 

Another huge snowstorm has hit. Getting lots and lots of snow around here!

01-30-2012 09:59 AM
livacreature

Starling: That cake is awesome.  Your DD looks like she has some serious spunk.

 

Teething: No signed here, but holy cow, I didn't realize it was so involved and it was such a process.  poor little people!  Hoping she is like me and doesn't sprout anything until about a year!  Does it usually impact sleep much?  Do they feed more or less?  I missed this chapter in books, apparently. lol

01-30-2012 05:54 AM
theboysmama

it can go on and on for sure. my oldest did it for about 4 months before anything actually popped through. it typically happens within a few weeks of the irritated bright red/ purpleish bump that appears on top. Saphira was a lot less crabby when the first one finally cut through.

 

pi- what a nice run. Sounds bittersweet. My dd1 weaning is scheduled april 26th. She will be 3 yrs and 4 months. A big weaning party will be held and then on the 27th she will go to Disney Land with my dad. Then when she returns NO MORE NANA's. Worked with all the others so hope it goes off without a hitch. She is excited about disney but not really ready to wean. I was ready a while ago.

01-29-2012 07:07 PM
Rosemarino

Nicole, Iona has the white hard bumps on the canines and the molar. Looks like also possibly the bottom fronts. Ugh! She's chewing, and has the runny poo. this has been going ON AND ON.

01-29-2012 06:54 PM
theboysmama

Rosemary- first you see the white nub then it gets somewhat irritated and there is a bright red/purplish bump on top. It starts to feel harder and harder. She has runnier than normal poops. fussy as can be and then bam the redness goes away and there is a sharp white dot on the outside of hte gums. Typically it continues to move up. With saphira her first one popped through and then stayed put. We will see about these other 2.

 

Starling- an elevator cake? I would like to see that.

01-29-2012 05:16 PM
starling&diesel I did make it! I found a tutorial online, thank goodness. I'm impressed that it actually looks like the Gruffalo and it tasted great, especially for a gluten-free cake. Can't wait to see what she requests for next year. My friend's kid asked for an elevator cake! And she made one!
01-29-2012 04:48 PM
Rosemarino

Aw, Katico, no biggie! Truly.

Starling, did you make that cake???? amazing!

nicole, how can you tell the tooth is going to cut? what does it look like?

01-29-2012 04:19 PM
theboysmama

great cake! Love it!!!

 

I would prefer a private group. If we could do a social group private then yeah but if not then a private fb group. I am in one for my SHARE group and it works well. A couple of members have a made up name that they used to open their account and use it just for the purpose of that group and don't use fb at all otherwise. Also, for long monologues, rants, etc a doc can be opened and attached. I could post lots of pics because it is private unlike this forum. So a private group would be my preference regardless of where we put it.

 

Katico- pls don't be mortified. communication via type is so hard... we all know that isn't what you meant.

 

getting out- I think it was around kid 3 that i just refused to do errands with anyone but hte little one. Just not worth it to me. I have been known to go to wal mart at midnight. I don't have to anymore as dh has a VERY flexible schedule and my older kids are in school or pre-school a few mornings a week so I get my errands done then or send dh.  Getting them out to museums and fun stuff is more manageble but still challenging, akin to hurding cats. lol

 

AFU- Saphira slept through the night last night and in her swing!!! I have never ever had a child give me more than a few hours at a time. It was amazing. she slept form 10:15 to 7:45 (I got from 10:45 to about 6;15 but it was still awesome). When dd1 woke me up I flew out of bed so fast.Dh jumped up and said what's wrong. I told him the baby had slept all night and was still in the swing. We were both sure she was dead. Uggg whe was snoring away and doing just fine. Scared teh crap out of me.

 

She is having a major potty pause right now and I am washing so many diapers. She is still going on the potty too but it isn't her preference. So annoying.

 

We went skiing yesterday and I decided to leave her in teh day care. She did great! I just went in ever few hours to nurse her. Never had a kid that would let me do that either.

 

Found a tooth on the top that just cut so that makes 1 on top and 1 on bottom and another on teh bottom that is almost out. CRAZY. They just cut through the skin adn then stop so she doesn't have full teeth or anything.

 

Just when I think I know what to expect my kid throws me a curve ball. she is so different than the others in so many ways.

She is cooing and smiling (no real laughs yet) and rolling from tummy to back. so much fun.

 

A women at target said how old is she... I told her three months and she said oh it gets better. I said what do you mean this is the best my 3 yr old covered the bedroom in paint and glitter this morning. She said oh I meant tthe sleep. weird.

 

 

01-29-2012 04:14 PM
lifeguard

The cake is fabulous & so is your dd's expression!

01-29-2012 04:00 PM
beautifulmoon

^ so great! I love it!

01-29-2012 03:40 PM
starling&diesel

Here's the Gruffalo cake! 

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01-29-2012 03:28 PM
Katico

I'm mortified bag.gif So sorry!

01-29-2012 03:16 PM
Rosemarino

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Oh gosh, Rosemary, that's not what I meant at all!!!  She posts a lot about their religious practices and that was me trying to be sensitive to the fact that might not be everyone's cup of tea as I was sending you all off to her blog...I could definitely have said it better.  I'm so sorry if I offended guilty.gif


I know. wink1.gif

 

 

 

01-29-2012 02:12 PM
AKislandgirl

katico: I could have written your post about your DH in the middle of the night. Last night Maeve woke up crying (so very rare) and it woke DD1 up. DH lost his sh!t over it and I just yelled at him to "get over yourself, you have 2 kids." I can't deal with him having a tantrum on top of it. I really feel like his attitude when the kids are upset is "poor me, I have to listen to my kids cry or tantrum". My attitude is, "poor kids, why are you upset and how can I help you feel better?" Not sure if its just him or what but it really pisses me off!

 

Liv: Your MIL is crazy! Maybe she is friends with Steph's MIL!

 

Group: I am with Starling on the thread in babies and then toddlers. In fact we were in the Feb '09 DDC together so we have done that together and it works well. Or the social club. I'd rather keep it on MDC then on FB.

 

Getting out of the house: I'm ready for less layers and less effort! Hard to get 2 kids ready to go out and about when it is so cold (single digits to negative temps). Spring can't come fast enough!

 

 

01-29-2012 01:05 PM
Katico

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Originally Posted by RosemaryS-F View Post

fwiw, I have a Catholic family, too. Should I come with a warning label? lol.gif

 

Oh gosh, Rosemary, that's not what I meant at all!!!  She posts a lot about their religious practices and that was me trying to be sensitive to the fact that might not be everyone's cup of tea as I was sending you all off to her blog...I could definitely have said it better.  I'm so sorry if I offended guilty.gif

01-29-2012 12:21 PM
Rosemarino

Quote:
Originally Posted by Katico View PostWarning - Catholic family, whose ideas on child discipline I don't agree with, BUT - she has lots of articles (way down on the right hand side) on how she kept house with a very large family, and it's inspiring.  It is all very common sense and down to earth and makes me feel like if she could do it I can too, haha

 

fwiw, I have a Catholic family, too. Should I come with a warning label? lol.gif

01-29-2012 10:43 AM
lifeguard

Ok - the dishpan idea is exactly what we need for dh's office!!! Thank you!

 

I am so wanting some alone time today. Feeling kind of bitter about it in fact. Dd really is unsatisfied with dh so when I leave them together when I return they are both unhappy - doesn't really make me feel so relaxed if I try to disappear for 15 minutes.

 

Ds' imaginary world has totally exploded recently. He gets into these elaborate imaginary times. It's fascinating to listen to but also leaves us a little confused at times if we haven't been paying close enough attention. Right now he is searching for "john" in the central vac holes in the wall. Too darn cute.

01-29-2012 07:58 AM
Katico

Keeping clean:  love the dishpan idea too!  Nothing drives me crazier that the assorted glasses etc upstairs - they sit there because everytime I'm going to the stairs I either have two kids or laundry in tow and no free hands!    I definitely think having enough/appropriate containers helps a LOT.  I just bought even more laundry baskets - I have 2 in our bedroom, 1 in DD1's room, 1 for towels, 1 for kitchen and 1 for kids clothing downstairs.  I am trying to do loads by type (i.e. all of my clothes together, all of DH's pants together, all of the girls' clothes, etc) and am finding it so much easier when each type has it's own basket in the place we need it.  

 

Also, yes to extra garbage cans.  and lots of pretty baskets.  I finally got an extra basket for all my burp cloths after struggling to force them to fit in the basket with my diapers.  Makes a huge difference.  

 

I feel like I am constantly cleaning and nothing is ever clean, so I can commiserate, Liva.  I'm going to try a kind of revolving chore schedule for myself again - not for the daily stuff - laundry, dishes, everyday clean up, but for the things I never get done and only notice when it's a desperate situation - i.e. sweeping the bedrooms and stairs, dusting the banisters and radiators, washing the windows.  None of them take very long to do but they get neglected.  The house is always tidy and the dishes, laundry, kitchen etc are under control but it's not very CLEAN around the corners, yknow?  It's an old house and we have a cat so the dust can be really bad.  So I'm going to try setting reminders to do them every week or two weeks or month or whatever, in my iphone.

 

I've taken some inspiration from this blog: http://ourmothersdaughters.blogspot.com/  Warning - Catholic family, whose ideas on child discipline I don't agree with, BUT - she has lots of articles (way down on the right hand side) on how she kept house with a very large family, and it's inspiring.  It is all very common sense and down to earth and makes me feel like if she could do it I can too, haha

 

Social Group is gonna be necessary for yes, our monologues, haha

 

MIL/Pictures:OUTRAGEOUS!  I think this wins for craziest MIL story so far!!!

 

Gruffalo cake = awesome!  Happy Birthday little girl!!

 

Emma: love the doll clothes idea!!!

 

 

01-29-2012 07:14 AM
livacreature

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Um, what? What?

As for getting housework done, my dh does the "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, mopping) every other week on Saturday. I do the kitchen and the bathrooms. Then try to maintain during the week, which is hard, but mainly we just try to pick up and keep on top of the dishes and laundry, and that is it. If you are having trouble with dirty things, have a trash can in every room (and recycling) and just toss stuff in. At least it won't be a dirty mess. And if there are dishes in every room, have a dish pan in the rooms you eat in and just put dirty dishes in it. These are my ideas. Then you can run the dish pan to the sink when you get a chance, but at least there will be a spot for them.
 

 


I LOVE THE DISH PAN IDEA!  We are migrate eaters, we eat in the basement, we eat in the bedroom, we eat in the living room.  This would also work with bottles.  BRILLIANT!  You seriously made my morning.  Tomorrow I'm going to try to do a deep clean of the house and my butt will be at the store first thing to buy more dish pans (and some new laundry baskets...one basket just isn't cutting it).  Dishes are a big issue for us, we don't have a dish washer and they tend to build up,

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, ESME!

 

Trinket: It makes me sad that despite all these mainstream recommendations on not to schedule babies, etc. there is still such a market for it.  I've yet to hear a nurse, doctor, lactation consultant anywhere tell me anything but feed on demand.  I don't know what her body is doing, it isn't my job to tell her she is hungry or not. 

 


 

 

01-29-2012 06:51 AM
Rosemarino

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TV: We avoid tv until about age 2 here. That's one of our things. (not_telling, it's brain development.)

 

YES, we did this too. And I find that stories read online hold his attention just as well. So we do more "books on tape" (my age! I really mean the internet, but don't know how to say it) than video.

 

AP:  He was raised on a commune, and (as I jokingly told Amy May earlier this week) where other women have MILs who are encouraging them to feed cereal in a bottle at 2 weeks, mine was telling me to rub walnut leaves on my baby so that he would never get leukemia.

 

HAHAHAHAH! What? Oh, sides are hurting.

 

Speaking of AP, I weaned my older DS tonight. We had set tonight as our last time nursing ever -- he chose the night, I pushed him to choose. I got a little weepy (my voice broke as I was singing to him), but then was fine, and now we're done. I pumped a bottle for DS2 so that I could stay with DS1 until he fell asleep. I wish he had stopped of his own accord last year when I thought he was going to, but since he didn't, I think this was a decent ending. It was time. Wow, that was a long run.

 

so bittersweet, pi, isn't it? Thanks for sharing.


 

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AFM:  I have always thought of myself as a very "go and do with kid in tow" kind of mama....DD1 has always been a very easy baby/kid and I took her everywhere to do everything.  Popped her in the sling and went.  I'm having a lot of trouble getting out and doing things with both kids though...I find it really intimidating.  Claire is an easy baby too, and DD1 is still easy....but when you put the two together it just feels so overwhelming sometimes.

 

It is way harder for me, also. Not a diaper change issue, but a feeding issue here. DD is kind of particular about how and where she'll eat, and needs generally to be majorly soothed before she will nurse. So it's hard in public. Lots of people coming up and asking if she's ok, if she's hungry, if she's tired, did I bring a bottle, blah blah.

 

I was so mad at DH last night - DD1 woke up at 4am and started losing it in that overtired, half asleep, irrational toddler way.  And she woke up the baby.  And he like...couldn't cope with it.  He was all annoyed and bordering on angry.  And I'm like...dude....you're not HERE enough to lose your patience with them.  I get that it's 4am, but suck it up - YOU don't have to do anything but roll over while I deal with it.  

 

Yes, this is totally understandable. Vent away.


 

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Housecleaning: How do mamas find time for this?  It may be harder because I'm working, but I have hours at home during the day.  DD does not nap, I need to get things done and she just isn't happy not being held.  A lot of it is stuff I can't do while wearing her.  Help!!!!  Things are starting to get out of hand and I have MIL coming in a few months.  She takes pictures of piles of clutter in my house and shares them with relatives AND sends me copies.  (Seriously, the people who came three days after birth sent me an album with several pictures of piles of paper/pizza boxes/dirty clothes piles...WTF IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE!?!?!?!)  Usually I'm not embarrassed of my house's condition, but right now I am.  It just seems like the easiest thing to let slide.  I have to work, I have to make dinner, I have to take care of the baby.  Frankly, I'd rather play with the baby then clean.

Um, what? What?

As for getting housework done, my dh does the "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, mopping) every other week on Saturday. I do the kitchen and the bathrooms. Then try to maintain during the week, which is hard, but mainly we just try to pick up and keep on top of the dishes and laundry, and that is it. If you are having trouble with dirty things, have a trash can in every room (and recycling) and just toss stuff in. At least it won't be a dirty mess. And if there are dishes in every room, have a dish pan in the rooms you eat in and just put dirty dishes in it. These are my ideas. Then you can run the dish pan to the sink when you get a chance, but at least there will be a spot for them.
 

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AFM:  My daughter's third birthday party is tomorrow!  We throw a big party / fundraiser for the Basics for Babies program through the food bank here, so it's going to be big!  Lots of prep today for that, including making a Gruffalo cake!  I'll post pictures when I can.  It turned out great!

Happy Birthday!
 

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AFM - went to a baby shower today for a good friend. I gave her a sweater, a bib, and a hat that I knit for her boy. Someone else gave her a (used) copy of Baby Wise by Ezzo... I'm guessing most of you are familiar with him but if not, he's a nutcase who pushes parents to hyper-structure their babies--CIO, harsh parenting methods from a very young age. Leads to underweight, emotionally starved babies, no parent-child bonding, and mothers with lost milk supply and unnecessary stress. So I pulled her aside after the shower and told her that "I don't mean to be harsh, except I do, throw that Ezzo book away." Thank goodness she'd already heard bad things about it and I didn't have to explain why it was such an unhealthy system. The woman who gave her the book had left before gifts were opened or I might have had some words for her too. I'm not a conflict person but it steams me up when someone hands a naive first time mom propaganda like this that's going to threaten her relationship with her child from the get-go. grrrrrr...


Oh, that book. Yup, toss!

 

01-29-2012 06:51 AM
emmaegbert

cluttered/messy house: when I am working again out of the home (hint, hint, livacreature) I would NOT HESITATE to hire help with my house. Before we moved from california, I did hire a professional organizer and that lady was super helpful! We also had a weekly cleaner coming. it made a HUGE difference and since I was working full time, it meant that more of my home time was spent with my children, not cleaning... AND, my house was much cleaner!

 

for those with older kids who love dolls- check this tutorial out- repurposed infant clothes for dolls! I know my little one is quickly outgrowing the 0-3m clothes (though I've already given tons away, I wish I'd saved a couple of stretch suits just to do this project!). A friend from my old DDC linked this... http://obsessivelystitching.blogspot.com/2009/06/baby-clothes-to-doll-clothes-tutorial.html

 

speaking of my old DDC, we have a "secret" group on FB and its fun. But won't work if people don't do FB. Its really the main reason I go on FB, actually.

 

errands with kids- takes a lot longer, and I plan it for quiet times of day (like no grocery shopping at 5PM). I rarely have fewer than 2 with me. My biggest advice is just take your time. Rushing with kids is torture.

 

We are slowly recovering from a stomach bug. Gross. Baby seems to be ok through it all, thank goodness.

01-29-2012 06:36 AM
Katico

More later, for now - this should take you to me on FB if you like!

https://www.facebook.com/people/Beth-Pothier/830330104

 

01-28-2012 06:42 PM
Trinket90

Facebook - I'd love to be friends with anyone who wants to add me. http://www.facebook.com/KatrinaAshley90 That's my URL thingy. I'm ok with the info that's visible so I don't mind linking it publicly. I'd love to have a Facebook group. I'm on there constantly. Add me add me!!

 

Facebook Group - FYI, if it makes anyone more comfortable, we can set the group to completely private, so that only the people in it can see the information--other people can't even see that it exists if they're not invited to it. My extended family has a group like that on Facebook where we can easily share private news.

 

liv - good golly you have to deal with some ignorant, obnoxious people. I might personally murder anyone who thought it was OK to send me PP pictures of clutter. My house is a disaster and it's embarrassing but that's the way and stay the heck away from it if you don't like it.

 

AFM - went to a baby shower today for a good friend. I gave her a sweater, a bib, and a hat that I knit for her boy. Someone else gave her a (used) copy of Baby Wise by Ezzo... I'm guessing most of you are familiar with him but if not, he's a nutcase who pushes parents to hyper-structure their babies--CIO, harsh parenting methods from a very young age. Leads to underweight, emotionally starved babies, no parent-child bonding, and mothers with lost milk supply and unnecessary stress. So I pulled her aside after the shower and told her that "I don't mean to be harsh, except I do, throw that Ezzo book away." Thank goodness she'd already heard bad things about it and I didn't have to explain why it was such an unhealthy system. The woman who gave her the book had left before gifts were opened or I might have had some words for her too. I'm not a conflict person but it steams me up when someone hands a naive first time mom propaganda like this that's going to threaten her relationship with her child from the get-go. grrrrrr...

01-28-2012 06:34 PM
beautifulmoon

I was interrupted in the middle of my posting. So let me add a few things I missed:

 

livacreature That's outrageous of your MIL. Incredibly rude.

 

pi The last night of weaning sounds so bittersweet. 5 years is a beautifully long run.

 

chelsea hope your night goes alright. I know how precarious sleep time can be, and if one thing goes off track  . . . 

 

starling happy birthday to your daughter!!! 

 

 

 

 

01-28-2012 06:26 PM
beautifulmoon

pants I started putting her into pants lately when I learned on this thread that those footie sleepers are supposed to just be pajamas. (I don't have a lot of dresses for her because tights don't seem comfortable to me.) I wanted to see what I thought about dressing her up. It's so cold here that she either has to wear pants or two or more layers of sleepers. 

 

housecleaning I'm slowly getting through the backlog of housework that needs to be done. Every once in awhile I have to remind myself to just enjoy where she is, right now, and put the laundry down.

 

homestays It seems quite young to me to be going away to another country, but you should probably go with your gut about this.

 

AP I feel like I kind of fell into AP. Last year I moved to a town that's very into natural parenting, and when I went to the used book sale last year, I happened to pick up one written by some "Sears" guy. It made a lot of sense to me. Beyond that, I think DD herself kind of led me into it. My mom, my sister, my sister in law, and my mother in law all said she was the fussiest, most particular baby they'd ever met. I think I've had to adopt some of the tenets of AP (willingly or no) just to deal with her. She demanded to be held all the time and wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she was held. She hated the swaddle. She even cried if, when you were holding her, you started talking to somebody else. 

 

Sometimes I have my doubts about what we're doing. I hope it all turns out for the best. So I can't really judge anybody for the choices they do. At the local new mom's group, one woman shared how she was, in effect, letting her son CIO at night so that he'd learn to sleep in his crib. It sounded awful both for her and for him. But I can't judge her for not being AP enough because I'm not working full time right now and in need of sleep in the same way as she is. I think AP just offers another set of tools and alternatives, and you have to figure out what works best for your family.

 

tv I don't own a tv, but I do spend lots of time on the internet. That's a habit I hope to break before she becomes older and more aware of technology. The saddest sight I ever saw was sitting in a pho restaurant in Seattle watching two parents just glued to their iphones as their daughter, who looked to be about 5 or 6, stared sadly into space. I can see DP and I being like that with our laptops, and I need to change that.

 

errands Props to the moms who venture out with more than one kid. My biggest aggravation with errand-running is taking the bus and dealing with baby in the front, backpack in the back.

 

afm After that one time, DD has gone back to refusing the bottle. So DP takes her in during my lunch to nurse, but that means I only have a few minutes to gulp my lunch, or like today, not eat at all. So I was not in a good mood then when I came home today and he helpfully suggested that I apply for a full time job . I don't even know how he's thinking we'd manage that, with him studying for 2 grad degrees and working 2 pt jobs.

01-28-2012 06:24 PM
cbeclipse Emmaegbert, hope you feel better soon!! I know a stomach bug is going around here. And, yes!! Let's get together when the weather warms up.

Beth, I can relate to it being intimidating with two little ones it tow. I have to take Eliza(she's 2) with me whenever I do anything during the day during the week. I do all their food shopping and have to do it with Landon and her. It makes me nervous, but so far it's gone okay. I really hope your dh comes around and understands that you need time alone to get some errands done. Complain away, don't worry about it! We don't mind one bit.

Livacreature, I cannot believe your mil did that!!! How terrible.

FB, anyone can add me if they want. Pm me if you want my info.

Landon went to bed without his last bottle of the day, he was so tired he didn't want it. Something tells me it's going to be a long night for me......

01-28-2012 06:12 PM
starling&diesel

liv ... What an obnoxious MIL!  That would send me over the edge with rage.  And I'm a pretty mellow person too!

 

FB ... Not me.  I don't have an account.  I'd be game for a social group, or what my Feb 09 did is start a thread in the baby section and kept it going until the babies were one, then we started a thread in Toddlers, and now that the kids are three, we'll be moving on over to Childhood Years or whatever it's called. 

 

Getting out with two ... If we had a decent sized home, I might stay home more, but our living room / kitchen / dining room is only about 400 sq feet, so we go out everyday for the better part of the day.  I'd go crazy if we didn't! Sample day yesterday, 0930: off to homeschool playgroup, 1200: Science World, 1400: Micheal's for cake supplies, 1500: to DP's restaurant for late lunch, 1630: home!

 

AFM:  My daughter's third birthday party is tomorrow!  We throw a big party / fundraiser for the Basics for Babies program through the food bank here, so it's going to be big!  Lots of prep today for that, including making a Gruffalo cake!  I'll post pictures when I can.  It turned out great!

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