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12-28-2012 09:33 PM

Your wish is my command - Winter Thread is Here! (And please be patient waiting for me to update the roster - I will do it, but now I really need to pack a few more things and go to bed before my baby decides to wake up.)

12-28-2012 03:08 PM

Monkey- A new thread would be appreciated. I don't want to be a threadkeeper over here until first ultrasound. Hope your LO decides to sleep soon.

12-28-2012 01:58 PM

So excited to see everyone over here!


SSB - Your EDD is so close to when mine was - and is the same day of the month my Baby Bird was born. It's so weird to hear about you waiting for your ultrasound at the beginning of January - it takes me back to where I was this time last year. AKA, horribly sick, and terribly, terribly afraid of losing the baby. And going out of my mind because I had no one to ask for a beta, and didn't want an ultrasound, and thought it would be forever until we could hear a heartbeat. I still remember my happy amazement when the midwife found a HB at my first appointment, just past 8 weeks, and told me she saw the baby on her ultrasound machine (even though I'm not entirely sure I saw anything!). So hoping for a nice, healthy HB for you soon!


I can start a new thread tonight, if no on else wants to. I will then be on vacation for 10 days, and I will probably not be awesome at updating things, but I will get it done eventually!


AFM, 4-month sleep regression going on here. yikes2.gif Baby Bird, my wonderful night sleeper, has been awake every 1-4 hours the past two nights. It's been pretty terrible. AND horribly grumpy during a lot of the day. So not looking forward to taking him to Hawaii this way. Ugggggghhhhhh. So hoping this lasts only a few days, not, oh, a few MONTHS.

12-27-2012 05:28 PM

Thanks SSB! I had a fever during and after implantation and they said that as long as it doesn't go above 101 that there is  nothing to worry about and even then, it has to get really high to hurt baby.

12-27-2012 10:08 AM

kparker - thank you so much for the wonderful advice. I will definitely do my best to be supportive, especially since I can understand how hard it is since DH and I had been TTC for so long.


monkey - thank you!! I'm so glad that there are some BFPs going around and I hope it keeps up. I've been having an awful time lately with a terrible cold (which is why I've been MIA) but the happy news from others is really making my holiday!


deborah - So happy to see you in the grads threads!!


planegreen - hurray!! So happy to see you in the grads threads too.



AFM - still waiting impatiently for that ultrasound on January 8th. Our "guess date" is August 17th. I still can't believe I am saying things like this! I'm getting over a terrible cold that kept me away from the computer, and I was very nervous about it hurting birdie (our baby bird nickname got shortened to birdie), but my GP (and everything my DH looked up online) assured me that it would be fine and I need not worry. Just lots of rest, fluids, and a humidifier to help loosen the congestion. I am feeling much better today, though still a bit stuffed up. I'm still having pregnancy symptoms, which definitely reassure me. My breasts ache and have actually gotten bigger already (which I do not need, I am already a D). I am also very nauseous, but as uncomfortable as it is I am grateful for the sign that things are still ok! I think that might change soon. I am looking forward to reaching 12 weeks when I can feel a little more secure and can stop the endometrin. I am so tired of it!

12-26-2012 08:47 PM

Yes, planegreen, you are in the right place!

12-26-2012 07:02 PM
planegreen So... I guess this is where I come when I graduate from the One thread right? I should be due August 29 if baby sticks!
12-26-2012 02:22 AM

Thanks KParker!

12-25-2012 08:22 PM

Congrats, Deborah! Crossing fingers for a healthy happy pregnancy!

12-25-2012 01:34 AM

I would start it but I've been extremely sick with this LO so I don't know how often I'll get on. If no one else volunteers, I'll do it, but updates will be sporadic.

12-25-2012 01:34 AM

I would start it but I've been extremely sick with this LO so I don't know how often I'll get on. If no one else volunteers, I'll do it, but updates will be sporadic.

12-24-2012 08:17 PM

LOL, yeah, past summer time - anyone want to start a winter thread for us? I'm pretty sure gozal is busy chasing all her little boys around, though I'm still hoping to hear from her sometime!

12-24-2012 07:59 PM

I think we need to change the name to fall/winter 2012. Also, I got my official BFP today, so I'm joining you.. Guess date is 9/4/13.

12-22-2012 08:45 PM

Just wanted to say... WELCOME, SHESAIDBOOM!!! May you enjoy 9 (or 8-ish) wonderful months in this thread!!




Looking like you will have some company here soon! Glad to see some BFPs and praying for lots of stickiness for all my IF sisters.

12-21-2012 01:17 PM

Just be massively supportive. For some of us, we're on the boat a short while. Others, years. My best friend since childhood had a hard time all year trying with perfect timing (she had yet to get tested/etc, so just natural cycles) and here I was, about to give birth/with a newborn, and it was hard to complain about pregnancy and newborn issues to her because she was still on the boat. She's finally pregnant, about 6 weeks, so it got better for her. But until then (and even now, now that she's worried about being pregnant) all I did was just listen, and be supportive.

At least those of us who've been on the boat any length of time have a better understanding of how rough it all is - vs people who didn't have to take that ride being accidentally (or deliberately!) insensitive about it.

As for the pants, my good friend and doula made them for me :3

12-18-2012 07:30 PM

kparker - two handsome boys! Your little one is just adorable. I love his little pants. Did you make those? I'm sorry BFing has been so hard on you.


wissa - thank you! I am so excited to be joining the thread. Thank you for the kind thoughts! The only people we're planning to tell at this point are those that knew we were doing IVF, but we're making sure to remind them that we're still very early and please don't tell others yet. Unfortunately DH's parents already told a bunch of people in their excitement, which makes me worry in case anything happens.
I hope your itchies goaway soon! That does not sound like fun.


chica - thank you!



AFM - not much going on yet, just nauseous and a bit crampy. I'm worried about another miscarriage, but I'm trying to stay positive. I also feel really guilty about getting a BFP when other friends dealing with infertility didn't this cycle. I'm sure this is a normal feeling, but I wasn't expecting it. How did you deal with it if you've been there? One of my close friends just did her last IVF cycle and it did not work for her and her husband. I am devastated for her and have no idea how to act. I don't want to not talk about my pregnancy because I'm sure that would make her feel weird, but I also don't want her to feel like I'm rubbing it in her face. I've just stayed fairly quiet so far and have been trying to be as supportive as possible. Any advice?

12-18-2012 07:19 PM
chicajones Ohh SheSaidBoom!!!! So excited for you!!!! I know how hard those first few months are--praying they go quickly for you!
12-18-2012 03:20 PM

Ok - I'm going to try and post.


Shesaidboom - I'm so excited for you! I know what you have gone through to get this point. These first few weeks are the most nerve wrecking and Jan. seems too far away for that ultrasound.  We will try to support you as much as we can with little ones around!  It's so wonderful to finally have someone new join the graduates!!  Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   I'll be thinking about you over the holidays...are you planning on telling any family over Christmas?


kparker - I wish had some really great advice to give you about BF.  You would like it better if it didn't hurt.  I know everyone says that if the latch is right then it doesn't hurt.  That's great and true, but not all babies and mom's are able to get a great latch easily.  My DS was terrible and our nursing sessions turned into a fight every time with me constantly having to re-latch him.  I gave up at 6 weeks as I was tired of hurting all the time and I really don't think he was getting enough milk.  It was then I was finally able to enjoy him!  I didn't even bother pumping much after that and he did wonderful on formula.  (So, if you absolutely don't want to BF anymore it will be ok.  Your little guy will be fine and he will still love you.)


Right now I'm itching all the first I thought maybe thrush.  However, I've treated that I'm still miserably itchy.  Dry skin maybe??  I know certain bras make it worse.  Ugh.  My main issue with BF this time around is simply time.  I'm exhausted. If I could nurse 20 minutes and be done I think I would enjoy it.  I'm going to try and get an LC I know to come check her latch again and maybe that will help. 


I'm also thinking about giving a bottle once or twice a day to give myself a break. I figure some BF is better than none.  


Just remember if you have to do what works for your family!!   There isn't a right or a wrong choice...Enjoy your baby!!!!! cause he is adorable...

12-17-2012 04:42 PM

kparker - Growth spurts suck....hahahahah -- lol.  And yes they do! 

12-16-2012 09:45 PM

Chica, he's adorable! Congrats, shesaidboom! How exciting for everyone.

Guy is one month and two days old today. Still hanging in there re: breastfeeding, but hate it more than ever. The mental irritation, physical irritation, and overall aggravation between he and I is making it highly likely I'm going to quit and just pump/bottlefeed. I'm going to try to get him in ASAP to get his upper lip tie evaluated and see if we can fix it, and see if that fixes my pain. I think if BFing didn't hurt me I'd be a lot more amenable to it. I had already given him bottles within week 1 due to my cracked nipples so he goes from bottle to breast totally seamlessly (a miracle!) but I really don't want to have to go that way if I can avoid it. Breastfeeding is SO convenient due to availability and simplicity. But I'll be damned if the growth spurts don't suck! (no pun intended)

Here's my boys from today. Guy IV and Guy V. :)


12-14-2012 03:40 PM

Hi ladies! It is so nice to see some of you again and those beautiful pictures of your little ones! Congratulations to you all. I've been hesitant in moving over here from the One thread, but I think I may be ready. Dh and I got a BFP after our first IVF cycle! We are still very early (transferred one beautiful embryo [5 day blastocyst] on November 25th), so I am still nervous, but so very excited. I had my first beta on Monday with a result of 684 and it was 1300+ (didn't get a chance to write down the actual number) on Wednesday. We have an ultrasound booked for January 8th to see how baby bird is doing (the nickname came from our last name, Crowe..I read back a bit and noticed you call Ben Baby Bird too monkey! Would it be weird for you if I use that name when I post? I don't want to jump on anyone's nickname). So far I'm feeling great. I had horrible stomach pains the first week, but they've tapered off and now I'm just a bit nauseous with very sore breasts. I'm off to read the rest of this thread!

12-14-2012 11:24 AM

Chica - Congratulations!! He's beautiful.  I was actually thinking about you the other day wondering if your little guy had made his appearance.  

12-14-2012 10:14 AM
toothfairy2be Congrats! He is so cute!!
12-14-2012 07:47 AM

Wissa -  She is SUCH a cutie!


Chica - congrats!!!  What a handsome little baby.  Sorry that you had to transfer, but so glad that it was mostly what you wanted!

12-14-2012 06:58 AM
monkeyscience Congrats! He is beautiful! He must be a skinny little boy, being so long and light. Enjoy holding him while he's too small to hurt your back! Sorry you had to transfer, but glad you were able to get him here safely with only a minor intervention. from personal experience - if your stitches aren't gone in a couple of weeks, have your mw check them. Dissolving stitches don't always dissolve, and it messes with healing if they don't.

Excited to hear more when you have the chance! (Hoping to hear more from our other mamas soon, too, and to have SSB join us when she's ready!)
12-14-2012 05:44 AM
chicajones He's here! I will post a longer birth story later, but Charles (Charlie) Marlin Jones was born at 8:46pm on 12-12-12. 6lbs 8oz and 21.25in long. We were at home for 36 hours of labor. After four hours of pushing and no progress after the last two hours, we had to transfer to the hospital where he was delivered 20 min later after a small episiotomy. Not thrilled about the cut or the transfer, but almost all of our labor was at home and we had a natural, drug free birth. It feels a little bittersweet that we didn't get our home waterbirth, but we were at home for 99% of the birth with my wonderful midwife and doula, and I am happy with the experience as a whole. Breastfeeding already going wonderfully and we're all doing great!

12-11-2012 05:11 PM

Thanks ladies it's nice to know I'm not the only one struggling with the "freedom" issues that come with breastfeeding.  We are still going for now...My goal was only for 6 weeks.  I know lofty goal, but I feel like I've done something because I've made it to 8 weeks. ;)


More later...


Monkey - I'm sorry your lo is not gong along with your plans to intro the bottle.  I gave little girl one as soon as most say it's ok to do so without harming your milk supply.  I've been told if you wait too late the babies get stuck in their ways...They know what they want!!  It is awesome that your baby bird has done so well BF with the tongue tie issues.  


kparker - I understand exactly you what mean by watching the clock.  It's best in the first weeks to just throw the clock out because as soon as he hits that first growth spurt he'll be attached 24/7.   Set a small goal and if by that time you still feel this way maybe try giving a bottle.  I'm not saying don't BF...I'm just saying don't do it the point that you can't enjoy your baby.  If mommy's not happy no one is happy.  

12-10-2012 07:40 AM

I don't love nursing, either. It's not so much the actual act (at least not now that we got the whole lanolin/disposable nursing pad causing dermatitis thing sorted out) as just the time factor - it seems like all I ever do. I do like the huge grin he gets on his face sometimes right before he latches on, and sometimes I do like the sleepy nursing baby snuggles. And I'm glad he's gaining and so strong and healthy. He still can't take a bottle, and seems to have actually moved on to rejecting it on principle, which is pretty frustrating considering the amount of money we've sunk into speech therapy. I still feel very blessed that he is successful at breastfeeding, since most babies with his issues struggle with both breast- and bottlefeeding.


Alas, he also has his first cold, which he got from dh. Of course that had to coincide with a roadtrip to a friend's wedding. Yeah, not a fun weekend at all. But at least he's back to eating somewhat normally!

12-09-2012 11:23 PM

wissa - I don't like breastfeeding either. The pain has subsided somewhat, but I just despise it. I wish I didn't. Guy's gaining wonderfully and LOVES the time we have together but I can't seem to stop counting the minutes until he's all done and back to sleep and off of me :(

12-06-2012 08:55 AM

Hi RCR - I still try to stalk you...


AFM - O.k. I'm feeling like a bad mother or something.  For whatever reason I just don't like breastfeeding.  Technically breastfeeding is working and I'm not sore or anything most days, but I just can't seem to enjoy it.  I don't know that going to bottles would give more time, yet...   I really just don't know what to do!!  I feel guilty for going to the bottle and guilty for breastfeeding out of guilt.   Ugh...Maybe I'm just sleep deprived.  


Oh and baby girl will not be put down to sleep.  However, I can put her down when she is awake and she is very happy to sit, coo and look at things.  I'm so confused. 

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