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07-23-2012 07:56 AM

Ok posted a new thread! Go here: jumpers.gif

07-16-2012 12:30 PM

Hi Erin!  I'm still here shy.gif  Maybe we should start a new thread?  I worry that anyone who used to come around might not be able to find us, but if you do, definitely just post a link to it here.  


I love your DH's interest in the topic!  I'm really lucky in that my DP is almost as excited about babies as I am, and we actually have a lot of really good discussions about having babies, how we plan to raise children, etc.  Breastfeeding is one that guys almost NEVER seem to get right away though - a few months ago, DP said something to the effect of, "I totally agree with breastfeeding, I just don't understand why women fight to do it in public when it makes other people uncomfortable - why don't they just go somewhere else?  Why does it matter?" Me: "FIREdevil.gif."


After a ten minute lecture in which I (mostly) calmly enumerated all of the reasons that NIP should be a right and why it IS a big deal, DP got really quiet and thoughtful and said, "Wow, you know, I feel like a total idiot now.  I really never thought it through.  You're 100% right and my argument was 100% wrong.  The fact that I or anyone else am uncomfortable is totally irrelevant!  Babies should never have to wait to eat, and women should not be told they should hide something so awesome.  Thanks for explaining it.  I still feel a little uncomfortable, but I'm going to work on that in the future."  I feel like that response makes it pretty clear why this is the man for me love.gif Now can we get the politicians to respond like that?  


Any other NMY out there?

07-16-2012 06:13 AM

helloooooo out there!

I'm wondering if we should start a new thread - this one's title is from early 2011!! Of course I'm not quite sure what that entails, but I figured I'd throw that out there!

Also, really random but I figured you guys are some of the few who would get this: last night DH mentioned reading an article about a woman still breastfeeding a 5yo and the backlash against the writer (her husband) who was complaining about feeling like he had to compete with his son for "boob time". It sparked a really interesting discussion of breastfeeding and my thoughts on the subject for our future kid as well as why breastfeeding is done past when teeth erupt (which is when he figured it stopped lol). It was so cool that he was actually curious about the topic and I was thrilled that he asked questions!

06-19-2012 04:06 PM

Hi Jenni! I haven't been on Mothering for a while, but just popped on today to see how things were going. It's nice to see a new face!


Aquarius, I'm good - it seems that my friends are on a baby hiatus for a little while after about 2 years of zillions of babies, so that has reduced the baby rabies to intermittant baby fever. LOL A friend did post a really cute shower idea today (have everyone design a onesie with permanent marker on a plain onesie and give them to the mom-to-be), so I've started a new file on Shower Ideas. It never does quite go away!


Life is good in general - I'm pretty happy where I am, though I'm still working on a few of those self improvement goals. Right now I'm trying to cut back on soda - soooooo hard but I know it's better for me in the long run.

06-19-2012 01:16 PM
Hi ladies - I know this group isn't super active right now but wondering if I could dip my toe in?  I've been meaning to join for months but have been lurking!  I'm Jen and have always known 100% that I wanted to be a mama.  My own mom was an AP parent (she didn't call it that, but she practiced extended breastfeeding, babywearing, co-sleeping, and still gets teary-eyed when she talks about all the advice she got to let my brother and I cry it out, and how she "just couldn't ever walk away when you were crying!  It meant you needed me!")  I think of her as an "instinctual" parent - she definitely didn't engage in all AP practices, but my brother and I both grew up very attached to her, her in a positive way.  I've always known I would be like her!
Just as a disclaimer: you might be able to tell from my badge that I work for Mothering.  I'm the liaison between our sponsors and the community, which means I run contests, work with advertisers, and see how the community and sponsors are getting along.  I am NOT here to sell anything - I work for Mothering, not for the sponsors.  I'm also not here to pick your brain or get an "in" with the community - I'm really just here because I want to be here.  It's kind of funny, because sometimes I worry that people are going to think I'm some sort of "plant" in the audience, or a spy - but if I was, wouldn't I probably pose as someone with kids?  Anyway.  I'm here as myself, a Mothering member and employee, but not as some kind of shill or anything.
Here are my get to know you answers:
 -Where do you want to live/where do you live?
I live in San Francisco as of about 7 months ago - before that I lived on the SF Peninsula.  But I'm originally an LA girl.
*How many kiddos do you want, and does anyone plan to adopt?
Two, for now, but I can see three happening.  While I would obviously love any and all children that come for me, I can't help thinking that if I had two boys or two girls, I would probably be more likely to definitely have the third!
*Do you have any hobbies?
Right now, honestly, getting settled into my apartment (my boyfriend and I have recently moved in together) is a big one.  We read and watch a lot of sci fi, so that's a hobby (we're huge nerds!)  I also dance - currently, only for fun and in Zumba classes (dance exercise - if you don't do it, you should!) but for about 5 years in high school and college I did social ballroom dance - swing, salsa, waltz, two-step, tango.  That's my passion.
*What do you do as a job?
I work for Mothering as a sponsor liaison.  I do reports, run contests, help write content, the whole deal.  You can find me in the Sponsored Content forum Sheepish.gif
*Any non-crunchy confessions?*
I'm really not very good at eating all-organic and natural.  I wasn't raised that way (my mom tried her hardest, but dad was Mr. Meat and Potatoes) and currently my budget doesn't really allow for it.  I'm focusing instead on eating as healthfully as possible, cutting out processed foods and almost all non-fruit sugar.  It's a challenge because, despite living in San Francisco, my friends and family are not very crunchy!  My worst confession is that I occasionally eat McDonalds.  I'm ashamed of it, but it's the closest thing to the office and sometimes those fries just call to me.
1. Do you have any pets? If so, what kind and what are their names? 
No pets are allowed in our apartment :(
2. Do you have anything stashed away for your future kids? (oh-so-cute outfit you couldn't not buy? Special cradle that's been in the family forever?
I saved all my favorite stuffed animals in a big drawer under my bed in my parents house.  I know my kids probably won't want any of my super old toys, but I can't help but keep them!  
3. Favorite food?
Peanut butter.  
4. What brought you to MDC?
Work, originally, but (if you won't tell my boss) I spend more time here reading threads and the blog than is probably necessary :)  One of my close friends from high school is having a baby in October
5. Random fact about yourself
I lived in Madrid for 3 months in college and am(was?) fluent in Spanish.
06-04-2012 02:19 PM
aquarius aspiring

Hi, everyone! smile.gif


There seems to have been a minor pregnancy explosion at work lately. One co-worker is pregnant, one work associate is pregnant, the wife of a co-worker is pregnant, and the wife of a work associate is pregnant. I'm completely thrilled for everyone (and a teeny bit jealous).


I'm working on eating better and exercising more which are the biggest things I want to work on before getting pregnant.


How's everyone else doing?

03-24-2012 11:45 AM

Well if anyone else wants to start things up again, speak up!

03-23-2012 07:10 PM

I just figured no body had anything to say about the fact that they're not mamas yet.

03-23-2012 01:23 PM

I wonder why? And would it be easier to maintain and more sustainable if it was a group instead of a tribe?

03-23-2012 01:08 PM

It would seem so... which is sad! Back when I first joined it was really active, and was a great place to be for all those of us wishing for babies but not having them yet for a variety of reasons. (Not that I'm saying it isn't a great place, just that it isn't as active.)


Also... don't know if I ever came back and said THANK YOU for all the congrats... thank you!! We are excited. We just found out two days ago that we are expecting a little boy.

03-23-2012 12:51 PM

Did NMY die out? This is the last thread I can find.

02-15-2012 03:27 PM
aquarius aspiring

joy.gifCongratulations, monkey! That's such happy news!joy.gif

01-21-2012 11:29 AM

That is AWESOME monkey! I'm so glad to hear about your graduation! :) :D

01-21-2012 10:04 AM

Originally Posted by monkeyscience View Post

I suppose this is the wrong time to announce I'm 10 weeks pregnant? duck.gifBut I started wanting a baby about 15 years ago (when I was 13!), so I've definitely done my time waiting. Not to mention the year and a half of TTC to get this little bean. But since I joined this group almost 4 years ago, with no dh or any prospects on the horizon, I am glad to finally be considered a graduate!

CONGRATULATIONS! joy.giflove.gifenergy.gifclap.gifhug2.gif I'm so happy for you!

01-21-2012 08:12 AM

I suppose this is the wrong time to announce I'm 10 weeks pregnant? duck.gifBut I started wanting a baby about 15 years ago (when I was 13!), so I've definitely done my time waiting. Not to mention the year and a half of TTC to get this little bean. But since I joined this group almost 4 years ago, with no dh or any prospects on the horizon, I am glad to finally be considered a graduate!

01-20-2012 01:49 PM

My blog is in my profile as well :)


I never really have much time to browse MDC. Life is busy here in Alabama! I found out today that I got accepted into a month-long academic program in Greece this summer, so I'm following up to make sure it'll be a wise move in terms of credits/graduation, but it's looking good!


In birth-related news, my baby rabies are as strong as ever. My SIL (the one who natural births with midwives and got me hooked on all this) is expecting number three this summer (brother is deployed), so I'll be staying with her to help out...I'll get to see my first birth! I'm very excited.

01-07-2012 06:26 PM

Erm I just realized the first post on this thread is from a YEAR ago - perhaps we should start a new one? I would but don't know any of the updates on the people on the original post who we don't see frequently now.

Big news! DH and I were looking at our plans for the next 4 years and oddly enough discussion of yard work and house projects led to discussion of a munchkin! He was totally relaxed in the discussion, which is a change over the last year, and we are OFFICIALLY going to start TTC after my IUD comes out in Dec. 2014! So if all goes as planned, my 2015/16 is going to be one heck of a new adventure! :D


Up 'til now it's been a "yea probably in 2015, but we'll need to discuss it in more detail later" thing, so to have DH say "yea, why don't we just start trying for a munchkin whenever your IUD comes out" has me pretty thrilled (and a bit nervous too LOL even tho it's still 3 years off).


So three years to find a workout routine and stick to it (I want to be in great shape before pregnancy - one of my friends hiked 6-8 miles per weekend up until she hit 37 weeks(!) and I want to be able to do that, too!), build my dog training business further so we can start saving up more, get a looong list of titles on my dogs since my training and trialling time will be more limited after baby, and get the house to a more finished place for the same reason! Wheeeee!

01-01-2012 06:13 PM

I have dog blogs, no real human centric blogs. ;) I say post the blog link - what's the worst that could happen? They delete the link after we've all seen it? ;)

12-26-2011 08:48 AM

hey does anyone here blog? I'm not on here as much anymore (I feel like a lot has gone downhill) but I would still love to hear about whats going on with you all. not sure if were allowed to post our blog in a thread (one of the reasons i'm not a fan of mothering right now) but mine is in my profile.

12-25-2011 11:01 PM
aquarius aspiring ***********
12-22-2011 11:04 AM

(((hugs))) My baby thoughts have come back recently, too, and the number of preggers friends has even decreased! :P TFKAS's last line hits home for me as well:


as much as I want one there are so many things i still need to do before that I will have a hard time doing with a baby


Sometimes being responsible and logical sucks!

12-22-2011 07:36 AM

I totally understand, it seems like everyone around me is having babies, people i went to high school with are popping them out left and right. but I know its not my time just yet. as much as I want one there are so many things i still need to do before that I will have a hard time doing with a baby joy.gif

Originally Posted by aquarius aspiring View Post

*deep breath*


One of my co-workers is pregnant following very closely on the heels of another co-worker who has a three-month-old baby. I'm trying to not let it get to me. I'm ecstatic for her and her husband (I'm starting to become friends with both of them). At the same time, I'm jealous. I hate that I'm jealous. I want a child so very badly sometimes. My ex-SIL is also pregnant...with her fourth child and it was a surprise for her and her boyfriend (but they weren't preventing that much either) and they can't afford the three kids they have and it just kills me that my husband and I are waiting for the right time and that right time won't be at least for another year. We're waiting so we get settled somewhere and be more financially stable. I mean, we're okay now. We really are, but things could always be better (like having a budget for starters).


I'm just impatient and sad and jealous and the waiting to TTC is killing me! I'm okay most days, but it's hard sometimes. I know that all the "nest building" we do now is going to be a good thing when the right time comes. For right now, I just need to get myself in a better place. I need to eat healthy and lose a lot of weight to be healthier. I also don't wait the deck stacked against me when I do get pregnant and have high blood pressure right from the get go. My co-worker's pregnancy was considered high risk just because of the simple fact that she was overweight (blood pressure and all other vitals were perfectly fine) and I do not want that to happen to me.


I just have to keep reminding myself that it'll all be worth it in a few years when we do have our first baby.


Thank you for listening to me vent. I know if anybody'll understand, it'll be the people here.


12-20-2011 09:25 PM
aquarius aspiring


11-29-2011 04:40 PM

TFKAS (terrordactyl formerly known as Shaina) - Good to see an old familiar face! As far as FAFSA goes, you can file one any time. It's just that some schools do financial aid on a first come/first serve basis, so later is worse for that. Also, if you're applying for next fall, you may actually need to fill out the new FAFSA next year, whenever you're done with your taxes. AFM, I've been using a DivaCup for about 4.5 years now, though I do occasionally use tampons, or, more rarely disposable pads. I've used cloth pads a few times for a backup to my DivaCup, but they haven't really won me over at this point. I'm actually on my 3rd O in 4 months, so I think not having the stress of working any more (I quit to travel with dh's job) has really changed things for me. However, I really doubt I'm pregnant this time, and obviously wasn't the last two times, so it's not as helpful as I thought it would be (finally getting my body O'ing, I mean). I don't know if I've mentioned it here or not, but if this cycle doesn't work out, I'm going to start BCPs for a few months to help shut down the overproduction of testosterone in my body, which should help me lose weight. Wishing it wouldn't come to that, but pretty sure it will. At least it will take me off the roller coaster of wondering and waiting and hoping for a few months.

11-29-2011 03:31 PM

hey everyone haven't been around in awhile. i feel like everywhere else on this board has had alot of Drama so i stayed away. i also obviously changed my Username used to be "Shaina" 


update on me: currently applying to Birthwise Midwifery School in Maine, haven't told the BF yet not sure how he will take it at this point so not sure i'm kinda talk to him about it till all my paperwork is in and i'm sure i'm applying not sure how he would feel about moving across country from the only state he's ever live in. where i'm ready for the adventure and its my calling since i was 14 and i really need to just stop wasting time and do it. other than that just looking for a job and trying to take a couple classes next semester only problem is i didn't fill out a FAFSA last june does anyone know if you can still send one in this late?


Baby fever is always in high gear but i need to put it on a back burner till i get everything figured out


monkeyscienceI was wondering do you use Cloth Menstrual Pads? I know that it helped quit a few women i know with there  PCOS when they took the switch from disposable to cloth because of the chemicals in the disposable. I know that when i finally switched my period went from over a week to about 4 days and was alot lighter and no cramps my acne also cleared up. 



11-28-2011 07:28 PM

Hello everyone! Life is good here. In the depths of the semester, I just can't wait for it to be over. I graduate May 2013, it cannot come soon enough. Then it's on to grad school...then, real life...maybe? Haha.


Baby rabies are in full swing in this household. It doesn't help that I found out my SIL and brother are having another little one, due in July. Alas, I am painfully single so I'm just online shopping for tiny clothes for my niece/nephew and looking at my beautiful baby names I will someday use. 

11-18-2011 05:54 PM




11-16-2011 07:53 PM

Oh, and if anyone's still updating this thread... Kyamo got her bfp awhile back, and is due in March!! And I'm TTC now, though I will be going on BCP to try to help lose weight/tame my PCOS if I don't get pregnant this cycle. Not at all what I expected, but hopefully a good move if it comes to that.

11-16-2011 07:52 PM

Funny... I was just thinking about this thread the other day and wondering if my subscription to it had accidentally been erased. Apparently not!


Both our parents are in town, so we will be hitting both up for Thanksgiving. Fortunately this year (unlike last year) it won't be on the same day. dh's family on Wednesday night, my family Thursday afternoon. But since dh and I started the South Beach diet last week, it's not going to be as much fun as usual. But hopefully less fattening. Actually, dh will probably eat whatever he wants with reckless abandon, so it'll just be me saying no to a second roll, or more than a bite or two of stuffing. :(


Day after Thanksgiving we're headed to SF/Oakland area for dh's work, and we'll be there for a week, then home for a day, then driving to Oklahoma for work again. Then finally home for Christmas about a week before it happens. Luckily, dh has both the entire week of Thanksgiving off, plus the week before and after Christmas. That almost makes up for the fact that he's in California without me this week, and was randomly send out of town for the week two weeks ago. Almost. But not quite. :P

11-16-2011 06:31 PM
aquarius aspiring

*pokes back*

Originally Posted by stardogs View Post

*pokes thread*


How's everyone doing this fall? Any big (or little special) plans for the holidays?


DH and I are looking forward to a week long "staycation" over the week of Thanksgiving. A trip to IKEA, last minute bulb planting and yard care before winter hits, and lots of relaxing with each other is on the agenda.  Hopefully that'll make up for driving up to Indiana for a week after Christmas to visit my family and his!


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