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09-16-2012 09:22 AM
anyalily

The new thread is up! http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1363431/the-one-thread-for-september-16-23

09-15-2012 09:42 PM
anyalily
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Originally Posted by kitteh View Post

Spotting has turned bright red, but it still is just spotting and not normal period flow. I've had cramps and a dull lower-back ache pretty much since the middle of my cycle, so I have no idea what is up with that. I took a (few) test(s) this morning and I swear I see a super faint line, but it is also entirely possible that I'm imagining things. I guess I have no choice but to wait and see.

Hmmm. I hope all is well! I have read about people having some pretty heavy flow and still have a healthy pregnancy. Keep us posted, drink lots of water and take care!

 

I am still testing BFNs, tomorrow is 10 DPO. This 2WW is really crawling. A good friend just had a baby boy yesterday. Another good friend had a 3 month old. I don't want to miss this baby train! I didn't have any pregnant friends last time and I hope it works out this time that I have some mama friends.

09-15-2012 11:12 AM
kitteh

Spotting has turned bright red, but it still is just spotting and not normal period flow. I've had cramps and a dull lower-back ache pretty much since the middle of my cycle, so I have no idea what is up with that. I took a (few) test(s) this morning and I swear I see a super faint line, but it is also entirely possible that I'm imagining things. I guess I have no choice but to wait and see.

09-14-2012 12:34 PM
kitteh

Got another BFN this morning, but then I did a cervical check a few hours later and had some brown and red spotting. Only at the cervix, nothing has shown on my underwear or toilet paper (sorry, tmi) So I don't know if this is a little late to be implantation spotting, or just REALLY early AF showing up. I guess I'll just keep an eye on it and hope that it doesn't turn into anything more. I should probably not test til Sunday or Monday, but knowing myself I doubt I can hold off, lol.

09-13-2012 08:58 PM
kitteh
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Originally Posted by anyalily View Post

Boo, sorry! 


Kitteh, did you test this morning?

Yup, and I got a BFN. And then I tried again in the afternoon, and also this evening because apparently I'm addicted to POAS and I guess one bfn just wasn't enough of a disappointment for one day.

I'm trying not to get too discouraged. At best I'm 10dpo, but also possible that I'm only 8dpo. So we'll see. I'm expecting AF between the 18th and the 20th, so there's still time (to obsess and drive myself and DH crazy)
09-13-2012 04:02 PM
JustJenny

Congrats aHikaru! So glad you got your bfp! 

 

hug2.gif MyName  

 

As for me, I'm still waiting to O. CD8 today.

09-13-2012 08:30 AM
AmandaLynnH

Thanks for the responses everyone.  Feeling less freaked but still a little miffed about all the things I have to give up like control, buying new normal clothes, being able to see my toes, my ability to not feel crappy, sleep, etc.  But hey, I finally get to put stuff in that empty bedroom opposite ours.

 

Regarding the finances thing though I think we figured it out and found a daycare nearby that is really reasonable and will still allow us to save a fair amount of money each month and not adjust our lifestyle much, if at all (aside from the obvious adjustments).  We recently paid off our student loans so we've freed up that money too which should cover most of the baby expenses for a while so that helps too.  I have determined that we probably could never afford to have more than one.  Seriously, how do people do that?  We live pretty modestly, we don't deprive ourselves, but we're awesome savers and got ourselves set up in a nice, inexpensive house that we can stay in for as long as we wish and do quite well but I don't think we could pay for two in daycare unless daycare was them hiding under my desk all day.

 

I guess I can be moved to graduates.  I made the mistake of saying I didn't really feel pregnant yesterday and that I was still somewhat unconvinced that I actually am (it was a dollar store test after all - and wouldn't you know it we bought 3 and 3 ovulation tests too, plus a big thing of cups...).  My body is making sure I'm aware this morning; nausea, headache, and my back feels like it's trying to kill me.  And I have to work extra this evening (heh...doing childcare, ironically).

 

Oddly enough I think doing private childcare (aka being the babysitter) for the last 12 years has actually been part of what freaks me out about being a mom.  I know how relieved I was to go home most days, especially when I was doing it nearly full time and I saw it all so I don't have that rosy outlook thing going on.  But work is just that, work.  Even if you love what you do there are going to be 'those days' and I'm sure it's no different than parenting.  I'll love my kid but I probably won't like her all the time.  And sometimes I'll need a break.  And that's ok.

09-13-2012 07:53 AM
anyalily
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Originally Posted by MyName View Post

Waiting to O. CD 1. gloomy.gif

Boo, sorry! 

 

Quinalla, I moved you. Congrats again!

 

Kitteh, did you test this morning?

 

The bad news is that I had another negative Wondfo on 7DPO. The great news is that I have lost 5 lbs since Monday! I LOVE the start of a diet, that crud weight that comes off right away is so encouraging. Now I just need to keep up the momentum.

09-13-2012 07:17 AM
MyName

Waiting to O. CD 1. gloomy.gif

09-13-2012 06:53 AM
Quinalla Thanks everyone, please move me to Graduates. Good luck to all of you ladies, I hope we get many more graduates this month smile.gif Sorry about passing the testing bug on to everyone, though it isn't too bad if you are using the cheap internet tests!
09-12-2012 10:45 PM
anyalily
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Originally Posted by kitteh View Post

I also caught the testing bug after reading about the recent BFPs. I'm somewhere between 7 and 9 dpo and probably shouldn't even be thinking of POAS for another few days, but I went for it anyway and got the dreaded EVAP LINE, ugh. As if I need any more reason to overly obsess and delude myself, lol.

 

I'm sure I'll be testing every morning from now til the 20th. Thank god for internet cheapies!

Ooh, I consider evap lines hopeful! I've never had one.

09-12-2012 10:43 PM
kitteh

I also caught the testing bug after reading about the recent BFPs. I'm somewhere between 7 and 9 dpo and probably shouldn't even be thinking of POAS for another few days, but I went for it anyway and got the dreaded EVAP LINE, ugh. As if I need any more reason to overly obsess and delude myself, lol.

 

I'm sure I'll be testing every morning from now til the 20th. Thank god for internet cheapies!

09-12-2012 10:35 PM
anyalily

kitteh, thanks. I had another good day. I am hitting my stride.

 

Quinalla and aHikaru, wow wow wow! Two in one day. That is serious mojo. A BIG congrats to you both.

 

Quinalla, let me know when you want to be moved to graduates!

 

AFM, I peed on a Wondfo this morning, and BFN. No surprise, I am only 6 DPO today. I will try again tomorrow. Why not, right?

 

G'night ladies!

09-12-2012 08:06 PM
Stevi

aHikaru & Quinalla...   Congratulations!!!!!

09-12-2012 03:19 PM
aHikaru

oh btw...

 

 

 

my major symptoms were spotting 7-10 days after conception, bleeding gums and heartburn... you can move me to graduates please.

09-12-2012 10:00 AM
Quinalla
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Originally Posted by aHikaru View Post

congrats! how many DPO are you?
13 DPO, I'm so excited!

Yeah, I might buy them at the dollar store, but we don't have any that are really convenient. I just can't see buying 1 or 2 tests in the store when I can get 10-15 tests online for the same price or cheaper including shipping. Store tests are great in a pinch, but when planning to TTC, it's pretty easy to order online when you start and tests will be there when you need them.
09-12-2012 09:32 AM
JustJenny

Congrats Quinalla!  How exciting for you :)  Thanks for that tip for saveontests.com. I'm frugal too and pregnancy tests are expensive!  I hate shelling out the $$$.

09-12-2012 08:44 AM
aHikaru
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Originally Posted by Quinalla View Post

No AF yesterday, so I tested this morning and pos.gif It's faint, but it is definitely there smile.gif (click for a larger picture)

joy.gifbiggrinbounce.gifyikes.gifbouncy.gifbanana.gif - That about covers my feelings!
My DH was excited, but then told me "But don't have twins!" rolleyes.gif: And I'm sure his financial worrying will start again like last time. I definitely sit down and plan out a budget, but I don't just start worrying like crazy like my DH does, so I hear all of you ladies there!

congrats! how many DPO are you?

09-12-2012 07:17 AM
Quinalla Thanks smile.gif It's from saveontests.com, I'm too cheap to buy tests in the store, so I just order them online for super cheap. I think they actually come from Canada, but you can pay with dollars. I used them for this time and when TTC for my DD, though I sprung for the pee-on-a-stick test this time, last time I just got the dip-strips like they have at the doctor's office as they are even cheaper.
09-12-2012 06:57 AM
kitteh Congrsts Quinalla! What kind of test did you use, I've never seen one that looks like that. But definitely two lines, how exciting!
09-12-2012 04:54 AM
Quinalla No AF yesterday, so I tested this morning and pos.gif It's faint, but it is definitely there smile.gif (click for a larger picture)



joy.gifbiggrinbounce.gifyikes.gifbouncy.gifbanana.gif - That about covers my feelings!

My DH was excited, but then told me "But don't have twins!" rolleyes.gif: And I'm sure his financial worrying will start again like last time. I definitely sit down and plan out a budget, but I don't just start worrying like crazy like my DH does, so I hear all of you ladies there!
09-11-2012 10:22 PM
kitteh Anyalily, ggreat job sticking with the diet and wtg on the weight loss already!
09-11-2012 09:37 PM
SweetMama34
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Originally Posted by FreedEm11 View Post

Hi ladies,

Sorry I have been gone for so long. A couple months ago my husband I decided to stop trying which is why my fertility friend is pretty much blank. Last month after 16 months of TTC we finally got our BFP! Unfortunately at about 5 weeks we lost the baby. Now I am 18dpo (the following month) and I'm like 99% sure I am pregnant. Mostly because I had spotting at 10dpo and idk why else I would have been spotting except implantation bleeding. Last month when I got my bfp I kept testing negative until 18dpo so the negatives haven't been very discouraging. I just received my wondfo tests in the mail and I am going to test tomorrow morning. The dpo is all kind of blurry to me because I wasn't paying any attention, I honestly didn't think I could ovulate if I didn't have a period and I didn't think to consider the miscarriage a period. I guess really I'm only like 85% sure I'm pregnant, everything is just timing exactly how it did when I got my bfp. If I ovulated like last month we definitely bd around the right time... so we will see. Emotionally I am all over the place. I can't get over that I clearly had implantation bleeding and that we have increased fertility after miscarriage. I am totally anxious right now. My plan is to just finish work, go to the gym, and then go to bed early that way I can get up early.

Oh yeah, and to top everything off my husband is working out of town and won't be home until Thursday night so idk if I should call him if I get bfp or just wait. I'm sure he will be excited but scared, we did not plan on getting pregnant so soon after (like I sai, it seems dumb but we didn't know we could). It feels good to be back on mothering during this emotional time. I'll have to go back and get updates on everything that has happened while I was away. Hopefully there are a lot of bfps. Baby dust to all.

-Emily

You're not alone, for sure! So sorry to hear about your loss...and thank you for being back here, to show those of us in a similar situation that there's hope in our very  near future! Best of luck to you...keep us updated!

09-11-2012 04:00 PM
anyalily
InLove2009 - Welcome back! 
 
SweetMama34 and FreedEm- welcome back to you both, too. I am so sorry for your losses. I hope your stays here are short and sweet! FreeEm, do you want to be in waiting to know?
 
I have moved everyone as requested. Please check and make sure you are where you want to be. I am still a baby threadkeeper, just getting the hang of it.
 
I'm off to the gym. I took a fun Zumba class yesterday and I now am going to go play around with the elliptical and watch some stupid TV. I have been sticking to my diet the last couple of days and already the pounds are sliding off. Watch, this is the month I get the BFP! I have been trying to diet for ages...
 
Ciao bellas!
09-11-2012 03:44 PM
SweetMama34

Thanks, Stevi. :)

09-11-2012 02:34 PM
Stevi

SweetMama34...   The emergency room doctor told me the same thing about "no reason to wait to try again" with an early loss. He said the body does not go through anything to really heal from in the first 3 months. I also read many many times over the years that fertility is raised for the three months following a miscarriage. I hope you are part of that statistic and get your new BFP right away!

09-11-2012 02:00 PM
aHikaru
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Originally Posted by anyalily View Post

Let's test on Sunday, OK?

update!

09-11-2012 01:54 PM
FreedEm11 Anyalily - This time around I am completely with you on the anxiousness. I feel more scared than excited about the idea of being pregnant although the idea of having a baby fills me with tons if joy. I also know what you mean about trying to lose weight. I have gained back every single lb I lost before the first pregnancy. (emotional eating and drinking). I have been going to the gym every day a nd eating smaller portions, but if I'm pregnant this month there is no way I will be as small as I want to be. For me it's all about vanity though, I want to be all belly when I'm pregnant, not all fat. My plan is to just keep exercising and replace fat with baby even if the number on the scale goes up.

ahikaru Being 2 months away from debt free is exciting. My husband I recently had the finances talk too, I think it's funny that you say "we well have 9 months" because I have said the same thing before. Last month we accidentally and pregnant (proving all the "as soon as you stop trying it will happen" Sayers right) and DH was really confident about money even though the month before he said there was no way. I think they can look at things more realistically our at least more positively when having a baby is a reality. and justjenny after my loss I said I would aLONG time to test that way I could save myself the heart ache and anxiety but as soon as I saw that implantation bleeding it was all I could think about (probably because it caught me off guard) and I'm anxious anyway.

congrsts Amanda! I will be praying everything goes smoothly. I'm sorry about your mom. My mom had borderline personality disorder asking with other things. I have moved 10 hours away from her because if it. I think it's important that you take care of your self and family and not worry abut what she wants. I'm sending you lots of strength during this trying time.

SORRY for any spelling/grammar errors, I am on my phone.
09-11-2012 01:54 PM
SweetMama34

Hi all....I'm back. Miscarried my little miracle baby at 5w6d. My midwife gave me the go ahead to start trying again immediately. She told me that many women are most fertile after a miscarriage - the only reason to wait would be a 2nd trimester loss or else for emotional healing.

 

I never saw a heartbeat, but I'm not sure if this makes it easier. I got a very early BFP and have been celebrating this new life for weeks now. It hurts an awful lot to lose this pregnancy, but I'm determined to move forward.

 

I already started temping this morning, so can you please add me back to Waiting to O? (And remove me from graduates, please?) Thank you so much. Best of luck to you all! stillheart.gif

09-11-2012 01:36 PM
InLove2009

Hi Everyone, 

This is LisaAdkins20, I changed my username :) 

After taking the whole summer of TTC, my DH and I are back on TTC #1! Could I be moved to WAITING TO O?

 

It is so very encouraging to read that I am not the only one who goes from the gut wrenching need/want of a baby to total panic after unprotected sex :) In one moment I think that maybe we should wait one more year, and I feel confident in that decision. The next day all I want to do is to have a baby here already. It is so confusing, and I think it confuses DH more than me. Sometimes I feel like I can't tell him about any of this, because I know that he is nervous and that he is worried. And I don't want him to be even more worried when he know how i feel sometimes....

 

Also, regarding the finances, I am completely freaked out. We will have to start paying if student loans starting January, and I am not sure how we can afford a baby. But before now, our main point was to graduate so that we can afford a baby. I am starting to believe that there is never a time in which we will be able to truly afford one, so I guess we are just going to have to deal with it :)
Our cars are paid off, and we don't have any other debt other than student loans and our house payment. SO I guess that is a good point to start at right?

 

I am also worried because all of my family is in Germany, and I never imagined myself having my own family so far away from them. I already miss them so much and I don't know how I am going to do this without them here to support me! 

 

On top of everything, I am just feeling terribly emotional.... redface.gif

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