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09-27-2012 10:23 AM
rtjunker Some of the behavior you've described sounds similar to how my 9 month old DD acts at times. She would go through cycles of feeding so much in the evenings, I'd be stuck on the couch for hours. This usually happens before a growth spurt, or big milestone. She gets frantic and scratches and pinches at my boobs, which seems to indicate she's over tired or over stimulated, quiet dark spaces help sooth her to sleep. She's always been a frequent eater, far more often than every 3 hours. I figure breastfeeding is not going to be super easy all the time, but most of the problems can be dealt with in some way. The biggest problem I see is that you LO is not gaining well, the solution is feeding more often, whether formula or breastmilk. If you really need some rest supplementing with formula occasionally might give you the sanity you need, but doing so regularly will effect supply, and could interfer with your future bfing relationship.
09-26-2012 06:34 PM
Sol_y_Paz
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Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom View Post

I read both the cluster feeding links. YES that is my baby.  If I do not ..my breasts will never get a chance to replenish!

 

This might help with thoughts on needing to fill back up. At least it did with me to help me feel better when my baby is non stop.

http://thefunnyshapedwoman.blogspot.com/2011/01/breasts-feeling-full-good-thing-myth.html

09-26-2012 09:23 AM
seraf

How old is he? Way young for teeth, right?  I have heard that it's common for babes to chomp when overwhelmed by milk.  

 

I have been dealing with dairy problems as well.  I have come to realize that the problem is my own, so any baby I nurse reacts as though they are having a milk allergy.  Just a thought for you, that it may be your own dairy issue causing issues in the babies.

09-26-2012 08:12 AM
Blessed_Mom

I do wish I had a non-problem . The way I see it.. so far I have had problems that seemed huge (to the extent that I thought that that was the end of my BF relationship- truly) and had them resolved either with the help of a LC or by themselves. I think any one of them individually could have been seen as just a teething problem but in my case , by sheer bad luck, they came in hordes --- to compound themselves as a bigger whole.

 

I think what made this worse is that he is a screamer - the most impatient guy ever. Goes from sleeping to screaming in under a minute. My daughter was so low needs that I never even heard her coo until 4 months...and this one throws me all in a tizzy with his crying.

 

My daughter was induced at 35.5 weeks and I was asked to formula supplement heavily. Not knowing any better I did and hence never had these teething problems (the unbearable 3rd day agony of waiting for my milk to come in, having to establish exclusive milk supply..cluster feeding etc.). It is only when she was spitting up heavily and showed dairy allergy that I first joined mothering and started researching..whereas before that I was ignorant and mainstream about quite a few things (formula, vaccines etc.)

 

Anyway - since the past two days we are seeing the round ring of red dots around his anus - I guess that means dairy allergy? My daughter has it... I prayed I would dodge this with him...going to his ped today....

09-24-2012 11:14 AM
MichelleZB
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Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom View Post

Remember I wrote - if it is not one thing it is another? 

 

Last 24 hours bear testimony to this fact! 

 

At the risk of making this about 'me me me' I am still going to write down every problem of mine here. If nothing it will serve as a log...at best I can get some ideas (and I have gotten ideas and encouragement aplenty here...thank you!)

 

So remember the cluster-feeding that went on for 3 days? Well ...he kicked up my breasts into a temporary oversupply and forceful letdown. During those cluster-feed days during the nights (after the restful sleep) my breasts were kind of having forceful letdowns..he seemed to choke a couple of times...draw back once or twice...but seemed ok. I was hoping it would settle down..but

 

...my guy has his own ideas. Since the last 24 hours (since yesterday afternoon ) he has started clamping down on my breast during breastfeeding and acting 'afraid of a letdown'. Basically he is employing weak sucks and sleeping after a couple of letdowns - and leaving my breasts half-full - again!!!! His poops (which were aplenty have gone down a bit. Earlier he was having one every BF session..now every other).

 

I mean- without question- he is half-feeding and very gingerly at that. Spilling the first few sips into a wash-cloth - no help. I would have to pretty much dribble my whole first letdown into a washcloth to let it abate and remember - he is an impatient guy and anyway.. I don't think I have an oversupply - just an overactive letdown.

 

Dunno what to do.............waiting to ride this out too .

 

Wonder when all these teething problem will resolve and we can have a consistent BF relationship :(

 

Look, my newborn son did most of this. There were days where he cluster fed to get my supply up when he was growth spurting. Then there were some days of engorgement and overactive let down after that. He did a little spluttering and choking during those days. Then he'd bite down on the nipple a bit for a few days to keep the spurt down. Then my supply would match his demand for awhile and all would be calm. Then we'd start up the cycle again as he's ramp my supply up again!

 

Nursing can be an ever-changing phenomenon. No two nursing sessions have to be the same!

 

Once my son got older, he was better able to deal with my let down. In fact, he now prefers the fast let down. He still won't take a bottle, and never did, because no bottle can give him milk as "fast" as mama can. 

 

I'm not there and I can't see the extent of your problems. But is it possible you have a non-problem problem? Perhaps your son is nursing normally--for him--and it's just other people (doctors, LCs) who have a problem with it? Babies do poop less frequently as they get older, so that may not be any indication of bad feeding, either.

09-23-2012 03:28 PM
seraf On the bright side, your body is doing exactly what it should. He nursed because he needed more, your body made more. Over active letdown is no fun, but if he takes less, your body will get the message soon. Cabbage leaves when you're super full and uncomfortable will help in the meantime.
09-23-2012 11:44 AM
Blessed_Mom

Remember I wrote - if it is not one thing it is another? 

 

Last 24 hours bear testimony to this fact! 

 

At the risk of making this about 'me me me' I am still going to write down every problem of mine here. If nothing it will serve as a log...at best I can get some ideas (and I have gotten ideas and encouragement aplenty here...thank you!)

 

So remember the cluster-feeding that went on for 3 days? Well ...he kicked up my breasts into a temporary oversupply and forceful letdown. During those cluster-feed days during the nights (after the restful sleep) my breasts were kind of having forceful letdowns..he seemed to choke a couple of times...draw back once or twice...but seemed ok. I was hoping it would settle down..but

 

...my guy has his own ideas. Since the last 24 hours (since yesterday afternoon ) he has started clamping down on my breast during breastfeeding and acting 'afraid of a letdown'. Basically he is employing weak sucks and sleeping after a couple of letdowns - and leaving my breasts half-full - again!!!! His poops (which were aplenty have gone down a bit. Earlier he was having one every BF session..now every other).

 

I mean- without question- he is half-feeding and very gingerly at that. Spilling the first few sips into a wash-cloth - no help. I would have to pretty much dribble my whole first letdown into a washcloth to let it abate and remember - he is an impatient guy and anyway.. I don't think I have an oversupply - just an overactive letdown.

 

Dunno what to do.............waiting to ride this out too .

 

Wonder when all these teething problem will resolve and we can have a consistent BF relationship :(

09-22-2012 03:43 PM
seraf Second babies may just be hard.

I had the same troubles in the evening except I struggled with oversupply. That's why I think it's just a hard time to be a baby.

In the evening put a big pitcher of water by your nursing spot and drink a tall glass every time he nurses. When you can't take it anymore, ask your partner to take him for a walk around the neighborhood in the sling. Most likely he will go right to sleep. If he's still hungry when he gets home, nurse him again. If he's sleeping when he gets home, smile.

In the grand scheme of things, one ounce a day is hardly anything. You're doing great.
09-22-2012 01:06 PM
Blessed_Mom

I read both the cluster feeding links. YES that is my baby. Except how do I make him go to sleep for 2 hours EVEN when he is acting hungry and dissatisfied and crying? If I do not ..my breasts will never get a chance to replenish!

 

...AND another thing to add to the list of things I have done wrong already (in my son's 3 week life). Supplement at the peak of the cluster feeds. 

 

At the same time.. how do I cope tonight? Kellymom says that yes milk flow is slower in the evenings for some women. That is me. Son is not satisfied..That is me too :-(

09-22-2012 12:53 PM
Blessed_Mom

Thank you tree_hugz...but how do I get out of the cluster feeding cycle enough to let me rest for the 2 hours to start my next day? Am so confused about that. And my son is sooo impatient and starts to root at first and then actually cry....don't know what to do... he clearly acts like he is hungry and not getting enough (by the end of the cluster feeding session..around 9 PM )

 

Some things are just driving me nuts this time around. So different from my daughter...is like am a breast feeding newbie.

 

I have another Q for all of you: 

 

The way my feedings go is - he starts at my breast. In 30 secs to 1 min a letdown starts (first and fast flowing). He takes 20-30 swallows. Rests/pauses for 1-3 mins. Second burst..again about 20 swallows. Pauses for 3-5 mins. (when he is sleepy..he usually sleeps around this point.. or if I can keep him awake..then)....after 3-5 mins..3rd burst...and then after 5 mins...4th burst..

and some times (not always)..after 5-10 mins.. 5th burst. Total session = 25-20 mins. Active suckling ...maybe 8-10 mins.

 

My sister who has a 2 month old says that that isnot how her bfing sessions go. Her son latches on......she has one letdown.........and he feeds CONTINUALLY for 7-10 mins. Big pause. About 2-5 mins... and second letdown and another continuous feed for 5-10 mins. STOP

 

So active suckling = 15-20 mins. Total session = 20-25 mins. She only has a 5 min break.

 

I feel that my guy is spending more time with the pauses and that is probably because my breasts take longer breaks in between. He clearly does try (although sometimes it seems like he is nibbling...sometimes...working) ...so I think that something is wrong with me and it is making my guy spend/expend more energy suckling THAN the milk he is getting. maybe that explains all the poor weight gain despite seemingly getting enough milk.

 

Only one or two times a day (in the night)...he seems to drink rather continuously....maybe because my breasts have just replenished themselves and thus provide him faster/easier letdowns and he cannot help but drink the milk spurting in his mouth (rather than have to work)

 

Is someting broken with me? How can I fix it? Powerful galactagogues like Domperidone? I am already taking fenugreek, goat's rue, shatavari ,blessed thistle and oatmeal. OR - oxytocin sprays??? I heard they make for faster letdowns!

09-22-2012 12:41 PM
Blessed_Mom
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Originally Posted by seraf View Post

That really sounds normal to me. We had a similar pattern but skipped the formula. Our babies nursed a lot more in the evenings for short periods, got frustrated at the climax of the evening and then fell asleep for real. I just kept switching sides. Drink more water when you can think of it and maybe even have a snack. It's just a fussy time of the evening, if your guy is anything like mine.

...the only difference being - he isn't sleeping but keeping on with the short bursts of feeding - drinks for 1 letdown..sleeps...gets up in 45 mins..drinks for 1-2 letdowns...sleeps... until around 8-9 he cannot sleep and is very fussy and impatient and acts hungry and my breasts 'clearly' aren't responding/letting_down fast enough.

 

Now - I don't know how to satiate him and make him sleep for 2 hours (which I desperately need too..to start my next day..which starts AFTER the 2 hour sleep... around midnight). When I give him the formula (my only time of the day)...he sleeps...lets me rest..I replenish and sleep (important) and wake up around midnight with replenished breasts again.

 

How do I get him to sleep without the formula? Especially if he is clearly not full and clearly hungry?

09-22-2012 12:14 PM
treehugz
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Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom View Post

Not caucasian at all.

Lol, it was just a thought since he sounds similarly sleepy like my son who was definitely "wimpy" when it came to staying awake and feeding for the first couple weeks... I'm not sure of the comparison for other races, except that African American girls are supposed to do the best when born early, to the point that some people theorize that their gestational age is actually less than 40 weeks anyway.  But I digress... I just find baby development fascinating. :)

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Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom View Post

We don't go more than 3 hours front-to-front without letting him nurse and no..sleep is not a priority right now. Do not co-sleep because we cosleep with our daughter and am afraid to cosleep with baby right now.... we wnat to get our daughter a bed and transition her over the next 3 months and cosleep with baby then. 

 

I have a weird problem going on. my guy seems the sleepiest in the afternoon hours... in the night he feeds pretty well.... and goes on until next day afternoon..then it starts tapering off (how much he eats) because he sleeps after 1-3 bursts/letdowns. This goes on and he wakes up sometimes every hour.. gets on ...feeds for 1-2 letdowns and sleeps.. no emptying breasts... and so on.. until 8 PM when he has been ON me almost constantly and my breasts start feeling soft and between 8-9 he starts pulling at them and they feel empty , he acts frustrated and obviously he isn't getting much because he has caused them to go pretty much dry from being constantly on...and around 9 I have broken down and given him formula (1 - 1.5 ounce). He then sleeps for 2 hours and I sleep and then I have a good regular supply.. he latches on and goes to 5 bursts/letdowns and we do well over the night (since my breasts are getting drained)

 

I don't know how to get out of this vicious cycle. I cannot avoid giving him that one feed of formula because he is going berserk and not letting my breasts replenish for the night - otherwise....

 

I wish i could explain that better.... but can anyone help me?

That's great that he's feeding well overnight... definitely make the most of it if you can stay awake or find a way to cosleep.  Sounds like he's demanding more and trying to cluster feed to tank up in the evening before bedtime.  I remember reading that milk is being produced all the time, so the breast is never really empty... Here's a quote from kellymom: 

"Trying to completely empty a breast is like trying to empty a river — it’s impossible, since more milk will keep flowing in while milk is being removed. Research also tells us that the emptier the breast, the faster the breast makes milk. So when baby removes a large percentage of milk from the breast, milk production will speed up in response."

http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/milkproduction-faq/

 

And the more he sucks, the more milk you will make, so supplementing with formula is going to be counterproductive in the long run.  If he needs more milk in the evening, you definitely don't want to give your breasts the message to make LESS milk in the evening by supplementing,  A quote about cluster feeding:

"Cluster feedings do not mean that you have a low milk supply! Supplementing baby with formula will cause your body to produce less milk. Continuing with the cluster feeding will make sure your body is making just the right amount of milk for baby."

http://www.breastfeeding-problems.com/cluster-feedings.html

 

Here's some good info from kellymom about cluster feeding in the evening and why you should not supplement during that time: 

http://kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussy-evening/

09-22-2012 12:03 PM
seraf That really sounds normal to me. We had a similar pattern but skipped the formula. Our babies nursed a lot more in the evenings for short periods, got frustrated at the climax of the evening and then fell asleep for real. I just kept switching sides. Drink more water when you can think of it and maybe even have a snack. It's just a fussy time of the evening, if your guy is anything like mine.
09-21-2012 10:44 PM
Blessed_Mom

We don't go more than 3 hours front-to-front without letting him nurse and no..sleep is not a priority right now. Do not co-sleep because we cosleep with our daughter and am afraid to cosleep with baby right now.... we wnat to get our daughter a bed and transition her over the next 3 months and cosleep with baby then. 

 

I have a weird problem going on. my guy seems the sleepiest in the afternoon hours... in the night he feeds pretty well.... and goes on until next day afternoon..then it starts tapering off (how much he eats) because he sleeps after 1-3 bursts/letdowns. This goes on and he wakes up sometimes every hour.. gets on ...feeds for 1-2 letdowns and sleeps.. no emptying breasts... and so on.. until 8 PM when he has been ON me almost constantly and my breasts start feeling soft and between 8-9 he starts pulling at them and they feel empty , he acts frustrated and obviously he isn't getting much because he has caused them to go pretty much dry from being constantly on...and around 9 I have broken down and given him formula (1 - 1.5 ounce). He then sleeps for 2 hours and I sleep and then I have a good regular supply.. he latches on and goes to 5 bursts/letdowns and we do well over the night (since my breasts are getting drained)

 

I don't know how to get out of this vicious cycle. I cannot avoid giving him that one feed of formula because he is going berserk and not letting my breasts replenish for the night - otherwise....

 

I wish i could explain that better.... but can anyone help me?

09-18-2012 10:05 PM
Viola

Even if you're getting fewer noticeable letdowns, it could just be a result of supply regulating, and he can be getting just as many or more calories in a couple letdowns.  I could generally feel letdown, but then sometimes they take a break from active sucking, so I just tried to pay attention to periods of active swallowing and periods of inactivity.  But I would even stop noticing that, and my daughter would appear to be done and didn't seem to need to nurse again for a long time, which was worrisome to me, but her gains and milestones were always fine, and I started recording every time she came to the breast, and I realized it was a lot more than I previously thought.  I felt like my first baby nursed all the time.

09-18-2012 09:37 PM
tropicana
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Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom View Post

Err... what I think of 6 letdowns..may not be letdowns but 'bursts' of active sucking and longish pauses in between redface.gif

 

Not caucasian at all.

 

Weight - won't know for a while... today...was a bit better in the morning. Sucked and swallowed well.... since evening he has turned a bit 'sluggish' (can I write that?) again. But so far better than yesterday...hopefully he will have some good feedings in the night too .....

night time is your BEST time for the BEST milk. do you cosleep?

regardless, be willing to nurse him on cue overnight, even if it limits your sleep...

09-18-2012 08:58 PM
Blessed_Mom

Err... what I think of 6 letdowns..may not be letdowns but 'bursts' of active sucking and longish pauses in between redface.gif

 

Not caucasian at all.

 

Weight - won't know for a while... today...was a bit better in the morning. Sucked and swallowed well.... since evening he has turned a bit 'sluggish' (can I write that?) again. But so far better than yesterday...hopefully he will have some good feedings in the night too .....

09-18-2012 01:37 PM
treehugz

Wow, 6 let-downs at a feeding!  That's great... usually I expect 2-3 over 20 minutes, more if he's alert and actively sucking, more during times when I think he's having a growth spurt, less if I'm agitated/distracted/hungry/need to pee/etc. I've never heard that you shouldn't let them suck too long... can't imagine why unless there's some medical problem.  

 

Also, just re-read your original post that said you were induced at 38 weeks... are you by chance caucasian?  If so, your ds may have a touch of the "wimpy white boy syndrome"... not to sound racist, but that's what they call it.  Studies show that caucasian males need more time to develop and do more poorly when born early.  Usually I think it refers to them having more trouble breathing, but our doctors referred to it because of the sleepiness and not feeding well for my son born at 36 weeks (we're caucasian).  He grew out of the sleepiness slowly and started feeding really well after 2-3 weeks of determinedly trying to keep him awake for feeding.  Just thinking that might account for some of the challenges... just a thought!

 

Looking forward to hear how he's doing and his weight!

09-18-2012 05:51 AM
seraf It might be true for some set of babies? Like premies? No idea.

I remember feeling very engorged a lot in the beginning. I don't know that that means he is taking less or you are making more (like around 4 months when you won't ever feel full probably but the baby still eats). If he is peeing enough and gaining weight, you can probably stop worrying. My babies don't take anywhere near 6 letdowns a feed. I think 2-3 is all they get at a time.

I have also been thinking about your baby pulling off the breast a lot. We practice EC and when our babies do that, it usually means they need to use the bathroom. I'm not suggesting you start pottying him, but I remember how much more I would have struggled with nursing in the beginning if I had taken their "need to pee" pop offs as "I'm done/I refuse"

It sounds like you have him exclusively at the breast now? Have you checked his weight? Is he peeing enough? Like I said, if those things are good, you can probably relax quite a bit. It is easy to worry when there's not really anything wrong. Hopefully you have moved past the difficulties and you will har smooth sailing from here.
09-17-2012 11:22 PM
Blessed_Mom

At the same time...since my breasts are not getting drained completely...they are acting engorged and I am sure I am hurting my supply massively.

 

Seems like this ordeal will never end! I just never imagined something as natural can be this difficult. 

 

Another thing - kind of unrelated...two of the LCs told me to not let the baby suckle for too long because apparently they then 'expend more energy sucking than the calories they take in'.

 

Phathui5 was kind enough to dispel this myth for me....but has anyone else heard of this? Why would the LCs hold such a myth as true?

09-17-2012 10:26 PM
Blessed_Mom

Thank you Tropicana!

 

I feel we have made some progress since I started this thread. I also know that he is currently intaking half of what I know he can take (based on one great day we had 3 days back when he fed on upto 6 'letdowns' each feed and didn't sleep at the breast and seemed alert and active)

 

I just hope he gets back to that great day.......

09-17-2012 08:04 PM
tropicana

Blessed_Mom: i think you are doing well! not biting you is HUGE! if he's sleepy, so what? do people think that's a problem? i thought newborns are supposed to be sleepy? it seems to be yet another thing that doctors, LCs etc. "worry" you over. i can recall being worried about the baby (actually both of mine, several years apart) being sleepy.

 

YET now that i'm away from the situation of nursing a newborn and have observed and talked with so many moms over the past several years... the sleepier babies grow faster. that's when they grow. could it be that he is growing when he sleeps? i would think that if he has many many opportunities in a day to suckle and nurse (go for 12-20 times on), if he is popping off on his own in favor of drifting off to sleep... then he's doing fine. 

 

what can you do? never deny him. always offer, never refuse. 

 

yes stay comfortable on the couch. make sure your shirts are basically "always open" to him. literally. let him get well and truly used to those breasts being for HIM and ALL THE TIME.

 

you are doing well! now just keep going!

09-17-2012 07:42 PM
Blessed_Mom

Not biting me anymore. My sole problem now is that he will rather sleep than nurse...he will half-feed and go back to sleep and nothing seems to wake him up (although I must clarify that when I take him out or change his diaper etc. he is wide awake and crying. Which is different from the 3-day 'almost lethargic' period he had drifted off into on his 11-12-13th day of his life (I think))

 

Letdowns- what I think of as a letdown is - as soon as he latches he gets a burst of milk (letdown) which forces him to suck+swallow up to 20 times (approx 20-30). Then he gets a second letdown - another 20-30 suck+swallows (very distinct and no doubt he is swallowing and getting milk). After that the pause between 2nd and 3rd gets longer (30 secs to 3-4 mins) and he gets another.

 

Earlier he used to drink up to 5 letdowns. Now he drinks 2..maybe 3 and falls asleep.

 

The nursing vacation - if I am doing a variation where all I am doing is sitting on the sofa (more comfy with back and props and position) and letting him sleep beside me with half his body touching my stomach in the football hold and let him sleep +nurse+sleep+nurse)..is that good too? The lying naked in bed is kind of logistically difficult- if not impossible :-(

 

 

ETA: Mom and hubby are taking care of daughter. She is not really taking my time... except I am cuddling with her to sleep for 2 hours in the night. Night time my guy sleeps 2 stretches of 3 -3.5 hours each in his bassinet and I sleep on the bed with my already asleep daughter.

09-17-2012 07:34 PM
Sol_y_Paz

Spend some time here  It is a great resource for helping get him back on the breast.

http://www.llli.org/faq/back.html

 

For some views on comfort sucking:

 

http://forums.llli.org/showthread.php?112069-Think-your-baby-is-nursing-too-much-Read-this!

 

http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/comfortnursing/

 
 
09-17-2012 07:21 PM
tropicana

the point of being in bed together is that you take the time to do nothing.but.nurse. then he has NO CHOICE but to take the milk and learn to nurse. it might take a few days.

 

is he still biting you? if not, that's huge. i went through similar fiasco with my first -- bottle in the hospital, the paci, then painful latch that lasted for 10 weeks. we (she and i) kept at it and she went on to nurse long and proud!

 

it's fine if you need props in the bed with your baby. here's what i use: pillow at my back, pillow at baby's back, pillow in between my knees, plus couple pillows under my head. you get him next to you in whatever position puts his face right at your nipple. you switch off with the other breast, this position done by leaning slightly over the baby, again placing your nipple right in his mouth. 

 

when you get tired or he finishes on, that side (both breasts), turn yourself over to face the other way, and lift the baby over you and re-position him on the other side, pillows at your and his backs, nipple going straight in his mouth. if he sleeps, fine. if you feel sleepy, fine. just find a way to sleep next to him where you won't roll on top of him and his face won't get under a pillow or under sheets or blankets. 

 

when he wakes up, repeat the cycle. 

 

sounds like you also have a daughter? can you get someone or a number of people to take turns keeping her occupied while you make this important investment of time in teaching your baby to nurse exclusively?

 

i agree with michelle z that the LCs can be confusing and frustrating. i tried to follow so so much advice. i actually finally got it while watching "Friends" the TV show, reruns, that showed Carol just using a simple sofa pillow under the baby's head and putting him on her breast. 

 

it CAN be that simple.

 

the naked baby in a bed method is very very simple too. it is an investment in time, but you concentrate all the time in one weekend (or whenever in the week) and then it's done. no more LC visits, no more tricks or gimmicks (oxitocin spray?) to get the baby to latch. 

 

i highly recommend baby in bed method.

09-17-2012 07:15 PM
treehugz
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Originally Posted by MichelleZB View Post

Don't worry if he's falling asleep at the breast at this point, or if he's using you as a pacifier. Comfort and love are what he SHOULD be feeling at the breast, and it's going to encourage him to keep at it. ... Just get into bed with your baby, strip both of you naked so you're skin to skin (a diaper on him is okay) and hang out in bed all day, watching movies and nursing on and off. Let him nurse until he sleeps, while he sleeps, when he wakes, whatever. Just let him do his thing and see if it isn't a bit better in a few days.

DITTO!  One bonus of leaving him attached when he goes to sleep is that you'll likely get that second (and third, etc) hindmilk letdown sometime while he's asleep... my ds will fall asleep, not suck for a while, then surprise! he does a little sleep/comfort suck that catches me off guard and my milk lets down... then I just encourage him with a little cheek rub to keep sucking.  I couldn't just let my ds nurse and then fall asleep when he wanted for the first two weeks though... he was just too sleepy, so I had to make him stay away/wake up for the hindmilk. 

 

How often are you nursing now and for how long?  I've not heard of the oxytocin spray... I had difficulty getting let-down with my dd1.  Relaxing was definitely key for me... and working up all those good mommy feelings by gazing at her, stroking her head, cuddling and loving her.

09-17-2012 06:53 PM
Blessed_Mom

I tried nursing in bed but it is next to impossible ...i have very very large breasts and need props. plus the bed is making me sleepy....

...and he has thrown up a couple of times...........i think due to the wavy motion of the bed :-(

 

I gave up.

09-17-2012 10:06 AM
seraf How many let downs are you expecting?

All my babies have nursed to sleep, I never heard there was anything wrong with that from the perspective of milk supply. I think of using a pacifier as a replacement breast rather than using a breast as a pacifier. My kids don't like binkies and only used them for a short time in the car, though.
09-17-2012 07:03 AM
MichelleZB

Who knew it comes in a spray? Listen, are you in that bed with a naked baby yet?

09-16-2012 10:31 PM
Blessed_Mom

Trying to relax...am trying to follow what you guys are saying..although some information (like - letting my breast be used as a pacifier- or not..is conflicting from LC to LC to here )

 

 

 

What about an oxytocin spray for faster letdowns (so my guy doesnt get impatient or sleep?)

How does one use it? Obtain it? Is it effective? Is it addictive (if I stop..will I get slower than normal?)...side-effects?

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