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10-11-2012 12:58 PM
meemee
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Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama View Post

I suppose I'm more anti-HW than I am pro. But I am pro-(quality)homework. love.gif

yup that's my call too - but i didnt want to state my views first. i wanted an exploration of this subject without letting my views affect others views. 

 

That there are a lot of family schedules that require kids to do their homework in after care or on their own. For me, this would totally defeat the purpose of HW for my child's needs as they are right now. She requires an added layer if understanding far more than she needs practice of what she has already learned.

i think the added layer is where schools have problems meeting and hope the kids will get that at home. but how do you gauge that? i have discovered that with dd when i was going over her hw with her. dd has needed help in K - where she could not understand phonics they way they were teaching her in class (i got an online program and boom she got the gist of it before even half the program was over and she never completed it) and now in 5th in science where the textbook sometimes isnt very clear. I think with the majority of the kids (esp. in math and english) they need practise - to see all the odd cases.

For me to figure out if dd is understanding i have to go over the lesson with her from her textbook, or when she cant do a particular problem.  i have never had her come home and say hey mom we were talking about this but i didnt understand this part. 

 

We have the opposite - HW in my DC's school is for kids to do at home with their parents (or alone if they can, I suppose). The teacher hosts a homework club but that is for kids to check work with peers. HW isn't even collected. 

in the other school dd went, they had a lot of low income kids. they had a hw club and their 4th hour had extra hw help just coz they knew they wouldnt get hw help at home. 

 

in our present school, while the teacher does not expect the parents to sit with them and go over hw with their kids, they expect them to be aware that their kids have homework and that the children will do them. however if they DO expect the parents to look at something, that specific sheet has to be signed by the parent. 

10-11-2012 11:04 AM
IdentityCrisisMama
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Originally Posted by CatsCradle View Post

I understand what you're saying.  smile.gif  I just feel like I have to qualify things here sometimes because in some instances very stark lines are drawn between the pro people and con people.  I'm with you - I'm pro (quality) homework! 

Yea!  

10-11-2012 10:41 AM
CatsCradle
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Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama View Post

I just wanted to put in my two cents here and say that I didn't read the OP like that. I just kind of figured that if were were on a thoughtful place like MDC that we were talking about quality, age appropriate homework that factor in the individual needs of each child/family. Factoring in ALL the types of HW that have been discussed on this thread, I suppose I'm more anti-HW than I am pro. But I am pro-(quality)homework. love.gif

 

I understand what you're saying.  smile.gif  I just feel like I have to qualify things here sometimes because in some instances very stark lines are drawn between the pro people and con people.  I'm with you - I'm pro (quality) homework! 

10-11-2012 10:24 AM
IdentityCrisisMama
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Originally Posted by CatsCradle View Post

I posted earlier but want to reiterate that I'm not "pro" homework because it the statement implies that I'm "pro" at all costs without any thought put into.  

I just wanted to put in my two cents here and say that I didn't read the OP like that. I just kind of figured that if were were on a thoughtful place like MDC that we were talking about quality, age appropriate homework that factor in the individual needs of each child/family. Factoring in ALL the types of HW that have been discussed on this thread, I suppose I'm more anti-HW than I am pro. But I am pro-(quality)homework. love.gif

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Originally Posted by moominmamma View Post

 

But aren't kids likely to be getting parental coaxing and oversight? It seems like most of them on this thread are. 

 

Miranda

Sounds like not. That there are a lot of family schedules that require kids to do their homework in after care or on their own. For me, this would totally defeat the purpose of HW for my child's needs as they are right now. She requires an added layer if understanding far more than she needs practice of what she has already learned. 

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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post


Well this is very different from what my daughter's teachers have told me. She has always been expected to do her homework without help, at every age. "If she can't handle it on her own, let us know, but don't help her."

We have the opposite - HW in my DC's school is for kids to do at home with their parents (or alone if they can, I suppose). The teacher hosts a homework club but that is for kids to check work with peers. HW isn't even collected. 

10-11-2012 08:50 AM
meemee

hw in K and first- this is what i discovered from the teachers who were VERY passionate about hw. 

 

hw was to practise what they learnt in class. a review to go over and remember. dd's class had all sorts of learners. some ahead, some behind, some ok. 

 

if your child got it, there was no reason for them to do the practise. however for that you had to go talk to the teacher. and that took out the busy work. i am talking here about the writing. reading due to district policy they could not cut down. but they gave only so much hw. those kids struggling got help during the school time - not extra hw. if the parents desired they got help outside. they hired tutors. or like me i signed up for lessons online because the method of teaching wasnt working for dd. 

 

both the teachers had a goal of what the kids should know. i know that the K teacher was seriously contemplating keeping some kids behind, but in the last minute she didnt. those parents/gparents who kept in close touch with the teacher kind of got a strategy going of how to help their kids. both the teachers had been teaching for many years. they always wanted a close relationship with the parents. from the parents they found out which students to push and which not to. for instance one of the sweetest boys was very behind. his parents said do the best you can, dont give him extra work coz slow learning runs in the family, his dad was slow and so were his other siblings.   

 

mostly the teacher worried the effects on self esteem by 2nd grade if they were not on grade level. they give some leeway to the idea that some kids learn late. what they dont get in k or first they get in 2nd. those the teachers found were not the norm. which is why they pushed for more practise, practise and more practice.

 

hw taught dd a v. good life lesson. she learnt about the bitter pill that one just has to swallow. once she figured that there was no more protests. she breezed through her hw. granted did she have to learn that lesson in first grade? i'd say yes for having an intense personality. it had a huge impact on how she saw life. took away a lot of her anxiety. 

 

there are only a few times i have had to help dd with hw. hw for her is mostly independent work. i would correct her work, and discovered that this is my silly mistakes child. she knows her stuff, but rarely gets a 100% coz she makes mistakes all the time. 

 

i helped her somewhat with her projects. mostly for time management. if i dont check and keep her on task she will say the night before she has her project due and then we have to rush out get supplies. 4th grade they had some big projects most of which they worked at school with the teacher working with them and sending home specific pieces of the project. 4th grade is when i needed to be more involved with dd's hw.

 

before that i never was. however i will say i appreciated the spellings so much. dd today is a good speller because fo the review she had to do at home. during sentence time she'd ask me or go to the dictionary. 

 

being an admirer of alfie kohn and being against hw, i did see the value of hw - as long as it was appropriate for the child. and we were lucky - that all it took was me going and talkign to the teacher and either reducing or changing her hw. 

10-11-2012 04:50 AM
mtiger

I really never had a problem with homework. Much of it was done in aftercare (and both of mine knew that I expected them to get a fair chunk of it done in that time). What wasn't, was finished while I made dinner or in the car on the way to/from activities. One of the most valuable skills homework teaches is, IMO, time management. When they're little, they need more help, of course. As they get older, they can and should be learning how to work more independently. Homework helps with that.
 

ETA: And yes, I worked outside of the home, and had no other adult to pick up some of the "burden".

10-11-2012 04:40 AM
mamazee
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Originally Posted by MDoc View Post

I am a teacher - and I think homework is very important. I also think family time and play time are important. When children are little parents should be doing homework with their children to help them. It is foolish to put something as important as your child's education into the hands of one person (the teacher - who is teaching 20+ children). Each child deserves individual attention from their parents and the example of their parents showing them how important and valuable education is.
That being said, homework should not takes hours every night. Young children need time with family and friends and high school students need time for sports, babysitting, jobs, friends, and family. Learning is important but so is life - children can learn alot by spending quality time with their families.
Holidays and weekends should always be free from homework.
As a teacher, I can really tell which children have parents that help them at home. For many children it is their parents who teach them how to read- not school (and that is a beautiful thing ).
As a parent, I know that it is my responsibility to teach my child - not just school's. If you do not work with your child at home you can not expect them to do well in school. Homework helps parents help their children. Homework helps children develop their skills.

Well this is very different from what my daughter's teachers have told me. She has always been expected to do her homework without help, at every age. "If she can't handle it on her own, let us know, but don't help her."
10-10-2012 09:22 PM
One_Girl I am not really pro or anti homework. If the work is skill practice or work dd should have done at school but didn't then I am fine with it. It takes very little time for dd to complete independently and I would rather the teacher makes her take work home than that she gets recess taken or a low grade and falls back into the habit if just not doing her work.

I absolutely detest with all my being the ridiculous spelling packets with laborious busywork and the tic tax toe option drives me batty because it makes it hard to do the quickest activities. My dd's teacher puts options on like drawing a picture for each spelling word, writing the dictionary definition of each, writing each in a sentence, typimg the words 3 times each using a different font or color for each word etc.. and that is a nightmare when there are twenty spelling words. I also am not fond of work that obviously isn't skill practice. I send my dd to school because I don't want to be mother and teacher to her, it is too hard to do well, so the last thing I want to do after a long day at work is spend a long perriod of time trying to make her learn then complete an assignment.
10-10-2012 08:27 PM
moominmamma
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Originally Posted by CatsCradle View Post

it is another thing to actually be able to do such without a teacher's coaxing or oversight.  

 

But aren't kids likely to be getting parental coaxing and oversight? It seems like most of them on this thread are. 

 

Miranda

10-10-2012 08:21 PM
CatsCradle
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Originally Posted by moominmamma View Post

 

Just curious why what kids can do would be different outside of school vs. in it? And if it were different how commonly would the out-of-school performance be more a more reliable gauge of ability than that within?

 

Miranda

 

I guess that the other poster's statement had more to do with practical life experiences, i.e. are the students able to take what they learned in class and apply it outside the class? I think it is one thing to perform for a teacher, it is another thing to actually be able to do such without a teacher's coaxing or oversight.  I can work at my desk all day studying how to do something (I'm a lawyer so I have two lives:  preparation and real court experience).  I can learn all the stuff and read as much of how to do something, but until I can really do it, without mentors and others overlooking my work, then it is just study, not practicality.  

 

I posted earlier but want to reiterate that I'm not "pro" homework because it the statement implies that I'm "pro" at all costs without any thought put into.  I'm pro-learning, if anything.  If homework helps to reinforce what is learned or taught in the classroom setting, then I think it is effective.  If not, then it is not effective.

10-10-2012 06:49 PM
moominmamma
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Originally Posted by mar123 View Post

It should assess what the kids can do outside of class. 

 

Just curious why what kids can do would be different outside of school vs. in it? And if it were different how commonly would the out-of-school performance be more a more reliable gauge of ability than that within?

 

Miranda

10-10-2012 06:33 PM
MDoc I am a teacher - and I think homework is very important. I also think family time and play time are important. When children are little parents should be doing homework with their children to help them. It is foolish to put something as important as your child's education into the hands of one person (the teacher - who is teaching 20+ children). Each child deserves individual attention from their parents and the example of their parents showing them how important and valuable education is.
That being said, homework should not takes hours every night. Young children need time with family and friends and high school students need time for sports, babysitting, jobs, friends, and family. Learning is important but so is life - children can learn alot by spending quality time with their families.

Holidays and weekends should always be free from homework.

As a teacher, I can really tell which children have parents that help them at home. For many children it is their parents who teach them how to read- not school (and that is a beautiful thing ).

As a parent, I know that it is my responsibility to teach my child - not just school's. If you do not work with your child at home you can not expect them to do well in school. Homework helps parents help their children. Homework helps children develop their skills.
10-10-2012 04:55 PM
peaceful_mama

We are struggling this year in 2nd grade.  See thread to come, because I am looking for feasible solutions.  In first grade, the homework was math story problems and spelling words.  This year, I like that I see more of what he can/can't do, different things.  I don't like the sheer amount of it.  His teacher expects 20 mins, of reading 5 nights a week very specifically. And their homework folder is during the week, it is due Friday, so they do not have the weekend to work on things.  It contains usually 4 short worksheets on various vocab things.  Plus they have a list of spelling words, but nothing documented or required with those other than that there will be a test in school.  Plus work comes home that he does not complete in class.  It seems like a lot for the 2nd grade, especially when the recommendation is 10 mins. per grade level per day.

10-10-2012 01:06 PM
mar123

I work outside the home- as a teacher- and I see a purpose in homework.

 

I teach in a great public school, but since I don't live in this district, my kids go to Catholic schools; the schools in my home district are beyond awful. My own children spent grammar school having homework in every subject every night- even if it was simply reading over something. I am lucky that none of my kids have major learning issues, so this was not a burden. My oldest has AS, but since he loves rules and structure this was fine for him. It was the same in 1st-7th grade- the same expectations, the same heading, everything- so he felt very comfortable. My oldest two are now in high school and my youngest is in 7th grade. I don't have to fight with any of them to get homework done; they just do it. We talk a lot about what they are doing in class, etc. Now, my oldest two are NOT straight A kids, nor do I expect them to be. Both have their strengths and weaknesses. I accept Bs and the occasional C, as long as they are not receiving bad grades on homework. Many a night they are doing homework while I am grading papers, so it is family time. They are not shut up in their rooms alone doing it. My youngest has learned so much from having older siblings. All three of the kids play sports, the youngest is in a drama group, etc. We have plenty of time for homework as well as other activities.

 

The school I teach in is on the 4x4 schedule. Our students have two core classes and two electives (unless they are in honors) each semester. At most, they will have homework in two classes. And I have trouble getting them to do it. I am talking reading one chapter in a book and doing an activity- not always the question thing; I try and include creative activities or give a TicTacToe where they can choose the activity when appropriate. We have a tutoring lab open for free 3days a week after school 2:30-5:30 with busses to take the kids home (I run the English lab on Tuesdays and part of the day on Wednesday). They can go to TLC and then practice if needed. Yet very few of my students complete homework on a regular basis because the middle school model here is no homework and all self esteem building. They are not used to doing any school work outside of school. It is impossible for me to teach what I need in the time allowed without them doing some work at home. Our classic novel has 31 chapters. We cannot read the whole thing at school, yet some students refuse to do any work at home. It is very frustrating to me. Homework should not be 50 math problems or 10 worksheets on grammar etc, but some homework is a good thing. It should be purposeful. It should assess what the kids can do outside of class. But, IMO, it is needed.

10-10-2012 11:26 AM
aim4balance I am definitely not pro homework, but I went from being no-homework to not minding what we get. In my reading about no-homework though I found that there are NO classes being taught at the bachelors or masters level that instructs teachers on what amount or how to give homework related to their lessons. Most of the time, homework that is given is just what has always been given. So what work your child is doing may or may not even be useful. Just something to think about. Because my kids get enough activity during the school day (we are really lucky to have it), I don't mind the 5-15 min they have a night, and it doesn't stress them out either.
10-10-2012 07:43 AM
beanma

I have mixed feelings about homework which I went into a little bit on the homework thread I started. 

 

I do think it is valuable for us, but it can quickly become burdensome. Dd1 has some focus and processing speed/momentum issues. She has a hard time getting started, staying focused, and keeping up her speed, especially on homework she's not interested in or feels overwhelmed by. However, because she also has these same issues in school, it is actually really helpful for us to reinforce the school lessons so we can be sure she understands. She's pretty bright, but especially in math she can space out and miss a concept and then have a hard time catching back up. So math homework really helps us to keep her up to speed. However, because of her focusing, etc, issues, we do need to be directly involved in much of the homework. She does the work, but we have to be right there beside her to act as coaches to keep her on track. She just can't go in her room and do it on her own. Dd2 can easily.

 

Dd1 is not in an afterschool program, but with her history I would not expect her to get her homework done there if she was. She does dance, but it's on Saturday this year (and I'm grateful for that). I work at home. My dh works out of the home. We get home from dd1's school about 4pm if we don't have to stop anywhere. Her school gets out at 3:30 and it's a 20-25 minute drive away.

10-08-2012 06:45 PM
JollyGG
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post

sorry by dc i meant daycare not dear child.

 

That makes a lot more sense.

10-08-2012 04:27 PM
whatsnextmom
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Originally Posted by JollyGG View Post

I'll add a question to yours -

 

If you are pro-homework, do you work outside the home?

 

I hate to call myself "pro-homework" because it's not generally handled they way I've seen it work well often. I said earlier that I have seen some value and I work part-time during the kids schooling hours.

10-08-2012 03:23 PM
meemee
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Originally Posted by JollyGG View Post

I'm not. He's a fantastic kid.

 

sorry by dc i meant daycare not dear child.

 

and yes someone else helping with hw DOES defeat the purpose which is why i had dd circle her problems which i would check in the middle of preparing dinner and having dd get her things ready for the next day.

 

in K and first our struggle was with those simple books. the teacher would insist we had to read them 10 times each. and note it in the reading logs. the teacher wouldnt listen (i think its the school policy) so we ended up signing for each day and yet not doing that reading.

 

i recall in k and first the teacher felt 15 mins of review was ok. in fact some of the teachers feel the same and almost every grade they set some time aside for hw. so the child finishes most of his hw and leaves the questionable ones for home.

 

in the city i live in none of the school districts allow opting out for hw. the districts have blanket rules for hw because we have a large migrant, ESL and homeless population, who i've been told need the extra practise of hw. usually teachers dont expect them to get help at home. i think our districts hw policy stems mostly from meeting the needs of these population groups. which is why some of the schools have afterschool volunteer tutors. it is interesting to see their viewpoint towards hw. they cant wait to get more. they welcome hw.  

10-08-2012 02:19 PM
IdentityCrisisMama

I think JollyGG said her son would rather help other kids do their work instead of doing his own - this seems an admirable trait! I suppose it's no longer an issue but that would be something I'd look into parlaying into my child also doing their own. 

 

Homework isn't for every family and I don't think it's right to assume anything for anyone else either! 

 

My DC has some unique learning issues that make homework something that we really appreciate. There are kids in her class who opt out of HW - either because it's a hardship or because they simply don't need the extra help at home. Individuated HW would be AMAZING but I don't think the teacher is up for that. 

 

It's too bad that it's such a contentious issue and that schools aren't doing better to meet the needs of their families  - it's not such a hard thing, it would seem. 

10-08-2012 01:56 PM
JollyGG
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post

JollyG i am sorry that dc would not work with kids to help them be able to complete their hw.

I'm not. He's a fantastic kid.

 

I just think that homework is an unwelcome intrusion on the limited amount of time I get to spend with my child a day. We would much rather go to scouts, and mandarin lessons, Lego league, church group, etc. then do homework. I just really don't think that the assumption that all kids will have an available time after school is necessarily realistic for all kids. It sounds like your area has some great after school programs. Perhaps these types of after school programs are the norm where you live. Here it really isn't. My family is most definitely not in the minority where I live with our efforts to cram homework into an already jam packed evening that is already too short. And I could talk until I was blue in the face about the amount of homework my son had, it wasn't going to change the amount he brought home. Perhaps the issue is our prioritization of other activities over school work, however, my family is entitled to our priorities.

 

Doesn't the kid doing the work with someone else defeat the supposed benefit of homework as a communication tool between school and home?

 

Once again I'm really not against homework that is work he didn't complete in school. He is learning better focus and time management skills in order to have less.

 

But I am against the assumption that I want to spend the majority of the limited time I have with my child working on school work.

10-08-2012 12:11 PM
meemee

JollyG i am sorry that dc would not work with kids to help them be able to complete their hw.

 

in our afterschool program, the first thing kids do is go out and play, eat snacks and then sit down to do hw. they have a LARGE room so those kids (there were 2 of them) who needed quite time would be separated from teh other kids, they'd play music and the kids do hw. in fact in our ps/dc adn afterschool care there were audio cds with headphones to help the kids if they could use it.

 

one time (from tv) dd requested doing hw outdoors. all teh kids including dd loved it so much that they would do it regularly (unless they found the kids couldnt concentrate - surprisingly they did).

 

i am so sorry hw was such a nightmare for you. i can totally understand why. at one point it was starting to get crazy for us too, but i was able to talk to teh teacher and have her cut down on dd's hw. that is always an option for us (which isnt the norm either).

 

but i also think your case is not the norm. all the moms i know work. and none really have to deal with hw on a regular basis.

10-08-2012 12:00 PM
JollyGG
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post

yes i do, and dd finishes her hw at daycare (well off and on i have been both sah coparent and woh coparent). the good part about that is there are older kids there as well as the daycare staff who help with homework. in fact i am shocked that it is otherwise. i thought this was the norm in all afterschool places. in all 3 schools that i know of, one of the scheduled time is to finish hw. so when the child goes home, parents dont have to deal with hw. and thankfully the 'i forgot' no longer is a problem - because the dc copies the other classmates hw or they share the book. now we have to get to school early to get the book or the hw for dd to do on her 'forgot' days. at dc i had dd circle those problems where she needed help so that i could glance at her hw and see where she needed help.

After school care involves the same issues that result in him having homework in the first place. He is much more likely to help someone else with their work than he is to do his own. He needs a quite place to do his homework. After school care is just not a realistic place for him to accomplish it. He is easily distracted. After a full day of school there is no way he's going to focus well enough to get work done when there are other people around. As I said, he's doing great now that he's old enough to go home alone after school. But before that homework was a nightmare for our whole family. I want to spend the few hours I get to spend with my kids during the week doing something other than school work. I'm not against homework. I do feel that he should complete work that he didn't finish in school at home. It's just not as easy as some people seem to think it is when the parents both work full time.

10-08-2012 11:47 AM
meemee
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Originally Posted by JollyGG View Post

 

If you are pro-homework, do you work outside the home?

yes i do, and dd finishes her hw at daycare (well off and on i have been both sah coparent and woh coparent). the good part about that is there are older kids there as well as the daycare staff who help with homework. in fact i am shocked that it is otherwise. i thought this was the norm in all afterschool places. in all 3 schools that i know of, one of the scheduled time is to finish hw. so when the child goes home, parents dont have to deal with hw. and thankfully the 'i forgot' no longer is a problem - because the dc copies the other classmates hw or they share the book. now we have to get to school early to get the book or the hw for dd to do on her 'forgot' days. at dc i had dd circle those problems where she needed help so that i could glance at her hw and see where she needed help.

 

as she has gotten to higher grades i have kept in touch with her teacher through email AND thanfully the teacher has sent a project outline and deadlines home for parents to sign - to figure out where my help is needed for dd. not to help her do her stuff - except glue and stick, but to plan and keep her on task.  

 

dd is not an organiser and last year in 4th grade where the teacher decided to do projects instead of hw - i became more involved making sure dd stuck to her deadlines. she is not very good at managing that kinda stuff so i helped her.

 

one other thing i have discovered with my dd. in the beginning the idea of hw meant a HUGE protest. so maybe half hour work took her two hours. didnt mean the teacher was giving her too much work. then in first grade we had a series of talks and experiments which gave dd a handle on hw. how she looked at hw was different. i reviewed her hw and took out all the busy work.

 

in fact i recall dd really enjoyed the challenging hw in first grade. it was too easy for her so spoke to the teacher who gave more challenging work.

 

so really dd's protest was not against hw, but against busy work.

10-08-2012 11:01 AM
CatsCradle
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Originally Posted by JollyGG View Post

I resent the assumption that my kids have a stay at home parent who can devote time to helping the kids with homework. Realistically by the time I pick my kids up from daycare it's 6pm. My kids go to bed at 8pm plus have several nights a week of activities they are involved in. So until this  year homework was a very overwhelming thing to get accomplished in the 2 hours a day I get to spend with my kids, and it just didn't get done at after school care. This  year my son is old enough to go home and spend an hour or two alone before I get home. He does his homework during that time and all I have to do is check that it was done.

My DD is in an afterschool program (due to my work constraints) and fortunately for us, she gets all (or most) of her homework done between 3:30 and 5:00 pm.  On days that she is involved with sport, however, she doesn't get it done and it is sooooo hard to get her to focus later in the evening.  I don't mind special projects (we have loads of fun with cooking and science projects) but I loathe worksheets! 

 

Like others have said here, though:  I do value the positives of homework (review; self-discipline, etc.).  Considering the long days that elementary students have, though, I sometimes feel like the added work at the end of the day is a bit much.  If I feel thatthe  homework is getting to burdensome to be productive, I usually talk to DD's teacher about it.  So far, so good, this year.  One of the things that I appreciate about DD's present teacher is that she assigns homework based on the individual student and their need to improve in certain areas.  It's not just the same homework for everyone. 

10-08-2012 10:54 AM
IdentityCrisisMama

Well, I LOVE Alfie Kohn - LOVE him. However, I think no-homework in theory and no-homework in practice are two very different things. I know, because DC's school was no-homework until this year. Despite my DC's school's wonderful and effective efforts to facilitate parent-teacher communication, there were holes in what I need to know to help my DC do her best in school. I don't think Kohn addresses the benefit of parental homework support. With the new homework policy this year I am seeing where she needs some extra work or a different perspective. I regret that she didn't have homework in years past. I think carefully selected, age appropriate, and, perhaps optional homework assigned in reasonable amounts is a wonderful thing.  I suspect that we will also be finding some additional benefits of time management, preparation for middle school and etc. as the year progresses. 

 

JollyGG - I do not work outside the home and I do agree that getting home at 6 would be a hardship to getting homework done. Because homework is new to our school, we have not yet heard the perspective of parents who work out of the home. However, many of the parents who requested the change in favor of homework were families who use aftercare.  

10-08-2012 10:13 AM
whatsnextmom

A little quality homework can be a good thing. If I had kids that struggled or kids that involved me in their homework at all, I might feel differently I suppose. Honestly, I rarely see it and when they ask for help, it's when they need special supplies or something signed. There have been many projects that were valuable learning experiences (and enjoyable to the kids) but just not realistically done within the school day. A few math problems to cement a new concept has always been a benefit. Homework can help a child develop some time management skills, learn how to prioritize, and how to be responsible for themselves. Do they HAVE to have homework to get that? No. Plenty of kids get it through outside activities and home responsibilities. Homework is just one way. Through elementary and middle, homework really was more benefit than negative for us though.

10-08-2012 08:37 AM
JollyGG

I'll add a question to yours -

 

If you are pro-homework, do you work outside the home?

10-08-2012 08:29 AM
philomom Some homework is fine. To practice what you learned at school. To prepare for tests. The key is balance. Excessive homework makes everyone frustrated.
10-08-2012 08:24 AM
mamazee I hate homework. It seems like busywork and a way to make parents think the kids are learning more. I think kids should have the opportunity to take home things they don't get finished at school, and I think there should be an expectation of reading for pleasure at home, but I don't like worksheets and that kind of thing.
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