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12-09-2012 10:44 AM
JennJenn84 Nobody ever told me that sometimes the kicking hurts so bad from baby that you want to cut off your stomach, that trapped gas feels worse than severe menstrul cramps!
12-09-2012 07:32 AM
Silverring

That 'morning' sickness can last all day every day right up until the birth.

 

That it's possible to want the baby but hate being pregnant.

 

That I would completely lose the ability to judge where my body was in space, so much so that I'd bump into people with my bump.

 

That I would find smells so strong that I'd be able to tell all sorts of things I'd rather not know about people (even whether they'd had sex that day.)

 

That I would be unable to cope with the smell of fruit or vegetables without being sick then worry for months about the effects on the baby of eating junk food.

 

That I would feel like I knew my babies long before they were born.

 

 

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12-07-2012 05:05 PM
pek64
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Originally Posted by LeighPF View Post


Sing it. I passed up a shot of pain relief for the stitches and it hurt so much I had to stop holding baby.
That I wanted those drugs sure went into #2s birth plan and it was so much better.

Or that my feet would swell after baby and I would have to come home from the hospital in socks, in January. Thank you IV.

That if you are worried about baby and poke them to wake up at 2 am, they do not just go back to sleep.

If my mother hadn't left her slippers behind when she visited two months earlier, I, too, would have gone home in socks! Fortunately, the slippers were her old, sloppy ones, and my feet barely squeezed in!
12-07-2012 03:10 PM
LeighPF
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Originally Posted by CountryMommy View Post

No one told me exactly how much pain I would be in from the stitches after my first third degree tear. It hurt so bad, walking sucked, couldn't sit down properly. I really wish a nurse or someone would have prepared me better...or at least told me about witch hazel, which I only discovered after my second degree (was MUCH less painful to me) tear with the second baby.


Sing it. I passed up a shot of pain relief for the stitches and it hurt so much I had to stop holding baby.

That I wanted those drugs sure went into #2s birth plan and it was so much better.

 

Or that my feet would swell after baby and I would have to come home from the hospital in socks, in January. Thank you IV.

 

That if you are worried about baby and poke them to wake up at 2 am, they do not just go back to sleep.

12-07-2012 08:13 AM
Ms Rabbit

Nobody ever mentioned that orgasms in the 3rd trimester can cause BH. Poor DH, I had never seen him move so fast the first time that happened!

12-07-2012 06:45 AM
dayiscoming2006
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Originally Posted by Miss Ess View Post

No one told me my feet would grow a full size during my first pregnancy, and I'd need all new footwear to go along with my maternity clothes.
 

 

That happened to me too. It really sucks because I already have rather large feet. Now I wear a size 11. Thankfully, that is the largest size that most stores carry(occasionally some carry 12's) and I don't have to special order or anything. I'm tall to go along with it though, so it doesn't look weird or anything. LOL

12-06-2012 10:23 AM
Miss Ess

No one told me my feet would grow a full size during my first pregnancy, and I'd need all new footwear to go along with my maternity clothes.
 

12-05-2012 10:02 PM
kitteh I am simultaneously the sappy sweet preggo who cries at commercials, and then has an insane fit of itrational, hormonal rage a minute later. I'm sure I am a joy to be around!
12-05-2012 07:03 PM
scary biscuits

I think if you heard all the possible things that can happen to you in pregnancy, you'd be freaked out ;) Luckily no one gets it all (at least I hope not) and for sure not all at once. And for every women who wishes she was told about a symptom, there is another who never had it but something else that no one warned her about:)

 

Anyway, in my case it has been a painful belly button and in the first trimester what I called pregnancy rage:) With my first time I was the sweet preggo lady who cried at sad commercials, but this I've been more like the hulk when vexed:)

12-05-2012 06:59 PM
unuselyriver

here is my no one every told me when i was pregnant that i would care my dd for almost 43 weeks and the gas too

12-05-2012 02:51 PM
Teles
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Originally Posted by sageowl View Post

Stuff constantly leaking from somewhere. 

 

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12-05-2012 10:50 AM
erinmattsmom88

No one told me that constipation during the first trimester is beyond words horrible. No one told me that once I could go to the bathroom, that I'd be crapping out large potatoes (before they are baked), which, of course, led to massive hemorrhoids. Every. single. time.

 

No one told me about diastasis recti or that lovely stretched out, hanging skin after childbirth that will only go away with plastic surgery (if it's bad enough).

12-05-2012 10:35 AM
AngelBlueEyes

Not to brag or anything but I must have had the most easiest pregnancies in the world! All the symptoms I just read, I didn't have a single one! No morning sickness, no nothing! 

12-05-2012 04:01 AM
LKHattinen

Here's some positive news about pregnancy, new research has shown that your fetus may be using stem-cells to save your life.

12-04-2012 03:19 PM
MrsGregory

Oh me, me, I didn't lose weight breastfeeding either!  YAY!  irked.gif

 

 

I was afraid of peeing myself while pregnant.  So in order to prepare, I asked my doctor when that might start happening, so I could stock up on Depends.  Little Miss sat on my bladder and urethra for the last two trimesters (2nd trimester she stood or sat on it, 3rd it was her head) so instead I got to have a fun conversation about how I needed to pee and how if I couldn't pee I would be catheterized. 

So at work I got to stand over the toilet, 9+ months pregnant, in my work clothes, and rotate my hips like some kind of belly dancer while lifting my unborn darling and waiting for the pee dribble to start.  Then I got to hold that position until the dribble stopped.  Since I was pregnant through the entire of the hottest summer in Texas ever, I was drinking lots of water.  So we're talking about 1/2 hour bathroom trips here.  Then I'd get that ligament pain from standing up for so long, at the very end...  ohmahgawdohmahgawd I'd almost forgotten about much that SUCKED!

12-04-2012 03:06 PM
Bena
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Originally Posted by Kynid View Post

No one told me that breastfeeding could/would be hard. That sometimes a baby just doesn't know how to latch on right, and because I was uneducated I didn't realize my baby wasn't doing it quite right. The result was bleeding, sore nipples and a strong desire to give up BFing. Thankfully we made it through thanks to a nipple shield to help me heal until by baby could latch right. 


Oh yeah. I make it a point to tell everyone that breastfeeding is the single. hardest.thing. I've ever done. At least for the first 3 weeks or so.

  But I am so proud that I stuck with it and DD and I had a loverly 2years plus bf relationship.  But man..those first few weeks were absolut hell.  I gave birth without any pain med (not even a tylenol or glass of wine!) and that latch in the first 3 weeks of bf just made me yell out in pain!  I joked that the epidural wasn't meant for birth, it was meant for bf!

12-04-2012 12:07 PM
here we are I'm afraid i might get in trouble for this one...getting pregnant after years of infertility to suddenly feel half unsure if i want to stay pregnant b/c its just OVERWHELMING thinking of how to survive all these stressful symptoms,, how to avoid falling further into poverty, and how to get supplies i need ! No one told me one minute i would be going nuts about it and the next just thinking, oh well, i will.figure it out, probably just because its too stressful to think about. It causes me to ask myself, can i handle sleep deprivation? No i seriously cant. No one told me i would fantasize about earplugs instead of cute little toes or something. I could go on forever....
12-04-2012 11:50 AM
Miss Ess
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Originally Posted by LilyTiger View Post

No one told me that you can actually gain weight from breastfeeding.  All these utopian visions of dropping the pregnancy weight fast were totally untrue in my case.  I was down to my pre-preg weight at one week PP only to gain 10 pounds in the first two months of BF because my body felt like it was starving.  I literally could not stop eating.  It's finally evened out a bit at almost 4 months, but man, that was disappointing.

 

Yes! This happened to me too, while people were busy going on about how it was sooo great that I was breastfeeding and how all my weight was just going to melt off. HA!

12-03-2012 07:03 PM
LilyTiger

No one told me that you can actually gain weight from breastfeeding.  All these utopian visions of dropping the pregnancy weight fast were totally untrue in my case.  I was down to my pre-preg weight at one week PP only to gain 10 pounds in the first two months of BF because my body felt like it was starving.  I literally could not stop eating.  It's finally evened out a bit at almost 4 months, but man, that was disappointing.

12-03-2012 03:14 PM
sageowl

Year of sleep deprivation.  Hemmorhoids.  Heartburn.  Stuff constantly leaking from somewhere. 

12-03-2012 02:42 PM
scruffy too

No one told me about Round Liagment Pain and that it would feel like someone was stabbing my crotch with dull scissors.

12-03-2012 11:46 AM
~Shanna~
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Originally Posted by GISDiva View Post

That first poop after labor felt like broken glass. Really would have liked some warning on that one...

I'm a childbirth educator, and I do warn people about the first poop after labor. I go so far as to recommend a stool softener if you don't have diarrhea during labor. It's really intense, I felt like that was when I wanted an epidural :hug

 

The thing that knocked my socks off was how you might have to hang out in between contractions with a baby's head halfway out of you. Of course you can push in between contractions, but it doesn't help very much. I couldn't believe I had to just stay with that kind of stinging pain for several minutes and wait it out. I make sure to mention that in my classes too.

12-03-2012 08:18 AM
GISDiva

That first poop after labor felt like broken glass. Really would have liked some warning on that one...also, I suppose people did warn me, but I still wasn't prepared for the "your organs feel like they're going to flop out of your belly button" feeling.  You just don't know what that's going to feel like until you experience it...

12-01-2012 04:18 PM
porcelina
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Originally Posted by Sassicaia View Post

Nobody told me that none of my shoes would fit after preg/birth, ever again. >greensad.gif

Good point! An that I would never fit into half of my prepregnancy shirts again, with a larger ribcage.
12-01-2012 03:45 PM
Sassicaia

Nobody told me that none of my shoes would fit after preg/birth, ever again. >:(

12-01-2012 06:42 AM
CountryMommy No one told me exactly how much pain I would be in from the stitches after my first third degree tear. It hurt so bad, walking sucked, couldn't sit down properly. I really wish a nurse or someone would have prepared me better...or at least told me about witch hazel, which I only discovered after my second degree (was MUCH less painful to me) tear with the second baby.
12-01-2012 05:01 AM
pek64 Nobody told me about the abuse the baby gives to internal organs. It felt like my son was using my bladder as a trampoline!

Nobody told me that once I could finally eat again, I'd eat anything I could!
12-01-2012 04:37 AM
Teles

Nobody told me about sciatic nerve pain, or that it can show up early and stick around for the entire pregnancy

 

Everyone told me that people would be trying to touch your stomach (false) and asking about your due date (true), but nobody told me how many people would want to get their opinions in on their perception of your weight/stomach circumference gain or your food proportions. Or that trying to politely tell people that you don't give a crap about their opinions so long as the doctor says that you and the baby are normal and healthy would result in their accusing you of being hormonal. (This sounds like one specific instance, but it's actually happened a number of times with many different people)

 

Nobody also told me how much pleasure I would get from just poking at my belly and waiting for her to respond or watching her do her thing while my belly shakes and rolls.

11-29-2012 07:46 PM
Adaline'sMama

Nobody told me that Id have to cross my legs everytime I sneezed or else I'd pee on myself.

 

Nobody told me that not being able to use IB proufen would suck so much.

 

Nobody told me that the idea that contractions feel like "really bad menstural cramps" was totally absurd. They hurt way more.

 

Nobody told me that Id have snot dripping out of my nose for nine months, or that Id never see scrambled eggs the same way again, or that everytime I pooped in the third trimester Id feel like a baby was going to fall out of my vulva.

 

My friends all love to paint pregnancy and birth very pretty. Damn them. 

11-29-2012 06:48 PM
Kynid

No one told me that breastfeeding could/would be hard. That sometimes a baby just doesn't know how to latch on right, and because I was uneducated I didn't realize my baby wasn't doing it quite right. The result was bleeding, sore nipples and a strong desire to give up BFing. Thankfully we made it through thanks to a nipple shield to help me heal until by baby could latch right. 

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