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06-03-2013 09:24 PM

I posted my LONG story on the new thread lol

06-03-2013 08:01 PM
MindlessChrissy New thread:
06-03-2013 06:24 PM

I think I am ready to share my story... I am a little scared to talk about it, I will wait till the new thread is started. <3

06-03-2013 02:32 PM

Yes, I say do it Chrissy!

06-03-2013 12:49 PM

Quick pop in to say WOW Sila! You rock. Bet that was one happy momma.


Also, ladies, we might need a spring/summer thread soon?

06-03-2013 07:08 AM

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry for all of the bfn's and to Chuord. Hope and healing all around.


Bebe - I've been waiting for you to pop in here and let us know how you are doing since it's getting so close!


TF - So did you calculate a date?


I spent over 24hrs this weekend helping a momma get her VBAC. I'm exhausted and I'll have to catch up later.

06-03-2013 06:04 AM

Chuord: So sorry for your loss dear, hug.gif


To everyone else wave.gif

06-02-2013 08:43 PM
chuord Chrissy - yay for the progress down the path with ds, if they didn't want to test him would mean they don't think there's any issue - so I'm reading that as all good! Same with mums surgery, one less a aesthetic is a good thing... Fx it's still a bit fat nothing when they get in there though! So everyone else is getting sorted - how are you?

Sherry - I'm just being selfish, I'm hoping you find a way to keep going and stay here with us 😄 will it be easy enough to just do a couple of tests? Maybe all you need is a month or two off to regroup and enjoy being a person again - instead of a baby manufacturing plant.... Lol conversation in my head is 'oi I called for maintenance to repair the problems months ago - where are they and why is production still out' craziness aside - it's most important that you do what's right for you. Big hugs!!!

Afm - interview went well, lovely people, it's for 12 month contract to cover maternity leave lol!
06-02-2013 06:44 PM
sherryvhkb Hi all.

Bfn all weekend and beyond possible now....still trying to figure out what now.
Dh is afraid that if my tubes are blocked we could be asking for trouble and that perhaps my cp was an ectopic that resolved. He thinks I should get an hsg. That is hard to do being here and trying to get to bk at the right time. Soooo just thinking. I am really just tired of being in this space.

So I dunno....sorry no personals I am exhausted and have an overnight baby that I just got to sleep.

Thinking of you all and reading along.
06-02-2013 05:46 PM

Bebe - So nice to see you!


Shell - Yay for no work stress!


Chuord - How's it going, dear?


Sherry - Uhm. You dropped off the face of the message boards. I'm guessing it's not good news. hugs!


indie - HI!


Jpack - So happy for you that the job is working out! Your post sounds so happy!!


Daurelia - Congrats on the new job!! Taking a break is sometimes a good thing.


Everyone else - HI!!!


AFM - Had appointment with Doctor about testing for DS. Yes, we're going forward with testing as there are "some concerns". Now to wait again until we get another appointment. Mom found out she'll be staying in the hospital from Friday until Sunday. She's getting cut across the tummy. I said it was almost like getting a c-section. They did tell her that the reason they are doing a full hyst is because if it is cancer it made no sense to take just part then have to go back in for the rest. So it's a safe then sorry thing. I'll be taking her to the docs friday and staying as long as I can. Probably visiting Saturday then bringing her home Sunday. She was told she can walk but that's it. She can't bend, squat, run, jump, clean house, do laundry, etc.

06-01-2013 09:39 PM
chuord Thanks ladies I really appreciate it... But I just keep feeling its no big deal compared to the journeys on here... I'm just over my hormones cycling through all the emotions lol... And the chaser migraine!
Jpack I love the fact that both you and TF have the same thought re the baby spirits... It's a comforting thought to know you'll get the one that's right for you regardless 😄
So cool that you are loving your job that much - fx on the next application!
Indie - it's so nice to see you on here! Hoping you're having some well earned r&r with dh?
TF - hugs on the trying to stay brave and strong 😀😊😇 and sending those babies love! I hadn't put my beads together yet, must have known I'd need a cheer me up, and just did them... So therapeutic and soothing - like a blanket of good wishes and love! Thanks again for the gorgeous beads 😄😍😄
Sherry - any more testing?
06-01-2013 09:03 PM

Good evening ladies!


Chuord - I'm so sorry about the crummy outcome, but I completely believe what you said about the spirit just waiting. There was some account I read in a great book about midwivery when I was pregnant with DD about that concept - I think it was an account from a child who told his mother after she had a m/c that it was ok because the baby just wanted to spend a little more time dancing with the other baby spirits before coming into this world. Something to that effect. I hope your cycles recover quickly and you get pregnant with a sticky one!


Indie, thanks - more about teaching below. I hope you're doing well - close to O?


TF YYYAAAYYYY! I don't think I congratulated you yet! I'm so, so happy for you! I have to say, I was NOT believing those negatives!


Sila - Love the pic, very, very cool! So excited about the end of PIO for you and hope you're starting to feel good (?).


SKJ sounds like you've been challenged by the stress but it hasn't gotten you. I am glad you're still exploring trusting your body - it's so hard after all this!


Chrissy - How's it all going? Hang in there, friend - I hope things are improving... hug2.gif


Sherry - I'm sorry about the BFN. Love to know how things are going for you now...


AFM - I have been so, so, so busy - in all the best ways! Yes, I'm really excited! I know it's a terrible and vulgar colloquialism, but I keep finding myself saying that I feel like a pig in sh*t! I LLLOOOVVVEEE teaching. And I've covered a ton of material and am getting lots of positive feedback (from all three -- yes, three of my students. My co-teacher was away all week - it was all me). I miss DH and DD, but I've only really had a hard time at one point (when DD was crying on the phone). Other than that I know that she's having an absolute blast and most of the time she's too busy to even hang out on the phone with me! It's odd being alone, with nothing but my work and catching up with old friends, but it's not too bad winky.gif I'm really looking forward to them getting here Monday, but then I'll really have to focus on the balance and that will be hard. A big thing for me is getting another job application out this weekend for another dream job (still haven't heard anything from the other one - it'll be a while, so I'm told). So that's the work I need to get back to. Enough procrastination ...

06-01-2013 08:40 PM

Chuord, thanks so much! It's rather surreal, completely exciting and totally terrifying!

06-01-2013 06:44 PM
toothfairy2be Chuord- sending strength your way as you process your loss. Have you read spirit babies? I haven't read it but I know there's parts that talk about a lost babies spirit remaining for the next body. So you could be right, the shell is gone & your little man is still waiting for the next turn.
06-01-2013 06:15 PM
skj2011 Chuord - glad things are getting back to normal. I'm so sorry about your loss. hug2.gif
06-01-2013 05:55 PM
indie1976 chuord - i'm so very sorry you had to go through this again. big hugs to you.
06-01-2013 03:06 PM
chuord Thanks bebe! So exciting that its so close for you now!!! Wishing you the delivery you desire! And of course that pefect baby...

Thanks sparkle!!! I should have updated you and dahlia - lol but I didn't think it was exciting enough... I'm doing ok, everything settled back to normal quite fast... And the doc gave me the all clear to get back into it 😄 so hopefully I'll be joining your side of the fence soon xxx
06-01-2013 09:10 AM

Sila, yay for such a lovely little ultrasound pic! I'm thrilled things are going well!!! Double yay for no. more. shots!


Shell! So nice to "see" you. I'm happy to hear you are getting rid of the stressful job (you know I can commiserate), and for a stress-free life!  What a great thing!!!


Indie, I'm so glad that you aren't having any side effects . . . there's only so much a girl can put up with already!! 


SKJ, oh girl, I hear you. Crazy to be talking about L&D and preparing in some many ways. I'm a little freaked out, but also super excited and optimistic. I really like our doula (she's very grandmother-ly, which suits me perfectly). I'm excited for you!


Chuord, I'm so sorry for your loss and having to go through this experience. :(

06-01-2013 05:55 AM
sparklemaman I am sorry to thread crash - I wanted to send huge hugs to Chourd. I'm so sorry, mama! Be good to yourself and take time to heal. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
05-31-2013 09:25 PM

Chrissy, I'll be thinking of your mom and wishing her a successful surgery and speedy recovery!


Sherry, I'm sorry about the BFN. :(


TF, I had no symptoms for quite some time . . . really try hard to not read into it too much! I know it's impossible . . . but really, I don't think I had any real symptoms until I was close to maybe 9-10 weeks. I think at this point you had way more symptoms than I did.


SKJ, so glad to see your pregnancy is progressing nicely! Even at 38 weeks I panic when I don't feel too much movement. I feel less now than I used to (probably because she is so cramped) but it freaks me out constantly!

05-31-2013 09:17 PM

Hi, y'all! Oh I've missed you. It's been a bit of a whirlwind trying to get everything ready for baby. I'm 38 weeks tomorrow, so she could come at any time. Scary, and exciting, and unbelievable!


I'm so behind that I can't even pretend to catch up. I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of all of you, and sending you lots of love! 


TF, thank you so much for organizing the beads, and thank you to everyone for all the beauties! I've made me labor necklace, and have it packed in my hospital bag. It already brings me so much comfort. Also, I'm SO happy to see your BFP!!!!!!!!!!!! Woo-hoo!!!! 


I'm keeping this window up on my computer so I can try to catch up little by little as your posts come in . . . just didn't want another moment to slip by without me saying hi and letting you all know that I'm thinking of you!



05-31-2013 02:35 PM
chuord Sherry - hugs!!!!! Hoping its just early!

Daurelia - so YAY on the job!!!!!!! I was thinking on it last week for you, and I know ttc is hard work and a bfp would have been awesome - but you are young, and you have many potential months ahead... I also thought how often does your dream job come up??? So I'm really happy you got it! I think if a break is right for you and you have time it's a great idea! Relax into the new job, enjoy the vaca and then come home and bfp it up 😃😃😃

TF, SKJ - I totally get it, I'd buy that sticker too! Since u never got a bfp I was in confusion the whole 23dpo... It's not fun... Hmm they have temperature stickers for under children's arms... Lol could we invent one, think of the profits! TF hope you have a fun night with dh, enjoying each others company, and enjoying the bfp 😍
SKJ - how many weeks now? I'm sure it's not for you, but for me your pg is flying along...
Sila - are you starting to feel better?

Indie - hugs and energy to you - hoping you are traveling ok.

Chrissy, Lucille - hugs!

Afm - got a bad headache last night... Took asprin but figure it may help with any residual stuff... So the neuro was right pg =no migraines...
05-31-2013 10:59 AM
skj2011 TF - I'm the same way. Every time I felt "ok", I got really nervous. So, I can totally relate. I wish we could wear a little sticker that changed color so we would know everything was always ok. I would spend a LOT of money for that, even now. I've been feeling baby move, but it's not all the often. Even still, when I don't feel any movement, I get all worried. Not to mention that I've had two miscarriage dreams this week. It's such a roller coaster the whole time.
05-31-2013 10:51 AM

Daurelia- CONGRATS on the new job! That is wonderful news! I know I said it before but I totally understand your taking a break, especially with all of those thngs ahead of you. What did you do differently this cycle to get your numbers up so good? It sounds like when you are ready to start trying again you are in a great place. I'm sorry this month didn't work out and I'm looking forward to when you start trying again to celebrate a swift BFP!


SKJ- Thanks :) I know I should be grateful that right now I feel good, especially knowing that by week 7 I felt pretty crummy last time. It is just not having that reassurance that baby is growing. I will have to go stalk some old pages to see how others felt after FET.

05-31-2013 08:40 AM

TF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Chuord, I'm so sorry... I've had a few cycles like that where I didn't test but I was pretty sure there was implantation and then something went wrong. 


Sherry, sorry about your BFN.


Hi everyone!!!!


My double-punch two week wait is over, the results are in: BFN and I GOT THE JOB!!!


The job is amazing, it's exactly what I want to be doing with my career, my interview was great and I like the people. It's a 20% bump in salary and a lot of great little side benefits. (including shorter commute and better location!).


Feeling really ambivalent about the BFN. The good news is, this new protocol really did something-- my 14 DPO numbers were great (71 progesterone, 103 estradiol)!  Not sure why it didn't work... but the doc thinks we are absolutely on the right track. The nurse just straight up promised me that they will get me pregnant someday. 


And yet I think we're going to take the rest of the summer off TTC, and maybe the fall, too. I don't know. I have a LOT on my plate right now. This new job is going to mean a lot of learning the ropes. There's going to be a decent amount of travel too.  Also hubby and I have a two week European vacation in August and I want to be relaxed and enjoy it. I mean, what if I got pregnant and had another miscarriage while learning the new job or on vacation?? I mean, I can't shy away from this forever, and I have to take the risk at having a miscarriage again... but with so much going on I think I need a break.

My husband really wants us to take a break. He really wants kids, more than I do even, but he also hates to see me suffer like this. 


Most of all right now I'm feeling like my life is moving forward again for the first time in a long time. Yes it's career forward, not family forward, but I'm so excited.

05-31-2013 06:34 AM
skj2011 Oh and I remember rcr having no symptoms for a while and then they came on strong.
05-31-2013 06:30 AM
skj2011 Sherry - sucks, but I'm with TF. Baby vibes headed your way.

TF- with DD, my boobs were so sore. This time, even with all the meds, my boobs never got sore. I get ocassional pain, but that only started at 6+ weeks. In fact, I didn't really feel much until about then. I do remember cramping abt a week after my bfp. This pregnancy has been totally different from the last one, so I don't think you can even compare. Also, wondfos were never dark for me.
05-31-2013 05:20 AM
toothfairy2be Chrissy- I hate to swim with AF too... Good luck with the appt for your son & your mom.

Sherry- boo. Give it another few days- I'm sending strong baby vibes your way.

Tested today. Darker than Wednesday but not as dark as I expected. Telling myself with an FET they produce lower hcg & not panicking. So happy I don't have a beta today. I'm going to get a digital test for DH tonight. I'll keep using the cheapies every other day. Still no real symptoms. A little constant dull heartburn & constant dull lower back ache. No more cramps, even my boobs just feel blah, different but still not like omg my boobs are sore!
05-31-2013 04:08 AM
sherryvhkb Bfn.
05-30-2013 11:42 PM
chuord Chrissy lol and lol! 'Chum' it up... Fx for Saturday... Even more fx for both you and sherry - make it a bfp 😄
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