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01-06-2014 06:31 AM

that's really helpful - thanks again!


from reading your response and from guessing, i think my daughter will/would go longer than age 5 if i had to guess.  she's 3.5 yo now, and i can only count a small handful of times she has voluntarily missed her once a day nursing session.


i am actually thinking i may mama-led wean her if she isn't done or mostly done by age 5, not because of the stigma of nursing a kindergartener, but due to some schedule-related/logistical issues.


but we shall see!  luckily i have 1.5 years between now and then, so fingers crossed.

01-04-2014 12:24 AM

Hmmm, that's a hard question to answer because it was such a loooong process.  Somewhere after his 4th bday we agreed that the last time he would nurse would be the day of his 5th bday.  At that point he was going days and days without nursing.  Maybe even a full week or so here and there.  Once or twice he had even spent an overnight with his dad (no overnights until the daily nursing phase was over).  Shortly after ds turned 5, we had a good laugh bc we both realized we had forgotten to have one last nursing.  We went ahead and gave it a try and we both realized it totally sucked (pun not intended) and so that was that.


Some would say he was weaned around 3.5, which is when he really slacked off.  Some would say he wasn't weaned until after his last nursing a few days after his 5th bday.  For simplicity, I say he nursed for 5 yrs (if I'm not in the mood to shock the person, I just say he nursed for a couple of years.  Usually, I go for the shock  heehee). Occasionally, if the convo warrants it, I may explain a bit more, like if someone who doesn't know our history makes an uninformed comment about how gross it is to nurse a kindergartener all day long I may speak up and say that just bc you are nursing a 4 or 5yo, it doesn't mean you do it all day long, or even every day.  FWIW, my ds was done nursing 3 mos before starting school, but if he needed to, I would gladly have nursed a kindergartener!

12-29-2013 04:32 PM
Originally Posted by blessedwithboys View Post

Yeah, it sounds to me like she's losing her latch.  My ds2 nursed for 60mos and in the last year or two his nursing session were extremely brief, and thankfully so because it was like he'd forgotten how to latch on.

Thanks so much for the reply! That makes sense to me that despite losing her latch, my DD could also still be quite a ways - in your case a year or two - before total weaning.

Was weaning super gradual for your DS when it happened, or somewhat sudden?
12-29-2013 01:09 PM

Yeah, it sounds to me like she's losing her latch.  My ds2 nursed for 60mos and in the last year or two his nursing session were extremely brief, and thankfully so because it was like he'd forgotten how to latch on.

12-29-2013 11:52 AM
pamplona Thanks, Tracyamber!

Maybe my daughter's unique on this one, but guessing It seems like Mothering is one of the best places to ask random questions about older nurslings.
12-28-2013 01:35 PM
tracyamber Anyone have any advice?
12-25-2013 02:39 PM
pamplona My 3.5 yo daughter is moving towards self-weaning, and currently nurses once a day.

She has lately been nursing only about 10 seconds and then saying she's done. This morning she told me her milkies were "wobbly," and that's why she was done.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Do you think she's just losing her latch as she ages out of nursing, or any ideas on what she means? I'm curious!

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