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Yesterday 08:52 AM
bright-midnight 1. What do you plan to do for maternity wear? Any brands/shops you've scoped out/reccomend?

I'll probably do a mixture of thrift and sales. We also have a Motherhood Maternity not too far from where I live and they usually run awesome sales. Target has maternity tanks that I absolutely LOVE even while not pregnant. They are fairly inexpensive and last a really long time!


2. What old wives tales have you heard about conception/influencing gender/fertility/pregnancy/labor/etc. ? Have any experience with any of them?
A friend of mine swears by the shuttles method to sway gender. I've never tried it though!

Also while trying to encourage labor to start with my son, someone told me about a chicken parmesan dish that some restaurant used that they claim will put a woman into labor. She thought it was the massive amounts of basil that did the trick. So at 40w 3d, I made an ate basil stuffed chicken breast with a side of noodles and a very basil-y tomato sauce. Within HOURS I started contracting regularly and it was the start of labor. He wasn't born until 40w 5d. It could have been a coincidence, but who knows!


3. How do you (plan to) choose baby names? What is your criteria for a good solid name?

My first two kiddos names come from two of my favorite books. This one, we've narrowed the names down to first names picked for either boy or girl. Our girl name is Lyra. Our first date was watching a meteor shower, The Lyrids which originate from the constellation Lyra. Boy's name would be Elijah, which just happens to be a name we both really like!

4. What do you an your SO like to do for dates/quality time?

We're both "homebodies" so a lot of the time we workout/lift weights. If we get a night away from the kiddos, we'll go out for dinner or something like that.
10-20-2014 02:19 PM
pokeyac
Catching up!

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1.what do you plan to do for maternity wear? Any brands/shops you've scoped out/reccomend? I saved most of my clothes from last time. I got a lot from Old Navy and the Gap because it was inexpensive and simple. I would like to get some more fun/stylish stuff next time. Get myself something nice! I don't normally wear dresses or skirts but I liked them while I was pregnant because they were easy and I didn't have tight elastic-y stuff around my stomach.

2. What old wives tales have you heard about conception/influencing gender/fertility/pregnancy/labor/etc. ? Have any experience with any of them? I've heard many things about influencing sex of the baby but with IUI and frozen sperm we can't take advantage of those in terms of timing. Maybe we should try the acidity thing.

3. How do you (plan to) choose baby names? What is your criteria for a good solid name? We have a girl's name we've had for a long time. We both had people who wanted to name Annabelle when we were born but for various reasons, we were given different names. For a boy, we would have a struggle because we didn't agree on much last time. My wife recently mentioned she would like to stick with C names.

4. What do you an your SO like to do for dates/quality time? We like to go out and try new restaurants, have a cocktail. We used to go to happy hour every Friday. It was a great way to reconnect at the end of the week. When we have a chance to have friends watch C, we will go out and have a drink and just talk about our week, what's going on in life.

Let's hear it ladies!
Hi everyone!
10-20-2014 01:53 PM
pokeyac Thanks for doing these @sidrajedi ! n I'm so behind!

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Check in ?'s!

1. Do you have any children already? If so tell us a little about them. Tell us about furbabies too! I have one son and one cat. C is almost 16 months old. He is very busy and talkative. He loves to climb and be outdoors. If you set him on the sidewalk he laughs and takes off to explore. He's lots of fun.
Marvin Gaye is our cat. He is 14 and a Maine Coon, very fluffy. He's my wife's cat and I find him annoying at times. They are like dogs, very attached to their people. If my wife goes outside, he will sit at the door and cry until she comes back.

2. What do you look forward to/enjoy most about pregnancy? Least?
I loved having my baby with me all the time and feeling him growing and moving. Like someone else mentioned, I felt better in some ways while pregnant. I was less anxious, my skin was fantastic. It's also nice to have people smile at you and say nice things.
I did not enjoy the gag reflex and heartburn and using 5 pillows to sleep.

3. What do you do to cool your baby fever?
I don't do much to cool my baby fever. I come here and talk, read the TTC forums. I hope being a part of this group will help me be more patient.
4. Do you have any hobbies? I love to read-books and magazines. I like yoga but haven't had much time to do it since my son was born.
10-20-2014 01:14 PM
pokeyac @sillysapling I like pockets too and the pockets in maternity pants are even worse than regular women's pants. We had a thread once in Queer Parenting about maternity clothes but it didn't yield much fruit. It's very hard to find maternity wear that is more masculine.
10-19-2014 09:16 AM
sidrajedi @sillysapling gender neutral and masculine maternity wear? what a great business idea! If I hadn't already turned my back on clothing design as a career I would be all over that! It's such a fresh idea. Even though I do not have the time or inclination to actually do anything with it I will be thinking about designs all day bc it's just such a cool idea. Lol
10-19-2014 08:46 AM
sidrajedi 1. Last pregnancy I got 90% of my maternity wear thrifting. The other 10% I bought new at Target Ross and Marshall's. I really liked my maternity clothes. Last time I was in 2nd and third tri through fall and winter. This time I hope to be in second and third tri in the summer and fall so I may not get to recycle everything. Also I am starting out twenty pounds lighter than last time so I will probably be thrifting some more maternity wear next year.

2. I've heard that green tea increases fertility and that you have to relax while TTC and not stress or it won't happen.

I've read the shettles rules for gender selection but I've also heard the opposite was true. The Chinese gender predictor was right for me and SIL #1 but wrong for SIL#2. I hear salty cravings = boy and sweet cravings = girl. I craved meat and sweets and vinegar. I am not a sweets eater so I guess that part was sorta true.

I had pretty bad heartburn but DD still doesn't have much hair.

Starting labor: scrubbing floors, walking, sex, walking with one foot off the sidewalk, celery (actually his might have helped), pedicure, bouncing on a birthing ball.I tried all the triçks to start labor except castor oil. The only thing that worked was acupuncture and acupressure for three days in a row and a membrane sweep (even though I was barely 2cm) and she was still two weeks late!

The other OWT I heard was that if nursing hurts you're doing it wrong. This is not necessarily true IME. I understand why "they" say that but sometimes you're doing it right and it still hurts.

3. I obsess over names daily. DH teases me about it. I love uncommon ethnic names. He likes vowel-heavy ethnic names too. He's irish, scotch, welsh and English with some Cherokee. I'm Mexican, Apache, English, Irish, Swiss-French, German and Cherokee. So we have a lot to choose from. I also like names associated with folklore. They don't have to be family names but they have to have personal meaning for us.

I research names a lot and have an ongoing list of names I like. I may not want to use all of them but I like all of them so when I talk about names with DH he gets an idea of what I like and why. I also geek out on the baby name forums and like to have a running list of awesome names for when people post on the forums asking for suggestions.

4. We just went on our first date since DD was born last weekend! We like to go see live music. Usually though just going out for a beer (we both love craft beer) and talking is our MO. At home when we get some time while DD is asleep or otherwise distracted we watch movies or work on projects (artistic or DIY home projects) together. We are both artists and love to collaborate.
10-19-2014 07:19 AM
sillysapling "1.what do you plan to do for maternity wear? Any brands/shops you've scoped out/reccomend?"

I wear men's clothes, so, not really! I wish there were more masculine pregnancy clothing options, now that more guys and non-binary folk are getting pregnant after coming out. Oh well. I may look into that. I'll still probably look into more gender-neutral clothes that actually show it off. I also really want the Think Geek "some assembly required shirt. I even considered looking into maternity pants until I remembered how crap women's pockets are. I like pockets.

"2. What old wives tales have you heard about conception/influencing gender/fertility/pregnancy/labor/etc. ? Have any experience with any of them?"

Last time, I just went off depo and we started trying. I gave RRL tea a shot, but it really wasn't for me. I had a lot of natural induction stuff at the ready just in case- then kiddo came 2 weeks early. We're going to do some mild gender swaying last time. After looking into it, we unintentionally swayed blue with #1 , so we want to try swaying pink next time. My family breeds like rabbits so I'm not overly worried about fertility.

"3. How do you (plan to) choose baby names? What is your criteria for a good solid name?"

Gender neutral is ideal for us. Our first has a name that's both Irish in origin (DP & I are primarily Irish in ancestry) and also a tree name, so we're going to try to keep a theme of one of those two.

"4. What do you an your SO like to do for dates/quality time?"

Ah.... I remember when that was still a thing. Generally when one of my parents is around, we see a movie because it's one of the few things we absolutely can't do without kiddo. We can't afford childcare and it's just not really an option, though.
10-18-2014 08:58 PM
LTurtle ]1.what do you plan to do for maternity wear? Any brands/shops you've scoped out/reccomend?
I will mostly be using things I already own. I have a few specific maternity wear items but mostly I just wear stretchy stuff from my regular wardrobe. My biggest recommendation is not to spend a lot of money on overpriced maternity items. Get creative with regular clothes in bigger sizes or stretchy fabrics. Where I do spend more is on good wireless nursing bras to wear while pregnant & nursing. Gotta take care of those hardworking tatas!

2. What old wives tales have you heard about conception/influencing gender/fertility/pregnancy/labor/etc. ? Have any experience with any of them?
There's the Chinese method of gender prediction based on the mothers age and the month of conception. It was actually correct for both my kids. I've also heard that if you want to sway for a girl you should eat really acidic foods or even douche with lemon juice, but I have no idea if that works at all. The one about more heartburn during pregnancy equals more hair on baby at birth is also true in my experience. Both my kids were born with long black hair and didn't lose any, it just grew out & now they're both kind of reddish brown.


3. How do you (plan to) choose baby names? What is your criteria for a good solid name?
So, we have a lot of criteria for names. Plus I like to obsess about them even when not pregnant, so pardon me if this is long. On both sides of my family it is tradition to have double first initials, first and middle name start with the same letter. We like to use family honor names as middles. So we start by looking at family names we like, then look for first names that start with the same letter.

For first names we prefer names that have the option of a nickname and are not too common but not unheard of. We prefer names that are fairly easy to pronounce and spell, though this isn't crucial. We make a long list, then narrow it down. Our goal is to have two or three names for each gender that we both like and then we see which fits after baby is born. DD is Elena Elizabeth, I called her Ella as a baby but she prefers her full name now, her name honors both my great-grandmother Elizabeth and my grandma Helen. DS is Ronan Robert, I planned to call him Rory for a nickname but I don't, and his middle is for my father and grandfather who are both Bob.

For the next baby I already have a long list that I keep adding to. When we get pregnant again I'll go through it with DH and we'll start narrowing it down. I have a strong hunch though that the next baby will either be Eliott Edgar or Beatrix Barbara, as those are names we both like and that honor DH's family.


4. What do you an your SO like to do for dates/quality time?
We have a long term cribbage game going, but haven't played it in a while. Instead of 120 points we're playing to 120,000. We also really like board games, or if we go out its usually to a pub and we like to sample different beers. Wow, we sound really boring! Honestly we get so little alone time these days that we don't do much. Maybe play a short game or just cuddle and watch tv.

I've been charting for the first time this month and getting really frustrated with it. Partly my temps are all over because I was sick and DS is not sleeping through the night yet. DH is supposed to be the one getting up with the baby after 3am or so to let me sleep, but he doesn't wake up when DS does so I have to wake him and hand the baby over. But also I think I may have ovulated twice (a first for me!) and I think Fertility Friend is just confused.

Aside from that, the daily "have more sex so you can make a baby" message that I get while inputting my temps is NOT helping with hormonally crazy baby fever going on over here.

And totally off topic, I think the end of DS using diapers is in sight and I am sooo excited. He's had more than one day this week of no diapers/no accidents, even while sleeping. And just today he learned how to run. He's growing so fast!
10-18-2014 04:11 PM
sidrajedi 1.what do you plan to do for maternity wear? Any brands/shops you've scoped out/reccomend?

2. What old wives tales have you heard about conception/influencing gender/fertility/pregnancy/labor/etc. ? Have any experience with any of them?

3. How do you (plan to) choose baby names? What is your criteria for a good solid name?

4. What do you an your SO like to do for dates/quality time?

Let's hear it ladies!
10-18-2014 03:56 PM
sidrajedi @brownlioness I journal regularly. In that way my journey TTC #1 (as brief as it was) was documented. I hand bound a blank book to document pregnancy and DD's first five years (I write in that journal regularly and do some scrap booking in it). I plan to give it to DD when she is older and to leave all of my personal journals to my children when I die. I am documenting my life currently in my personal journal and will continue to do so whilst TTC.

Speaking of which, I was journaling yesterday and realized that I only have four menses left before we TTC! That's so exciting!
10-15-2014 08:24 AM
cynthiamoon EEEEEEeeeeep! I finally have an excuse to share this:

Am I am man? Or am I a muppet?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MFn8L9tIrg
10-13-2014 08:14 PM
Brown Lioness Check in ?'s!

1. Do you have any children already? If so tell us a little about them. Tell us about furbabies too! None of either yet.

2. What do you look forward to/enjoy most about pregnancy? Least? Wow, well, seeing as Ive never been pregnant before, i have no earthly idea what to expect. If I were to use my imagination tho, I look forward to finding out and then telling people, my first midwives appointment/hearing the heartbeat, feeling the baby move, purchasing/wearing my first piece of maternity wear, the first time a stranger recognizes me as a pregnant woman, going into labor. Im not looking forward to alllllllllll the unpleasant, uncomfortable, painful aches and pains of pregnancy. LAWD, im praying that i am spared morning sickness, but if not, that i am guided by my ancestors to power my way through lol. Also not looking forward to becoming public property and all that comes with that.

3. What do you do to cool your baby fever? Hmmm, to cool it? I don't even know anymore. Ive had a simmering baby fever since 2006. Yes. Ive been on Mothering.com, et al researching motherhood and what not for that long. So i guess, i just try to live my life and know that if it is to be, it will be.

4. Do you have any hobbies? Well, i love to read, cook, listen to music, and im looking into learning how to quilt here soon.

sidrajedi, I like your recommendation as well, thank you!

No big update here really:

-Im waiting on AF to start. Sorta sucks tho cause my birthday is this Thursday and my husband just surprised me as he is taking me to Las Vegas for my birthday weekend!

-I finally received my prenatal vitamins that i ordered from Amazon, so I need to start incorporating those into my nutrition.

-Coworker is still alllll up in my uterus, first question she had to ask me today is if i started (so she can confirm when she will start *eye roll*), ugh.

-Looking on paying more attention to my dental hygiene, so ive started oil pulling again and then flossing at night. Looking to book a dentist appointment before we start TTC.

Ive been really trying to figure if and/or how I will document my TTC journey and beyond. Blog, video, journal, all or none at all? I want to document mainly for me and hubby to be able to look back and see the journey and how far we've come. I generally hate watching myself as I dont think im photogenic, but video seems an easy way to document. Journal im, probably gonna do anyway. Blogging...eh, i dunno, i feel like it would just end up one big photo journey.

Anywho, did any of you document your journey to motherhood? If so, what method did you choose and do you wish you would have done it differently? Will you be documenting this journey as well?

Hope everyone is doing well!
10-12-2014 10:05 PM
LTurtle Check in ?'s!

1. Do you have any children already? If so tell us a little about them. Tell us about furbabies too!
We have Elena who is 10 and Ronan who is one and a bit. Elena is homeschooled, she likes dancing, swimming, animals and all things magical. She also has ADHD, ASD and anxiety, and is intellectually gifted. In short she is a handful and a delight. Ronan is walking well, now working on running and climbing. He talks quite a bit and signs as well. He likes trucks, rocks, "helping" and music. Both kids love books and adore each other, which makes me a lucky mama.

We also have cats. Biron is a huge, black, talkative nine year old. Miri is his new sidekick, affectionate and rambunctious at six months old. Our older kitty passed away in August, she was 14 and had cancer.


2. What do you look forward to/enjoy most about pregnancy? Least?
I most enjoy feeling a baby moving within me and that special connection of having them be a part of you. I also like that I feel much healthier while pregnant; I have MS and it goes mostly away when I'm pregnant or nursing frequently.
I don't look forward to all the aches and pains, trouble sleeping, having to pee all the time stuff. I had weeks/months of prodromal labor with my last and I really hope that doesn't happen again.


3. What do you do to cool your baby fever?
Come talk to you guys! I also obsess over baby names and possible craft projects I could do for a new little one. Sometimes i think about what I'd like my next birth to be like. Or I just focus on being present with my DC and enjoying their company at the stage they're in.

4. Do you have any hobbies?
Way more than I have time for! The only one I indulge on a regular basis is my passion for cooking, gotta feed the family. I also sew, knit, paint, sing, garden and read as much as I can. DH and I really like playing board or card games together and working on our business plan. We're nerds.

I think I'm going to be ovulating in the next couple days, partly based on my chart but also the baby wanting is really getting to me this weekend. I know intellectually that we should wait til next year, but it is soooo tempting to throw caution to the winds and just go for it now.
10-12-2014 12:29 PM
sidrajedi 1. We have an almost 19 month daughter named Oona. She her favorite things (besides mom and dad of course) are cats, cars, books, singing, dancing and babies. She signs quite a bit and talks a lot, she's a big girl (30lbs and 33" tall, size 7/7.5 shoe). She's very helpful around the house and we try to teach her to do everything that we do so she isn't left out.

We also have an almost 13mo old cat named Felicity. She is all white with chartreuse eyes. She basically lives outside and only comes in to sleep and eat. She comes home to nap with Oona in the middle if the day, she has a schedule too! She is a terrible hunter but she is still kind of a kitten so hopefully that will change, she catches things but doesn't kill them. We have a mouse that is savvy to traps. She's caught the mouse several times but just doesn't know how to hold onto it.

We had a very early m/c in 2004. I don't feel a very strong connection to that unborn child but I find it comforting that my due date for that pregnancy was only a little over a week difference than my due date for My pregnancy with DD.

2. I love the second half of pregnancy. I love showing and feeling the baby move. I love the way I feel mentally. I think I have a hormone imbalance bc I feel so clear headed and even tempered during the second half of pregnancy. Conversely, I do not relish the first half of pregnancy; morning sickness, fatigue, low sex drive and crazy hormones that make me feel MORE crazy than usual. Can I just fast forward?

I'm actually very interested to see how different I might feel with the next pregnancy. Our lives have changed so much, I've changed and my diet has changed. I wonder if any of that will diminish some of these symptoms that I dislike?

3. When baby fever gets bad I research baby names or I lurk on thebump or on MDC. I calculate numerology for names I choose or plan if I get pregnant during a certain month then what will my due date be, what week will I be in when we take a trip we planned etc. Or I find something fun to do with DD and just enjoy her or I find something to sew.

4. I sew (all kinds of stuff) and I do some crafting. I cook for my family, which is considered a hobby in this day and age. I do numerology, tarot and natal charts. I read a LOT. I play Sims3 and some other games, but mostly sims. I garden and take an interest in landscaping design. I like movies but not a lot of new movies, mostly old ones. I know a lot about movies and the people who made them pretty much from when they began up into the 1990's. DH hosts a bad movie night at our home every week. I practice yoga and meditation which are not hobbies in my mind but they can be considered as such. There are other things I enjoy, like horseback riding and boating that have not gotten to do as much as I like lately. There are other things like running and weight lifting that I used to do but do not appeal to me so much any more. I love board and group games too! I also love planning parties and I paint and draw and write, but I am working on a graphic novel right now and hopefully those will soon be a career and not just a hobby.
10-12-2014 11:48 AM
sidrajedi @brown lioness I would find a care provider for my first half of my pregnancy while lining up a second long distance for the second half. I would get ahold of and start a relationship with the second provider ASAP.
10-12-2014 11:44 AM
sidrajedi Check in ?'s!

1. Do you have any children already? If so tell us a little about them. Tell us about furbabies too!

2. What do you look forward to/enjoy most about pregnancy? Least?

3. What do you do to cool your baby fever?

4. Do you have any hobbies?
10-11-2014 11:30 AM
sillysapling I've heard it's much easier to transition from 2 to 3 than it is to transition from 1 to 2. There's just so many factors- age difference, family situation, temperaments, etc. If either has special needs, that has a big impact. I think it's really overwhelming in ways, though. Our toddler has started showing his sense of style and preferences, and so I catch myself seeing things in stores and wanting to buy them for him- and realizing that that will probably really change when we have 2.
10-10-2014 05:34 PM
LTurtle Pokeyac, I'm in the unusual situation of having two that are 10 years apart so my experience is likely not what yours will be. That said, on a hard day it's about four times as hard as it was with one but on a good is more than twice as good. My older is actually more work than the baby in a lot of ways, but she's also really helpful much of the time.
Now I'm just anxious about the transition from 2 to 3!
10-10-2014 03:26 PM
pokeyac For those of you who have already gone from 1 to 2 children, how was the transition? Was it twice as much work? Are you twice as busy? What changes did you make in your life to prepare for adding a second child?
10-10-2014 10:10 AM
LTurtle BrownLioness, I don't know how far you'd being moving, or how far along you would be in your pregnancy. If you're going somewhere that's not more than a couple hours away from where you are, I would say to find a midwife there and commute for your appointments once a month.

If you're going farther than that you could wait until 20 weeks or so to even start prenatal care as long as you feel healthy. Or find dual care - get a midwife at your current home for reduced cost (hopefully) to see you through the first part of your pregnancy and scope out midwives in the new location (perhaps when looking for houses?) to care for you during the later part of pregnancy and the birth.

Whether there are midwives readily available really depends on where you are. Where I live there are so many birth care options and providers that you can pretty much always find a care provider, even if its not your first choice person. I didn't start prenatal care until 18 weeks with this last pregnancy, and I still had a several options for birthing at home or a birth center. More if I wanted to consider a hospital birth.

I know it's different in other places and some women have virtually no birth options. It's worth some serious research before you move about what your choices are likely to be.
10-10-2014 06:02 AM
Brown Lioness Thanks for the moving while pregnant insight, ladies! Hubby and I are definitely team Hire Movers so thas no biggie, but the part that makes me scratch my head is how to start and continue prenatal care. I really want to birth at home and it seems that when you want that, you need to book/hire your midwife 2 secs after you pee on the stick because of availability issues. Just nervous on how that would go, I guess. I mean, should I hire a midwife here and then screen midwives there for availibity and have some sort of dual care?
10-09-2014 06:20 AM
sidrajedi @sillysapling wow! Ovulating twice, I have never heard of that. The one time I took bcps it made my cycle wacky for a while and I didn't even take 'em that long. The depo is strong too so I can only imagine how you feel :/

@pokeyac welcome!
10-09-2014 06:14 AM
sidrajedi @brownlioness I moved twice while pregnant with DD. The first time I was about 20 weeks. The second time I was about seven months along. I did a lot of the packing and unpacking myself too. We are minimalist though so that helped.
10-08-2014 01:54 PM
pokeyac [QUOTE=sidrajedi;18078409]
1. Are you currently cycling? Do you have any fertility concerns/issues that have been diagnosed? Is your cycle pretty regular? Yes, I had my first PPAF when my son turned 1 so this is my 5th cycle. I loved not having a cycle! I am not enjoying having it back but it is necessary. My concern is that I am 39. I had low progesterone last time. I haven't had my testing done for this round yet. My cycle has been pretty regular in the past but it's not at the moment with it being new and breastfeeding.

2. What kind of method are you using to TTA? It seems like most of us are charting. What app do you use? What bbt thermometer do you use? How is charting going? It took me a minute to figure out what TTA meant. Lesbianism works 100% of the time for me! I use Fertility Friend. They let you put in info on IUI's, etc. instead of just sex. I tried using another app that only had a way to mark having sex and it just pissed me off because I could have sex all day every day and not get pregnant. But I digress... I have a thermometer from Walgreen's. I have not been temping because I don't feel like it yet and my son wakes me up at night so I wouldn't get accurate temps. Charting is going fine. I don't have a lot of infomation at this time. I am not doing it too seriously.

3. (A repeat Q but it's been a while and we have some n00bs and things may have changed, etc.) When do you and your SO plan to start TTC? I would like to start in the beginning of the new year. My wife wants us to really sit down and look at our finances because she also wants another child but she doesn't think we can afford it. I think it will work out like it has so far for #1.

4. Who is your favorite Muppet? I love the Muppets. I am a big fan of Gonzo, I even named my cat after him. I also enjoy Beeker a lot.[/QUOTE]


More things on my to-do list before TTC: I need to wean my son to help improve chances of conceiving but also because I will be taking fertility medications.
10-08-2014 01:37 PM
pokeyac
Hello!

I wrote out a long post last week answering these questions, but in between starting it and trying to post it, the website freaked out and it never posted. I couldn't read or post anything for 2 days afterward. So, here's take 2.

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This weeks check-in questions;

1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most? I have always wanted to have at least 2 children. I loved being pregnant and I want another chance to do it all over again. I also want our son to have a sibling.

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for? Not sure. I was fairly happy with the first one so not sure what I would do differently. They just built a brand new hospital by my house and I would like to go there to have all the shiny new stuff and private rooms with room service, but that's just being silly.

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC? I would like to save up more money, pay off my credit card.

4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to? I look forward to spending the weekend with my family and just hanging out. I take my son for a walk on Saturday morning and we pick up coffee and breakfast.
10-08-2014 08:44 AM
sillysapling
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@sillysapling , I wonder if the second O is due to increased hormones & that's causing the weird symptoms? Either way it sounds unpleasant. Sorry you have to deal with that. About the sex stuff, I think you're likely right about it being a queer thing. We tend to have a broader definition of sex than straight folks. (not always of course) How long were you on depo for?
I was on depo for a year the first time, we got off to TTC#1 and got pregnant 8 months after the first "missed" shot. After kiddo was born, my cycle didn't properly come back until 7 months post-partum. My period is always murder for me, and it utterly removed all patience I had for kiddo, so I got back on depo a month or two after that for 6 months. Last shot was in February, I think. A bit after the second shot, I started non-stop bleeding that didn't really let up until mid-summer. I do figure that my hormones are out of whack- I'm not sure if the second O is actually an egg releasing or just hormonal screw ups. It feels more like a very short chemical pregnancy than a normal ovulation- the first time it happened, I went through 3 pregnancy tests before my period finally started because it was so similar to the early pregnancy symptoms from last time. (you can see why abstinence is our preferred method- even with virtually no chance of pregnancy, I'm still that paranoid) I'm considering getting some cheap ovulation tests.

We're not on insurance so I really don't know if getting to a doctor is an option and I just really don't want to deal with the tests and exams and crap. I have period vitamin, which is supposed to help with balancing those hormones, so I'm just taking it and hoping.

If it doesn't sort itself out by the time we're ready to TTC, I'm not sure what'll happen.
10-07-2014 10:07 PM
LTurtle @BrownLioness, moving while pregnant isn't that a big a deal really. Your ligaments all loosen up so you need to be more careful lifting, and depending how far you move you may need to switch care providers midway through the pregnancy. But it's waaaay easier to move while pregnant than to move with a newborn. I've done both, and I will never move with a newborn again if I can help it. I also recommend hiring movers if it's in your budget, whether you move pre or post baby, just to simplify things and make it easier not to overdo. I'm one of those people who always tries to do too much & then gets totally wiped out.
@sillysapling , I wonder if the second O is due to increased hormones & that's causing the weird symptoms? Either way it sounds unpleasant. Sorry you have to deal with that. About the sex stuff, I think you're likely right about it being a queer thing. We tend to have a broader definition of sex than straight folks. (not always of course) How long were you on depo for?
10-07-2014 05:40 PM
sillysapling 1. Are you currently cycling? Do you have any fertility concerns/issues that have been diagnosed? Is your cycle pretty regular?

I did temping for one cycle, and pay attention to CM. I've got symptoms of ovulating twice per cycle (CM, temperature, etc) about a week apart. I'm not really sure if I actually am, apparently it's possible but quite rare, but something's definitely wrong. The second time, there's way more CM than normal, to the point of being very uncomfortable, I cramp up and feel ill.

I'm hoping it'll sort itself out. I'm still coming off depo, which did a real number on my system.

2. What kind of method are you using to TTA? It seems like most of us are charting. What app do you use? What bbt thermometer do you use? How is charting going?

Abstinence. Maybe it's the queer thing, but you can have a satisfying sex life without PIV, and we just want no chance of an unplanned pregnancy. Always has been- we didn't have "real" sex until we were TTC#1- over 3 years after getting married.

3. (A repeat Q but it's been a while and we have some n00bs and things may have changed, etc.) When do you and your SO plan to start TTC?

We're rethinking it now. I work in retail and the holiday season is the busiest, so I do not want to be in the third trimester for it. We may be able to start TTC in January, or we may wait until next fall.

4. Who is your favorite Muppet?

I'm actually not that big into the muppets.
10-07-2014 05:29 PM
taters 1. I am currently having a 35 day cycle....which is long for me but it seems to be pretty regular which I'm guessing is a good sign.
2. We are using condoms. We are finally without roommates for the first time in our relationship, which makes sex while cosleeping sooooooooo much easier.
3. We are planning to start TTC in June and maybe earlier if my yoga/walk/eating healthy goes well. I also want to have a part time job under wraps before getting pregnant.
4. Animal is my favorite muppet.
10-06-2014 07:34 PM
Brown Lioness 1. Are you currently cycling? Do you have any fertility concerns/issues that have been diagnosed? Is your cycle pretty regular? I believe that I just ovulated on Friday (yay!) CD19 (seems kinda late doesnt it?), so im currently on CD22. I dont have any fertility issues that I know of yet because we've never TTC'd. My cycle has always been pretty regular and I generally know when to expect it. I joke to my gyno that Im her most boring patient and I hope that remains true (positively anyway).


2. What kind of method are you using to TTA? It seems like most of us are charting. What app do you use? What bbt thermometer do you use? How is charting going? To be frank, we use the withdrawl method most of the time, with some condom use as well. Hubby is very good at it obviously since we been together 11 years and no babies (or.....). I use Fertility Friend and sometimes Glow. The BBT thermometer I use is the Geratherm basal digital thermometer, shown
here  here
Its really good and i love that it saves the last 10 temps and that the beeps aren't that loud.


So far, Im pretty satisfied and excited really with what im seeing on my first month of charting. Its not really a nuisance to temp in the mornings as I thought it would be and its kinda fun following my cycle each day. Im hoping what I observe helps us to get pregnant faster once we start TTC as next week, I turn 35.

3. (A repeat Q but it's been a while and we have some n00bs and things may have changed, etc.) When do you and your SO plan to start TTC? So far, we are planning to start the 2015 New Year TTCing

4. Who is your favorite Muppet? Wow...well, if i had to pick, I guess my favorite muppet is Animal. I looooooveee him, he is just the epitome of joy and freedom to me lol.


Hmm, weekly check in questions.....i dunno, im drawing a blank....mostly because this is the first time im approaching TTCing FOR REAL and so all my questions I feel are very basic and vanilla, lol.

I know one thing Im dealing with is planning my life around a potential pregnancy next year and then keeping folks out of my dern uterus in the process.

My closest coworkers are all women so naturally, we have synced our cycles. So now, they know most EVERYTHING about my cycle and have even made me "the rabbit" which means when im on, that means they are next...like, my period apparently starts the hormone train lol. So anyway, how the flickety flick am I gonna keep them off my trail once I start TTC and potentially pregnant? They already suspect stuff cause my coworker asked for apps to track her period and i stupidly told her about Fertility Friend and Glow and now she's side eyeing me cause all the info she saw was geared toward getting pregnant (yea, im dumb lol).

And the other thing about planning around a potential pregnancy, hubby and I agree that we need to move closer to family for network support. So our lease is up next Oct, but what happens if I so happen to get pregnant in say...May? Move in the middle of pregnancy and if so, how in the HEEZY does that work?

/end of ramble
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