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03-18-2014 09:07 PM
Harmony96 It was about 10-15 minutes for all three of my pushed births.
02-16-2014 07:19 AM

5-10 minutes. I remember it was 3 pushes total, and dd shot out like a rocket. The student OB nearly dropped her - she was surprised!


Total labor was about 8 hours. Water broke the day before, went to the hospital after 24 hours with no sign of labor, finally got in a room about 1 am, dd was born at 9:15 in the morning, just in time for me to get breakfast.

02-12-2014 04:32 PM
miramom First baby was 5 hours of labor, including 30 minutes of pushing in an awkward position(hospital). Second baby was 2.5 hours of labor, including a couple pushes while squatting in a pool(homebirth).
02-06-2014 11:39 AM

First birth, somewhere around 3 hours.

Second birth, I think 15 minutes 

02-06-2014 09:27 AM

My first was 4 1/2 hours, but my second was a 9 minute self projector:) I don't like to talk about the third..., haha.

02-03-2014 08:14 AM

I was in labor for about 13 hours total, and he pretty much came out on his own in less than ten minutes. Technically my body was pushing, but I wasn't conciously doing any work. If anything I was trying to hold back a little so that he wouldn't come quite so fast. Holding back hurts a lot more than just letting them come! I had the bed in an upright position, and pushed myself up with my arms during contractions to relieve the pressure on my bottom. I screamed during every pushing contraction. And I pretty much yelled at the nurse when she tried to get me to "help them hold my legs back". I was busy, and I figured she and my husband had it covered. The doctor was hardly there at all, and hardly did anything.

02-02-2014 10:16 PM
kitteh My first was born posterior and after stalling at 8cm for 8 hours I consented to pitocin, but no epidural. Still, because of the pitocin they had me strapped to the bed and I pushed on my back for 2.5 hours. It was the classic nurse-directed purple pushing complete with counting and everyone cheering me on. Labor was a total of 28 hours. She was 7 lbs 12 oz and born Sunnyside up!

My second was a hospital-based water birth and after 6 hours of labor I pushed for about 45 minutes. She was 9lbs 9oz. Although I felt my body spontaneously pushing on its own, I was surprised that I had to work so hard on top of that in order to get her out! No tears with either one, but I have had some mild pelvic-floor issues after the last.
02-02-2014 09:57 PM
olimama826 I pushed for about an hour and 45 minutes but that's because both of his hands/forearms came out with his head. They were crossed at the forearms, making the elbows wider so he got a bit stuck and I had to hike a leg up! I was very glad I was in water for that.
01-31-2014 07:43 AM

I pushed for about 20minutes for all three of my babies.


Im glad it was only 20minutes, because despite the pain of labor for me (the low moaning helped me, but i got a sore throat from moaning so much :-)), and the fact that transition has gotta be one of the most unpleasant things-sweating, vomiting...i still found the pushing phase the worst of all, in that each time i feared for my baby and for myself in that time. Only 20mintes....but 20 minutes of thinking i was going to break in half, or my baby was  going to suffocate in my birth canal and never come out.  And then she came! Perked up, and looked around! My  ds 1 and 2 both had meconium but were fine after a minute...everything was fine! I still feel so blessed.


The irony is (and im grateful for this irony), i had no tears whatsoever with my last two  9lber  babies,  despite fearing i was going to break in half. With my first (a hospital birth, my other two were homebirths) i got a very small episiotomy which my midewife later told me  was unnecessary.


And i'd do it all again!

01-30-2014 12:03 PM

4 hours of active pushing after the midwife broke my water and she descended, with maybe 30 mins of spontaneous mild pushing before that. Total active labor of around 14 hours, with on and off contractions for two days beforehand. I don't think there was any significant "reason" for it taking that long other than my tissues apparently being super tight. I didn't know the pushing went on so long until I was told afterward - it hadn't seemed that long to me while I was in the "zone" so to speak. Pushed in the birth pool for most of the time, then tried the stool for maybe two pushes and it was useless, then finally got her moving down while on my back on the bed. Thankfully DD tolerated it all without any issues. Her heart rate barely had a hiccup the whole time.


ETA: I pushed when I had the urge, not when told to do so. But no amount of "breathing the baby down" would have gotten that child out of me. She had to be PUSHED out and it took a lot of work. And I don't think there was any way I was going to avoid tearing. I had 2nd degree tears down the perineum and into the vagina on two sides. Once my tissues finally tore she shot out of me all at once - no pause between head and body. And she was only 7.5 lbs.

01-29-2014 10:20 PM

I pushed for 1 hour. Her head was crowning at the 4 hour mark with no pushing. Contractions did the work for me up til then. But then the last hour was all my pushing. It wasn't easy to get that head out lol. Total labor time was 5 hours. Home birth.

01-29-2014 07:21 PM

6 hour unmedicated birth center birth with 22 minutes of pushing. Super intense with both stages! 

01-25-2014 12:14 PM

With my first, I had an induction epidural and a monitor belt around my belly and the OB basically told me when to push. My doula noticed and pointed out that I could tell when to push on my own and so we took off the monitor. I started the pushing stage at 5:45pm and DS1 was born at 6:15pm. I think there were 12 pushes in all. 


For my second, I wanted a much more natural experience.  I was in transition for about 90 minutes and I didn't push until I felt I had to, at the very end. Two pushes and he was out. 

01-25-2014 10:30 AM
tremieli Maybe 15 minutes with my first, but may have been more like 10.
01-24-2014 06:10 PM

My first came 5 weeks early - which was a big surprise to me - and the labor was fast & furious. I was terrified and could only think, "this isn't supposed to be happening yet!" All in all I pushed maybe 20 min or so, but for the first part I was literally closing my legs. I just didn't want it to happen. I'm a midwife, and the intensity of this emotional reaction was a huge lesson!! Our minds are truly mighty, and can make a difference in labor and birth...but in the end, our bodies are mighty too!! But to all you preggos reading this, remember that fast pushing isn't always best though, and sometimes a slower 2nd stage will actually prevent tears. Small babies that fly out can feel worse than the big bubbas sometimes:) 

01-24-2014 03:25 PM

I don't see an option for "not applicable". My OB convinced my to be induced, after 2 days I had not dilated at all, and was basically forced to have a c-section. With my 2nd, I pushed about 30 minutes after 12 hours of labor to birth an 11 pound baby. I had #3 a home water birth and went from water breaking at 6 cm to done in 35 minutes, mostly involuntary pushing contractions, maybe 2 active pushes for a 10lb 13oz baby. 

01-24-2014 08:00 AM
mama Adhiambo

She came out in 3 pushes. The doctor wouldn't have been there in time except she scared the nurses by moving away from the heart monitor shortly before I started pushing. The doctor got there and saw that everything was actually fine and said, I'm going to go get coffee. Well, he didn't have time for coffee. My labor was only 6 hours in the hospital and from time of contractions 9 hours total. My parents joked that the next kid would be born at home or on the way to the hospital.

01-23-2014 03:02 PM
Originally Posted by Philothea View Post

I pushed for under 15 minutes. It was completely involuntary as my midwife was telling me to stop at first and I tried to stop but it was completely impossible! My body just TOOK OVER and out she flew into the water of our homebirth. smile.gif She was also posterior!

ETA: I submitted my reply before reading through any of the other replies. Now that I just read through them I wanted to add that I am with the ladies who experienced "fetal ejection reflex." I had never even heard of that, but fits exactly what I've tried to describe to people. It is crazy to me when I hear of or see a woman being told by a doctor or nurse "ok now it's time to push" or "now you need to push" as though the woman isn't given the chance to know that for herself(!!), to listen to her body and allow it to naturally transition into a state where it will push for her. I didn't *push* one single time. My midwife only did a cervical check to see if I could go in the water and discovered I was only at 4cm, that is why she told me i should stop pushing so that I wouldn't swell my cervix. But like I said, try though I might, there was NO stopping my body... it was expelling this baby whether anyone liked it or not. wink1.gif
As I've heard others explain or seen women in birth videos who are straining their faces and appear to be *pushing* similarly to how you push a huge heavy piece of furniture... it makes me wonder if they are being told to push too soon...? I'm not saying that I did a "better job in my labor" or anything like that so please don't take it that way. I know every woman's labor experience is unique and I believe that is one of the beauties of it all! Maybe some women would truly never get to that point, but I am simply questioning if more women were left alone during labor and free to surrender to their bodies instead of being *told* when, what and where to do something... then would there be a higher percentage of women experiencing the "no push phenomenon" fetal ejection reflex..? i wonder...

I did all the preparation for a hypnobirthing (relaxing, calm. No pushing, etc). I was in a very natural-child-birth supportive hospital, in active labor for 7 hours. Prior to that I was in early labor for 50 hours (surges ranging from 10 to 4 minutes apart). For the first 4 hours of active labor my midwife was okay with me changing positions and locations. I went from bed to tub to bathroom to tub to bed. The last two hours she suggested I push because he was in the birth canal but my surges were too weak to expell him. I ended up needing pitocin ( for only 5 minutes) to jump start my surges.... That was after an hour and a half of him hanging out in the birth canal. I also began to dehydrate and I and the baby were low on oxygen so I needed an oxygen mask and am IV of fluids. I NEVER wanted all those things but it was becoming dangerous for me and my baby. Oh... My midwife also had to give me an episiotomy... After he was born she said that in any other hospital they would have rushed me into the OR for a c section... It wasn't the calm hypno-water birth I wanted but I did it without pain meds and vaginally. My point is...if u were able to have your ideal birth you are lucky. Sometimes circumstances cause women to have those less-than- ideal births...I was one of them but I am thankful he arrived without being in a drug-haze. Of course, we are now in full blown attachment parenting and he is thriving!
01-23-2014 01:07 PM

First baby - 17 minutes.  She was 10.6 lbs.  I woke at 5 am with lower back pressure, drove 45 mins to closest birthing center at 5 pm, I was 7 centimeters dialated, got into the tub, labored another 2.5 hrs, pushed 17 minutes.  Was lovely and peaceful.  For me anyway.  The cord was wrapped around her neck, she was just fine but I wonder what it was like for her spiritually. 


Second baby - maybe one minute.  He was 9/14 lbs.  I woke at 4 am sweating.  One 'intense' contraction, water broke, went into bathroom, he pretty much fell out of me =). 


Wonder what the third one would be like, ha! =)

01-23-2014 12:38 PM

According to my midwife, I pushed for 4 hours and 2 minutes. I was in labor for 55 hours (from when I called her with minute long contractions, which were 4 minutes apart), and really intense labor for about 32 hours. I had back labor so never felt the urge to push. My partner sat on the edge of the island in our kitchen, and I hung my arms over his thighs and had each foot on a chair, so I could hang my bum down low. Where I had the back labor, I wasn't getting signals from body of where to push, so my midwife held her fingers inside of me and told me to push them out. Once my daughter crowned, I waddled to the living room, where the birth pool was, and had her there. She was 9 lbs 9 oz with a 13 3/4" head, and didn't need 1 stitch!!

01-23-2014 11:08 AM
WallaWallaMamma Boy am I glad to read that some subsequent labors aren't easier for others! I was in active labor for about 12 hours with both my girls. The first time, I pushed for three and a half hours on my back before I just got too tired and she got stuck in an awkward position (the women in my family have especially narrow pelvises). I opted for a c-section but bet I could have done it if they let me move. With my second girl, I planned a home water birth but the cord was too tightly wrapped around her neck and she had dangerous tachycardia, so I transferred to hospital at 9 cm and had to get another c-section (no vbacs allowed where I live). Wish it could have been more natural, but without help I and/or my girls would have died. Hooray for modern medicine when you need it!
01-23-2014 09:30 AM

Overall labor was about 28 hours. But the pushing was super quick...less than 20 minutes. I joke that he pushed himself out (all 9 lbs 10 oz. of him).

01-23-2014 05:13 AM

With my first it was 45min to an hour. I had an epi though so that could  have contributed!

01-23-2014 04:42 AM

I tend to have very long and intense labors followed by a fast and intense pushing stage. By no means does it get easier with subsequent births, not for me anyways. 

01-23-2014 03:11 AM

I had hard back labor for a day and a half and pushed for three hours with my daughter. She was face-up, weighed 9 lbs. and had a very large head. My pubic symphisis separated during the birth. The labor was mostly natural, but I was not able to get past 5 cm without assistance, so I was given pitocin and an epidural and woke up less than 2 hours later with the urge to push and sensation in my pelvic floor. The epidural failed in just the right way, so I was able to feel enough to push out my daughter. Apparently women in my situation almost always end up with a c-section, so I feel very fortunate to have had the birth experience that I did. My amazing doula and husband were essential to the process, as I needed counter-pressure on my low back through all of my contractions.

01-23-2014 01:04 AM
Originally Posted by msella View Post

This will sound nuts to some I am certain, but I did not push- at all with either of my daughters. My body literally expelled them from my body, and no effort was required of me other than being a part of the process. Both were vaginal, drug free midwife assisted births. 3 hours of labor for the first and then 2 hours of labor. But I did nothing but hand myself over to the process... it sounds crazy even now. But I never pushed at all.

Neither did I! My labor was 5 hours, unmedicated, at home, with a midwife. This was my first pregnancy. I was 8 days overdue (in July, yuck!) And was terribly worried I would go too overdue for a homebirth. As soon as it was confirmed, via phone with my midwife, that I was actually in labor, I embraced it! As my grandma says "the child birthed himself!" And she should know, she saw everything, and played birthing assistant, as did my mother.
01-23-2014 12:05 AM
3 angels
Originally Posted by msella View Post

This will sound nuts to some I am certain, but I did not push- at all with either of my daughters. My body literally expelled them from my body, and no effort was required of me other than being a part of the process. Both were vaginal, drug free midwife assisted births. 3 hours of labor for the first and then 2 hours of labor. But I did nothing but hand myself over to the process... it sounds crazy even now. But I never pushed at all.


 On my fifth baby I studied unassisted birth voraciously just to learn what it was supposed to be like when no one interfered or coached.  I read hundreds of stories.  Many, even a majority of the moms described delivery just like you did.  It isn't crazy at all.  It is what can often happen when a birthing mother is undistracted by her birthing assistants.  In my first four births I had never felt a "pushing contraction", it was always transition and then my body quit.  The pushing phase always took FOREVER with me doing all the work.  I realized that hospital staff had made me wait too long to push with every birth.  Those really hard to deal with contractions that came at about 8cm…that is when I should have pushed because those contractions were powerful and they would have gotten the baby out efficiently.  When I felt those huge contractions with my fifth baby the nurse said I was 5-7cm.  I pushed, very slightly, through each contraction from then on and I felt my body do all the rest of the work.  My baby was born with very little effort from me an hour later.  My main job was major pushing the last two minutes when the shoulders got stuck.

01-22-2014 11:01 PM
CuddleBug'sMama My first was a c-section and I never got to pushing. My second was a VBAC and I pushed for 45 min. My third (2nd VBAC) I pushed for 20 min
01-22-2014 08:41 PM
Sharlla With my first bit was 30 mins. I was just induced 36 weeks and ended up with a epi. It was a 4 hour total from contractions to birth so not horrible.
01-22-2014 08:39 PM

My first came 4 weeks early (36 weeks) and we hadn't had our crash course in labouring techniques yet, so... i pushed like heck when the urge came, not knowing that the baby's head would move down the canal and then back up a bit, and then again, and then again. I cranked him out of there, like an animal, I think in about 10 minutes with lots of tearing! ugh. I knew better for number 2 and 3, and still only did 10-15 minutes of pushing, but allowed for some ebb and flow in the process!

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