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Today 08:59 AM
ultrafighter Kinda bummed... I worked out the earliest we can start trying for #2 because of this cruise, and I wish it was sooner. I can’t turn 24 weeks at any time during the cruise, so my last period would have to begin on or after June 1st. My WomanLog app predicts when I should start my period based on the length of my cycle that I tell it, so if we hold steady at 29 days, I should have a period on May 24th and again on June 22nd. So we should wait to start trying until July of next year.

That seems so far away but still a little scary (adding another).
Yesterday 01:03 PM
ultrafighter Thanks for being willing to look at my chart, ladies. Let me explain what we're looking at here. On the far left, that first orange bar is the first day of my August period. I didn't get my thermometer until the day after my period ended so that's why my graph starts late. I'm pretty certain that big mountain on Aug 28th is ovulation. Then September is the same with the orange lines, and the last dot on the right is my temp from this morning. My period is due to start the day after the graph ends (Oct 4th). Because I don't see a big huge mountain/explosion/etc I'm not entirely sure when I ovulated or if that's going on right now?? Since nothing's as drastic as last month. My periods before the Implanon I received in 2010 were like clockwork, every 28 days. While I had the implant, I had a couple of periods a year (that was lovely), and when it was removed they went back to clockwork every 28 days. I got my period back at 5 months PP, and the first two were 28 days. Then the next two were 29 days. Now I'm not sure when I'm going to get my period because it seems like I may be ovulating really really late. I actually can't wait for my period to start again (what??) to see what everything looks like on the graph. Even though it's a teeny bit maddening.

Anyhoo, thanks again for just having a look.
Yesterday 12:47 PM
ultrafighter
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This weeks check-in questions;

1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most? I love being a mom, and I really loved being pregnant. But in all honesty, what excites me most is raising godly children in the Torah (first 5 books of the Bible) who will carry that on.

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for? My first was a completely unmedicated/unintervened birth in a birth center that was wonderful. I couldn't actually deliver in the water (I just wasn't figuring out the pushing), so I hope to deliver in the water the next time now that I know what I'm doing. LOL If we live in a different house that's got a better layout that is actually suited for a home birth, I'd like to deliver at home next time.

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC? I didn't think about this until this question, but we're booked to go on a cruise next November. I can't go if I'm farther along than 24 weeks, and if we have a baby by then, s/he will need to be at least 6 months old to sail with us. And there ain't no way I'd go without either of my babies. wow This is a big factor to consider in TTC timing that I can't believe I never thought of before... So, thanks for asking? haha

4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to? DH and I have started this Friday night pampering ritual where we give each other mini facials and do foot scrubs on each other. It's lovely and romantic. And sensual. hehe
These were good!
Yesterday 12:36 PM
ultrafighter
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Oh and I just remembered I had a question for everyone! @sidrajedi mentioned about saving up for a homebirth and that got me thinking about looking into my insurance. My health insurance when I was working and pregnant with my dd was much cheaper and covered more then the family insurance DH has now, so I figured might as well look into how much this will cost us. My health insurance had a little app that let you get a quote and it was like $5250 out of pocket with a $1000 deductible (which if you joined a healthy pregnancy program they had they would waive the deductible) for hospital vaginal delivery. (That cost estimate included all prenatal checkups, hospital stay, and postnatal visit.) We're going to change our health insurance this coming Jan to a more comprehensive plan (hopefully!) but I was wondering how that compared to everyone elses?
My insurance covers at least birth centers, but the one we had our heart set on was out of network so we just bit the bullet and paid out of pocket. So I have no idea what ours would look like next time if we went in network. We have a high deductible health plan, though, so we would have to pay $3200 before anything was "covered" anyway so we may as well just stick with our beloved birth center and pay out of pocket.

p.s. I realize this is zero help.
09-28-2014 07:12 PM
bright-midnight 1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most?
Both of my kiddos have been asking for a brother or a sister for a while now. We were pretty adamant that we were done and then over time I began to rethink the "done" part after I had a ton of pregnancy symptoms and became way too happy with the idea of a third.

I'm just really excited about experiencing pregnancy and a new baby all over again. My kiddos are both really excited about having a sibling as well!

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for?
This one will definitely be a repeat cesarean since I've had two previous c/s. I am not a fan of early deliveries, so at the very least, I would like to go into labor on my own. Virginia hospitals aren't the most vbac friendly and finding one to do a vba2c is going to be next to impossible.

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC?
I purchased my prenatals so I can start taking them this week. Other than that, just waiting to have this IUD taken out in December.

4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to?
I look forward to meal planning at the end of each week and then shopping/prepping most of our meals for the week ahead over the weekends. It helps us stay on track diet-wise as well as saves us money! win/win!

@LTurtle I bought a Rite Aid brand bbt since it's all they had in store. Do you have any symptoms? The tww is tough!
09-28-2014 06:29 PM
sillysapling "1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most?"

I can't really put anything rational on it, it just feels like the right choice for our family. I know that getting pregnant right now is the wrong choice, even though I'm very broody I also know in my gut that I don't think it's a good idea to be pregnant right now. My gut also says that it'd be good to have another in the not-incredibly-distant future.

"2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for?"

I think I mentioned it briefly, and I talked baout it in other threads, but I was a really easy baby to give birth to. Technically mom spent 6 hours in labor, but she didn't realize she was in labor until her water broke and I was crowning an hour later. My dad caught me (coached over the phone by the midwife) and I came out pretty much as the EMTs got there.

I would really like to have a too-quick-to-get-to-the-hospital birth. I don't know if either of us would be comfortable intentionally doing a UC, although we both agree that I should labor for as long as possible at home. I've also been impressed with some of the hospital birthing centers in the area. I'd really, really like to have the option of having our first there, hopefully I can find a place that'll do that. If that is, we'll be looking into doulas for kiddo.

"3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC?"

Just getting financially sorted out. I'm also now going to be playing with the idea of making my own baby-wearing shirts because all the professionally made ones are so expensive.

"4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to? "

Not right now, actually.

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@sillysapling I've been looking into supplemental insurance. I'm not sure if you're a SAHM or not, but if you do work AFLAC has a short term disability coverage that pays a portion (I think like 60%) of what you make when you're on maternity leave. They also have hospital indemnity insurance, basically pays you if you have a hospital stay, but if you're going do a homebirth obviously that wouldn't work for you. The money goes directly to you and you can use it for anything food, gas, bills, baby supplies, etc. I'm a SAHM so the short term won't work for me but I am considering the hospital insurance. Just have to make sure you get the insurance before you get pregnant, I think a month ahead. I also googled medicaid for pregnant women and it looks like as long as you go to a medicaid provider all your pregnancy related bills are covered for prenatal, delivery, and 60 days postpartum, so that would be good for you! It might not work for a homebirth though, so that's something to think about.
That's a really good idea, I'll have to look into that, although I'm not sure how it works for part-time/hourly workers. We're looking into insurance options as well. There's also a low-cost clinic not too far from us, where kiddo goes while we get insurance sorted, my partner and I are filling out the paperwork to get on the wait list to be patients there, which should help with covering the expense of "non-pregnancy related care" that medicaid fro pregnant people doesn't cover.
09-28-2014 04:42 PM
LTurtle This weeks check-in questions;

1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most? It's complicated, but what it mostly boils down to is that our family doesn't feel complete yet. I've really loved watching the sibling bond my two kiddos have formed, I'm excited to see how that grows with more sibs to love. I'm a singleton so all of that is new for me.

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for? I'm hoping for a homebirth, or maybe another birth center birth. I didn't birth at home the first two times because my living conditions weren't great, that's changed now thankfully. But the birth center far exceeded my expectations, I wouldn't mind birthing there again at all.

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC?The agreement DH and made is that DS needed to be "walking, talking & using the potty" before we'd be ready for the next. At 15 months he's just about there so I feel like we've got a green light, but I'm not cycling again yet and we'd really like a spring baby so we're waiting. Also we would like a bigger car, a dog and weekend away without the kids - which we've never done.

4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to? Every week I take the bus downtown with the kids. We visit the central library (a grand 19th century building full of marble and art as well as books) and the farmers market, sometimes have a picnic or play at a park. It's a fun outing where I get to say "yes" to them a lot. We also usually have brunch with my dad on Sundays, and we used to eat pizza and watch a movie all together on Fridays but that's been mostly not happening lately.

AFM: I'm kind of driving myself crazy wondering if we caught that first egg or not. I think I just need to take a test in the next week or so, so I can stop thinking about it. I think I'm going to go ahead and get a thermometer so I can start temping. I'm tired of waiting for AF and hopefully it will keep me from frantically wondering next time we DTD. Is there any particular thermometer you ladies recommend for regular temping? We had a cheap digital from the grocery store, but it was really unreliable so I need to get a new one.

I've been kind of vacillating on my readiness for a new babe. My heart feels ready, but I don't know if my body is. And I don't know if my baby is. He still nurses SO MUCH, and is very attached to me. Part of me worries about taking that away before he's ready. We just got home from a weekend away, between all the excitement and unfamiliar food he hardly ate anything but I was able to nurse him enough that I didn't have to worry about whether he was getting the nutrients he needs. It's really handy to have that.
09-28-2014 10:27 AM
Brown Lioness I have no clue on the insurance front, just that my insurance Aetna doesn't cover homebirth, at least that is what i have read. Im prepared to save for a homebirth anyway but it sucks that my insurance is so against it.


This weeks check-in questions;

1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most? Well, even tho ive been very cautious about the prospect of being a parent, Ive always wanted children of my own and I think the same goes for my husband. We want to expand our family because we want to experience that part of life, period. What excites me the most is watching my husband become a father. I just think he will be an awesome daddy and I am really looking forward to witnessing that.

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for? Im hoping for a homebirth, waterbirth too would be awesome.

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC?

This is the list I made to ramp up to TTC:

1. Start charting to determine if/when I ovulate
2. Continue/step up my gym and track routine
3. Round out my diet with more fertility foods (i.e. more seafood, especially oysters, clams, and salmon fish eggs and more liver) and start adding in a prenatal
4. More meditation and journaling
5. REALLY decide if we are going to get a dog (no puppies!) now or not
6. Continue working on credit and open a baby fund account
7. Participate in as many permablitzes as I can for experience for my own upcoming venture


4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to? I look forward to going to the farmer's markets and the farm with them every week, i look forward to breastfeeding them and then cooking and eating delicious meals with them, and I look forward to long walks with them.
09-28-2014 08:00 AM
aslandess @LTurtle Thanks for all the great info on insurance! Unfortunately last January our insurance plan changed drastically and it really stinks. Yeah our plan covers 60% of the costs of the hospital delivery in network and 50% out of network. There's a different plan we can choose this Jan but if it's like this past year's options it only covers 70%. If I end up going with an out of network provider though it's not worth it. Honestly home births sound wonderful but I had complications last time so I don't want to setup for a homebirth and then end up going to hospital, plus hubby is against it. There is only one birth center near me but unfortunately they just had an investigation from the Dept of Health due to maternal and infant deaths. I haven't been able to find any recent reviews of local hospitals either, and I feel weird asking people if I'm not pregnant yet.

@sillysapling I've been looking into supplemental insurance. I'm not sure if you're a SAHM or not, but if you do work AFLAC has a short term disability coverage that pays a portion (I think like 60%) of what you make when you're on maternity leave. They also have hospital indemnity insurance, basically pays you if you have a hospital stay, but if you're going do a homebirth obviously that wouldn't work for you. The money goes directly to you and you can use it for anything food, gas, bills, baby supplies, etc. I'm a SAHM so the short term won't work for me but I am considering the hospital insurance. Just have to make sure you get the insurance before you get pregnant, I think a month ahead. I also googled medicaid for pregnant women and it looks like as long as you go to a medicaid provider all your pregnancy related bills are covered for prenatal, delivery, and 60 days postpartum, so that would be good for you! It might not work for a homebirth though, so that's something to think about.
09-28-2014 07:09 AM
sidrajedi This weeks check-in questions;

1. What are you personal reasons for starting/expanding your family? What excites you the most?

2. (Brought on by recent discussion) What kind of birth experience are you hoping for?

3. Do you have any plans, preparations, bucket list, or baby moon that you would like to do before TTC?

4. Do you have a favorite weekly or regular activity, something you look forward to?
09-28-2014 06:40 AM
sidrajedi @sillysapling DH and I want to live aboard rather than buy a house. We were looking at Wilmington but I read about homebirth being illegal and changed my mind. It's good to know that it's not actually illegal! We love NC. It looks like we might be looking at going to FL to find our boat though since we have kin there.
09-27-2014 10:02 PM
sillysapling I doubt it covers homebirth, although would be pleasantly surprised. I was more thinking that if insurance options fell through, homebirth could still be a (relatively) affordable and pleasant option. I talked to some people who were on medicaid while pregnant, and apparently it's pretty good and covers most OBGYNs.

I'm glad that when I told my partner about that that their first response was to agree to look up everything we need to do as safe a UC as possible, though.

RTP=Reserach Triangle Park, roughly the raleigh-durham area.
09-27-2014 07:38 PM
mleigh23 I'm not sure what exactly it covers for a home birth. I would love to know also. I used Pregnancy Medicaid with my children but I had hospital births then so I'm not sure about it. I think it might cover some things if your midwife/doctor accepts it. I contacted Dr. David Hayes maybe a year or two ago and he mentioned medicaid covering some things but I'd still have to pay what it didn't cover. He didn't mention items, just amounts. RTP? Is that Raleigh Triangle P? area? I would definitely contact some of the birth centers and/or midwives in the area and ask them what if any does the medicaid cover. I'm sure they could give you an idea.
09-27-2014 07:06 PM
sillysapling
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I'm a lurker normally. But I thought you might want to know this.

It's not exactly illegal for you to homebirth in NC. It's illegal for certain midwives that do not have a doctor backup. There are plenty of midwives in NC that do homebirths. It's just a little harder to find them. If you go to some LLL meetings or contact a few doulas, I'm sure you'll get some names of some homebirth midwives in NC. And we have a few birth centers in the state also. The website nchomebirth.com might help also. Hope this helps.
It does, thank you. I admit, I was getting incredibly confused- I kept hearing that it was illegal, then that it wasn't.

We're in the RTP area so there are a few birth centers that look really good. Right now my only concern is that I'd likely be on the Medicaid for Pregnant People, and I have no idea what it actually covers. I've been trying to research it, and I've recently posted in a local queer family group if anyone has any experience with it. I just would've liked to have the option of homebirth, especially if it was something we could possibly afford even without insurance.

(sorry if this has totally derailed this thread- this has actually been a big concern for us and it's really helpful to get the information)
09-27-2014 06:41 PM
mleigh23 I'm a lurker normally. But I thought you might want to know this.

It's not exactly illegal for you to homebirth in NC. It's illegal for certain midwives that do not have a doctor backup. There are plenty of midwives in NC that do homebirths. It's just a little harder to find them. If you go to some LLL meetings or contact a few doulas, I'm sure you'll get some names of some homebirth midwives in NC. And we have a few birth centers in the state also. The website nchomebirth.com might help also. Hope this helps.
09-27-2014 06:14 PM
sillysapling Ugh, I looked it up after you said that, sidrajedi. I was really excited about possibly having another option in case the state medicaid just really sucked. Home birth is illegal in this 2#$@$@# state. Crap. Just... crap. I didn't even consider...
09-27-2014 07:23 AM
sidrajedi Well, the homebirth and prenatal care was $3,600 due in regular installments by 36 weeks. Labs were $120. Homebirth supplies were about $60. And chiro and acupuncture related to pregnancy was about $135. = $3,915 out of pocket.

None of us are insured because the cost of insurance yearly > medical services we use that are covered by insurance. Baisically it's cheaper to pay out of pocket even with the current tax on being uninsured. I really want to start a medial savings fund though bc the only part I do not like about our situation is pulling money from a spending pool or having to start a savings when we need to pay a medical expense. I'd like to already have a fund going when we need to pay for something.
09-27-2014 04:18 AM
sillysapling First time, I was on CT's state insurance (Husky, cannot say enough good things about it). It's my understanding it would've covered 100% of the costs of hospital birth and it covered all but $450 of homebirth.

Now I live in NC and I'll have to apply for the insurance while pregnant, it only covers "pregnancy related costs", and I have no idea what hospitals it covers or how much it covers. I know it has co-pays for children's insurance. I'm actually really worried about that, insurance is my biggest fear right now. If nothing else, we can get catastrophe (whatever it's called) insurance to at least reign in how much it'll cost us.

I'm really hoping that, now that my fibromyalgia is diagnosed and under control, this next one will take after me and come quickly and easily before we have a chance to get to the hospital. Dare to dream, eh? I have no idea how much showing up with baby already in tow would cost us vs laboring and birthing there.
09-27-2014 12:38 AM
LTurtle @aslandess , DD was born in the hospital but I was on state insurance so I didn't pay a dime. However, we did quite a bit of looking into things when deciding where to deliver DS. He was born at a local FSBC that specializes in midwife attended waterbirth. (side note: it was awesome!) We have health insurance through DH's work, but it's pretty complicated. The simplified version is this:

Hospital birth at a "network" hospital, OB attending is covered 80% not including pre/post natal office visits, lab work and imaging. The average cost (in the US) of an uncomplicated vaginal delivery with no interventions or anesthesia is $10,000 in the hospital. So our out of pocket costs would have about $2,000, plus the copays for office visits, lab work and such which could easily run another $1,000.

For any "out of network" care provider our insurance covered 50%. The birth center we used was obviously out of their network, but their prices are package deals - it includes all pre/post natal visits whether at their office or your home, the delivery inclusive of any medications needed (O2 or whatever), plus up to 2 days stay at the birth center post partum with round the clock doula care, room service, laundry service and a professional massage. Their cost varies depending on a few things, but I think it's about $4,000-6,000. Plus we were able to get on a payment plan with reduced overall costs for low income patients. All told (after the discount & insurance payment) we payed the birth center about $1,600, plus $200 for lab work to an independent lab.

The next baby I hope to deliver at home, and I don't know details but I expect to pay the midwife maybe $2,000-3,000 and probably rent a birth tub as well. Whatever insurance we have at the time may not cover any of it, but it would still be better than paying the same to deliver at a hospital where I would be miserable. (not saying hospital births are bad, but mine was and I'm never doing it again if I can help it) I think it really varies geographically what costs and options are. I'm super lucky to live in a place with lots of birth options.

I think it's really smart to start planning/saving for the birth before you're actually pregnant. For those (like me) who have unplanned pregnancies, there are homebirth midwives who are willing to do barter/sliding scale/payment plans for lower income folks.
09-26-2014 10:29 PM
aslandess Oh and I just remembered I had a question for everyone! @sidrajedi mentioned about saving up for a homebirth and that got me thinking about looking into my insurance. My health insurance when I was working and pregnant with my dd was much cheaper and covered more then the family insurance DH has now, so I figured might as well look into how much this will cost us. My health insurance had a little app that let you get a quote and it was like $5250 out of pocket with a $1000 deductible (which if you joined a healthy pregnancy program they had they would waive the deductible) for hospital vaginal delivery. (That cost estimate included all prenatal checkups, hospital stay, and postnatal visit.) We're going to change our health insurance this coming Jan to a more comprehensive plan (hopefully!) but I was wondering how that compared to everyone elses?
09-26-2014 10:08 PM
aslandess 1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc? 2nd

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family? I always dreamed of having four, but now we're just taking one at a time. We've actually been talking about moving up the TTC date. That way there will still be room for one more!

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think? I almost feel like I'm jinxing it to even think of any before I actually get pregnant. We did kind joke about a name that plays off our last name, but I think it might be cute for a middle name if we have another girl. Everyone else had such lovely name ideas, I loved Wolfram, Lyra, and Malachi! Those are really beautiful!

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn? My family loves Halloween and all the activities that go along with it! We watch Scooby-Doo, make caramel apples, pumpkin pies, leaf walks, corn mazes, jack-o-lantern carving, etc! Sorry I can't pick just one.

@Brown Lioness
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I think people share their negativity because they are super-imposing their wants in life onto your choices, so when they dont match up, they express how uncomfortable they are. Imo, if they were truly happy with the choices they made, they would celebrate right off the bat rather than trying to make you feel bad.
That is so perfectly said! I really feel like if we tell people that we're planning on TTC that there will be a lot of negative/backhanded comments and I just don't want to deal with them. My mom was totally unsupportive when I found out I was pregnant with my first (I wasn't married and it was a surprise.) She wouldn't come visit me the whole time I was pregnant (not even for the shower) and buy anything for the baby either. It was her first and still only grandchild. Anyways my mom started to come around when she visited my DD for the first time when she was a few months old. By that point a lot of damage had already occured, and I'm not interested in re-living that situation so I plan on waiting to tell my family until I've been pregnant for a while with the next one. At least my MIL was happy and supportive when I found out!
09-26-2014 09:31 PM
sidrajedi @LTurtle please share your version. When I was vegetarian (for all of 22 years) people used to tell me "it's so hard" but I was like you I just found recipes I liked and converted them -easy peasy. Also, I was (and still am) breastfeeding a toddler who loves to nurse and following child led weaning so there's that but my first PP cycle was anovulary. Aaaad (I am currently in cycle #3) so far my cycles have been the same length as before DD but my follicular phase is one week longer and my sex drive is pretty weak compared to before DD and then my luteal phase is a week shorter and PMS is not as bad as before DD. I have a feeling that it will not be easy to get pregnant and stay pregnant until DD weans a little more anyway.

@sillysapling it sucks when family sucks :/

@ultrafighter come on in, no worries! My temps and other signs have been wonky too but I think it's mostly due to this 18 month wakeful. Still it becomes really hard to determine ovulation at this point maybe extra eyes might help after all?
09-24-2014 04:07 PM
LTurtle Ultrafighter, go right ahead! I don't know how much we'll be able to offer in the way of insight, but it's worth a shot.

At the risk of TMI, DH and DTD last night and now I can't stop wondering if we might've caught the first egg. DS has been nursing less often lately and just a couple days ago I noticed EWCM. We planned to wait another 9 months or so before TTC but I wouldn't be unhappy to have a baby sooner. I'm not charting yet, waiting for that first PPAF, so I'm not sure how to tell if I'm pregnant or not.

So ladies, what do you think? Please tell me I'm just psyching myself out unnecessarily.
09-24-2014 01:33 PM
ultrafighter I'm sorry my "attendance" has been so spotty lately. I really want to connect with everyone.

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This week's questions:

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc? 2nd

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family? Before DS got here, it was big like 4 or something. When DS got here, it was just him. Now I have no idea! My brain says 2... today. haha

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think? If DS had been a girl we probably would have gone with Abigail so I still like that for a girl. No real idea for another boy, but we probably would prefer a biblical name.

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn? Being able to open my windows or drive with the a/c on low without melting all over the place.
I have an ibasal thermometer that I really like. I also use the WomanLog Pro app to plug in the temp data as well as a ton of other things that the thermometer doesn't support (weight, symptoms, vitamin tracking, etc). This is only my 2nd cycle of tracking anything so I'm not entirely sure of anything yet. But it looks like I ovulate about a week later than I thought. Would anyone mind if I uploaded a picture of my temperature graph? I don't think I've ovulated yet, but I don't wanna forego the condom this week I don't think...
09-21-2014 04:50 PM
sillysapling I'm not sure if I'm actually going to try charting or not. I didn't last time, I was coming off depo and they didn't actually even out before I got pregnant. My cycles are generally pretty regular and now that I know what to look for I think I'll be able to tell the general timeline.

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Originally Posted by sidrajedi View Post
@sillysapling wow! I cannot believe you had such a hard go of it last time! First tri was hard for me with DD bc DH and I were between lives and living with my mom when we foun out and she was a bully to me about it, screaming at me that my life was over and that I could not move forward with plans that DH and I had at the time and suggesting (very backhandedly so she could backtrack on it later) abortion. Needless to say we moved into our own place ASAP and I have spent some soul searching evaluating my relationship with HER since then!
We are also sort of waiting for the right financial, mental, emotional balance for TTC and hoping that is sometime after DD's 2nd birthday in March. GL to you too!
That's awful. I'm glad you were able to get out. My relationship with my parents has always been tenuous, when I was pregnant with kiddo I'd actually gone over a year wtihout speaking to my mom and got back in touch with her mostly because I knew if hse found out from someone else, there'd be no hope of repairing the relationship. :/

Hope things work out for you as well!
09-21-2014 03:52 PM
Brown Lioness
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@sidrajedi , I don't really have a recipe. I looked at several 18th and 19th century recipes, tweaked them to be vegetarian & fit my taste, and just have been using that as a general guide for the last several years. I always make a mince pie & two pumpkin pies for Thanksgiving, and then another mince pie and a kranzekake at
Xmas.
If you want I will write down the recipe when I make the mince next week and post it for you. The gist of it is apples, raisins, nuts, sugar, spices, lots of butter & lots of booze. Then I let it sit in the back of the fridge for a few months.

I'm loving all the charting info from you all! I'm a FAM newby, so it will be interesting getting to know all this new stuff. Before my last pregnancy I could reliably tell when I was ovulating but couldn't predict it any closer than a few days. It helped that my cycles were really regular, but I also had very clear ovulation pain. I wonder if that will be the same when I get my cycle back?

It is so nice to be back on here and have people to chat with about the this stuff. DH is on board with TTC next year, but he still gets a little panicky talking about it so I try not to bring it up too much. I suppose it comes from a lifetime of TTA. Most of the people I know IRL think I'm crazy for wanting a third kid, I haven't even told them we might have more after that. Why are people so negative?

I think people share their negativity because they are super-imposing their wants in life onto your choices, so when they dont match up, they express how uncomfortable they are. Imo, if they were truly happy with the choices they made, they would celebrate right off the bat rather than trying to make you feel bad.


Im also grateful that I get to come here and talk TTC and baby things. We are telling absolutely no one that we are gearing up for this now, but its soooooo exciting, i feel like im keeping the secret of all secrets, lol
09-21-2014 12:52 PM
bright-midnight @Brown Lioness I totally agree! I've used FF off and on since we conceived our oldest back in '06. It is by far the best place I have found with a ton of information.

@LTurtle I don't understand the negativity either. So far I've only encountered once negative reaction, but from my MOM of all people! I told her I was having my IUD removed and it was instant negativity. I decided that I'm just not going to discuss it with anyone else.

The other fertility app I downloaded to try is Ovia - it's very detail oriented, almost too much IMO unless you're really into tracking. You can link myfitnesspal (haven't tried that yet), fitbit (and other similar devices), and a few other gadgets as well. I went ahead and paid for the Ovia Vivid ($5) and it gives you all kinds of neat little tidbits of information, recipes, and articles in a timeline type fashion. It's pretty neat, though I don't think it was really worth the $5. I'm pretty happy with FF and iPeriod and will probably just use the combo of the two since I just started logging over at FF again and iPeriod has 7-8 months worth of data on it. I'm curious to see how they mesh up on my predicted O dates.
09-21-2014 11:56 AM
LTurtle @sidrajedi , I don't really have a recipe. I looked at several 18th and 19th century recipes, tweaked them to be vegetarian & fit my taste, and just have been using that as a general guide for the last several years. I always make a mince pie & two pumpkin pies for Thanksgiving, and then another mince pie and a kranzekake at
Xmas.
If you want I will write down the recipe when I make the mince next week and post it for you. The gist of it is apples, raisins, nuts, sugar, spices, lots of butter & lots of booze. Then I let it sit in the back of the fridge for a few months.

I'm loving all the charting info from you all! I'm a FAM newby, so it will be interesting getting to know all this new stuff. Before my last pregnancy I could reliably tell when I was ovulating but couldn't predict it any closer than a few days. It helped that my cycles were really regular, but I also had very clear ovulation pain. I wonder if that will be the same when I get my cycle back?

It is so nice to be back on here and have people to chat with about the this stuff. DH is on board with TTC next year, but he still gets a little panicky talking about it so I try not to bring it up too much. I suppose it comes from a lifetime of TTA. Most of the people I know IRL think I'm crazy for wanting a third kid, I haven't even told them we might have more after that. Why are people so negative?
09-21-2014 11:16 AM
Brown Lioness
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@brownlioness I really want to know what you think of glow and OvuView compared to FF!
So, I havent had the chance to really get into the charting aspect of each app, but thus far, it seems like Glow....Glow, imho, is kind of bossy. It has you "check off" certain things that you are supposed to be doing like taking prenatal vitamins, temping, and what not. I dunno, maybe others may see this as helpful. You dont HAVE to check them off, but they are there. It seems to have a thriving, helpful community as well and there is lots of features to look at within the app like polls, tips, etc.

OvuView, imho, is kinda paired down and a little more difficult to decipher. The home screen is just a sphere in which you choose what aspects of your cycle day you want to see, in the center of the sphere. You can tap on the calendar to see that, but I dont see this as a true charting app, just a tracking app.

So, in my opinion, Fertility Friend is the true granddaddy of them all and still most reliable from what I can see, so that will be the main app I track and chart each day into. Obviously, to really participate in the community, you have to pay, but that's ok too.
09-21-2014 08:55 AM
bright-midnight @sidrajedi - Thanks! I'm pretty excited about it! I've read a lot about people doing the Brewer diet during pregnancy, so I'm definitely going to be checking out fertility friendly diets so I can tweak and adjust mine as needed. I love FF by the way, just not the mainstream-ness of their forums I also use iPeriod which is an awesome charting app for iOS devices!


This weeks questions!

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc?
This baby will be the third pregnancy/baby and the last!

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family?
I've always felt like three children is what we were meant to have. I haven't felt our family was complete for a while now.

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think?
I really like Lyra for a girl and Elijah for a boy For our first two kiddos, I picked the first names, he picked the middle names.

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn?
I love watching the leaves change color and the cool, crisp nights (I typically walk 3 miles a night!), and just the general time of year. It's always been my favorite season!
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