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09-21-2014 04:50 PM
sillysapling I'm not sure if I'm actually going to try charting or not. I didn't last time, I was coming off depo and they didn't actually even out before I got pregnant. My cycles are generally pretty regular and now that I know what to look for I think I'll be able to tell the general timeline.

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@sillysapling wow! I cannot believe you had such a hard go of it last time! First tri was hard for me with DD bc DH and I were between lives and living with my mom when we foun out and she was a bully to me about it, screaming at me that my life was over and that I could not move forward with plans that DH and I had at the time and suggesting (very backhandedly so she could backtrack on it later) abortion. Needless to say we moved into our own place ASAP and I have spent some soul searching evaluating my relationship with HER since then!
We are also sort of waiting for the right financial, mental, emotional balance for TTC and hoping that is sometime after DD's 2nd birthday in March. GL to you too!
That's awful. I'm glad you were able to get out. My relationship with my parents has always been tenuous, when I was pregnant with kiddo I'd actually gone over a year wtihout speaking to my mom and got back in touch with her mostly because I knew if hse found out from someone else, there'd be no hope of repairing the relationship. :/

Hope things work out for you as well!
09-21-2014 03:52 PM
Brown Lioness
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@sidrajedi , I don't really have a recipe. I looked at several 18th and 19th century recipes, tweaked them to be vegetarian & fit my taste, and just have been using that as a general guide for the last several years. I always make a mince pie & two pumpkin pies for Thanksgiving, and then another mince pie and a kranzekake at
Xmas.
If you want I will write down the recipe when I make the mince next week and post it for you. The gist of it is apples, raisins, nuts, sugar, spices, lots of butter & lots of booze. Then I let it sit in the back of the fridge for a few months.

I'm loving all the charting info from you all! I'm a FAM newby, so it will be interesting getting to know all this new stuff. Before my last pregnancy I could reliably tell when I was ovulating but couldn't predict it any closer than a few days. It helped that my cycles were really regular, but I also had very clear ovulation pain. I wonder if that will be the same when I get my cycle back?

It is so nice to be back on here and have people to chat with about the this stuff. DH is on board with TTC next year, but he still gets a little panicky talking about it so I try not to bring it up too much. I suppose it comes from a lifetime of TTA. Most of the people I know IRL think I'm crazy for wanting a third kid, I haven't even told them we might have more after that. Why are people so negative?

I think people share their negativity because they are super-imposing their wants in life onto your choices, so when they dont match up, they express how uncomfortable they are. Imo, if they were truly happy with the choices they made, they would celebrate right off the bat rather than trying to make you feel bad.


Im also grateful that I get to come here and talk TTC and baby things. We are telling absolutely no one that we are gearing up for this now, but its soooooo exciting, i feel like im keeping the secret of all secrets, lol
09-21-2014 12:52 PM
bright-midnight @Brown Lioness I totally agree! I've used FF off and on since we conceived our oldest back in '06. It is by far the best place I have found with a ton of information.

@LTurtle I don't understand the negativity either. So far I've only encountered once negative reaction, but from my MOM of all people! I told her I was having my IUD removed and it was instant negativity. I decided that I'm just not going to discuss it with anyone else.

The other fertility app I downloaded to try is Ovia - it's very detail oriented, almost too much IMO unless you're really into tracking. You can link myfitnesspal (haven't tried that yet), fitbit (and other similar devices), and a few other gadgets as well. I went ahead and paid for the Ovia Vivid ($5) and it gives you all kinds of neat little tidbits of information, recipes, and articles in a timeline type fashion. It's pretty neat, though I don't think it was really worth the $5. I'm pretty happy with FF and iPeriod and will probably just use the combo of the two since I just started logging over at FF again and iPeriod has 7-8 months worth of data on it. I'm curious to see how they mesh up on my predicted O dates.
09-21-2014 11:56 AM
LTurtle @sidrajedi , I don't really have a recipe. I looked at several 18th and 19th century recipes, tweaked them to be vegetarian & fit my taste, and just have been using that as a general guide for the last several years. I always make a mince pie & two pumpkin pies for Thanksgiving, and then another mince pie and a kranzekake at
Xmas.
If you want I will write down the recipe when I make the mince next week and post it for you. The gist of it is apples, raisins, nuts, sugar, spices, lots of butter & lots of booze. Then I let it sit in the back of the fridge for a few months.

I'm loving all the charting info from you all! I'm a FAM newby, so it will be interesting getting to know all this new stuff. Before my last pregnancy I could reliably tell when I was ovulating but couldn't predict it any closer than a few days. It helped that my cycles were really regular, but I also had very clear ovulation pain. I wonder if that will be the same when I get my cycle back?

It is so nice to be back on here and have people to chat with about the this stuff. DH is on board with TTC next year, but he still gets a little panicky talking about it so I try not to bring it up too much. I suppose it comes from a lifetime of TTA. Most of the people I know IRL think I'm crazy for wanting a third kid, I haven't even told them we might have more after that. Why are people so negative?
09-21-2014 11:16 AM
Brown Lioness
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@brownlioness I really want to know what you think of glow and OvuView compared to FF!
So, I havent had the chance to really get into the charting aspect of each app, but thus far, it seems like Glow....Glow, imho, is kind of bossy. It has you "check off" certain things that you are supposed to be doing like taking prenatal vitamins, temping, and what not. I dunno, maybe others may see this as helpful. You dont HAVE to check them off, but they are there. It seems to have a thriving, helpful community as well and there is lots of features to look at within the app like polls, tips, etc.

OvuView, imho, is kinda paired down and a little more difficult to decipher. The home screen is just a sphere in which you choose what aspects of your cycle day you want to see, in the center of the sphere. You can tap on the calendar to see that, but I dont see this as a true charting app, just a tracking app.

So, in my opinion, Fertility Friend is the true granddaddy of them all and still most reliable from what I can see, so that will be the main app I track and chart each day into. Obviously, to really participate in the community, you have to pay, but that's ok too.
09-21-2014 08:55 AM
bright-midnight @sidrajedi - Thanks! I'm pretty excited about it! I've read a lot about people doing the Brewer diet during pregnancy, so I'm definitely going to be checking out fertility friendly diets so I can tweak and adjust mine as needed. I love FF by the way, just not the mainstream-ness of their forums I also use iPeriod which is an awesome charting app for iOS devices!


This weeks questions!

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc?
This baby will be the third pregnancy/baby and the last!

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family?
I've always felt like three children is what we were meant to have. I haven't felt our family was complete for a while now.

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think?
I really like Lyra for a girl and Elijah for a boy For our first two kiddos, I picked the first names, he picked the middle names.

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn?
I love watching the leaves change color and the cool, crisp nights (I typically walk 3 miles a night!), and just the general time of year. It's always been my favorite season!
09-21-2014 07:27 AM
sidrajedi @lturtle can you please share your recipe for minced meat pie?

As to fertility friend, it is a helpful journaling tool with great features like PMS/pregnancy symptom prompts and daily helpful tips. It also uses a matrix to pinpoint the exact day of ovulation.

Before FF I used the FAM without temping. It worked successfully for me for ten years but I almost always avoided sex completely throughout the fertile window. When DH and I conceived DD I remember saying to him "I'm pretty sure tonight's the night" we only DTD that one night in my fertile window and we made a baby, so I'd say that I got pretty savvy without the temping and the apps and charts. My pregnancy in 2004 was right after I got off of bc after three months and my cycle was wonky. Before and after bc I had only used FAM with an occasional condom.

Temping and using a chart or an app helps to see a pattern and predict future cycles. When using an app you get a third (computer) brain looking at data and helping you and your partner to predict what's happening.

I like FF in particular bc it is so popular that I can talk to a large group of folks about using it, they have a great tutorial video series (short) and they offer a lot of features for free.
09-20-2014 09:59 PM
LTurtle
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This week's questions:

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc? This will be our third baby, but our fourth pregnancy together.

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family? My dreams vary somewhat, sometimes just the one more, sometimes up to 6. DH says he doesn't want more than 5, but for now we're taking it one at a time. Though I do have a secret wish for twins someday.

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think? Oh don't get me started on names! I have so many lists. We use a fairly complex system in order to navigate family traditions while baby naming, but a couple names I'm really liking lately are Malachi and Matilda. DH isn't wild about either one, but he has really boring taste in names.

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn? I can't pick just one! I love the smell of autumn here, which is a lot of rain and woodsmoke, but also hot apple cider and cozy sweaters and starting the run up to the holidays. I always try to get my mince pie filling made in September so it has plenty of time to age.
Thanks all for the good wishes, I really am doing so much better now. From here it will just take time (and one small surgery) and I'll be totally back to normal.

I'm curious to hear what everyone thinks of feritility friend and other apps. We're planning to start charting soon, but DH is a math nerd and wants to do all the charting/calculating himself so I hadn't really looked into any software.
09-20-2014 06:57 PM
sidrajedi @brownlioness I really want to know what you think of glow and ovu view compared to FF!
09-20-2014 06:55 PM
sidrajedi 1. This future LO will be #2, but it will technically be my third pregnancy; I had a pregnancy in 2004 that resulted in a very early MC (about 6ish weeks)

2. When I was a girl I wanted 5 children and I used to draw pictures of it for myself. When I married DH I said wanted 3. Now, talking with DH after DD was born, I think we both feel like we want a "big" family but we also want to play it by ear. I'm honestly not sure what our number is.

3. We have decided on names for next time and we will be team green like we were with DD; Wolfram Vincent (b) and Ardis Faye (g). I also have a running list of FNs that has had DH's input and approval; Tadhg, Griffin, Myrna, Ivan, Helen, Egon, Saoirse, Sorcha. Middle names TBD

4. I love autumn because of harvest and the community it seems to beget; there are so many parties and gatherings as soon as the fall temperatures start to roll in! I love the smells of fall (wet earth packed with layers of fallen leaves) the flavors (Pumpkin everything)! Halloween is my favorite holiday. I love the state fair and hayrides and cider and basically everything about autumn
09-20-2014 05:59 PM
Brown Lioness
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@brownlioness I echo my praise of fertility friend for charting but if you have any questions I'll do my best to help. For me the most important and difficult part is temping. Some gals need to test every day at the same time to get proper temps, others after 3 consecutive hours of sleep or more and others need a perfect storm of both. Luckily for me my temps seem consistent from about 7am-9am as long as I temp apron waking after 3 consecutive hours of sleep. So I don't need it to be at the same time to get accurate temps. That's my preemptive advice
Also, as to DH, he didn't get that way before TTC but since DD was born he has definitely shown more assertiveness in decision making and taking a more masculine perspective on things regarding our family. I think it's cute bc though we are very unconventional for the most part we both tend to idealize traditional husband wife roles so I have found it endearing and comforting that his attitude has taken such a turn at becoming a father.


@sillysapling wow! I cannot believe you had such a hard go of it last time! First tri was hard for me with DD bc DH and I were between lives and living with my mom when we foun out and she was a bully to me about it, screaming at me that my life was over and that I could not move forward with plans that DH and I had at the time and suggesting (very backhandedly so she could backtrack on it later) abortion. Needless to say we moved into our own place ASAP and I have spent some soul searching evaluating my relationship with HER since then!
We are also sort of waiting for the right financial, mental, emotional balance for TTC and hoping that is sometime after DD's 2nd birthday in March. GL to you too!
Lastly, once again I will sing the praises of Fertility friend! It makes charting easy for me.
I think there is another charting app out there. Anyone know about it? How it compares to FF?

AFM I am still trying to incorporate more dietary suggestions from Beautiful Babies, remembering to exercise regularly and crafting up a storm. I tried several times to post pics of what I am making but I jut cannot make it work on mobile and we do not have net access at home. Mostly I have been scanning, organizing, and editing photos for scrap booking so there is not much to see there any way

Apologies for typos!
So, besides downloading Fertility Friend, I am also trying out the app called "Glow" and another app called OvuView.

This week's questions:

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc? This is will be our first.

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family? Um, I guess around 2 or 3, Im older, so it really depends.

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think? I have an idea for a girl name that I want to use and hubby keeps bringing me unacceptable boy names lol (I mean, unacceptable for us, im sure they are beautiful names for others), but that's about it for now.

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn? Well, Im a fall baby, my birthday is in October and its just my favorite season with the cooler weather, the harvest, the upcoming holidays....everyone is just in anticipation of good times, it seems during the fall.

New development! My thermometer finally got here!!!! I will start temping TOMORROW! This is perfect as AF just left today, so I guess today is CD6.
09-20-2014 11:20 AM
sidrajedi This week's questions:

1. Will this future LO be your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, last, etc?

2. On a related note, in your day dreams how many children do you see for your family?

3. (Thanks to LTurtle who seems to share my obsession with names!) Any ideas on names? What does your SO think?

4. What is your favorite thing about Autumn?
09-20-2014 11:14 AM
sidrajedi @brightmidnight congrats on setting a date for your IUD removal. I understand your concerns with your body adjusting after having it in so long. I think that as long as you eat enough food dense in nutrients and if you give your body months to adjust before actually becoming pregnant you should be fine. I don't know what the research says about all of it but I know two anecdotal horror stories from IRL friends so I'd be nervous too. In your shoes that is what I would do: several months on a nutrient dense fertility diet. You are going to start charting? I can't look back while replying since I'm on mobile. I use the fertility friend app and it is really great!

@LTurtle whoa! What a scary freak accident! I'm glad that you are feeling better and I wish you a swift rest of recovery! I'm gal to see you back!

@brownlioness I echo my praise of fertility friend for charting but if you have any questions I'll do my best to help. For me the most important and difficult part is temping. Some gals need to test every day at the same time to get proper temps, others after 3 consecutive hours of sleep or more and others need a perfect storm of both. Luckily for me my temps seem consistent from about 7am-9am as long as I temp apron waking after 3 consecutive hours of sleep. So I don't need it to be at the same time to get accurate temps. That's my preemptive advice
Also, as to DH, he didn't get that way before TTC but since DD was born he has definitely shown more assertiveness in decision making and taking a more masculine perspective on things regarding our family. I think it's cute bc though we are very unconventional for the most part we both tend to idealize traditional husband wife roles so I have found it endearing and comforting that his attitude has taken such a turn at becoming a father.

@aslandess I always thought it would be fun to tell DH in a surprise kind of way but when the time came with DD I just sort of surprised him by pulling him aside and breaking it to him gently! We were both kind of expecting it but not so fast (we made a baby on the first try and just the one night)!
This time I will tell him point blank like last time unless he is at work when I find out. I am not too keen to have that convo over the phone. I want to see his face like last time (he almost cried)! So I will wait and tell him in person and I may think up something creative for that like putting a "big sister" shirt on DD or something to that effect.

@sillysapling wow! I cannot believe you had such a hard go of it last time! First tri was hard for me with DD bc DH and I were between lives and living with my mom when we foun out and she was a bully to me about it, screaming at me that my life was over and that I could not move forward with plans that DH and I had at the time and suggesting (very backhandedly so she could backtrack on it later) abortion. Needless to say we moved into our own place ASAP and I have spent some soul searching evaluating my relationship with HER since then!
We are also sort of waiting for the right financial, mental, emotional balance for TTC and hoping that is sometime after DD's 2nd birthday in March. GL to you too!
Lastly, once again I will sing the praises of Fertility friend! It makes charting easy for me.
I think there is another charting app out there. Anyone know about it? How it compares to FF?

AFM I am still trying to incorporate more dietary suggestions from Beautiful Babies, remembering to exercise regularly and crafting up a storm. I tried several times to post pics of what I am making but I jut cannot make it work on mobile and we do not have net access at home. Mostly I have been scanning, organizing, and editing photos for scrap booking so there is not much to see there any way

Apologies for typos!
09-19-2014 07:46 PM
Brown Lioness
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@LTurtle Oh my goodness! That really stinks that you got hurt! I hope you are feeling better! What happened? (If you don't mind me asking.)
This is going to be my first "on purpose" baby too, lol. I can't wait to find out I'm pregnant this time around. Obviously we will be TTC so Hubby will know, but I want to try to sneakily take the test and surprise Hubby in some creative way when I find out it is actually positive this next time around.

Welcome @Brown Lioness ! Good luck with charting, I've now officially started charting everyday this cycle. Although I'm still getting used to the thermometer and if you don't push the button after it's done it doesn't save the temp apparently, so I lost this morning's temp. It's great to have all the info about my body though. Let me know how it goes for you!

I would love to hear how others plan to confirm their pregnancy when they TTC. Will you test with your hubby or without? Are you going to try to surprise him?
LTurtle, I hope you feel better very soon, that sounded scary!

Thanks, aslandess, i just hope that I can stay consistent enough with temping and checking my CM that i know what my cycles are doing, lol.

"I would love to hear how others plan to confirm their pregnancy when they TTC. Will you test with your hubby or without? Are you going to try to surprise him?"

Well, my husband and I know each other really well, so I feel like my husband will know if Im pregnant before I ever take the test. I would like to find out together I guess, especially since he works from home, it would be very hard to surprise him.

I just would like to say...starting this whole journey is very surreal. Like, we were talking about TTC over dinner tonight and it felt like I was watching us talk about it from afar. Like, it wasnt US we were talking about. VERY surreal. Like, i feel like i have to talk him down from wanting to start TTC RIGHT AWAY surreal. Very odd, but I love it.

OH! And he's becoming kinda protective over me. Scared for me to be out late at night or go places Ive never been, stuff like that. I mean, we've always said, "Be careful!" when we leave the house and all that, but now I find im having to do a lot more reassuring that Im gonna be ok out in the world, lol. Has anyone else's partner behaved like this?
09-19-2014 09:54 AM
sillysapling
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@aslandess I had a flowerpot smash on my face, cut all the way down to the skull and had a severe concussion. Doing better now. Still get headaches/dizziness now and then, and the piece of debris bugs me when I bump it.
Wow, that's really awful. I hope it gets better.

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@sillysapling sorry to hear about your money trouble. Dealing with public assistance seems to be a major pain in the butt more often than not. We're on food stamps right now, and I was on the state healthcare plan when DD was born. The options for care were somewhat limited, but once I was all signed up they covered everything. (yay Oregon) That really sucks about your school, I cant imagine people thinking its ok to talk to a pregnant woman like that. I hope you get better support this next time around!
It really is. In our state, if you have more than $2k in the bank, you can't go on foodstamps unless you also sign up for their job search program- which I really hate. We would've had to put kiddo in daycare and spent 40 hours a week looking for jobs for less money than our rent costs. Not worth it! It's even worse in this state as well, they don't count schooling or job training- so if you need help, you need to find whatever crappy job will take you, you can't work to better yourself so you can get a job that'll really support your family in the long-run.

I'm hoping the state insurance will be decent once we get on it, but I'm afriad it won't be. I live in a pretty decent place for hospital choices, I've seen at least one hospital birthing center that I think I'd love, but I haven't had luck finding out who accepts state insurance. Also, a lot of people have to use the low-cost health clinic even on state insurance, which makes me really worried.

A lot of the people I talked to about the school were scandalized by what it was doing, but no one had any idea what to do about it. No one IN the school wanted to rock the boat, a lot of people who seemed supportive ended up proving that they didn't actually care but wanted to look good. My biggest regret of my life is going there. I'm pretty sure next time I'll have more support, it'd be hard to have less!
09-19-2014 09:07 AM
bright-midnight @LTurtle Oh my, that is truly terrifying!


@sillysapling I'm so sorry you had such a horrific experience. I had something similar happen with my first pregnancy when I went to "low cost maternity clinic". I felt interrogated by their questions and they attempted to pressure me into an abortion which was NOT why I was there! I was uninsured at the time and simply trying to find affordable prenatal care.


@aslandess I will more than likely test while he's at home. My OB doesn't typically do ultrasounds in the first trimester, but then again, it's been 5 years since I've needed one for pregnancy reasons. So other than a positive test I'll probably have to wait until the fetal heartbeat can be detected on a doppler.


I've been getting back into charting in more detail this week and I'll be purchasing a BBT thermometer next week to start temping with my new cycle that should be starting around Oct 1. I'm feeling SO impatient for December, but luckily my mom sold her condo and will be coming to stay with us for a few weeks while she hunts for a house since she's moving from SC to VA!! Having her here will help keep me busy and not counting down the days until my IUD removal - which is 82 days from now
09-18-2014 09:42 PM
LTurtle @aslandess I had a flowerpot smash on my face, cut all the way down to the skull and had a severe concussion. Doing better now. Still get headaches/dizziness now and then, and the piece of debris bugs me when I bump it.

@sillysapling sorry to hear about your money trouble. Dealing with public assistance seems to be a major pain in the butt more often than not. We're on food stamps right now, and I was on the state healthcare plan when DD was born. The options for care were somewhat limited, but once I was all signed up they covered everything. (yay Oregon) That really sucks about your school, I cant imagine people thinking its ok to talk to a pregnant woman like that. I hope you get better support this next time around!

ETA: the last couple pregnancies DH was working odd hours so he was gone when I tested with FMU. I just told him yes or no when he came home. I've seen some cute announcement ideas online, but he wouldn't think they were funny so I'm just boring about it. Now he's home in the morning though so next time we'll probably test together.
09-18-2014 08:39 PM
sillysapling We're hoping to be able to get into a good financial place to be able to start TTC when kiddo turns 2 (in April). I don't know if we'll be able to or not. I've been having a rough time seeing pregnant folk and people with little babies, especially those wearing them. I don't know if it's just wanting a baby, or if it's just as much wanting to be in a position to have a baby.

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?

Insurance. We only have catastrophe insurance right now, and I don't know what we'll be able to afford. I'd qualify for state insurance, but here it ONLY covers "pregnancy related" issues, so if I need phsyical therapy again I may have to fight it,a nd I don't know how many places take it. I'm also worried about how appliny for it will go, I applied for it for kiddo over a month ago and yesterday found otu that his case numbe "doesn't exist". Ugh. Last time, I was on state insurance in CT and it was WONDERFUL- it even covered all but $450 of home birth! I really wish we'd never moved out of CT...

I don't want to do a home birth again after midwife trauma last time, but I also don't really want a hospital birth and don't feel comfortable doing a UC. So. Dunno.

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?

Mostly sad about the wait and that we're in a position to have to wait. If we were better off financially we actually might decide to start trying in December or even now. I'm really excited to get pregnant again. Last time, I was at an awful school that spent the first trimester bullying me into an abortion and the rest of my time there making it clear that our baby and us were very unwelcome. Some individuals were good, otherwise we wouldn't've survived, but the institution as a whole was horrifying. The day after I found out I was pregnant (and we were both super happy about it), I was told that if I didn't get an abortion they'd kick me out on the streets and wouldn't let me use my financial aid towards housing. I was terrified about telling people because I couldn't take any more negativity about the pregnancy, so I hid it (and did a great job- a lot of people didn't realize I was pregnant until after I showed up with a newborn).

It'd be really nice to experience being pregnant and being able to just be happy about it and not have constant pressure to kill my baby.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?

Together for 6 years as of next month, married for 5.

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?

A stuffed animal my aunt had sewn before I was born. I lost it in Florida.
09-18-2014 08:31 PM
aslandess @LTurtle Oh my goodness! That really stinks that you got hurt! I hope you are feeling better! What happened? (If you don't mind me asking.)
This is going to be my first "on purpose" baby too, lol. I can't wait to find out I'm pregnant this time around. Obviously we will be TTC so Hubby will know, but I want to try to sneakily take the test and surprise Hubby in some creative way when I find out it is actually positive this next time around.

Welcome @Brown Lioness ! Good luck with charting, I've now officially started charting everyday this cycle. Although I'm still getting used to the thermometer and if you don't push the button after it's done it doesn't save the temp apparently, so I lost this morning's temp. It's great to have all the info about my body though. Let me know how it goes for you!

I would love to hear how others plan to confirm their pregnancy when they TTC. Will you test with your hubby or without? Are you going to try to surprise him?
09-18-2014 06:56 PM
Brown Lioness Ok, so all you charting mamas, i will be relying on you all once my dern BBT thermometer gets here (stupid standard shipping says it wont be here until the first week of Oct and I ordered it going on 2 weeks ago, grr!). I have no idea what my luteal phase is, when or if I ovulate and so on. Eek!



This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC? Well, the fact that this is the first time ive ever TTC'd in my life. Up until this, ive been avoiding pregnancy like the plague, so it feels weird to be gearing up to TRY to get pregnant. lol Plus, like i said, i have no idea if i ovulate, what my charts will look like and just starting the process to potential parenthood is surreal in and of itself.
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited? He's blase about it. He's a very even keel type of dude (unless its about his sports teams lol). So he's kinda chill about it, thus far.
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married? We have been together since the summer of 2003, married 10 years last month (Aug).
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small? Umm....i suppose I did, there a few toys that i still remember, one is this German plush knit doll that my Dad brought home for me while he's was deployed on duty (Army) in Germany. But i treated that doll bad, so i dunno if that was my lovey per se, lol.
09-16-2014 10:57 PM
LTurtle Um, hi everyone. Sorry I just vanished for a few months there. I had a head wound, complete with a Traumatic Brain Injury, that had me pretty much bedridden for a while there so I wasnt doing much of anything. Actually there is still a piece of debris in my face I have to get removed soon. I haven't had a chance to read through all of what I missed, but I like SidraJedi's checkin idea.

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
Not much really, this will be our first "on purpose" baby. I mostly just want to be in the best physical shape I can.
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
I honestly don't know. I think he's a bit apprehensive actually, but he's agreed to TTC.
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
DH and I began dating in April 2003, broke up in August '03, had a baby January '04, started dating again in 2008, moved in together September 2010, eloped December 2011, had our wedding June 2012, had baby #2 June 2013. Simple question, complex answer!
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?[/QUOTE]
I had a blankie that I passed on to someone else when I was ten or so, and I still have Max the rabbit who is pretty ratty with no fuzz left on his nose, but is very loved.

As far as plans for TTC, we had discussed trying in July '14 but I was injured and I haven't gotten a PP AF yet. Right now it looks like we are going to start TTC in June 2015, so DS will be 3ish when the next baby arrives. On the other hand we're not really doing anything to TTA, unless you count breastfeeding all the freakin time. I would be totally fine with an oops baby anytime in the next year. Right now we're reading TCOYF together and planning to start FAM, but there doesn't seem to be much point until I'm cycling again.

To tide myself over until we are actually TTC I've been planning (ok obsessing) about baby names. Just so I'm ready! Or something...
09-14-2014 04:10 PM
sidrajedi Testing to see if I an get a pic to work
09-13-2014 12:17 PM
aslandess Hi to all the new members !

So I guess I'm just having a really weird cycle I'm always 26/27 days and this was longer and now I've started spotting. The only guess I had is that perhaps when I was really sick it threw off my cycle. It's just sooo frustrating not knowing what's going on with my body. I'm going make hubby switch sides so I can hear the thermometer to chart!

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
I'm okay with giving birth at a hospital (my hubby is dead set against home births for me, because I had complications last time which scared him) but I want to be able to go home within a few hours of giving birth. I've looked into it a bit and I'm worried that I might not be able to find a place to accommodate that.
I'm also dreading doctor's visits (even though I have found an amazing obgyn) and worried about possible medical complications.

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
He's excited for another one.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
We've been dating for 10 years and married for 4 years.

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
I had some stuffed animals but nothing in particular I was attached too.
09-13-2014 07:48 AM
bright-midnight This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
My biggest concern is how my body will react once my IUD is out. I've had one in place for almost five years! I've read a lot of conflicting information about waiting a full cycle or two before actively TTC after IUD removal due to weakening of the uterine wall. I've had periods this entire time, so I don't know if the lack of periods is what caused the weakening or not. It's definitely something I will be discussing with my OB!

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
He seems to be a little nervous, but happy about it. Our youngest is 5 and we have ZERO baby stuff left, so we will be starting over from scratch.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
We have been together for 13 years, married for 8!

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
My older brother brought me home a Steiff bear from Germany that I've kept throughout my life.


My date for IUD removal has been set for December 10!
09-13-2014 07:37 AM
sidrajedi Hi @brightmidnight and thanks to @brownlioness and @ultrafighter for participating in my check-in!

@aslandess I know that feeling! My luteal phase used to be consistently 17 days long and I used to drive myself nuts every time. Now I realize that since it was consistent it wasn't late but at the time I was always freaking out. Funny thing, both times I really was pregnant and late I was super calm about it. GL! Also, I love my BBT thermometer. I can take my temps orally and as long as I take them at the same time before I start talking or moving too much it is okay even though I bedshare.

Questions:
1. I am most concerned about paying OOP for a homebirth. I was working and we pulled it together last time but money will be tighter this time as we make our monthly payments.
2. Last time with DD, DH was super nervous. This time he is just as excited as me.
3. DH and I started dating in 2003. We'll celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary next June.
4. I didn't have a lovey but when I was about 5 ish I really wished I did and I tried to force it for a year or two but nothing stuck. I did have a paci until 3 or a little older though.

I waffle a lot. I guess that's normal. Sometimes I want a baby right now and others I am so nervous about it. DD is really into babies right now and into helping both DH and I so it seems like she could handle it too. But DH is in the beginning stages of working for himself and I worry about his time knowing how much work there will be for him when the baby arrives. Hopefully in 6-12 months when we are ready to TTC he will be on a better space.
09-13-2014 07:15 AM
sidrajedi This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
09-11-2014 11:26 AM
aslandess So I was getting weird temps with my ear thermometer so I gave up charting, and then decided to buy an actual BBT thermometer. It arrived but Hubby had switched sides of the bed with me and had the nightstand and the thermometer's alarm was too quiet for me to hear not being right next to it, and Hubby sleeps right through it. Needless to say I haven't charted for the last couple months and definitely mean to start! However I still know I shoulda had AF this past Monday and no sign. The last week of August I was really sick with the flu/or a really really bad cold. I took an early response test on Tuesday with FMU and it was negative, so I don't think I am. Hubby keeps telling me I just need to relax, but now I'm even more stressed not knowing why I'm late.
09-10-2014 09:50 AM
ultrafighter I'll do my part!!
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Wow, this board feels really dead. I don't want it to die! I feel like we've had some recent intros, we should be lively!

I was thinking of ways to spice it up over here on Wanting But Waiting and I decided to start a weekly check in. Even if it is just me checking in at first some one is bound to join in eventually, right? Right?

This weeks Questions:
1. We're all waiting, when do you and your SO plan to TTC? We really don't know. LO is only almost 10 months right now, and we've got some major life/job changes going on right now.
2. What are you doing to prepare for TTC? My diet and exercise were so-so when I was pregnant, and I'm nowhere near even there anymore, so eating better and taking my prenatals are paramount right now.
3. What are you doing to stay busy? Overtime has been approved at work so I'm taking advantage of as much of that as I can! Plus we have some fall religious events coming up Sept/Oct that I need to prepare for.
4. It is the end of Summer. Did you do anything really fun over the Summer or do you plan to squeeze in one last activity before it gets too cold? Camping for a week in early October. In Texas, that is plenty early.

1. Sometime in March-September '15
2. I'm taking a long walk once a week, yoga 1-3 times a week attempting the fertility diet found in the book Beautiful Babies, teaching my 1.5year old how to clean up after herself, help me around the house and what the "potty" is for (we are not really into toilet learning yet, but we are exploring the idea), and meditating on the health an well-being of my current and future child/ren. Also, I am practicing NFP to remain in tune with my cycles.
3. I am working on a novel and I have pretty serious writers block right now so I use my writing time mostly for writing exercise and brainstorming. I am also constructing a Waldorf doll for DD and (finally) serging my stash of family cloth.
4. We didn't do anything this Summer except hang with DD which is special no matter the season. We are going to the state fair this weekend and we are hoping to go camping in Florida at the end of the month.

Hope all you other waiting mamas and mamas-to-be are doing great!
09-10-2014 09:08 AM
brightmidnight Hello

I haven't been on this site for ages, since my kiddos (5 & 7) were babies and then found my way back here a few days ago.

Up until about a month ago my husband and I thought we were done, but then I had a TON of pregnancy symptoms despite having an IUD (turned out to be associated with antibiotics) and admittedly got too happy with the prospect of having another. We discussed having #3 about a year and a half ago, but neither of us were in a good place physically for me to go through another pregnancy. Now that things are better and we're both healthier physically, we've had a change of heart

I've been loosely charting my periods for a while now and still have my IUD (Mirena), though we're looking at December for removal and then start actively trying in January. I know realistically it's not that far off but it feels like it's going to take forever! The plan is to use these last few months to finish out my diet cycle and keep workouts in check through the holidays to get rid of the last bit of weight I'd like to lose before conceiving.

(I figured out my old login info so any future posts will be under bright-midnight)
09-08-2014 08:32 PM
sidrajedi @brownlioness I do about 1-3 miles a week. Check out mapmyrun.com as a great resource to help plan neighborhood walks! I usually take my walks at the zoo with DD. Another friend of mine does her weekly walks at the botanical gardens.
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