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09-16-2014 10:23 AM
Taximom5 I think there is actually a kernel of truth behind the idea that breastfeeding will affect the strength of your teeth.

If you are vitamin D-deficient (which is unfortunately quite common), you may or may not be able to produce milk that has all the vitamin D your baby needs, but your own health (including teeth and bones) will suffer.

It's an easy fix, of course (D3 supplements for mom), but not so easy when nobody recognizes it as a problem.
09-15-2014 07:47 PM
stormborn Oh, yeah, he meant well. It was funny, later he mumbled "not that I'm saying you're a cow..." For a guy of his generation (1920's) he was supportive of a lot. Dd2 was born at home while he lived with us and he was super proud of that, too.
09-15-2014 07:21 PM
apeydef At least he was being supportive maybe there is truth to it because it relaxes you or something!
09-15-2014 03:42 PM
stormborn When dd1 was little I worked full time and pumped. My stepdad told me that I should play classical music every time because it would help me pump more milk! He said when he was growing up on a dairy farm they used to play it in the barns for that reason. It still makes me smile; he was so earnest about it, trying to be helpful.
09-12-2014 11:08 PM
LaNiebla My Mexican niece: "I tried breastfeeding, but my daughter didn't like my milk and wanted formula." She said her baby tasted her milk and made a horrible face and tried to spit it out.

"I tried breastfeeding but I didn't have enough milk/my milk dried up." - five of my Mexican SIL's who started supplementing with formula in the hospital for all of their kids One even came to visit me in the hospital (against my wishes) and mentioned that I shouldn't bother breastfeeding because I wouldn't make enough milk anyway. When I said I wasn't worried about it, her husband jumped in to say that most women can't.

I was told that I couldn't eat anything spicy because it would make my milk spicy.

My daughter rarely cried, but I was told to give her bottles of chamomile tea to prevent gas and that I need to give her bottles of water too.

It's a sad state of affairs for breastfeeding here in Mexico. Out of my husband's gigantic family, I don't know anyone who has breastfed successfully and I have never seen any woman breastfeeding in public. There are babies EVERYWHERE and they are all formula-fed.
09-04-2014 12:05 PM
pokeyac That is kind of weird, but I took a back to work class with an IBCLC and she said sometimes women read erotica to help get the milk flowing. Oxytocin is released when nursing and when aroused. I would avoid watching porn in the office personally.
09-04-2014 11:37 AM
EnviroBecca I don't know how "silly" this is, but it's kind of weird...

I've been going to a New Moms' Coffee group that is pretty awesome, moderated by an expectant grandma. Almost every time the subject of pumping comes up, she tells us that we can increase milk output by watching porn while pumping. I can believe that it would work physically. What blows my mind is the idea that anybody would feel okay watching porn in the workplace! Even if you are not using your work computer or even your work wifi but using a smartphone with data plan...even if you don't have any kind of zero-tolerance policy in your workplace...wouldn't it just be weird and distracting to watch porn in your office and then try to get right back to work?!
08-29-2014 07:47 PM
lanamommyphd07 "you have to wait until she cries before you b/f her or she won't develop her lungs. Something is wrong with her because she never cries!"
08-29-2014 07:24 PM
missmelancholy That I would need to give my baby vitamins because I'm breastfeeding. - Pediatrician
08-28-2014 08:49 PM
Momma2Merrell I had a postpartum nurse tell me, as I was struggling to figure out my first experience as a nursing mom..."you really should give her a bottle, I don't think she's getting enough milk." I said, "no thank you, we'll figure it out." She then tells me, "well I'm just going to make you a couple bottles to go home with you." I said, "they are going to be wasted because I am breastfeeding."

If I wasn't breastfed myself, and had my husband who was breastfed himself and completely supportive, and I educated myself beforehand...I was SET on figuring it out (because at first it takes some getting used to).... If I was just listening to the "educated" hospital staff...I probably would have given my infant the bottle and caused nipple confusion and possible milk supply issues.....

This thread is funny, yes, because we all obviously know that BFing is way better....
but what if someone doesn' a young mom that just had a brand new baby for the first time... and she listens to these sucks!
08-28-2014 01:00 PM
TheCrunchyBrit OMG - this thread!
DH's gran was told by her doctor that she was unable to breastfeed all her 3 children as after about 2 weeks her milk had 'turned solid in her breasts'! WTF? I'm assuming he meant that she was unlucky enough to get mastitis each time (probably due in no small part to the feeding 'schedules' they recommended back in the day) but hey, why bother explaining things to your patient or advising on treatment? He instead advised her to put them all on good old fashioned sweetened condensed milk. Advice she duly followed. I'm genuinely angry for her about this, she's very pro-breastfeeding and always talks about how much she would have loved feeding her kids.
I'm another one who has been told that I'll make my son gay by continuing to breastfeed him until toddlerhood. That one's always good for a laugh. I just say that surely all this boob exposure will turn him into a breast man!
I guess the scariest thing I've dealt with recently though was 3 weeks ago. I had a meeting with the Supervisor of Midwives at my hospital over my plans for a home birth and she was gobsmacked that I still fed 2 year old DS. She said I would have to stop before baby number 2 was born because otherwise my body wouldn't make colostrum for the baby if I continued to produce milk. I had to explain to the Head Midwife of my Unicef Baby Friendly Accredited Hospital that when women breastfeed during pregnancy their milk reverts back to colostrum at about 16 weeks, oh and that DS wouldn't be able to 'steal' all the colostrum either. When I got home I told my mum because my mum is a retired Midwife and she breastfed her children, thinking mum would be just as shocked as I was. Instead my mum said 'Well, what did you expect? She's probably never seen anything like this before. It's (tandem feeding) something that only happens in third world countries now.'
08-27-2014 08:00 AM
EnviroBecca GaleWinds, I had a college boyfriend ask me if I would be able to feed a baby! I just said, "Sure, my mom did!" and let it go. But obviously I haven't forgotten.
08-26-2014 04:38 PM
Originally Posted by GaleWinds View Post
"Your boobs are so small, your babies will surely starve!" Yes, thank you, I am quite aware of how woefully flat-chested I am. Thanks for bringing up all those hideously painful jr. high and high school memories for me. No really, thank you.

FTR I breast fed 2 quite successfully, no supplements required, and even banked 8-9 oz per day with second.

You just cracked me up!

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08-26-2014 01:51 PM
GaleWinds "Your boobs are so small, your babies will surely starve!" Yes, thank you, I am quite aware of how woefully flat-chested I am. Thanks for bringing up all those hideously painful jr. high and high school memories for me. No really, thank you.

FTR I breast fed 2 quite successfully, no supplements required, and even banked 8-9 oz per day with second.
08-25-2014 08:12 AM
"You should do what my mother used to - give the babies Borden sweetened condensed milk. My little brother was so chubby, once I stuck his diaper pin right through his fat roll, and he didn't even notice."
Sweetened condensed milk is what I ate when I was 18 and recovering from mono which had caused me to lose 25 pounds. I can't imagine using it as a food (rather than an ingredient) for any situation other than emergency rapid weight gain. But I guess rapid weight gain is what your great-grandmother thought was healthy??

I may have posted this earlier in the thread...but because my little girl is now going to the same home childcare her big brother did, I was reminded of it just by nursing in the same place again.... When my son was 12 weeks old and I'd just gone back to work, one day I was nursing him at childcare when another mom came to drop off her kids, and she said, "Oh you're still nursing, well I give you credit for that--I quit after a few weeks; they were just so demanding." Um, you mean hungry?
08-24-2014 09:41 AM
bayosgirl87 After six months, there's no benefit. :eyeroll:
08-23-2014 02:11 PM
sidrajedi "Only nurse twenty minutes on each side or they get gassy." Um, I don't know about anyone else but with my O/S that would have made DD's gas worse. Also my IBCLC told me never to limit time at the breast. But this was from someone who last BF in the mid 1980s so there's that.

Also this person told me that I had to quit BF when I wanted to TTC bc it was "bad for the (new) baby". Okay...
08-23-2014 12:41 PM
OklaFarmMama Haha, this is pretty amusing.
Nothing too extreme here, just the silly "your STILL breast feeding?" From DH's step family. They all BF, but not past 6 months, or first teeth. But DD is only my first and only 10 months old so I'm sure more silly advice will be given. Although I tend to focus on the positive like...

My dad's parents are always delighted when I nurses DD. My grandpa will still start laughing over the one time DD was routing around like "a little piggy" while I was holding her because I was trying to wait a few minutes because I was distracted.
08-22-2014 03:21 PM
my3beasties OK here goes! I've heard some pretty silly things, the worst of which was from a pediatrician - I'm convinced he was poorly educated to begin with, and had started going senile.

DS1 was about 18 months, first visit with this Dr. He asked me if DS had been breastfed, when I said he was still nursing the Dr. replied "Oh NO, you should stop...there's no nutritional benefit to breastfeeding after 12 months." Like my breastmilk just turned to water on his first birthday?!

Then there are the comments like "Aren't you uncomfortable nursing around people?" My reply is: "Nope - if someone is bothered by seeing a breast perform its naturally intended function, then they need to see more of it."

And of course, who could forget all the stupid advice like "You've got to drink milk to make milk"....."Don't let them nurse too long, you'll spoil them"......"Oh he needs a bottle with cereal mixed in (at 3 mos)"......"You need to give them infant vitamin drops to make sure they're getting enough (from a NICU nurse?!)"......"You should stop around 6 months and just switch to formula, it's such a hassle to breastfeed (because buying, mixing formula & sterilizing bottles is so much easier??)".

The real prizewinner? From my nearly 98-yr-old grandmother: "You should do what my mother used to - give the babies Borden sweetened condensed milk. My little brother was so chubby, once I stuck his diaper pin right through his fat roll, and he didn't even notice." Words fail me.
08-16-2014 08:23 AM
tracyamber Oh please more stories. I looked forward to reading these every morning for good laughs
05-21-2014 06:05 PM

My mom is starting to get weird about my continued (though somewhat ebbing) breastfeeding.  I casually mentioned that every woman about my age (and even some older moms) in her church seem to be nursing their toddlers.  She had no response to that.

05-20-2014 07:45 AM

What a great thread! These are hilarious and sad too that people are so misinformed. 

My husband and I were at his parents for some holiday and our daughter was less than a year old. I heard his sister say "She's not still nursing is she?"
my dh just glared at her and she shut up pretty quick. Then one time I was sitting in my car in the grocery store parking lot nursing with a cover on. This old man

 walks over and asks me what I'm doing. I told him I was feeding her and he was like "oh... don't you think it's weird when women nurse

their babies up to two years? There's something wrong with that". Rather than get in an argument I was like Oh yeah.. sure. Thankfully right at this moment

my dh came out of the store. People are so dang weird. I should have told him that babies who are breastfed longer are proven healthier and smarter. ;)

04-25-2014 07:30 PM
3lilchunklins Speaking of resturants, we were at a chinese buffet and I needed to nurse DS, and my sister was like "aren't you going to cover up??!!?!" I was just like "At this age, he ends up exposing me more with the cover than just nursing him normal" She says OK sarcastically and rolls her eyes.
04-25-2014 03:43 PM

From my Grandpa yesterday, "shouldn't you give him more bottles? He's having to work too hard." Meaning my son's had weight gain issues recently and he thought me pumping milk for him would be better. Lol, he got along fine without any bottles and got his first at four months old.


And before we went out to eat "Are you bringing a bottle of pumped milk?" I think he was hinting that nursing in the restaurant would be weird. I ended up having to comfort nurse him to sleep, but we were the only people there and our waitress was pregnant.


I've had my struggles and worked hard to keep going, making people uncomfortable isn't something I worry about anymore.

04-23-2014 10:27 PM
tracyamber Love this thread too!
04-22-2014 10:37 AM
mommy2k&k Lol, love this thread! I so needed a good laugh today!smile.gif

My youngest DD was a preemie and I constantly heard how I needed to put cereal in a bottle to fatten her up.
Also how that if I continued to BF her that she would never get enough to eat because I couldn't see how much she was eating.. Hmmm I though she would stop eating when she was full?!? Lol
I love reading all these stories.
04-22-2014 09:42 AM

Well I told my husband that if he did not leave the air on my milk would spoil so I could sit in a nice cold house lol it did not work  

03-25-2014 01:15 PM
pokeyac Welcome to Mothering kittymommy1974! Here is a link to the abbreviations. I hope this helps.
03-24-2014 12:56 AM

I had someone today tell me that I traumatized their 15yo.  I was speechless.  Still kind of am.

03-23-2014 09:31 PM
kittymommy1974 My mom told me to make a slurry of Rice cereal, whole milk and corn syrup to feed my 5 week old. To fatten him up because he isn't getting enough milk.

Love this board but I have no idea what all the abbreviations are. Any cheat sheets out there?
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