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05-08-2014 10:12 AM
pokeyac Hi shan33! Welcome to Queer Parenting! Queer Conceptions has a thread for each month. Come on over to the May thread and introduce yourself here! I hope your TTC journey is short and sweet.
05-07-2014 08:35 PM
shan33 Ok so my partner and I are ready to begin the insemenation process. We are meeting with a known donor tomorrow to talk everything over and are hoping to start as soon as this month or next. We are going to try at home first. I have a 11 year old son from a previous marriage with a man. And I'm ready to have a little one in our lives again. I'm hoping that it will go well and fast. Fingers and toes crossed.
05-01-2014 12:55 PM

May forum is now started!


Please join us:

05-01-2014 09:00 AM

jwaite - I'm so sorry to read your update. I hope that things go okay for you as you move on to your next step. You seem to have an incredible way of maintaining a positive attitude no matter what you are facing.

05-01-2014 07:51 AM
fillefantome Oh, jwaite, I'm so sorry! I'm very glad that you have the option for DW to TTC, but know that that doesn't stop your loss from hurting. Sending you both all my hopes and wishes for things to go well with the switch. And very glad to hear you'll stick around and share your NGP journey with us. Is the plan to stick with your current KD?

Pook, I do hope your little girl ends up with two little brothers in the end, even if it takes her a while to adjust to the horrible notion of not having a little sister. I have thought a lot about the idea of fostering, and, right now, I just can't imagine the emotional turmoil of letting myself love a child who may or may not stay with me--and knowing that I had no control over what happens. I still think I may pursue it someday--once I've fulfilled my desire to experience pregnancy/birth, I hope I might be in a better place to roll with that experience.

AFM, I have to laugh. Today and Saturday are insem days, and the office manager at my work just brought me a box marked perishable. I've ended up with a lot of Saturday shipments over the past year, so have only had to have my KD ship to me at work a few times, but she's very chatty and friendly, and the first time I got a shipment here, I couldn't figure out how to explain why I got a box marked perishable shipped to me first overnight, so I might have insinuated that my friend had a bit of a thing for baking. Okay, so insinuated might be the wrong phrase. Hey, it's baby batter, right? So, L just came to my desk with the box and said, "it looks like your friend sent more yummy treats." I hope my smile looked like the smile of someone who was looking forward to handmade truffles, not the smile of someone who was trying not to crack up....
05-01-2014 12:17 AM
friederike candle.gif Jwaite, I am so very sorry you have to go through this again. Many healing thoughts for your hearts and mind to you and DW, and that your body will be able to let it go naturally.
04-30-2014 08:58 PM

Silly me - I only posted to the QP&P board - we're having a boy! DD is super put out about it, which is kind of adorable. So I've had a 3 year old trying to negotiate with me to somehow turn the baby in to a girl or at the very least promise her we'll have another baby in the future. We're pretty sure we won't have another, especially if our foster son gets to stay. On that front, his dad slipped up this week, which is not enough to wrap things up, but it does give us some hope that DFS might stay. My biggest worry is that he goes back to his dad only to end up in the system again down the road. Right now I'm holding on top hope that he stays.


Jwaite - I am so very sorry for your news. I can only imagine how you're feeling. Is DW a lot younger than you? Mine is a bit younger but has had enough health issues (including cancer) that we really felt we only had one uterus at our disposal. I'm so glad that you guys will get to continue trying. I'll be here rooting for you! 

04-30-2014 04:45 PM

Hopeful, THANK YOU for stepping up to be threadkeeper!!  I hope it brings you lots of baby luck!<3  Sounds like your IUI was perfect in all possible ways.  Really glad to hear that the donor's counts were so high!  AWESOME!  My fingers and toes are crossed for you this cycle.


Pookafaye, did you get your results back yet?  Glad it was just a blood test and no possible complications.  It's really neat that you get to know the baby's sex so early!  Keep us posted, please!


afu, well, we had another scan today (7w3d) and still an empty sac.  So bummed.  I am going to start acupuncture treatment to assist with the clearing process next week.  DW and I have decided that it is her turn to try.  I am 40 and with mc #2, it just makes sense to us to hand over the baton, so to speak.  I feel fortunate that we are both women and able to have her try now.  Hetero couples aren't that fortunate:)  I will stay on here to cheer for everyone, and share our story from the non-gestational parent's point of view<3  Thank you all, once again, for your kind words and supportive thoughts.  I can't express how beneficial it's been for me to have you ladies, some of which I've chatted with now for over a year.  It's really helpful to have neutral people that care<3


I hope May is a month full of BFPs for this group!!!!

04-29-2014 02:45 PM

I will be threadkeeper for May. I could use some of that threadkeepers luck :bgbounce

04-28-2014 06:34 PM
jwaite05 Hi everyone,
I will be back soon with personals but wanted to mention that its the end of the month...Would anyone like to be the thread keeper for May??
04-28-2014 05:43 PM

Pookafaye  - Very excited for you!  Thanks for the good wishes.  Next round will be with meds to help regulate cycles and timing a bit better.  Can't wait for the first IUI.


Hopeful - Sounds amazing!  Hoping for the best!

04-28-2014 11:17 AM

Jwaite - NIPT is just a blood draw - totally non-invasive with no risk and pretty good accuracy. They don't even list it as an option for expectant mother's under 35 though - so I'm glad to have just qualified! Anxiously checking my email today in hopes that today's the day for results. Could be another week though  :/


Hopeful - Such excellent numbers this month! I'll keep my fingers tightly crossed for you!  fingersx.gif 


BabyFaith - So frustrating to have a 1/7 chance of bad timing each month with that office closure. Here's to the next cycle: I hope it's the one for you!




04-27-2014 06:07 PM
hopeful22 Just a quick post to say that I think we had perfect timing this time. We had our IUI yesterday and made a nice trip to Seattle for the day out of it. Then my temp had a nice spike this morning. Also, our KD's counts were so much better! Our last IUI he had a total count of 5 million post wash and this time was nearly 20 million!! His prewash total motile count was about 57.9 million! I am thrilled with those numbers and the timing! Now , we just wait.

dust.gif to all!
04-27-2014 09:20 AM
jwaite05 Thanks Fried! Hey how are you healing?? Everything going ok?
04-26-2014 01:07 PM
friederike Jwaite, we too first saw an embryo at 7+1, before that just a sac, which even measured a bit small (it's so easy to be off by a milimeter though, which then makes the ultrasound program calculate wrong). So I am crossing my fingers that you're right, and your little is still hiding. All the best thoughts to you!
04-26-2014 12:51 PM

Hopeful, I got you moved!  Hope the IUI was painless today:)  I am glad you had an encouraging meeting with your RE.  As they say, it only takes one egg and one swimmer to accomplish the task, so hopefully 3 follies each time give you a good shot!!  I'm sending you lots of baby dust that this is your cycle  dust.gif


Fille, THANK YOU for the info!!  I am staying as positive as possible:)  This info helps<3


Pookafaye, I am so glad that your progressing and think it's really neat that you get to find out the sex so early.  How was the NIPT test administered?  Did they use tissue from the embryo?  Was it painful?  


Mama, thanks again for the encouragement!  How are you guys hanging in??  Still waiting for AF?


Lea, I am so excited for you that you got to hear a heartbeat with the dobbler, and movement, too!!!  Whew!  I bet that WAS SO EMOTIONAL:Hug  I am really excited for you guys!!  After all you've been through, you deserve a healthy pregnancy<3  Are you going to find out the sex of the baby?  Are you starting to 'poke out' yet??  :)  Today I am 6w6d according to LDP.  I had a trans vaginal u/s on 6w2d.  Showing an empty gestational sac, which measured correctly with how far along I am.  The OB is comparing it to the u/s 7 months ago that indicated the m/c, which was a bit upsetting to me...he's saying it's the same scenerio...I'm saying it's really not.  That one was done in the 7w +d mark, showed a gestational and yolk sac with a slight fetal pole measuring at 5w?d and I had started bleeding (slightly).  This time no bleeding, and I am really hoping this embryo is just a 'late bloomer'.  I have been reading lots of success stories that 6w is too early for some women to see anything.  Maybe it's false hope, but it's getting me through the waiting game.  


BabyFaith, happy to hear the testing came back clear.  Sorry that you missed this cycle.  But maybe the test will have opened those tubes up so that next cycle will be the one for you!!

04-25-2014 04:09 PM

Sorry have been gone for awhile but the last few weeks have been super stressful.  Good news.  HSG is normal.  Bad news:  Ovulated last cycle, OPK did not catch it and it wouldn't have mattered anyway because it happened on a Saturday and my doctor doesn't do IUIs on Sundays.  Oh well... there's always next time.....


Hopeful:  Sending you lots of baby dust


Jwaite:  Hoping for the best


lea2012:  Very happy for you!

04-25-2014 03:45 PM

Jwaite - I'm glad to hear the numbers are going up - that does seem promising. Will you remind me how far along you are? And did your doctor do an external or transvaginal ultrasound? Or just use a doppler to try to find the heartbeat? I'm curious about all these details...I hope your appointment on Monday gives you some valuable information!


Hopeful - sounds like you have a really good plan for this cycle and it must be nice to know there are solid options moving forward, if you need them. I hope this cycle works out for you!


How is everyone else doing? I'm with pookafaye - the board does seem more active than others. And I think am still finding it hard to feel ready to move on after being on this board for so, I'll keep hanging out a bit and rooting for all of you!


Jwaite, thanks for asking about me - I just had an appointment with the midwife this afternoon and she found the heartbeat right away with the doppler - we also heard a lot of kicking (which, of course, I can't feel at all yet). It was a kind of emotional experience because it was the first time the doppler has actually given us good news! 

04-25-2014 03:07 PM
mamaetmaman Pook- how exciting!

Jwaite- really good sign HCG is still super high!
04-25-2014 01:27 PM

Jwaite - I'm so glad your numbers are still heading in the right direction - I've been keeping you in my thoughts and have my fingers crossed for Monday! fingersx.gif


Lots of good thoughts and babydust to everyone else! I've been lurking around still post-graduating since the other board can be so quiet. Everything is going strong here. Did the NIPT test on Monday and results take 7-10 days. So excited to find out if we'll be having a boy or a girl  stork-suprise.gif 



04-25-2014 01:03 PM
fillefantome Jwaite, I don't know too much about HCG levels/doubling times, so I looked it up and the sites I looked at all said after 6000, the doubling time can be four days or more and that's perfectly normal. It seems like going up is the key. Continuing to hope you get good news!
04-25-2014 11:49 AM

Jwaite, I am thinking of you and hoping it was just too early to see the heartbeat. Your numbers going up seem like a really fabulous thing! Everything that I can possibly cross is crossed for you.


Fille- Sorry about your BFN. I'm hoping you won't be able to do that study since you will already be pregnant :)


Jenny- I have been on 50 mg of Clomid for 3 months and my RE doesn't want to increase it. I typically see three follies above 20mm and she hasn't talked about my lining so I am assuming it looks good.I think she may have said it was 10 when she was doing the ultrasound last time.  She says I am responding really well to it and that she thinks that if she gave me something else I would overproduce, but I think she just might be saying that to make me feel good.  The issue is not me ovulating though. In fact, we don't really now what the problem is. There is a possiblity that I have endometrosis and our sperm donor has lower than average counts. I have also read those stories about Femera being the magic trick for people. I hope it works for you.  Thanks for all the information. It really does help to compare my results to other peoples,


Fried- Thanks for the information. My previous PCP had me on thyroid meds a few years ago but when I got my levels checked again with my new doctor after I moved, she didn't think there was a problem with my levels. I think I'll look into that and the Vitamin D. Thanks for the reminder.


Mkgarcia- I tracked my cycles for about three months before starting to try. I think it was really helpful in timing things and I learned so much about my body. Is there a reason your DP wants to wait until July to start trying? Remind me, are you using a KD or frozen sperm? In my opinion, having the time to learn about when you typically ovulate is more important when using frozen sperm because you typically only have one or two insems each month, where with a KD there can be more flexibility.


Nise- Any news? How did this cycle go?



AFM- Can I be moved to TWW? We did a mid cycle ultrasound on Wednesday and I had a nice chat with my doctor. I had emailed the nurse when I got my period this cycle, and was really frustrated and wanting to try something else, and apparently the nurse told the doctor all about it. So she kinda told me about what to expect next and gave me a glimpse into the plan. If this cycle doesn't work I will be making an appt for us to get a detailed long term plan. She said that I was responding really well to the Clomid and that she wouldn't want to put me on anything stronger. I didn't think three follicles were that fabulous but she made it seem like it was a really great thing, I think it was just to make me feel better. She also mentioned doing IVF to bypass the possible endometrosis and "mild" male factor. So we will see. Maybe this cycle will work and we won't need to create a plan. As of yesterday, I haven't had a positive OPK yet so we did a shot of Ovidrel and we will go in tomorrow for our IUI.

04-25-2014 11:21 AM
jwaite05 Our latest update...hcg came back from yesterday still going UP. It wasn't doubled. But went up another 9000 in 48 hours. We have an appt on Monday afternoon with the OB. Not sure what to think or what the OB will have to say. Hopefully they will schedule another u/s in a week or so. Thanks again for the support and positive thoughts! !
04-25-2014 05:07 AM
jwaite05 Thanks mama!!
04-24-2014 07:49 PM
mamaetmaman Thinking of you jwaite. Hope all is okay.
04-24-2014 03:06 PM
jwaite05 Thank you ALL for the supportive and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I will know which way my hcg levels are going tomorrow afternoon (I've had BW again quants two days ago were 24000). And then we have an appt to discuss results on Monday afternoon.
Thanks again everyone. You are all wonderfully supportive♡
04-24-2014 11:16 AM

jwaite - I'm sorry you are in this waiting period to hear more. I am hoping and crossing all appendages that it is just too early to see the HB too - :Hug

04-24-2014 10:26 AM

Jwaite - Thinking of you and sending you good vibes.

04-23-2014 08:00 AM
jam51212 Jwaite - I'm so sorry you're having to go through this! I will be sending positive thoughts and wishes your way!
04-23-2014 07:54 AM
fillefantome Jwaite, I'm doing the closest thing my agnostic heart can manage to praying good news for you!
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