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09-11-2014 05:26 AM
lilitchka few days before my labor with DS2, I had a kidney stone attack. Horrible.
then, went in to labor few days later, and the memory of the kidney stone was very fresh.
It was a home birth, I remember thinking: when it gets to the same level as the kidney stone pain, I will have to ask for pain relief.
I kept waiting, I birthed an 11pounds 2 onces never reached the pain I had just few days ago with kidney stones.

pathological pain is often worse, because there is anxiety associated to it, an there is very little natural mechanisms to help us with pain perception.
07-14-2014 11:24 AM
Mollystork Absolutely NOTHING! I honestly cannot imagine pain worse than labor. But I've never broken any bones, so maybe I'm just naive.
07-11-2014 05:13 PM
Vespertina Tooth pain and getting the tattoos on top of my feet. And my broken baby toe.
07-06-2014 03:08 PM
crazyms I agree many other things hurt way worse than labor. As bad as labor could get even with full on back labor and badly positioned babies and fast, hard births there was an amazing happy end goal I was getting closer and closer to with each pain. In some ways it was distracting from the pain... every time the pain got worse my mind was just focused on omg omg the baby's almost heeerrreee!!! It kept the intensity of the pain down when I kept realizing that after all those long months of pregnancy this was it! I was meeting my baby very soon. So yeah a lot of things are worse than that. I think the worst pain I've ever had though was an abcess on an impacted wisdom tooth. O. M. G. That was one time in my life that I truly wanted to die, take drugs, get run over by a bus, ANYthing to make it go away. Seriously if I'd experienced that kind of pain and not had children I'm not sure how well it would have went. I was calling my mom in tears at 2 am "why don't I know any drug dealers? Waaaaaaa"
07-06-2014 02:41 PM
aja-belly I've had pretty easy labors (aside from the breech extraction which hurt like hell but only for a few seconds). I would say many things have hurt worse than labor.

After pains
Root canal
Abscesses tooth
A bad flu
Strep throat
Nursing a noob that's not any good at nursing
05-06-2014 01:10 PM
Galatea Every time I get my mustache threaded, I swear it hurts way worse than labor.
05-05-2014 05:41 PM

I'm not sure I've experienced anything as intense and overwhelming as labor. But I think a lot of the pain was alleviated by the "end goal" of having a sweet babe in my arms soon- whereas with pain caused by various illnesses/injuries, I didn't KNOW the pain would ever end, per se. And I definitely didn't have as much of a reward at the end of the suffering. :p

05-05-2014 05:36 PM

Well I just had emergency sugery  yesterday and can honestly say that waking up in recovery was the worst pain of my life. I had abdominal surgery so they pumped my abdominal cavity full of gas and some of it got trapped between my liver and diaphram. I thought it was a heart attack, lots of morphine.

05-05-2014 05:36 PM
limabean Oops, quoted when I meant to edit.

That sounds truly awful, aggie pop. I agree that the things I'm listing here are way, way beyond labor pain for me. As someone else said, labor pain is productive and has a whole different feel psychologically.
05-05-2014 03:09 PM
aggie pop
Originally Posted by capucine View Post

You know, for me, pain from something BAD (an injury, illness, or the like) has been what is worse. I had that lesson a couple weeks after a miscarriage when I suddenly got cramps that were like labor, but had a wrong bad terrible feeling to them that clearly telegraphed something was wrong, scary, and bad somewhere. Labor is not frightening like that; powerful cramping but healthy. It was almost the same feeling, cramping over an incomplete miscarriage, but the source was the difference.

So, anyway, that was more painful!


I agree.  I had one too (incomplete for a few days, at home).  The intense sorrow coupled with the labor was crushing in so many ways.

05-05-2014 03:06 PM
aggie pop

It's endemic here in the tropics : /  We have 2 strains (of 4 existing) and I got the worse one, unfortunately.  It lasted about 3 days of intense pain - I can't even describe how much it hurts - even the bottoms of your feet, so you can't walk without horrendous pain or lay in a bad.  Plus I had a 105.6 fever, so I was passing out all the time during that stage of it (febrile - there are 3 parts to the illness).  Then you get a 2-day respite and can take off your sunglasses for a little bit.  Then blood out of my nose and mouth and fluid trapped under my skin.  Platelets way down too.  The doctor had treated about 200 patients for it and I was only #2 to have the hemorrhagic version, he said.


Then I got stuck with post-dengue syndrome, which lasted about a year.  I think it cooked my brain- I couldn't remember anything or think how I used to and I was incredibly tired all the time.


Note though that I don't agree the release of the mutant male mosquitoes in Brazil.


I know what you mean about chronic illness - I have fibromyalgia - part of the reason we moved down here to the beach (water, heat are the best treatments I have found and it's much less than when I lived in the northeast, sometimes for days not being able to turn my head.  Has only happened once since relocating to warmer environment, so I'm grateful for being able to do that.  It is so grating to be in chronic pain though- I felt bad for my family because I got mad at them so easily when in pain.


I have a friend from high school who has trigeminal neuralgia (& MS).  It sounds terrible :(


Novocaine for a root canal was terrible as well.  Hopefully I won't ever need to do that again.


But maybe it sounds like I am comparing labor to these things- I'm not.  many things are more painful than labor to me.  That was just the MOST painful.

05-05-2014 09:02 AM
limabean Oh my gosh, @aggiepop, that must have been horrendous!! How did you acquire dengue, and how long did the illness last?

Trigeminal neuralgia is another one that's worse than labor pain for me. Thankfully mine is episodic rather than chronic like some people experience, so when it flares up I know it'll only last a few days. But again, it's the relentlessness that wears me down. Every time my hair brushes my face, or a breeze touches my cheek, or I chew or brush my teeth ... pretty much everything sends an electric shock feeling throughout half my face -- it's really awful. I don't know how chronic sufferers manage.
05-04-2014 08:25 PM
aggie pop

Hemorrhagic Dengue is the worst acute pain I've ever been in.  I had my babies at home in the water though, so maybe I would feel differently if I was in the hospital for a birth.  I recommend it!

05-03-2014 03:00 PM
limabean Gallbladder attacks. Labor pain is intense but comes in waves. The gallbladder attacks I experienced were relentless, and the pain would just build on itself until I thought I would go crazy from desperately needing relief and never getting it. When they finally injected heavy-duty IV pain meds after an 8-hour drive to the ER (long story), the pain disappeared instantly, and the relief I felt was incredible. It was immediately followed by overwhelming exhaustion, now that my body could finally relax.

I feel so terrible for people who live with chronic debilitating pain. It takes such an incredible toll on the body, physically and emotionally.
05-03-2014 01:20 PM
Originally Posted by colomomma View Post

Vaginal Exams during labor!!! Hurt way more than labor itself. If there is a next time for me, I am refusing.
haha i would agree!
05-02-2014 08:31 PM
capucine You know, for me, pain from something BAD (an injury, illness, or the like) has been what is worse. I had that lesson a couple weeks after a miscarriage when I suddenly got cramps that were like labor, but had a wrong bad terrible feeling to them that clearly telegraphed something was wrong, scary, and bad somewhere. Labor is not frightening like that; powerful cramping but healthy. It was almost the same feeling, cramping over an incomplete miscarriage, but the source was the difference.

So, anyway, that was more painful!
05-02-2014 02:41 PM

Coming from the perspective of an epidural birth here-- but I did have labor for a few hours. ;-)


Physically what hurt the most was when I was in India and got very sick from a strain of flu. I felt that every bone and every muscle in my body was broken and I just wanted to go into a coma until it was over. They thought it was malaria, it was so bad, but it ended up just being a nasty strain of the flu.


Emotionally what hurt me the most was when my second baby needed to be tube-fed and suffered a lot for the first three years until we figured out what was going on with her. It was hard to not be able to participate with the very basic act of feeding your baby, and hurt even more that I could not comfort her through that difficult time.

05-02-2014 08:46 AM

Many of my menstrual periods have been far, far worse than labor. I had two home waterbirths, and while they were very intense, they never had me rocking on the floor for several days wishing for morphine or death the way my periods have. I have endometriosis, so it can get pretty bad.

04-29-2014 10:21 PM
JudiAU Nothing including kidney stones, scratched cornea, and jaw broken in four places.

My water breaks and when I go into labor with those all posterior babes it never stops. I don't have waves or moves or any breaks. 0 to 10 on two hours. Pushing is such such an awesome relief.
04-29-2014 07:32 PM

I asked this question to my Lamaze classes over several decades; The answers to what is the most pain you have ever felt (in comparison to what they feared about labor) I got these replys: 

A paper cut from thick paper

a Dad, former soldier with shrapnel embedded in his abdomen. Pulled up his shirt to show classmates all the tiny scars.

The most frequent  response was a root canal or dental work of some sort

Emotional pain such as loss of a pet, parent, sibling, child or other significant person.


Fundal Punching/involution (after delivery pain from contractions) This was the reply from second time mom in refresher class.

I learned over the years that there is a wide range of pain tolerance but that the story that the pregnant woman's mother tells her about her own labor pain is probably the most significant imput as to how the pregnant woman expects labor contractions to feel. And how she will tolerate labor and delivery.

04-29-2014 03:17 AM

Coughing with a cracked rib hurt worse - sharp stabbing pain is worse than labor contractions.  My first labor was 20 hrs including a very long pushing stage.  Labor was  like running a marathon in short sprints.  The stretching and some tearing during crowning came close to the same level of pain but it was not as painful as the searing stab of pain with every cough when my rib was cracked.  My second labor was only 3 hours and those contractions were a lot tougher than with the long labor because they were so powerful with hardly any rest but crowning was much easier and the whole thing was over almost before I realised I was so far along!  Pain is also so much about the mindset. With the cracked rib I was scared and panicky - struggling for any way to suppress the cough and escape the pain.  With labor I felt strong, well supported by my midwives my husband and my mother and I felt committed to what I was doing.  I guess that makes a big difference.

04-27-2014 10:18 AM

Dislocating my knee (and the 2 days of muscle spasms that ensued) was about 1 million times more painful than my 20-hour all natural labor and home birth of my 1st son and about 2 million times more painful than my 12-hour all natural labor and home birth of my 2nd son. I swear, labor just felt like hard menstrual cramps up until the point when the baby's head was coming out both times. Yeah the "ring of fire" is painful, but even that was quicker and more bearable than dislocating my knee. 

04-27-2014 06:24 AM

Getting my period with my copper IUD was hands down the worst pain I've ever experienced. And stupid me left that thing in for over 6 months thinking my body would eventually adjust. DH would find me on the floor of the bathroom unable to move. Appendicitis (I was 17 y/o) was also a debilitating, can't move kind of pain. I still think the IUD was worse. Back labor, even labor augmented with pitocin was nothing in comparison thanks to hypnobirthing!

04-26-2014 03:26 PM

I'm too young to know just yet. Labour was hard enough, but I could imagine that the pain from kidney stones would be absolutely terrible. :(

04-26-2014 12:41 PM

Having the placenta manually extracted during 3rd stage was just as bad or worse than pushing contractions, and it didn't help that 1. it wasn't regular or predictable, at least I could count through a contraction and have an idea how long it would be until the next, and 2. I was sitting up and holding my son, and didn't have the opportunity to change positions to a position that might have been better. Maybe that would have been a good situation to wait on the 'hold the baby and bond' thing, and let dad hold him instead.

04-25-2014 06:52 AM

Migraines.  I've had them since I was 11 years old and have come to know levels 7, 8, and 9 of the 1-10 pain scale intimately, but I never ranked any pain a 10, figuring that it was possible to experience worse pain than I ever had.


Natural childbirth hit level 9 at the peak of some contractions, but none of those peaks lasted more than 20 seconds.  I had at least a dozen prior experiences of migraines battering me with level 9 for 30-90 MINUTES without stopping, so labor was easy to tolerate by comparison.


Six years after my son was born, I had a migraine that went to Level 10.  I was right about the existence of Level 10.  I was there for hours and brought down only by the ER injecting me with an off-label schizophrenia drug.  I hope never to experience Level 10 again.

04-25-2014 05:32 AM
Sihaya I've had two 9lb babies via waterbirths using Hypnobabies and both were painful at the end (both had nuchal hands and one had to be helped out manually so I had 2 sets of midwives' hands in there turning him), but it was not by any means the worst pain I've ever had.

The two things that come to mind as more painful are my third miscarriage and a sinus infection that just wouldn't quit. Hemorrhoids are a tie since I also deal with them during labor and they probably account for a good portion of the pain of it.
04-25-2014 03:51 AM
Tigerle Slipped disc in my neck. I was drugged out sky high on opiates frozen upright into a sort of fetal position pushing my feet against a nursing pillow for about 24 h until they could wheel me into the operating room. Unmedicated labor, dilating fully within about two hours? Anytime!
04-24-2014 10:46 PM
mommy2k&k I had a bad wreak and nothing hurt as bad as trying/learning to use muscles that were stiff from laying in the hospital bed for so long.
Birth/labor was a piece of cake compared to that.
04-24-2014 10:22 PM

Really, really bad papercuts.

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