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07-09-2014 11:40 AM
superbeans That's okay, you don't have to add me back. Just wanted to make sure it wasn't because my baby was funny looking or something That makes sense My baby was born in October, so probably just accidentally deleted me instead of someone from the top. No worries though, I was just curious.
07-09-2014 05:57 AM
Originally Posted by superbeans View Post
I was just wondering why I was taken off the list. Just curious
Your baby has been born already, right? When the board format changed, I had a huge issue editing the first post because the number of smilies exceeded the maximum allowed, or something. I just kept getting error messages. So I had to delete a lot of the mothers who already had their babies. If you see the front page, each birth has a baby icon next to it, so it was apparently too much for the system. When I started the new thread for July/August, I copied and pasted and the images did not carry over. That's when I realized that I did not need an image beside each birth. I'm a slow learner, I guess. I can add you back to the list in the new thread if you give me the details. I don't know how many months they will be kept though. It makes sense to delete them after a year or even 9 months, since that's how long it takes to cycle through the thread (so everyone who was in the thread with you should have "graduated" in that time). I thought I deleted starting with the oldest birth and worked my way up, but honestly, I couldn't see what I was doing because it was all html. I'm sorry that you were deleted. I hope my explanation makes sense. If I misunderstood, and you are still pregnant, then I have no idea how you were deleted. It would have happened before I took over the thread.
07-08-2014 05:17 PM
superbeans I was just wondering why I was taken off the list. Just curious
07-01-2014 06:26 PM
nsmomtobe sweetface, I'm glad your appointment went well. You must have hit quote or multi-quote before reply.

I've started a new thread for the summer. It was a challenge and we lost some images, but I hope that will make editing easier:
06-26-2014 05:41 PM
xxxxxxxxxxxxsweetface NSmomtobe - I don't know why my reply quoted your post...
This new system is really getting to me...
06-26-2014 05:40 PM
Originally Posted by nsmomtobe View Post
I had an appointment today at 15 weeks. I'm measuring right on target (15 cm fundal height) and fetal heart rate was 156. So everything is good.

My ultrasound is booked for July 30, so I have to wait another 5 weeks.

Xerxella, would you like to join us in this thread?

superbeans, thanks for the update!
I had a U/S on Monday and the baby waved his/her arms for us. How far along I am and my due date keep changing, so now I will be at 13 weeks Sunday.

I have another appointment next week already. Still craving space, peace, quiet. I don't like having people get all worked up about my baby, it makes me feel like the old me doesn't exist anymore. But I am still in there, still have other things on my mind!
06-25-2014 02:39 PM
nsmomtobe I had an appointment today at 15 weeks. I'm measuring right on target (15 cm fundal height) and fetal heart rate was 156. So everything is good.

My ultrasound is booked for July 30, so I have to wait another 5 weeks.

Xerxella, would you like to join us in this thread?

superbeans, thanks for the update!
06-23-2014 11:29 AM
Harmony96 That's so great, beans!
06-23-2014 10:23 AM
superbeans I was just coming to check in and say hello to everyone. My baby is 7 months now!

M Anna I am so sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you.
06-18-2014 01:38 PM
liladancing I think all is well. Now the cramping is a lot less than that day. Just some slight twinges here and there. I am having my next appointment at 2nd ultrasound on Friday of next week so there's that. I can't wait for it. My husband is taking the day off too to go. So it should be a good day.
06-17-2014 10:04 AM
xxxxxxxxxxxxsweetface liladancing - it seems like if there is no blood and only cramping it is probably just your uterus growing. I realized last night while looking down at myself that my belly has grown a lot in the last week. I have felt little cramps in the past few weeks (I am at 11 weeks and 2 days) and I am sure the cramps would have felt a lot worse if I had been worried about them.

The best to you and your baby!
06-16-2014 01:40 PM
taichimom With all my pregnancies I had cramping in the early weeks. Would expect to see blood every time I went to the bathroom. Only time I bled was with my 2 mc's.

If it helps, the cramping was much more severe with the mc's.

Hang in there!
06-16-2014 10:51 AM
liladancing I had some cramping starting at 6 am. When I went back to sleep and woke up at 7:35 it was still there. It is 10:43 now and it is starting to diminish. I am hoping it goes away. It is concerning me and I keep praying for me baby. Plus I had dreams I was at my daughters grave last night. I just talked to the advice nurse though in the middle of this post. She said the cramping can be pretty normal. Hopefully nothing bad will happen.
06-10-2014 05:44 PM
laylasmommy2011 M Anna I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family!!!

I am sorry I haven't been on here much lately,I've been off in my own little world. Few new things going on in my life I'd love to share since I haven't announced the pregnancy yet. I've signed up for some prenatal classes which start next month. I'm excited about them because I did not get to do them with my first pregnancy as I was a workaholic.I've started making a homemade baby book. This will be my last pregnancy so I am wanting to make it as special as possible. I've started saving up because I really want a 3D/4D ultrasound with this pregnancy. My next doctors appointment is in 10 days. We have decided to announce the pregnancy in 5 days since I made 12 weeks today. At 11 weeks 5 days we finally heard the heartbeat for the first time via home doppler. Well thats all I can think of to share right now. Sorry about the book. How is everyone else doing at this point?
06-10-2014 03:47 PM
Harmony96 I'm so sorry, Anna.
06-10-2014 06:08 AM
Xerxella @M Anna @manna - I hope you see this. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you're tend to lean toward a clotting cause for your losses and you may be right. Have you done all the clotting factor tests? There are a lot of them and I'm sure you qualify to get all the testing done with 3 losses. But, I'd like to propose an alternate theory.

I wonder if you don't have a male HY antigen problem. With your history it certainly seems possible. It happens when the mom's body gets sensitized to the Y chromosome and treats it like an invader. It would seem like your sons may have sensitized your body and now your body will reject all male children as a foreign body. Especially, if this one is a boy, to me, it's a serious possibility.

I know you would want to respect the sanctity of the baby's body, but you could have all the genetic testing done on the placenta easily enough. Talk to you doc about sending the placenta to pathology.

to you. I hope you find answers.
06-09-2014 08:23 PM
xxxxxxxxxxxxsweetface M Anna, I am very sorry.
I send you healing vibrations, I hope the future will be brighter for you.
06-09-2014 08:02 PM
liladancing M anna so sorry for your loss. I really hope things in the next few weeks go smoothly for you. It is just too bad your were right all along about your baby being gone. So sorry.
06-09-2014 07:22 PM
M Anna Don't let the clot/baby aspirin thing worry you. I took baby aspirin through the pregnancy with my rainbow baby and she is here and well. I don't know for a fact that this was a blood clot, it just looks like it. We're all individual and for some, aspirin is enough and for others they need heparin and for still others, nothing is enough. Anyway, don't worry overmuch about what happened to me - it doesn't mean it will happen to you or anyone else.

Wishing you all a calm and healthy rest of your pregnancies.
06-09-2014 06:13 PM
nsmomtobe M Anna, I am sorry for your loss. You mentioned in the other thread that you are taking baby aspirin, so I'm sorry (and scared) to hear that it didn't help prevent a blood clot. I hope your body takes care of the pregnancy quickly and easily.
06-09-2014 05:39 PM
RRMum M Anna - I'm so sorry for your loss.
06-09-2014 05:11 PM
M Anna Sorry I'm late updating. I got in this afternoon for an ultrasound and to see the doctor. The baby had no heartbeat, as I had known. He died at 10 weeks, 6 days, probably on Friday (which put my due date back to December 27th where I had originally had it - not that it matters much now). There was nothing obviously wrong. He probably died from a blood clot, which is what we're thinking happened to the other little ones I lost. I'm waiting to deliver on my own which can take a few weeks. I need to see the doc once a week. At the end of three weeks if I have not yet delivered, I'll go in the hospital for a cytotec induction.
06-09-2014 01:51 PM
RRMum MAnna, I'm so sorry to hear you are having to wait. It's the worst! I hope you got either happy news or the information you needed to know what is happening and how to move forward. I know the feeling when you just know something is wrong and you know the doctors can do nothing. Hugs.
06-09-2014 08:23 AM
nsmomtobe M Anna, I hope you are able to get answers today. I know it is a horrible place to be. I know it's hard when you know in your heart that a pregnancy is over but of course you need the confirmation and when I am in that position, I do not like to be given false hope.

But I do have to ask whether you heard the heartbeat earlier in this pregnancy, because I know 10 weeks is considered earlier to hear a heartbeat. Doctors here usually refuse to try before 12 weeks.
06-07-2014 05:09 PM
xxxxxxxxxxxxsweetface So sorry M Anna, this sounds so terrifying and tragic.
I hope you figure out what is going on for sure soon.
Not knowing and waiting around are the worst.
I hope you can be kind with yourself.
Best to you.
06-07-2014 02:46 PM
M Anna I would have been 10 weeks 4 days today. There's nothing they'll do in the ER because I'm not bleeding or cramping. All of my miscarriages have been missed ones though and took weeks for me to start bleeding. Even if they sent me for an u/s they won't give me the results. I might as well wait for Monday.
06-07-2014 12:00 PM
liladancing M Annathat is horrible news. I am sorry. How far along are you? If it is an emergency can't you call the on call doc for the weekend or go into the e.r.?
06-07-2014 09:01 AM
M Anna I couldn't find the hb last night or trying twice this morning. Probably over two hours all together. I know the baby is gone. I have to wait until Monday to call the doctor's office to get in for a confirmation u/s. I'll let you all know any updates.
06-05-2014 10:37 AM
nsmomtobe I'm really having a hard time with the format. Cannot edit the first post without removing a number of graphics. I hope to have time to do that this weekend. I was able to update my ticker!

As for commemorating loss, I have a necklace, which I keep meaning to get DH to take a picture of for me so I can post it in a thread here. I had a previous necklace (pictured as my avatar) which contained the dates and birthstones of my first 2. After my 3rd loss, I switched to a floating(?) locket, which is glass and I can add whatever I want to it. I have 3 large birth stones to represent my loss dates and 3 small birth stones to represent the due dates. There is also a butterfly charm for my butterfly babies, and the letter D to represent my son. I meant to have his birth stone too, but the one I ordered for him was too big and the wrong colour, so I returned it. When the new baby is born, I will order another initial and birthstones for my living babies to add as well.

I also plan to do something on Dec 20th (if I'm not in labour that day) to remember the 2 I lost on that date. It will probably be to light a candle or something. I know people do balloon releases, but I think it is bad for the environment, and I would also worry about safety issues with fire being released.
06-05-2014 09:02 AM
RRMum Hi All - Thanks NSMomtobe, your thoughts are helpful, and I'm hopeful for your next check in with baby!

I read the book "Silent Sorrow" about pregnancy loss and found it really helpful. And I am about to pick up "Wild Solace" which was recommended by a friend who recently lost her father.

I ended up writing a letter about this recent loss and all the losses, for the important women in my life. It was a great strategy, because I could share my feelings, think about what I was really feeling (not just what i am supposed to be feeling), and even offer it to my DH so he can understand my point of view. I sent it via email and it has helped me feel a little more willing to get out and be social, there are no secrets with the people who love me and my family. We are now thinking about a way to commemorate all four losses and celebrate our family of three. I'd like to do something fleeting/ephemeral and in nature. Any ideas? I've thought of releasing Chinese hot air balloon type lanterns or floating flower wreaths with candles down a river, but I am worried about safety issues. I don't want to set me local forest of fire! Anyone found a way to commemorate their previous losses? I think I was avoiding doing this thinking that if I had another child grieving would be a moot point, but now I think the grief would always be there and need to be felt even if we did have a successful pregnancy.

Sweetface - good news! I'm glad to hear it.

And yeah - the news system sort or sucks - I had the hardest time relocating this group.
Love and light to you all and your little rainbows!
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