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Today 08:06 AM
Fertility Challenged Graduates Thread - Spring/Summer 2014

@Alive withyou and @Milk8shake
You guys have not gained weight because you've been barfing! You will gain but probably end the pregnancy with the weight you started at and a bit more. With my toddler I weighed 125 when I got pregnant, had major morning sickness and barfing lost major weight then by the time of birth I weighed 145. 20 pounds is nothing and half of it was baby. Then as soon as I started breastfeeding I could not get my weight over 125 again and I'm tall! I'm glad you a feeling a bit better and I know you will feel better more soon @alivewithyou . I do follow your post in our birth club Hun. Did you sign up for the threads where people will ask you questions and make you feel special. I told Jodi I was in!!! @Milk8shake I'm glad you are getting you scan soon. I too feel nervous and can't wait till viability seems far away yet we are already 16 weeks!! I did not cancel my scan, I cancelled an appointment between where I know they just would have me pee in a cup and ask me how I'm feeling. I just want the scan so I said why bother to go to that appointment and just wait till October 2nd.

I think( pretty sure) I have a fibroid on my left lower side. They love estrogen. It's painful but I hope it does not decide to degenerate. 16 removed and I still get another! @Milk8shake
You are in our birth club too. Don't forget to sign up
Today 06:38 AM
alivewithyou @kewpie80 : good to see you back. do you know what causes the lightening cervix thing? I've only had it happen a few times here and there but it freaks me out. Just hoping it's normal stretching and movement…I hope your morning sickness starts to ease up a bit soon.
@Milk8shake : Happy to hear that everything is still going well. I really think this baby you have is a fighter. I will be sending good thoughts your way on Thursday.
@chuord : Good to see you feeling so positive. Can't wait to hear more about your baby(ies) after your scan.
@monkeyscience : I have yet to gain weight.. you might have to share some of your tips with me ha ha. Glad to hear your appointment went well overall. Hopefully your cervix will start to shorten soon.
Today 03:33 AM
Milk8shake @monkeyscience Glad for your good appt and your helpful doc. How nice of her to give you her number! Pleased that someone has a nice long cervix! I agree that the weight thing isn't too much to worry about, but it won't hurt to concentrate on getting some really good food in your belly

@chuord Excited for your scan, and glad you are feeling positive about it all. Yes, I work full time, but I am a desk jockey, so that is a small blessing. I imagine that not working would be great in a lot of ways, although I do find going to work has and still does help me take my mind of being pregnant, and I think I worry less as a result.

@kewpie80 , we must also be pretty close in dates. I'm jealous that you are feeling flutters. Everything I read indicates that I might have a bit of wait before I will. Sorry about the nausea. Zofran definitely took the edge off for me, and made me functional, but I still felt pretty awful. I hope it's a bit cheaper in the US than it is here - it can be a very expensive exercise.

@tracyamber , my other belly buddy, how are you doing? Still feeling good about your decision to cancel your scan? I think you are so brave to do that!

@hope4light , nice to "see" you around! Hope you are well


AFM: I've finally had a shift in my nausea, thank heavens! It's not gone by any stretch of the imagination, but if I compare how I feel now, to the way I have been feeling, it is still a MASSIVE improvement. I've probably eaten more this week than I have in two months. It's crazy to think I have lost so much weight that I could grow a whole baby and still not weigh any more than when I started. Even though I'm still not really eating enough (according to what I've read & calorie suggestions), I'm just trying to make sure that what I do eat is pretty nutritious.

My next scan will be on Thursday and I'm very keen to get it done, although the doppler greatly assists my sanity. Oddly enough, when I was diagnosed with my uterine abnormality in my early 20s, it was made very clear to me that pregnancy was going to be a challenge, but all the caution was related to the later part of pregnancy. Who would have know that the first tri would present me so many problems. Anyway, the primary risk factors for unicornuate uterus are incompetent cervix, IUGR, preterm labour and uterine rupture. So in actuality, the second tri is actually the riskiest for me. The third tri is also risky, but also much safer for baby if I make it that far. I feel like this baby must be a tough little sucker, seeing as it has survived in my hostile uterus for this long. But I'm quite concerned about keeping a really close eye on the growth, and my cervix length. I get tons of pressure in my cervix after a long day (like today), or after being on my feet for much longer than 10 mins. I feel as though baby must be quite low, which I don't love. Even though the 16w milestone is so close, I'm scared of how far from viability I am too.

I've been thinking a bit about what would happen if I need to go on bedrest. Of course I wouldn't hesitate to do it, although it wouldn't be amazing for us from a finances perspective. It would also be less than ideal for my company too. I do have the ability to work remotely, and I would try to if possible (unless my doctor recommended otherwise), but it would be absolutely terrible timing due to a bunch of internal changes that are happening at the moment. So I'm basically thinking of working on some process charts/documentation in my spare time that would mean that they could cope without me if it did happen at short notice. It's probably not necessary, but it would relieve some of my guilt if I did have to do it. Interestingly, I did get a comment earlier in the week asking me to think about how long I would need to train a replacement for when I take maternity leave. I suppose it was innocent enough, but I'm not really ready to think about that yet. I'm still a really long way from feeling like this pregnancy is going to result in a living, breathing, take-home baby.
Yesterday 10:52 PM
kewpie80 So, I've been out of state for the last 2 weeks and my phone wouldn't let me post AT ALL. I've been going crazy over here reading but not able to say anything!
@Xerxella - I am so sorry to read about the problems with your baby. I'm glad this last scan at least showed things not getting any worse. I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. My heart is heavy for you and I'm hoping, like everyone else, for a miracle.
@chuord and @adiejan - WHOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO! I am so excited for you both! I have everything crossed for sticky babies and easy uneventful pregnancies!

AFM - I'm halfway to 16 weeks and my morning sickness has gotten worse and worse. The zofran is working, but i still have some breakthrough nausea and I can't skip a dose. I'm still enjoying every minute of being pregnant despite the pukies. I've started getting the lightning cervix feelings. I had them with my last twins and had completely forgotten about it until I got zinged today. Ouch! Just this week, I've started having problems with my pelvic floor and back, so I'm going to be finding a prenatal chiropractor as soon as I get back home.

I've had some weird bumps show up all over my tongue a few days back. They're far back right below my soft palate, so I'm wondering if they're from the chronic post nasal drip I've had going since about week 5. If they're not gone at a week, I'll go see my ENT too. I start seeing my perinatologist this next tuesday and I'll be getting the anatomy scan a couple weeks later. I'm so hoping they look ok. Up until now, I've been able to assume and pretend, but when the time grows close, the fears creep in. We all can relate, I'm sure.

I've been feeling flutters and light pops for about 4 days now. That's sure reassuring! The babies seem to have implanted far away from each other, so their kicks are far too. Baby A is really low, though, so I'll be nervous until I hear that he/she isn't too close to the cervix.
Yesterday 08:53 PM
Fertility Challenged Graduates Thread - Spring/Summer 2014

I can't wait for your scan mama!!!!!!!!!!! What time is it?
My ultrasound will be thursday, October 2 nd. I can't wait

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Yesterday 02:44 PM
chuord Monkey - that sounds so positive! Wishing you a shortening cervix soon lady!
Xerxella - stable is good but I'm also wishing for improvement... I still have a positive feeling that both babies are going to make it - I just wish your journey could be less high stress!
Milkshake - how are you doing? Any news or are you able to relax a bit? Xerxella and milk - are you both working as well through all this? I feel really blessed to not be working through ivf treatments etc. I think it would have been too hard!
Tracy - how long till your scan?
Afm - first scan on Tuesday, and I'm officially 6 weeks today woohoo lol. I'm feeling more relaxed at this point, for me the issue seems to have been either viable ovum or getting implantation right... This part now I've finally made it feels ok (touch wood)
Yesterday 10:31 AM
Xerxella @monkeyscience - It sounds like an overall good appointment. I think there's nothing thereto worry about. You could always start the protein shakes, if you wanted.
Yesterday 06:07 AM
Sourire Monkey - my weight gain slowed down a lot towards the end of my pregnancy, but the baby was still growing well. I think it's pretty common.
Yesterday 05:41 AM
monkeyscience Sorry if I worried people with my short reply. I just don't like posting a lot from my phone, though I do it anyway sometimes.

Anyway, doctor is very onboard with my birth plan, including no IV or lock at all. She actually spent awhile talking about her birthing experiences as a doctor, and she continues to be right up my alley. She even gave me her personal cell number so I can contact her if ds gets sick. (She's our family doc, but the front desk told me no one in the practice was available to see ds when he was sick a few weeks ago.)

The best news is that baby sounds fine and is currently head down. Also, despite my lingering cold/possible sinus infection, my lungs sound great. (Wasn't expecting otherwise, but hey, confirmation is always good!)

The not-bad (very normal, but not what I was hoping for) news is that baby isn't engaged at all, which is why I keep feeling her jamming her head into the sides of my pelvis, and my cervix is still very long and posterior. (I realize that would be an absolute dream for a couple of you right now - sorry we can't trade!) So no early progress toward delivery. I was hoping for a tiny bit of dilation, but it's all good.

The possibly-concerning-depending-on-the-trend news is that my uterus measuring a half a centimeter behind (doc isn't worried) and I haven't gained any weight in the last 3 weeks. (Technically, I lost half a pound, but I'm chalking that up to wearing flip-flops instead of tennis shoes.) Doc wasn't worried about that, but I am, a little. With everyone in the house being sick over the past several weeks, among other things, I haven't been eating or drinking as much as I should be - mostly because we keep running out of easy things to eat Anyway, I'm going to try to push myself to eat/drink more, and hopefully things will be right on track next appointment. I've measured/gained fine throughout the pregnancy, and it's not like I have no fat reserves, so this is most likely just a blip on the radar, and a reminder to take better care of myself.

So two weeks until my next appointment, then weekly appointments after that. Now I'll see if my ds will let me nap on the couch. (I doubt it!)
Yesterday 04:55 AM
hope4light X - Sorry that it's not looking any better yet, but glad it's also not worse. Hugs.
08-27-2014 08:59 PM
Xerxella @monkeyscience - I hope to hear about your appointment.

AFM - the 2nd doc didn't really have much to add. A lot of talking, but not a lot of new information. I have another appointment next week, Tuesday, with my regular MFM.
08-27-2014 06:22 PM
alivewithyou @Xerxella : Glad things are stable but hoping that things improve instead. I hope you are hanging in there. Did the specialist have any additional insight?
@chuord and @adiejan : Can't wait for your scans!
@monkeyscience : Hope that fine means good?
08-27-2014 03:40 PM
adiejan @Xerxella - I hope things continue to stay stable...actually I hope they get better. I'm interested to hear about your second opinion.

@monkeyscience - Hope things went well with your appointment and that she is just about ready to come...head first.
08-27-2014 02:39 PM
chuord Hugs X! Let us know how opinion two goes.
Monkey how was it for yours?
08-27-2014 01:59 PM
tracyamber @Xerxella
Im sorry no definitive answers. How as the second opinion?
Sending you hugs

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08-27-2014 11:16 AM
monkeyscience Sorry there wasn't a miraculous recovery, but glad things aren't looking any worse. Every day closer to viability is something!

AFM, appointment was fine. More later.
08-27-2014 08:43 AM
Xerxella So I guess you could describe it as stably bad. The cervix might be a little shorter, but they say it's hard to tell from one measurement to another. It's at 1.4 cm. 1 cm below the cerclage stitch, 0.4 cm above it. They're real happy to see any above the stitch.

B look about the same. A looks fine. Everybody likes what they see with A. I'll go for the 2nd opinion in a couple hours. But, I really don't think they'll tell me anything different.
08-27-2014 05:36 AM
alivewithyou Thinking of you @Xerxella today.
08-27-2014 04:58 AM
Originally Posted by hope4light View Post
X - keeping you in my t&p for your appts today!!
Me, too. Is it just the visit with your original doctor, or is your second opinion today, too?

AFM, appointment in 3.5 hours. Hoping baby is head down. But even if she is, I remain unconvinced she'll stay that way, so...we'll see. Also GBS test today (don't know when I'll get those results, hopefully soon!) and going over my birth plan. And maybe a cervical check because of the GBS swab. Hoping for just a little dilation at this point.
08-27-2014 04:52 AM
hope4light X - keeping you in my t&p for your appts today!!
08-26-2014 04:54 PM
tracyamber Okay okay ladies @adiejan and @chuord
You both will be having twins. Lol!

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08-26-2014 03:24 PM
adiejan Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!
@Xerxella - Good luck tomorrow I will be thinking about you! I put back three but my guess is I have one that stuck...maybe, just maybe two.
@tracyamber - way to take control. I am so glad you got it moved up a bit. That really does seem like a long time to wait.
@chuord - really funny woman...all three?! Ahem...who is the one with the high betas?! I am sure you have two in there. Only a week to go for your scan right?
@iixivboots - sorry about the car drama. I just hate car payments. I haven't had one in a few years but I think I will probably look into a new car soon. Oh and your twin evangelist comment cracked me right up!
08-26-2014 02:03 PM
chuord Mainebaby - thanks! It's starting to feel real, and both exciting and frustrating. Suddenly I have no space for food, and have to change the way I sleep already (belly sleeper) but I'm not really complaining... I'm happy to be in the game!
Boots - lol you twin pusher! I put back two so there is a chance (around 3% according to age and method) if you are a betabase fan my 24dpo beta was 9189, either high for one or around the average for two... Waiting for the scan to confirm either way... Lol my guess for adie is that all three stuck!
Why is it when this site becomes almost manageable they mess with it?! Hope this posts ok.
Hanging out for all your updates!
08-26-2014 10:11 AM
Originally Posted by Xerxella View Post
@tracyamber - my doc said anything from 18-22 counts as the "20 week" u/s. they said that if they couldn't see everything perfectly at 18 weeks, I'd just might have to come back at 22. No big deal for me!

AFM - all my follow up appointments are tomorrow.

I just cancelled my September appointment and will have my next appointment on October 2nd@ 21 weeks. I cannot believe I will not have had an ultrasound for 15 weeks!!!!! Part if me is okay then I get anxious. I did hear the baby's heartbeat this morning and that was good. And I have lots of pregnancy symptoms so I guess I'm still in the game. Part of me thinks I ll be okay once the birth happens at probably 37 weeks.

Will be sending good thoughts your way tomorrow!!

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08-26-2014 09:07 AM
Xerxella @tracyamber - my doc said anything from 18-22 counts as the "20 week" u/s. they said that if they couldn't see everything perfectly at 18 weeks, I'd just might have to come back at 22. No big deal for me!

AFM - all my follow up appointments are tomorrow.
08-26-2014 06:55 AM
tracyamber @iixivboots
Hugs to you sounds like you are having a hard time. Car payments do suck. My doctor wants me to wait til 21 weeks for an ultrasound. Now I'm feeling a bit anxious. Did your doctor say 18 weeks was a good time? I may request mine sooner. I don't think I can wait!

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08-25-2014 09:37 PM
iixivboots Xerxella, thinking of you, glad you seem to be getting attentive care.

Congratulations chourd and adiejan! Happy healthy pregnancies to you both. Any chance of twins for either one of you? I am like a twin evangelist. Joooooin us!

monkey, almost there! woohoo! How are you feeling?

15 weeks today. I still have three weeks until my next OB appointment and our 18 week ultrasound. Blah.

We just bought our minivan. I'm feeling so ambivalent about it, we were so underwater in our old car we bought only a year ago, we ended up having to buy a new car in order to roll all of that in. I am not looking forward to 7 years of van payments. And I keep having horrible thoughts that if something happens to the twins we have this huge expensive car. I'm having some struggles with depression I think is also probably related to weaning my son. Oh well, ever forward.
08-25-2014 05:34 PM
tracyamber @Xerxella
I'm feeling okay. Seems like the move toward 16 weeks has me feeling less morning sickness. Just been real tired and I think somehow my toddler was given my energy on top of his . He's been literally bouncing off walls until the moment he falls asleep at night.
When will the stitches be checked?

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08-25-2014 02:29 PM
mainebaby @chuord & [MENTION=77097]Adiejan Congratulations!! That's fantastic! Here's to a happy & healthy pregnancy Chuord, I was just thinking about you. Glad to see you here. I pop in & out infrequently so forgive me for not keeping up with everyone or doing personals for most. Sending love & happy thoughts to all, though.
08-25-2014 07:00 AM
monkeyscience X - I hate not seeing signatures, too. I'll be 35 weeks Wednesday. Close, but not nearly close enough!
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