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Today 10:26 AM
Autumnlaughing Omg - I just confirmed that insurance covered all but a $15 co-pay for our IVF cycle! Well, and about $150 for meds and the last u/s, which had another co pay. Also, I don't need a referral for chiropractic care!

So, that's good
Yesterday 07:22 AM
mainebaby Hello all, just popping my head in for a bit. SO awesome to see so many ladies expecting!! Love it. And lots of twins Just wanted to let ya'll know we found out we're having a boy! Yahoo! Take care all Sorry I suck at keeping up with anything that isn't my email & Facebook, lol. Sending you all lots of hugs and healthy baby wishes!
Yesterday 02:19 AM
Sourire I can like posts from my phone using the Tapatalk app...
07-27-2014 12:47 PM
tracyamber @Autumnlaughing
Isn't it interesting how our coping skills get altered? Sorry you can't run and such. That is frustrating.
I'm sorry you are having these issues. Hugs mama! I noticed in my last pregnancy the cartilage between my pelvic bone hurt soooo much and I was limited too. Till this day I sleep with a pillow between my legs so my knees don't touch.
Yarn is fun!!!!
How about your spd? Did you find it got elevated when you got pregnant? I feel like this is happening to me.
Hugs to you again and sending positive energy. Glad the baby is doing well. You are more than half way there.
07-27-2014 11:25 AM
Autumnlaughing I miss the like option on mobile as well.. but not enough too switch to desktop for it!

I don't think I had any issues before. In fact, I love dance & never really noticed any difference in movement between my hips. I hear I it's usually a non-issue except in pregnancy?

Various websites say that I shouldn't be crossing my legs or sitting on the floor, both of which I did so habitually that I didn't believe I could stop. Also, to go up & down stairs one at a time (with the good hip on the higher side), and to keep my knees close when moving in bed or getting in and out of the car. Also not to mop or vacuum or sweep - one of the three, but I use the same motion for all, and I can feel the bones pull apart and come back together, so I've stopped all of them for now.

It's not really a ton of limitations, but both my house and office span two floors, I had to cancel a dance performance, and even walking the half mile into town seems to irritate it some. Also, I want to sort all the cute baby clothes, but only the floor is big enough.

I feel like a lot of my coping with stress mechanisms aren't available (running, dancing, anything that involves walking, even cooking! and the back up of drinking, which is probably for the best) and that makes it just that much harder to keep DH's depression from taking over.

I'd (on purpose!) Cultivated a bunch of child-free enjoyments during the infertility years, but I didn't expect to lose some of those!

I did decide that I can garden (kneeling is probably fine, right? And I found my gloves) and I'm slowly but surely decluttering the house. And I seem to have my yarnwork muscles back, so I'm making an afghan for the little one. So, I'm figuring it out, it's just harder than I expected....
07-27-2014 08:32 AM
tracyamber Btw , I wish I had the l"like option on my mobile. So in order to get it I have to switch to desktop*sigh* anyone else have this annoying issue?
07-27-2014 08:29 AM
tracyamber @Autumnlaughing
Did yo have spd before the pregnancy? I ask because it is the oddest thing but it seems when I get pregnant I have it. Or somehow i don't acknowledge it and when I'm pregnant it becomes full blown. Have you heard of such a thing?
What kind of things cannot you not do? If you don't mind me asking. What would you like to be doing? Just trying to get a better picture on what is going on with you. Sure sounds like you have some supportive friends.
Sending you hugs and you can totally whine here!!!!!!!!! I do!!
07-27-2014 06:40 AM
Autumnlaughing Sorry to be so quiet lately - I feel like I'm just whiney, and most of them don't belong on the internet.

Congrats on the house tracryamber! We were planning to buy early on, but between my fatigue & DH's depression, it just wasn't feasible. Thankfully, we can stay where we are, so that's good - I've started having some SPD issues, and it's been bad enough along him for help with everything as it is! The place you're moving to sounds gorgeous though, and I'd jump the chance!

Monkeyscience - I still haven't gotten the bill for the IVF cycle! I think our anatomy u/s was just a co-pay - so @ $30?

Kewpie - it does sound super stressful to be at your in-laws. My brother is also in Utah (the Park Slope area?)... He's not really a kids type, but he is pretty excited to be an uncle!

Mo - your u/s date is off my screen - good luck! Glad to hear that you're well.

AFM - my only real issue is the mild SPD, which just has me frustrated because I already can't do a lot and I'm only 5 months in! But little girl seems fine, I can even take video of her kicks. I have awesome friends who've given me tons of baby stuff, and feed me & listen to me whine. And we hit 24 weeks yesterday! So that's exciting.
07-26-2014 05:37 PM
kewpie80
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I'm so excited right now!! We have been looking for a house and finally yesterday we saw one we absolutely loved and made an offer and this morning our offer was accepted! One side has a lake view and the other side has an oceanview!!! A great back yard with lots of sun and plenty of room for 2 kiddos running around and my own cave and a surf cave for dh!!!!!!!!
How and the hell am I going to pack???? My mind is definitely off of the morning sickness
That sounds amazing!!!! We've starting house hunting too and it's daunting. We still live in the first house we bought and I'm not sure how the sell and buy thing works when you already have one.
07-26-2014 02:33 PM
tracyamber I'm so excited right now!! We have been looking for a house and finally yesterday we saw one we absolutely loved and made an offer and this morning our offer was accepted! One side has a lake view and the other side has an oceanview!!! A great back yard with lots of sun and plenty of room for 2 kiddos running around and my own cave and a surf cave for dh!!!!!!!!
How and the hell am I going to pack???? My mind is definitely off of the morning sickness
07-26-2014 02:30 PM
tracyamber That's sounds like a great idea @monkeyscience !
07-26-2014 02:02 PM
monkeyscience I will ask around and see what I can find out.
07-26-2014 01:59 PM
kewpie80
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Not that I know of, but I will ask around, if you're interested. Even if you'd just like someone to help sometimes. Most of them have kids, but there might be some who would do some in-home babysitting.
Sure, just feel them out and see if there would be any interest. We'd pay, of course. We'd want someone who would be willing to be on call day and night for the labor and could drop everything and come to our house and take care of M&L when it started. I've never labored more than 10 hours. And then some during the day help for about 4-6 weeks with the older twins after the new babies were born.

No worries if there's no interest. I'll figure something out eventually.
07-26-2014 01:47 PM
monkeyscience
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HA! Provo is only about 10 minutes away from me. I live in springville. Any of them nanny?
Not that I know of, but I will ask around, if you're interested. Even if you'd just like someone to help sometimes. Most of them have kids, but there might be some who would do some in-home babysitting.
07-26-2014 08:14 AM
kewpie80
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@Kewpie
Yeah, that is a hard one. Could your in laws stay with you for 6 months? It might be easier to set boundaries with the in laws.
@monkeyscience
Our ultrasounds are costing about $97 with ppo and deductible met. I dunno though, just giving you more info.
I wish. My MIL has rheumatoid arthritis and needs infusions every few weeks.
07-26-2014 08:13 AM
kewpie80
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Kewpie - Wow, that is a big decision. I guess moving sounds like way too much upheaval for me, especially with the irritating FIL. Is he retired, or would he at least be gone most of the day? Do you want to borrow some of my family in Utah? They're very nice. I have a brother in Provo who loves kids, along with assorted awesome cousins
HA! Provo is only about 10 minutes away from me. I live in springville. Any of them nanny?
07-25-2014 09:09 PM
tracyamber @Kewpie
Yeah, that is a hard one. Could your in laws stay with you for 6 months? It might be easier to set boundaries with the in laws.
@monkeyscience
Our ultrasounds are costing about $97 with ppo and deductible met. I dunno though, just giving you more info.
07-25-2014 11:53 AM
monkeyscience Mo - Yay for feeling better! And for being so close to your big ultrasound. Hope baby is feeling cooperative that day!

X - Have fun with your vacation. I really wish I could take a vacation. We're hoping to go home for Thanksgiving, but that's the closest we have to a vacation plan at this point. Where are you headed?

Tracy - Glad things seem to be smoothing out for you. Yup, having some Braxton-Hicks, and have had for awhile. Not tons. I didn't even know what they were with my son until close to the very end of pregnancy. They didn't feel the way I expected, I guess.

Kewpie - Wow, that is a big decision. I guess moving sounds like way too much upheaval for me, especially with the irritating FIL. Is he retired, or would he at least be gone most of the day? Do you want to borrow some of my family in Utah? They're very nice. I have a brother in Provo who loves kids, along with assorted awesome cousins

AFM, not a lot going on. I'm exhausted too, and was even moreso in the first half of my pregnancy. I can't blame it on being old (even though 30 feels old sometimes!) or twins... I blamed my toddler.

On a totally different note, have any of you had to pay out-of-pocket for your ultrasounds? With my son, we had a PPO, and the ultrasound was 100% covered, even though we hadn't met our deductible. The insurance company paid about $175, and that was it. This go-round, we have a high-deductible plan. Even though we used in-network facilities for both of our ultrasounds, our EOBs are saying they'll cost $350-500 a piece! Even their own price estimator on the website says the cost should be around $200-250. Anyone else experience this? We haven't actually gotten bills from the facilities, so I'm hoping this is one of those things that will just disappear in the paperwork. We paid $105 for the first ultrasound at the time it was done, and were given to understand that they had already called our insurance, and that would be our cost. Hoping that remains the case!
07-25-2014 10:03 AM
kewpie80
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Oh wow @Kewpie that's a lot. I say go with what your gut tells you is the best decision.
That's the trouble. My gut is as confused as my head. The idea has only been tossed around for about a week now, so maybe something will come to me after a while. We have such a tiny cramped 2 bedroom house. I wish we had a third bedroom and could just hire a live-in nanny for half a year for the older twins.
07-25-2014 09:58 AM
NaturallyMo Oh wow @Kewpie that's a lot. I say go with what your gut tells you is the best decision.
07-25-2014 09:17 AM
kewpie80 I've been exhausted as well. I emptied half the dishwasher and needed a rest. haha 2 days ago, we laid down carpet in the kids' room and switched to toddler beds and cleaned and I'm still recovering.

We're seriously considering moving in with my inlaws for the last 3 months of the pregnancy and first 3 months after the babies are born. We live in Utah and they live in CO. This is such a huge and hard decision. We've been married 15 years and have never lived with anyone before. They have a large house and we'd have almost full run of their finished basement, but it's still tough, ya know? I get along great with my MIL and she's super sweet and doesn't step on toes, but my FIL is a different story. He can be an ass. He's super controlling and runs his mouth sometimes. We were there visiting for a long weekend last week and he decided to set up some electric trains on the floor in the living room. Maisie and Liam were curious of course and Liam is OBSESSED with trains. My FIL kept yelling at them for getting too close. I was super annoyed. They're 2 years old for crying out loud! Also, I was teaching Maisie something while there and he stepped in and started talking to her over me. I'm worried about how much he'll take over.

That said, the closest family we have here in Utah is about 30-40 minutes away and she has 5 children of her own, so not much help. I'm mainly worried about what we'll do with M&L when i go into labor or if I have the complications I did with them again. I had unexplained bleeding around 22 weeks that put me in the hospital for 3-4 days. I had a shortening cervix starting around 20 weeks that put me on bedrest from then till the end. Then I developed pre-eclampsia and had to be induced at 36 weeks.

We own our own house and would come back to it after the 6 months is up, so we wouldn't have to move ALL of our stuff. We'd just take the essentials and put our valuables into storage. We'd do this in mid-october, so not a huge amount of time.

Plus, I'd have to switch OBs, endocrinologist, Maternal fetal specialist, find a new hospital, chiropractor, and also a new pediatrician for my kids and then switch back to the originals. We also have 4 cats that we'd either need to rehome or somehow find someone will to take care of them for 6 months.
07-25-2014 09:00 AM
Xerxella
Fertility Challenged Graduates Thread - Spring/Summer 2014

@tracyamber - Yeah the exhaustion is killer. I've wondered the same thing. Am I so exhausted because I'm older or because its twins? I'm sure it's both.

AFM - We're leaving on vacation today, so I'll be out if pocket all next week. I think I picked up 2 separate heartbeats last night in the Doppler, so that made me feel better. There's at least one in there!

How's everyone else doing?


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07-25-2014 08:20 AM
tracyamber Hi everyone
It's so quiet!!! What's going on? Xerxella how are you feeling. You asked me if I thought I was on the downward slope of morning sickness about two weeks ago and now I think I am.
I have had intermittent days and times if feeling good. I just get so damn exhausted. Yesterday I vacuumed, cleaned the shower and I was exhausted. I wonder if the pregnancy is so exhausting because I'm older or if just every pregnancy is different.
@ monkeyscience, I wish I was as close as you to meeting my baby!!! Are you having any Braxton's?
07-25-2014 08:14 AM
tracyamber @NaturallyMo I'm glad you feel good today!
07-25-2014 06:28 AM
NaturallyMo I woke this morning in a great mood. I had a great night's sleep, no achiness, no nausea, nada. I actually feel...*gulp* good today. Maybe because its Friday, maybe because this time next week I will know if this baby is a boy or girl. I'm just ready to get to Tuesday and know what the deal is. I literally don't think I will be able to concentrate at work at all that day.
07-24-2014 12:24 PM
monkeyscience Got you added. Your name color thing worked, cannot figure out why some will work and some won't. :P
07-23-2014 09:38 PM
kewpie80 You can add me to the roster. I guess my blurb can be: EDD Feb 17 (Babies #3 and #4 )

Sorry I've been MIA. We took a trip to CO and just got back late last night.
07-23-2014 07:22 AM
monkeyscience Sourire - We flew to Hawaii when ds was 4.5 months. It went pretty well. Trust me, it's easier when they're little and can't wiggle as much! Have fun!

I think I have everyone on the roster except Kewpie. Also, I don't know if you want more of a blurb, Boots. Just let me know.

AFM, 30 weeks today. Still feeling kind of done with being pregnant, and like I have the squirmiest baby on earth in my tummy! But things are going all right overall. I still haven't heard anything back about my ultrasound or bloodwork last Thursday, so I'm just going with the assumption no news is good news!

Sorry I'm not posting much - I'm always reading along, just lazy a lot of the time!
07-22-2014 01:36 PM
Sourire Tracy - we're doing great. We're about to take a 7 hour flight to Europe with the baby, hopefully she's in a good mood!
07-22-2014 09:29 AM
Xerxella @iixivboots - good luck with the mat21 test. It's really comforting to get those negative results. Things can still go wrong, but that's one hurdle.
@tracyamber - I honestly didn't notice any difference. But, it was great not getting a shot every night!


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