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Yesterday 03:05 PM
boscopup Just had my u/s today...

TEAM PINK!!!!!!!!!!!
09-25-2014 08:32 PM
iixivboots Thanks everyone.
I've pretty much accepted my fate as the mom of three boys at this point. I also realized I'm dealing with depression and feeling overwhelmed about having twins in general. Once I started treating that as a separate issue, things seemed better.
Heartbrown, thanks for sharing your story about gender disappointment, it was really reassuring to read.
09-24-2014 11:48 AM
heatbrown I'm having a girl too! (mentioned it on another thread, but I guess I forgot to officially announce it)! My 3 sons are all excited (despite hating all things pink and girlie). My middle son currently wants to name her Lollipop La and was quite dismayed when DH didn't put it on the list immediately! I have to say that I've experienced gender disappointment before too. With DS1 we didn't find out, but I wasn't worried - I KNEW it was a girl. I have to admit I was really shocked when my midwife finally reminded me that I had to look because we still didn't know "who" the baby was! I loved him immediately of course, but it still took me a while (maybe a couple weeks or more) to get used to the idea that he was a boy, grieve the loss of the daughter I had been dreaming about, and stop thinking of him as "her" whenever I thought about the baby. It was a little tough. I come from a family with a ton of girls, I'm super girlie, and I just didn't know what I was going to do with this little elfin male-child! By the time I was preggo with #2 I realized how wonderful boys are, my life had become filled with all things tractor, train, weapon, noisy, gross and I hoped baby #2 was a boy. Mostly because I have an amazing relationship with my little sister and I wanted that same-gender relationship for DS1, but also cuz I was just getting into the groove of the boy thing (and man they are different!) and didn't want to switch gears! We found out at 20 wks because I didn't want to go thru that "grieving" process again post-partum - I seem to have the wherewithall to deal with it better while still pregnant, and I don't deal with change well, so that gives me time to get used to the idea (whichever sex the baby is). With DS3 I felt ready to switch gears and have a girl, and I admit I cried a little at the ultrasound when she said "Its another boy!" I also thought that if I had 3 boys, I'd probably just keep having boys (when you have more than 2, everyone tells you about their friend with 7 or how they had 6 before they got their girl). ANyway, I was floored to find out #4 is a girl. It's taken more than a week to even have it sink in. I thought I'd just be thrilled - which I TOTALLY AM - but there is a little part of me, I'm realizing, that had begun to identify as a "mother of boys" and it's weird to let go of that (especially when one of my close friend is pregnant with boy #6 and we won't shre that boys only thing, AND I know haw much she wanted a girl)

All this to say, yes, a lot of mamas deal with gender disappointment, and also don't feel bad (especially team green) if you don't get over it "as soon as you see the baby." Everyone told me that, and I felt so guilty when I was still sad I didn't have a girl, even though I loved my son, more than a week after giving birth. Sometimes it takes longer to get used to it especially if deep down you thought you "knew" what it was. I never admitted to thinking DS1 was a girl, and didn't really realize how deeply I had thought it till it turned out he wasn't. Give yourself time and grace, and you will come to accept what you didn't have, and love who you did have more than life! I wouldn't trade any of my boys for all the girls in the world!
09-21-2014 08:37 PM
sarahknavy Looks like y'all are working in tipping the scales
09-21-2014 06:18 PM
jodieanneanton Have I missed anyone who has announced?
09-21-2014 04:44 PM
cowchick530 Having a GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
09-18-2014 04:30 PM
TeeThatsMe I think it would have been wonderful either way. I'm PSYCHED to have another little girl, but also noticing myself grieving little things that I'd been kind of looking forward to about a little boy. I think my husband may be just the teeniest bit disappointed. I am confident he'll get over it.
09-18-2014 04:20 PM
Valerie11 Good for you, Tee. Is that what you were hoping for or did you not care either way?
09-18-2014 04:00 PM
TeeThatsMe I Would Like to Announce That:

I am officially doing my part to restore balance to this DDC, and having a girl baby.
09-18-2014 08:09 AM
TeeThatsMe
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@teethatsme if you announce to your family, I expect to hear about it on my poor little gender reveal thread! It needs some love!
Our family is so scattered that I don't think we're doing any reveal stuff for any of them--they'll probably just find out via text message and Facebook. Funnily enough, though, I work in a really sweet and close-knit office right now, AND a coworker just across the hall is also pregnant--we practically share a due date, and her anatomy ultrasound is scheduled for Monday morning!--so we're going to do a goofy office reveal at lunchtime on Monday. I shall bring back a full report.

I love your silly string idea, Bren; that's so cute!

OK, I just got started with our whole reveal plan here and then realized that, of course, this isn't the thread for that! Off to the reveal thread to fill you in.
09-18-2014 05:12 AM
happyday8598 Markle! I love it!
09-17-2014 04:25 PM
luckiest We're team green, but I'm getting girl vibes and DS, who immediately intuited the pregnancy, has also consistently referred to the baby as a girl. Today he wanted to name her Markle. Fun fact, my older brother gave me my name because of a song he was obsessed with at the time. Fortunately it was a normal name (Susie).


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09-17-2014 04:12 PM
bren94 @teethatsme if you announce to your family, I expect to hear about it on my poor little gender reveal thread! It needs some love!
09-17-2014 03:54 PM
happyday8598 The anticipation must feel like Christmas as a kid!!
09-17-2014 03:10 PM
TeeThatsMe Yup, Happyday, statistically I'm pretty sure you are getting a girl! Good for you!

Oh, just try and stop me from sharing tomorrow. You know it.
09-17-2014 02:49 PM
happyday8598
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Wow! Congratulations, everyone! My goodness, our boys outnumber our girls more than two to one right now. Good thing we've got plenty of Team Green mamas.

I'm finding out tomorrow... My gut tells me more and more that I'm going to tip the balance one little bit further toward the boys.
DOES THAT MEAN I GET A GIRL!??!?! Team Green, and fingers crossed!

Do share tomorrow, Tee!
09-17-2014 01:35 PM
TeeThatsMe Wow! Congratulations, everyone! My goodness, our boys outnumber our girls more than two to one right now. Good thing we've got plenty of Team Green mamas.

I'm finding out tomorrow... My gut tells me more and more that I'm going to tip the balance one little bit further toward the boys.
09-17-2014 12:33 PM
murrelet
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So many boys in this DDC!
Yep! I just found out today that we're also having a boy! I was totally ambivalent either way, but am now excited to experience the other gender
09-17-2014 11:14 AM
bren94 So many boys in this DDC!
09-17-2014 09:40 AM
kewpie80 Found out a couple weeks ago my twins are both boys. I'm thrilled! I have a hard time naming girls and I'm excited to have more boys join our family.
09-17-2014 07:26 AM
tracyamber
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I know I haven't been on here much. I just found out that both of my twins are boys. I have an amazing two year old son. But I'm really really sad, we won't be having more kids so there is no chance of having a girl for me.

You should post on the graduate thread!!! We want to support you there too. Hugs mama


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09-17-2014 05:09 AM
jodieanneanton @iixivboots , I was JUST thinking about you yesterday! Thank you for sharing with us. I am sorry you are feeling sad. It is always disappointing when out expectations are not met. Gender disappointment is so much more common than many realize. But, almost always, it is cured at birth! Be gentle with yourself as you process your disappointment, but know that those special boys were given to you for a reason. I am sure they will bless you beyond belief!
09-17-2014 04:02 AM
DuchessTergie @iixivboots , I "like" that you posted and shared what you're having. I'm sorry you're feeling sad. I have been wondering about you and your twins and got excited to see you on here.
09-16-2014 06:37 PM
jodieanneanton ha ha ha ha ha! @DuchessTergie , you made me literally laugh out loud at your "penis growing inside me" comment. How funny. Oh, it is wonderful to have a son. The only thing really scary about him is how much he eats! I am glad that my experience can help you know it is not as scary as you imagine. Except for the eating.
09-16-2014 06:36 PM
iixivboots I know I haven't been on here much. I just found out that both of my twins are boys. I have an amazing two year old son. But I'm really really sad, we won't be having more kids so there is no chance of having a girl for me.
09-16-2014 06:27 PM
DuchessTergie
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@bren94 , with my 3rd, I wanted another girl... BADLY. I was a mother of girls, I would say. I thought boys were scary. But you know what?!!? When number 3 came out a boy (we were surprised), I was overjoyed and I have such an amazing bond with him! He is so funny, sensitive and sweet. A very loving child. There is definitely something special between a mother and son, too, I have discovered.
I have just entered your boat, Jodieanneanton! I'm expecting our first boy! From here on out, he is called my Kipper Snack (until I have a "real" name). When the tech showed me his itty bitty baby parts, I cried. I am so so happy he's looking great and healthy. And I'm so so scared that it is a boy. And it is so weird there is a penis GROWING inside me. Weird! (And juvenile that this thought is even in my head to begin with.) But I love him already and reading your experience is helping me relax some.
09-15-2014 05:32 AM
Valerie11
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I have heard the opposite.. that both genders look swollen and that if it's a girl it's easier to tell since they can both look like boy. guess it depends on who you talk to ha ha.
I didn't think about genitals being swollen. I thought that was just something that happens during labor, but maybe it happens in utero. Interesting.
09-14-2014 06:01 PM
alivewithyou
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I've been thinking this since you found out, you might want to check again at a followup ultrasound if you get one (not sure what your schedule/plan is with your OB/Midwife). I was just reading that the testicles don't descend until 18 weeks. Probably easier to say for sure it's a boy than for sure it's a girl, but then I don't know the circumstances of your ultrasound where you found out. Our routine ultrasound isn't until 22 weeks, so I'm guessing that as long as the baby cooperates, we will be sure by then. I would just hate for you to buy all girl stuff and OOPS, surprise! on the due date.
Thank you for your concern and we have our regular ultrasound with our ob/gyn at 19 weeks and will confirm gender. My husband's sister used the same place for all 3 of her kids and all 3 were correct so I feel pretty good but the sex of the baby really doesn't matter all that much to me as long as our baby is healthy. I have heard the opposite.. that both genders look swollen and that if it's a girl it's easier to tell since they can both look like boy. guess it depends on who you talk to ha ha.
09-14-2014 04:50 PM
Valerie11
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Congrats on your baby boy! We were convinced we were going to have a boy so it was a bit of a shock to find out girl on our end, but we weren't sad.. just kind of threw us off for a second. Now I couldn't be more excited to meet her.
I've been thinking this since you found out, you might want to check again at a followup ultrasound if you get one (not sure what your schedule/plan is with your OB/Midwife). I was just reading that the testicles don't descend until 18 weeks. Probably easier to say for sure it's a boy than for sure it's a girl, but then I don't know the circumstances of your ultrasound where you found out. Our routine ultrasound isn't until 22 weeks, so I'm guessing that as long as the baby cooperates, we will be sure by then. I would just hate for you to buy all girl stuff and OOPS, surprise! on the due date.
09-14-2014 04:39 PM
alivewithyou
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We found out today that baby is a boy! I'm happy but I'll admit I reaaaally wanted a girl and so did DH. I'm a little worried he's disappointed but oh well. I'm so in love with him already!
Congrats on your baby boy! We were convinced we were going to have a boy so it was a bit of a shock to find out girl on our end, but we weren't sad.. just kind of threw us off for a second. Now I couldn't be more excited to meet her.
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