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07-06-2014 01:09 PM
prettyisa Definegrace that is so sweet. I got a book called You Were First and I can't even read it to DD because I cry too hard. Glad your guys are pampering you!

Donors--somehow I missed this thread. We used the same anonymous donor for all three kids. When they turn 18 they can get more info if they are interested. We talked about using my stepbrother for a couple days, but it would have been weird, and he and DP aren't close in a way that it would have made sense. I know a number of families tat did that and I think it is awesome, but you have to have the right kind of relationship to start off with, I think. As for other guy friends, we don't have any that feel like family, and although we considered it briefly it just seemed better (especially legally!) to use a bank. There are several families with donor siblings out there, but for now we are holding off being in touch with them until DD understands more
07-06-2014 06:48 AM
blessed#7 Awww definegrace! So glad you checked in

The lake time with the boys each day sounds lovely! And the affection they all show to you as well. How far overdue are you? I won't be 39wks until this Tuesday but find myself feeling the same way. Every day is one more day with things as they are now. I still nurse the 2yr old and I will sit and tell him how much I love him and that no matter what he is still my baby.

This is our first girl in 10yrs bc the last 4 are boys so I kinda feel good knowing he will still be the "baby boy" and my youngest daughter is perfectly fine with a new little gal coming into the family. We shall see how it all falls into place
07-06-2014 05:58 AM
defineGrace I've been MIA, trying not to be but I never get computer time the past few weeks, mainly because I'm too tired to and uncomfortable to sit in the computer chair! LOL. I love the updates from all of you, we all have such different stories and are tied by this one common bond of being mothers, that speaks a language universally understood. i love being part of this group .

My boys have been out of school for a couple weeks, I've taken them every day to go swimming at the lake nearby. I sit and read in the shade while they spend 7-8 hours playing, fishing, swimming, racing, pretty much being boys in the summer and I snack on fruit and enjoy their independence, knowing full well with this baby's arrival I have given all this freedom back. This is the first summer I haven't had to hawk eye my youngest or worry if they were playing fair. They have come into their own. Bittersweet. Everyday I'm overdue my darling sweetheart says "I got to be your baby one more day, momma" and then smacks me right on the lips with a big wet juicy lip kiss. I tear up every night he says it "Always my baby boy, always" I remind him. Yesterday he said "Mom, I love the belly, Aidan loves the belly, Dad loves the belly, and the baby really loves the belly. We all love the belly...you're the cutest pregnant belly that ever made babies! You should keep it. It looks so good on you." Being overdue is not fun, but being pampered by my 3 guys (daughters 16 next month and is incredibly self absorbed) has been the sweetest experience. I don't even have to feed the dogs these days Looking forward to more baby announcments and updates! Beautiful birth vibes to all of you
07-02-2014 11:24 AM
redrockband Jumping in on the donor conversation, I've definitely heard of people using a family member. We thought about using my wife's brother as a donor for about 2 minutes, then decided it wasn't worth the drama, especially since I don't have a male relative to use when my wife carried the next one. It happens often enough though. We used a willing to be known donor, which means the kids can contact him when they are 18 if they want to. We wanted to leave that choice up to them. When we first started TTC, we wanted to use a known donor who was a friend and got pretty invested in that process before it fell through. I'm glad it turned out the way it did though, I can't imagine our baby being anyone else.
07-01-2014 10:52 AM
turtlemamameg Chiming in...I suppose it would depend on how involved you would want your donor to be in your child's life. It seems like a big decision not to go anonymous. I wonder if anyone ever goes with a family member on the not-carrying side, just to have genetics from both families???
07-01-2014 10:08 AM
farmes94
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Farmes--mostly he looked like his sister! We used a donor for half of their DNA, so it's hard to play the matching game, but it also doesn't help that my family has every permutation of hair, eye, and skin shading known to white people, so there's always a cousin or uncle who has a particular feature. I'm most curious to see if the boys look much like each other--they're almost certainly fraternal, so there could be a whole range of possibilities in there!
So you used the same donor both times?

Some friends of mine are trying to decide whether they want to use a donor they know or one that they don't. Seems like a tough decision.
06-26-2014 01:55 PM
prettyisa Farmes--mostly he looked like his sister! We used a donor for half of their DNA, so it's hard to play the matching game, but it also doesn't help that my family has every permutation of hair, eye, and skin shading known to white people, so there's always a cousin or uncle who has a particular feature. I'm most curious to see if the boys look much like each other--they're almost certainly fraternal, so there could be a whole range of possibilities in there!
06-26-2014 09:20 AM
farmes94 Min- I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Please be sure to take care of yourself, too! Hopefully there are no major projects you need to finish up so you can focus on your mom and keeping you and baby healthy.

Pretty-who did they look like on the us? I wonder what our baby will look like every day as we only opted for the 20 week, non 3D us.
06-26-2014 09:07 AM
prettyisa Not much happening around here. Babies look great on the NST, great on the ultrasound--we actually got to see A's face! The last few have been so squished that there haven't been any good pictures, but this time we saw his eye and nose and hair. So sweet. None of the techs can believe that they're going to let me go to 38+6 to induce, but since there's no indication that anything's wrong I don't see why we shouldn't just leave them. Not that I'd mind if they decided to come before then... Every big thing on my list is done, so now it would just be nice to finish some minor home stuff (my dad still has to do some flooring and trim in a little hallway, but it's totally liveable) and the laundry, more than anything...
06-25-2014 10:50 PM
minerva23 My iron levels are back up too. Glad for that. Baby is doing fine. No labor whatsoever. Feeling pressure/ slight pain on my symphysis. This is the calmest baby I have had so far. My other 2 were kickboxers compared. Lots of stress though since my mom is hospitalized and the hospital is a 45 min drive away thanks to all this road construction the city put up. Not really getting anything done now and hoping baby will wait for dd.
06-25-2014 09:51 AM
farmes94 Feeling really great, here. I have more energy than I've had for the majority of my pregnancy at 35 weeks, which seems odd. I wonder if its because I got my iron levels back up. I've been able to stay awake past 10pm (I was generally in bed before 9...)!

Made 4 batches of biscuits to freeze last night after work and froze up some rhubarb. Borrowing a waffle iron tonight to freeze up a couple of batches and also some cream to make a crap ton of butter. My husband has accused me of hoarding food, which may very well be true.

How is everyone's energy levels besides aches and pains and possible pre-labor?
06-19-2014 04:36 PM
J-Max
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Well I'm still at the hospital, although they said I could go home today for a day if I really want to, which I do. We have a c-section scheduled for Friday morning. We too tried for a solstice babe Isa, but we would have had an OB we hadn't met so we went with Friday and decided to tell the baby he really is a solstice baby, it was just a technicality Keep us posted on if you are getting induced or not.
I'm sorry, I wish you had a different option, but as a veteran c-section mom, that can be not horrible. Look into a "gentle" or "natural" c-section (if you have time, kind of cutting it close!). My last one and this one, we are planning everything as close to a "normal" vaginal delivery as possible. Baby on chest ASAP, delayed clamping, BF as soon as baby is interested, etc. It was actually really awesome. Also get up and walking ASAP you can after recovery. It really sucks, but the faster you are up and about the faster you will start to feel better! My last 2 I was up and about 2-3 hours after recovery and I went home 48 hour post c-sec

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JMax--If you know any Chicago car seat gurus who could take a look at our setup, I would love a recommendation! Our neighbor has an appointment with somebody (she's due in July, too) but it sounded like it was hard to make an appointment. I always wonder how big families get around--there just aren't many good options. How far is your eldest from being able to drive? Not that you'd want her doing tons of it, but at least soon you'll have a new chauffeur in the family!
The CarSeat Lady is a a CPST in Chicago. She is a pediatrician and has an awesome blog, so that may be who your neighbor got? I posted on a cpoupole of my groups to see who else may be available. Can you PM me what part of Chi you are in, so I can try and find someone close to you?


In other news, I am in full out waddle too, esp if I have had to get in and out of our truck My hips kill me for the rest of the day once I do that. I had to fix fence yesterday morning, and was in and out over 10 times in about 2 hours and I could hardly move the rest of the day. I did give up on chasing cows for this pregnancy. I had a bull escape (hence the broken fence) and I sent our ranch hand a a neighbor to round him up. I am not hauling this pregnant ass up on a horse any more And the 4 wheeler is about out too. We have to move our main herd to the our summer pasture this weekend, and pull the bulls out (done with breeding season) but then we will be pretty much done with cattle work until september. I will mostly be sitting in the truck and flaggin on the road

I have had all different sizes of babies. Our first was 7.3 at 40 weeks, then I had 37 and 38 weekers at 6.3 and 6.5, then a 41 weeker at 8.9, and a 41.5 at 10.3. I am measuring big with this one, like I was with the last, so we are thinking another 10 lb-er, but who knows!
06-19-2014 07:07 AM
prettyisa Redrock, that's a bummer. But you're right that you get to meet him tomorrow! !! And one thing that I think a lot of people don't realize is that there are SO many people out there who didn't get the birth they wanted/expected/hoped for. It's so unpredictable and people make all of these plans, but until you're there you don't really know how it's going to go. So although you're not getting the experience you hoped for (which does totally suck, I know), you'll find yourself in very good company on the other side. Most of my friends had unexpected twists and turns and range from mild disappointment to real sadness about their babies' births. My last one wasn't what I'd hoped for, and I doubt this will be, either, but I've decided to focus on getting as much as I can out of it, and then redirecting my attention to the babies, who are the whole point anyway. That said, I hope you get to go home today and get yourself prepared, and that you're able to arrange things as much the way you'd like them to be as possible. I can't wait to see your little squish!
06-18-2014 02:50 PM
redrockband Well I'm still at the hospital, although they said I could go home today for a day if I really want to, which I do. We have a c-section scheduled for Friday morning. We too tried for a solstice babe Isa, but we would have had an OB we hadn't met so we went with Friday and decided to tell the baby he really is a solstice baby, it was just a technicality Keep us posted on if you are getting induced or not.

Lilstar: big babies indeed. I was almost 10 lbs when I was born, no one believes me though cause I'm pretty small.

christina-thanks for the positive story, they don't seem to know what caused my bleeding or at least aren't telling me what they think. So far I'm bleed free for over 48 hours, but since I'm so close to my due date they really don't think I will be able to deliver vaginally and the c-section is the safest option. I'm pretty bummed as this will be my only pregnancy and birth but we are looking forward to finally meeting our baby.
06-18-2014 08:10 AM
prettyisa Lilstar--whoa, those are some big babies! Fingers crossed for a dinky 8-pounder for you!

Kate--No one is allowed to touch me. No one. Except DD, and mostly she just gives neck hugs. Once in a while she'll absentmindedly pat my belly, but that's rare enough to be ok. DP has to ask before she approaches lest she lose an arm.
06-17-2014 05:54 PM
Katemonster128 Major luck today....the stove will be an easy fix and the tech moonlights as an HVAC tech....may get the AC fixed faster and cheaper.

DH about got punched in the nads last night . Tis baby pounded my ribs for hours. Finally settled down and DH decided it was time for some tummy rub bonding. I was livid!
06-17-2014 09:47 AM
LiLStar Oh, to me, 8.5 lbs *is* tiny! My boys were 10 and 11lbs. Dd was only 8 14 but she grew the fastest of all of them. Every last one looked like a 2 month old by 2 weeks I'd be thrilled with a baby who could spend their first year smack in the 50%ile for the first year. Makes babywearing so much easier. I'll take single digits. At least break the trend of each baby getting bigger than the last!
06-17-2014 07:25 AM
prettyisa JMax--If you know any Chicago car seat gurus who could take a look at our setup, I would love a recommendation! Our neighbor has an appointment with somebody (she's due in July, too) but it sounded like it was hard to make an appointment. I always wonder how big families get around--there just aren't many good options. How far is your eldest from being able to drive? Not that you'd want her doing tons of it, but at least soon you'll have a new chauffeur in the family!

Trixie--glad to hear someone else is remodeling, too! I've got all the baby stuff out now, but it's mostly just sitting in bins in a heap on the floor until we figure out what furniture needs to go in there, and where to put shelves and hooks and whatnot. Everyone is reminding me that I need to send the dipes through the wash this week!

Hannahbee--being able to nest and garden and just relax sounds heavenly! I hope your little one gives you juuust long enough to enjoy that and then comes right out!

Lilstar--I'm glad someone's having an easy time of it! This time my face hasn't gotten swollen, either, which I am really grateful for! I look at the pics of my last pregnancy and can hardly recognize myself. This time my feet and ankles look TERRIBLE, but at least I still can face myself in the mirror! It's funny to think of wanting a tiny newborn, but I kind of know what you mean. DD was 8 1/2lbs, and she was just so big so fast! I'm kind of excited that the boys seem to be down in the 6 1/2lb range...

Caled--yay for practitioners liking each other! I bet it will be a great experience to have someone who has seen it all coupled with someone who is enthusiastic and excited to learn. Sounds like the best of both worlds.

Hi Sarah! Welcome to the party! Is this your first?

Kate--ugh. I'm sorry to hear that. At least you have AC backup! And hopefully they'll both be easy fixes!

Christina--so glad everything is ok and that your little is doing well in there! I also second your idea about getting lots of things ready for summer activities. We just bought DD a sandbox which she LOVES. I'm hoping that between that and the splash pad thing that she got for her birthday we'll be able to keep her busy outside so I can focus on the babies without feeling too bad.

Farmes--embrace the waddle!

Redrock--oh no! I'm so sorry about the bleeding. Hopefully they'll just need to keep an eye on you for a bit and will be able to send you home soon!

AFM--I am D-O-N-E done. Done. These boys can come any ol' time they like. I don't care that my projects aren't finished, or that we have people to see or anything. But since DD was 8 days late, I'm not expecting these to come particularly early, either. Next OB appointment is on Friday, and I'm curious if she'll recommend induction. The practice seems to want to induce somewhere between 37 and 39 weeks, depending on which doctor makes the call, and on Friday we'll be at 37+1. I wouldn't mind solstice babies! But I will also suck it up if I have to wait another couple weeks. I just hope it cools off here again and people suddenly decide to stop the constant commentary.
06-17-2014 05:09 AM
Christina James
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Haha I've been waddling for a while, but really try not to, which my wife thinks looks even more ridiculous.

It's great to read all the updates, I wish I had the energy to respond to everyone, but it seems like everyone is doing well, uncomfortable but well.

Our update, after our great news on Monday (complete previa moved to marginal) I had a small bleed on Saturday morning followed by a huge bleed last night at 1 am. I've been admitted to the hospital on bed rest and will be here for a least a few days. The bleeding stopped shortly after we got here, they estimate it was about 100 ml. It was quite a frightening sight to wake up to. I woke up to go to the bathroom and when I stood up I thought I lost control of my bladder because I felt liquid running down my leg, turns out it was just a lot blood.

Baby is doing great though and other than not sleeping at all for almost 48 hours, I feel okay too. I wish they would let us go home, we live less than 10 minutes from the hospital. There hasn't been talk of re-scheduling a c-section so I'm not sure what the plan is. Our midwife was here today, but our OB is out of town for a few days. Midwife thinks it might still be possible to try a vaginal birth at the hospital, we'll see.

The good news is we got the crib set up and side-carred before the bleed so everything is ready for baby to come home if we end up having it this week.

Hope you all are doing well!
Redrock~

Hopefully you have already gotten more information and it was encouraging. I had a similar bleed, light and then a big one ...like I peed my pants, during my 2nd trimester. The OB tried explaining it to me sort of like the small bleed was the problem bleed and then the big bleed (at least for me) was the good bleed because it was like a blister pocket opening up that was a result of the placenta fixing the smaller bleed. Maybe this is similar to your experience. Either way, sending you lots of healing energy and positive thoughts!

~Christina
06-16-2014 06:40 PM
redrockband Haha I've been waddling for a while, but really try not to, which my wife thinks looks even more ridiculous.

It's great to read all the updates, I wish I had the energy to respond to everyone, but it seems like everyone is doing well, uncomfortable but well.

Our update, after our great news on Monday (complete previa moved to marginal) I had a small bleed on Saturday morning followed by a huge bleed last night at 1 am. I've been admitted to the hospital on bed rest and will be here for a least a few days. The bleeding stopped shortly after we got here, they estimate it was about 100 ml. It was quite a frightening sight to wake up to. I woke up to go to the bathroom and when I stood up I thought I lost control of my bladder because I felt liquid running down my leg, turns out it was just a lot blood.

Baby is doing great though and other than not sleeping at all for almost 48 hours, I feel okay too. I wish they would let us go home, we live less than 10 minutes from the hospital. There hasn't been talk of re-scheduling a c-section so I'm not sure what the plan is. Our midwife was here today, but our OB is out of town for a few days. Midwife thinks it might still be possible to try a vaginal birth at the hospital, we'll see.

The good news is we got the crib set up and side-carred before the bleed so everything is ready for baby to come home if we end up having it this week.

Hope you all are doing well!
06-16-2014 06:11 PM
farmes94 Well, at 34 weeks, I'm going to have to say that I feel pretty damn pregnant! I think I put it off but here it is. My walks are significantly shortened, yoga is tough (anyone else still yogaing regularly?) my pelvis feels like it is splitting in two if I'm on my feet to much- which isn't that much. My belly feels sooo heavy like it is just dragging me down. Belly also feels like it tightens a bit, uncomfortable but not painful. Got the waddle for sure. Boy, I really thought I could avoid it by keeping in shape, haha...unfortunately I don't think it has anything to do with being in shape.
06-16-2014 01:00 PM
Christina James 36 week appointment today. No dilation and she has not dropped. The OB nurse said that swelling is not asymmetrical so it's okay to be more swollen on foot/leg versus the other. Blood pressure and all is good so that response works for me.

Ultrasound estimated her weight at 6.8 and she scored an 8 out of 8 on the well child check - or whatever it's called. That means my placenta is holding up well Next exam not for 10 days - 6/26 when I will be 37.3 and technically full-term.
06-16-2014 12:03 PM
Katemonster128
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Oh no, both at the same time! How far along are you this week?
37 weeks 2 days. I have two different companies coming to give AC estimates on Friday and the stove guy on Tuesday.
The stove part bothers me least, I'd grill all summer if I could.
DD was born at 42 so I am not really anticipating an early arrival. And I have a window AC unit in my bedroom so I can sequester myself there if necessary.

I've done all I can do I guess.
06-16-2014 10:54 AM
farmes94
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Weekly exam today. No dilation yet. But that is kind of okay because both my oven and my central air died on me over the weekend. I'd kind of like to get both of those fixed before I bring home a newborn
Oh no, both at the same time! How far along are you this week?
06-16-2014 10:06 AM
Katemonster128 Weekly exam today. No dilation yet. But that is kind of okay because both my oven and my central air died on me over the weekend. I'd kind of like to get both of those fixed before I bring home a newborn
06-16-2014 10:03 AM
Katemonster128
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Midwife and doula had their first meeting today. They got along swimmingly - I'm beyond thrilled. My doula is just beginning, and my midwife is extremely experienced, and I really think that this will be a great experience for both of them. My midwife has the best stories just because of her experience. I could sit there forever and just listen, fascinated.

I'm measuring a few weeks ahead, midwife is guesstimating about 5 pounds plus as of right now, and we're now on weekly visits. Baby's very much head-down (yay!), BP is great, and I (of course) need to up my protein a bit but otherwise we're great. I can't believe we're THISCLOSE to the end. It feels so real all of a sudden.

When I move my fingers, I crack my knuckles...? I'm too swollen to wear my wedding ring.
My knuckles did that last pregnancy and for a bit after. It goes away
06-16-2014 07:39 AM
Sarah Wadford New to the website but did some serious lurking yesterday and joined this am. I am currently 33 weeks and 3 days (or so says the baby app on my phone) We are having a little girl and I'm hoping to do an unassisted cb when she decides to come out. Hope to have a good experience here!
06-16-2014 06:50 AM
prettyisa Oh good. I hope it's nothing--that's just one of the things they told me to watch out for with the swelling in my legs.
06-16-2014 03:06 AM
Christina James
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Christina--if the swelling being on one side is recent, and/or rapid, you should probably go and be checked out ASAP. That's one of the things they tell you to look out for as a sign of pre-eclampsia.
I have an appointment today. I'll specifically ask about the swelling. It's not really bad, just noticeably worse on the left than the right, which seems sort of abnormal. I'll post an update later!
06-15-2014 04:18 PM
prettyisa Christina--if the swelling being on one side is recent, and/or rapid, you should probably go and be checked out ASAP. That's one of the things they tell you to look out for as a sign of pre-eclampsia.
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