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08-06-2014 06:48 AM
alivewithyou Lol! Yeah I'm pretty sure baby is starting to move up since I have a huge pooch and I can feel my lower stomach hardening.. Hopefully after that it will be higher. I just have to remind myself that incompetent cervix is pretty rare and that so far I've beaten worse odds than that. I will still check with my doctor though just because I do keep worrying. I get what feels like shocks in my cervix sometimes.. They only last for about two seconds and then go away. That freaks me out but I've heard it's normal. I think I am just aware of every little thing.
08-06-2014 05:58 AM
Originally Posted by alivewithyou View Post
Most days i do really well with not checking but every now and then I freak myself out. Any input or personal experiences? From what I've researched it doesn't seem like a reliable thing to check yourself.
My cervix changes all the time. Sometimes it's more open and soft and short and super low and others it's long and more closed. I had myself all freaked out last week but I have since chilled. It seems to have moved up as my uterus has gone through a growth spurt and baby is hanging out up higher.
I have now moved on to concern about a previa because I can feel pulsing just to left of my cervix.
At some point I will stop being crazy this pregnancy. I hope!
08-05-2014 06:51 PM
alivewithyou Most days i do really well with not checking but every now and then I freak myself out. Any input or personal experiences? From what I've researched it doesn't seem like a reliable thing to check yourself.
08-05-2014 06:14 PM
luckiest My advice would be to stop checking your cervix! Sorry, I know that's not helpful. And hypocritical of me, because I keep obsessively checking to feel my uterus, even though I'm not quite 11 weeks and I know it's retroverted and harder to feel anyway. But I'd stop checking it and just wait until your next appointment, or call and ask if you're really worried.
08-05-2014 04:44 PM
alivewithyou I have so much anxiety over my cervix it's not even funny. Can anyone ease my worries here and tell me that it's impossible to tell if it's really closed or not on your own. It just feels super low.. I don't know if that's because it is thicker? I also can never tell if it feels super closed or not... Almost feels like there is an edge around it? None of this probably makes sense and I plan on asking my doctor about this at my appointment next week but does anyone have any words of advice so I can stop panicking?
08-04-2014 09:11 AM
entiti This exact thing happened to me over the weekend. For the past several days I had no symptoms at all, and all symptoms have really been so slight this pregnancy anyway....I was starting to feel nervous. Then my husband reminded me how I am always late to show, and whispered to my belly to "make mommy really nauseated today...."
AND like clockwork the rest of my day was followed with nausea, bloat, low energy, and boob tenderness! Lovely.
I really would have taken a few nice little flutters instead

Glad all is well with you, and at least you have some reassurance Forest
08-04-2014 07:23 AM
it's back!

And of course, today, the nausea is back... Not with a vengeance, but it's there. So wish I didn't have to go to work...

thanks for the encouragement tee and cagnew!
08-03-2014 08:00 PM
TeeThatsMe Yes, every single thing @cagnew said. Just wanted to chime in with a second hug. You're following pretty much the exact trajectory I usually follow, for what it's worth. But I know it's so hard not to worry about the symptoms abating! Hang in there. It will be okay.
08-03-2014 12:44 PM
cagnew Hi Forest! If your ticker is accurate, then you are pushing 12 weeks, and many moms do begin to feel quite a bit of relief from the nausea at this time. For some it's a slow, subtle change, and for others it can be pretty day and night! Or, you can feel better for a few days and then WHAMMO- be hit with an awful day or string of days. In reality, symptoms aren't the greatest way to tell if something has gone wrong, especially this late in the first trimester.

I think the chance of miscarriage at this point in pregnancy is something like 2%. While I wish it was 0%, 2% isn't bad. Sooo... you have a 98% chance that everything is fine. Wish I had those odds playing the lottery!

(((HUG))) Despite all of this, I know it's nearly impossible not to worry. When something so wonderful and anticipated is beginning to look like it might actually happen, I think it's normal to be afraid that something will screw it all up.
08-03-2014 09:35 AM
Is it normal??

Veteran moms, can you tell me if it's normal to feel less queasy at 11 weeks? Hearing that one of the other February mamas went to her 12 week appt and didn't hear a heartbeat () has sparked a little fear in me.

My boobs are still sore (but not all the time), I am more tired than I was a few weeks ago (but manageable, not like some stories I hear), and I get this lightheaded feeling from time to time. I have moments where it feels like I am about to have that dreaded nausea, but it tends to remain light, or go away.

I know they say "everyone is different", but in my previous pregnancies (which I lost) I had no nausea, so this decline gets me worried. I so just want to go with the flow and not be alarmist, but sometimes hearing someone else's sad news makes that hard...

Any words of wisdom are much appreciated.
08-02-2014 12:03 PM
forestlover75 Had our first appointment yesterday and heard a strong healthy heartbeat! It was sweet and verrry reassuring. My midwives don't recommend an ultrasound until 18 weeks, and I will see them next in a month. Now just looking forward to getting to the end of week 13 milestone!
07-31-2014 05:11 PM
TeeThatsMe Completely on board with a spotting ban. Maybe if every single one of us signs a DDC-wide decree? Community rules: by joining the board, you automatically sign up for No Spotting.
07-31-2014 12:53 PM
alivewithyou 13 more days until my next dr appointment. I hate not knowing for sure that this baby is okay. I have hope because the nausea and dizziness is still a very big part of my daily routine and I am exhausted. My stomach is starting to harden as well. I'm just tired of being worried and scared. Still no spotting so I think I just need to trust and be happy.

I hope everyone is okay.. I hate seeing that you guys are spotting and you are farther along than me. Not cool. We should ban it ha ha.
07-31-2014 12:17 PM
luckiest Great news!
07-31-2014 11:42 AM
cagnew Good news- baby was fine on the ultrasound Now I just have to relax and let myself believe that it IS fine.

Luckiest: You know, you might have a good point about the retroverted uterus. I had decided yesterday that my cramping was probably a result of it moving or flipping forward since it felt like it had changed position. Never occurred to me that it might cause some spotting in the meantime. Thanks for the input!
07-31-2014 10:33 AM
luckiest Hoping it's nothing, Cagnew. With my first pregnancy I had some cramping and brown spotting at 8 weeks and all was fine. Midwives told me it was probably baby "settling in."

Another thought - if you had a retroverted uterus, as it grows it'll eventually flip forward, which I imagine could cause some cramping and maybe spotting...? Not sure, but maybe.
07-31-2014 09:03 AM
DuchessTergie Praying for you Cagnew.

FWIW, I had bleeding in my previous pregnancy that started at 13 weeks. It was off and on for 2 weeks or so. I never did figure out the cause. It was also pinkish brown.
07-31-2014 08:36 AM
TeeThatsMe Oh, @cagnew , I'm sorry. I don't want it to be anybody's turn. No turns!

I wish we could set up, like, a Doppler lending library. I don't necessarily want to own one myself, but I love the idea of a communally-owned one that we could just overnight to each other as needed. Not-exactly-instant relief.
07-31-2014 07:39 AM
jodieanneanton Tee, <3 I am glad you are feeling better about it.

cagnew, I hope the spotting goes away. I have had DTD to that to me in previous pregnancies, but not in this one (despite being more active in the bedroom this time). Every pregnancy is different. There is lots of stretching and growing happening right now... I hope you can find comfort in the images of your baby that you saw a couple of weeks ago.
07-31-2014 07:27 AM
Valerie11 Oh, cagenew, that is scary. I hope it's an isolated incident.
07-31-2014 06:32 AM
cagnew Crap. My turn to freak out a bit. I just wiped and had light brown/pinkish mucus. I've been a bit crampy since yesterday, but wasn't too worried because it didn't feel like *those* kind of cramps. They just felt... weird and hard to explain. I still feel a bit like that today. We DTD yesterday morning, but I've honestly never had any bleeding from that.

I've never had brown/pink stuff that didn't end in miscarriage. But I've never had it happen this late in a pregnancy either. I'm 13 weeks, and I know the baby was alive and healthy at 10 weeks. This would be so different from other two miscarriages

I wish my OB wasn't an hour away and I wish I had someone to watch my kids for me so I could go get checked out just for comfort sake.

I guess I will just wait and see if there is anymore.
07-30-2014 02:24 PM
Originally Posted by TeeThatsMe View Post
Thank you all so very, very much for the sympathy and (gentle!) rational thinking. My husband went in for some medical testing today (all is well, thank goodness!) and I was an emotional wreck. Didn't know how much a little thing like a tiny bit of blood could set me off!

I've seen virtually no more bleeding throughout the day, and being in touch with my midwife--plus your reassurances--has set my mind at ease.

Thanks again, all. You are very kind!
Yay! That's good news. Here's to continued peace of mind.
07-29-2014 06:41 PM
TeeThatsMe Thank you all so very, very much for the sympathy and (gentle!) rational thinking. My husband went in for some medical testing today (all is well, thank goodness!) and I was an emotional wreck. Didn't know how much a little thing like a tiny bit of blood could set me off!

I've seen virtually no more bleeding throughout the day, and being in touch with my midwife--plus your reassurances--has set my mind at ease.

Thanks again, all. You are very kind!
07-29-2014 09:33 AM
cagnew Both of my miscarriages also started with brown/light pink spotting.
07-29-2014 08:31 AM
luckiest My first thought would be irritated cervix as well. Both my miscarriages started with brown/pink, consistent spotting that turned red and heavy after a day or two. I'd try not to worry, take it easy, and give your provider the heads up.
07-29-2014 05:59 AM
cagnew Tee: Odds are WAY in favor of it being from something other than miscarriage. I would let your provider know though (midwife? I can't remember what you use...), like Valerie said. Maybe they would let you pop in for a quick heartbeat listen just for comfort?
07-29-2014 05:53 AM
Valerie11 Tee, I have also read that it's normal to bleed after infection and/or intercourse. But I would also make sure that it really did come from the cervix and not the rectum, as that is usually where the bright red comes from. And I would call your OB or midwife right away just to let them know.
07-29-2014 05:10 AM
bren94 Tee I'm so sorry you had to get such a stressful, icky shock! I'm obviously not a preofessional but I'm willing to bet it's the infection + intercourse that caused it. I've had experiences like that in the past and I know a lot of other women have too. I know if it were me my anxiety would be through the roof and I'd call my care provider but honestly they can't do much to reassure you unless they got you in to hear the heartbeat like...right now. I hope it's nothing and that you start feeling better. Hugs!!
07-29-2014 04:24 AM
forestlover75 Tee -- Oh gosh, that is alarming, but don't assume the worst! For some reason my first thought hearing "bright red blood" is hemorrhoidal bleeding. Is that a possibility? The other possibility (and probably likely given you are getting over a yeast infection and just had sex) is cervical bleeding due to sensitive tissues on your cervix.

If it is any consolation, the miscarriages I had both started with pink/light brown tinged discharge - more like mucous plug than blood - that progressed into something period-like. That said, I wouldn't hesitate contacting your care provider immediately. It is not worth the anxiety of not knowing (the watching like a hawk thing can be really intense) and if it is something placental you (and they) would want to know asap because there may be prevention measures you can take.

For now just keep in mind that each pregnancy is different. Lots of women spot and go on to have normal, healthy pregnancies and babies. It is most common to spot after an OB appointment or sex (because the cervix is so sensitive). Also, if it is indeed cervical bleeding, you may continue to have some brownish discharge of the old blood, so don't be surprised if that happens.

Sending good thoughts your way!
07-29-2014 02:51 AM
TeeThatsMe Oh, my. I could use a little reassurance if anybody has a moment, today--I saw some bright blood in the bathroom this morning. Just a very small amount, all on the toilet paper and nothing in the bowl, but this feels VERY alarming to me.

For background, I've been battling a stubborn yeast infection for weeks, and I finally finished what felt like a loooong treatment course, so my husband and I had sex for the first time in a while last night. It wasn't particularly vigorous, just some "hey, I really missed you!" enthusiasm, and we both stayed in bed and went to sleep afterward. Got up this morning and, first thing, saw red on the toilet paper.

I have also never, ever so much as spotted during either of my previous pregnancies, which makes me feel rather spoiled as I type it, but... Ack. I need somebody to tell me this is no big deal. I'm going to be wearing white underwear today and watching it like a hawk.

It's hard not to feel like this is some kind of gotcha for feeling so blithe and unconcerned over the past few weeks as my first trimester symptoms subsided.
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