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07-14-2014 08:38 PM
hisandherstres
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Originally Posted by zbugmama View Post
Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
We are waiting for the u/s tomorrow to give us the "all is well". Our 7yr DD is highly emotional and we decided it would be better to make sure the baby is doing well before giving her or our other DD the news. Also, they are the biggest mouths in the land, as soon as they know, the universe will know.

We have told some friends and family. My coworkers were asking a week before we found out! Gotta love working in nursing with lots of women/mothers.

Holding off on telling my parents. I'm not sure what their reaction is going to be and could definitely wait awhile for any negative feedback. My MIL, however, is thrilled and I am eternally grateful for her support!

This is our first baby together and we are SO excited!
07-11-2014 02:46 PM
happyday8598 I told my boys after a few weeks of my knowing last time. After we miscarried I decided to wait until the first trimester was over this time around. Though at 13, I now realize they pick up on this stuff on their own. Mine ds2 called me out on it at around 9 weeks.
The urgency to share with anybody has been much less with this one... Come July 29th, though... I'll be ready to take the congratulations!
07-11-2014 12:53 PM
zbugmama We told our moms; DH and I told a few close friends, and someone guessed when I wasn't drinking at a 4th of July party. I'm off for the summer, so no one at work knows, and probably won't until school starts again.

DD is 4 and has been telling us for the past 2 months that she's ready to be a big sister and making tearful requests for us to have a second. Since I'm a little more nervous this time around, I think I may wait for the first ultrasound and hearing the heartbeat to tell her.
07-11-2014 06:26 AM
JenniferC I tell them all right away, waving the pee stick around and all . I can't keep it a secret, never! It's way too exciting! Of course, this time my 3-yo drew some lines on a stick, dipped it into some wet mud outside and proudly proclaimed she was 'pegant' a week after my announcement. "See my pegancy test!" LOL!

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Originally Posted by zbugmama View Post
Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
07-11-2014 06:24 AM
JenniferC Pretty much, this:

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Everybody around me knows except for our families. This is number five for us and I'm anticipating some less-than-ideal reactions. I know I'm going to be very defensive for my baby and I don't feel up to dealing with it right now. Sad, but true!
Well, my family knows. Our local friends know (and are all super-excited, we run with a lot of larger families) - and pretty much anyone who asks or hears a conversation I'm involved in!

This is #6 for us. DH's family is big into 'get on the v-train' hassling, so he doesn't want them to know yet. SO, no FB announcement for me yet. My grandmother actually told me, "Oh no!" I didn't expect that from her. The rest of my side has been getting better with their reactions, thankfully.
07-11-2014 05:58 AM
dentonmidwife The last two times, I told the others pretty quickly. This time I am waiting to talk to a urologist about my kidneys and some testing. I want to have a game plan lined up, so that the kids don't freak out that I am going to die, since that is what the last urologist said could happen with the next pregnancy.
07-11-2014 05:10 AM
cagnew Same here. We waited until after the ultrasound and then told our kids (7,5,3,1) on the way home. The oldest two were very excited, the three year didn't really show any reaction (and neither did the 1 year old of course).
07-10-2014 06:40 PM
TeeThatsMe
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Originally Posted by zbugmama View Post
Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
I think it depends pretty heavily upon the child, and upon the family. We're sharers--all of us!--so we knew that a) we would want to tell our older kids pretty quickly, b) we'd want to tell *everyone* pretty quickly, and c) the moment we shared with our kids, we would have as good as told the world. We waited until we saw a strong heartbeat on the dating ultrasound at 8 weeks, and told them literally in the car on the way home that afternoon. Sure enough, since then they have told just about everyone they've seen. We're talking random strangers on the street. "Hi! See my mommy? She has a BABY IN THERE!" So... yeah. That being said, though, they are also a bit older than some--three and five--and have been enthused about adding another baby to our family for a while now, so we had a pretty good sense that the news would be received well.

TL;DR... Point is that our decision was pretty heavily individuated, and I think you'll find that holds true for many people. Lots of different children, lots of different families, lots of different ways and moments to let them in on the big news!
07-10-2014 05:42 PM
zbugmama Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
07-08-2014 10:54 PM
dentonmidwife Lol! It's that whole being pregnant without being married thing. Last time people tried to punish me and say hurtful things about. Yeah, it is not what I planned, but my pregnancies are so bad with the nausea almost borderline HG that I feel like that is punishment enough sometimes.
07-08-2014 12:00 PM
jodieanneanton
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Originally Posted by dentonmidwife View Post
I am about to go tell my pastor's wife. I know that she will be sweet about it, but I almost feel like I am going to tell my mommy that I have been a naughty girl. Speaking of moms, I haven't told either set of parents yet. How bad would it be to wait until they figure it out on their own? My mom is supposed to be coming for Thanksgiving. I figured that she could guess then.
I was cracking up at this, dentonmidwife! You are a naughty girl! I always feel weird when I think about telling some certain people. OMGosh! They know that I have had sex at least like 6 times. When it was just once or twice, it was no big deal... but 6!?!?! That's A LOT!

By Thanksgiving, your mom would be able to guess for sure. You'll be 6 or so months by then! You can tell her you wanted to give her something to be thankful for! Or, if you want to wait even longer, you can just tell her you are hiding the turkey under your shirt!
07-08-2014 06:16 AM
cagnew Glad everyones announcements are going well!
07-08-2014 06:07 AM
dentonmidwife I am about to go tell my pastor's wife. I know that she will be sweet about it, but I almost feel like I am going to tell my mommy that I have been a naughty girl. Speaking of moms, I haven't told either set of parents yet. How bad would it be to wait until they figure it out on their own? My mom is supposed to be coming for Thanksgiving. I figured that she could guess then.
07-07-2014 05:49 PM
bren94 So glad it went well for the most part!

I randomly told some aunts and uncles on the 4th. My dad's older brother was THRILLED. He practically shouted "That's my girl!!" and squeezed me. My dad's little sister thought I was kidding at first and didn't believe me for a few minutes until everyone confirmed that it was true. She seemed happy though and told her young kids they were going to have a second cousin. I was really happy about it all and I left feeling so good about the future, I know this baby will be SO loved. My aunt now affectionately refers to me as "preggy". Gotta love family
07-07-2014 03:48 PM
TeeThatsMe "Everybody say baby!" is so cute--what a sweet way to surprise them. I'm so glad the reaction was largely positive! That's wonderful!

See, BABIES. They are great! Naysayers can shove it!
07-07-2014 02:46 PM
sarahknavy That sounds so fun seems like it went well
07-07-2014 12:51 PM
happyday8598 knittygritty, how exciting to share with such good sounding people.
Your folks and his will get over it once they meet their grandchild... and then a few years down the road, you'll kinda wish they didn't know they had a grandkid!! lol... I told my partner that this time around, this child will keep a safe distance for a little while... my parents and his both had a hard time grandparenting by our parenting styles. So much love, but also so much sugar, and plastic toys and television, etc etc etc.

Of course, I'm only half joking. As teenagers now my kids have a tremendous relationship with their Grampy, and I'm thankful for their role.

Glad it went well! They've got time to settle into the idea... <3

P.S... That last one ought to make a GREAT photograph!!!
07-07-2014 11:08 AM
knittygritty Well, we're back from our trip so I can update you on how the announcing went:

Thursday night we executed the plan I posted here. My sister was unexpectedly the most excited--so weird. Dad seemed happy. Mom was, um...freaked out. She's going to need a little time to come to terms with this. Hopefully she will.

Saturday DH told his parents. His mom was over the moon excited to be a grandma, but his dad was super weirded out and pulled the "I'm too young to be a grandpa" card and kept telling us how much work kids are and how he's not good with kids (!). Ugh.

Sunday we were with my extended family (I'm super close with all of them) to take family pictures out on my grandparents' farm. I took the opportunity to surprise them right before a picture--"On the count of 3, everybody say baby!" and THAT got a hugely positive reaction, especially from my aunts. It was so nice to end the trip with a reaction that didn't have any baggage attached!

So, whew. This weekend was an emotional roller coaster!
07-06-2014 09:17 PM
tracyamber
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My very impressive bloating has forced me to start telling people-- before they start asking me if I've been enjoying more beer!
Yes, me too!
07-05-2014 03:19 AM
PicklinQueen
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Sigh... The disability angle is hard. I've never been called out, so to speak, but in both previous pregnancies I've worked with deaf people who also have cognitive delays and not-very-advanced language skills, so I got very used to animated gesturing about how HUUUUUUUGE I was. Yeah, okay, thank you, I know it's very exciting that I'm as big as a house, let's chat about something else now.
@PicklinQueen , I hope that's the last you hear of it for weeks and weeks!
It's true, Tee, the folks I work with really tell it how they feel it, zero boundaries, zero filters. We all know each other well too, which maakes it hard to hide anything. And I have a face like an emotional window: totally transparent. I'm going to have to say something sooner than in a month I think. We'll see if it happens again. Thanks for the heads up on what may be coming in terms of comments, too!!
07-04-2014 08:35 AM
Valerie11 I just made the announcement on Facebook, so everyone I haven't already told on the phone who hasn't already told everyone else should now know. I figured get it over with since I plan to see so many people this weekend since we're visiting relatives in other states.
07-03-2014 10:55 AM
TeeThatsMe Sigh... The disability angle is hard. I've never been called out, so to speak, but in both previous pregnancies I've worked with deaf people who also have cognitive delays and not-very-advanced language skills, so I got very used to animated gesturing about how HUUUUUUUGE I was. Yeah, okay, thank you, I know it's very exciting that I'm as big as a house, let's chat about something else now.
@PicklinQueen , I hope that's the last you hear of it for weeks and weeks!
07-03-2014 10:32 AM
PicklinQueen Just got made at work by one of the adults with disabilities I work with, who asked if I was pregnant. I replied that it was a very personal question that was socially inappropriate to ask, avoiding ab answer all together. Don't think I'll be able to wait till 12weeks to tell people, I'm already showingenough that its hard to hide.
07-02-2014 12:33 PM
jodieanneanton @knittygritty , Good Luck!!! Let us know how it goes!
07-02-2014 11:50 AM
knittygritty Well guys, tomorrow is the big day where we break the news to my family.

Holy cow, I am NERVOUS. I'm kind of having a panic attack just thinking about it.

The plan for my parents/sister is to give them each a wrapped gift under the guise of a surprise Christmas in July. We’ll give my parents each a grandparent mug from my university, and we’ll give my sister a McDonald’s gift card for a future fry date with her niece/nephew (something she keeps saying she wants to do as an aunt).

Hopefully this all goes well and doesn't backfire on us!
07-01-2014 10:48 AM
clarkey We're not telling, because we don't think folks would be very supportive. We've been having a tough time, financially. Still, we're very excited and it feels good to have a secret.
07-01-2014 07:18 AM
bren94 @TeeThatsMe So cute!!
06-30-2014 08:17 PM
sarafl
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@Dot-to-Dot , your MIL sounds like a piece of work! Oh my gosh! I wouldn't blame you one bit for keeping mum until the baby was born, but it's very kind of you to consider letting her in on it at the midpoint. Naming your child... Announcing the sex, especially when it's pretty much made up?! Good Lord!

Here's our goofy family video announcement. We're posting it on Facebook on... Wednesday, of course.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PoA3-ZwFZ8
@TeeThatsMe that video is so cute! I wish I could come up with some special way to tell people. So far I've mostly been going with "So, um, I've decided I'm telling people this now..."

I told my parents last night, and my brother had inadvertently given me a great setup for it. I'd told him and his girlfriend earlier that day, then later he was talking to our mom on the phone and his girlfriend was talking about it in the background, but all my mom heard was him saying "shh, Marla, my mom doesn't know yet!" Mom thought *they* were having a baby, and started asking me about it when I went over for dinner. Perfect setup!
06-30-2014 01:38 PM
Valerie11 We've told our parents and whomever I happened to talk to recently on the phone since everyone is in other states besides ours.

I would like to take this opportunity to mention that if any of you have yet to tell your employer about your pregnancy, the best way is in writing, preferably an email. Then print it out, or print out whatever reply you get and save it. During my last pregnancy I told one of my direct supervisors in his office and there was a meeting shortly after that I got invited to about what a terrible job I was doing. Looking back, they were a smaller company so FMLA didn't apply to them and I think they just wanted rid of me so as not to pay the healthcare costs. But it didn't work. I did do some serious reading about the laws and saved every email that I ever got showing I was doing a good job (and I was actually doing a great job), just in case it would need taken to court. I also got an email from a co-worker of a forwarded email showing that they knew that had been sent on the date I told them, so I was covered in case they terminated me. It's sad that we live in a society that is this way, but we do, and it does happen. I didn't return to that job after maternity leave and gave them plenty of notice so they could have my replacement ready well before I would have returned. As a professional courtesy.
06-30-2014 09:36 AM
DuchessTergie My very impressive bloating has forced me to start telling people-- before they start asking me if I've been enjoying more beer!
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