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09-06-2014 05:18 PM
gumblossom Hi everyone. Just dropped in to see how you all are.
Congratulations Caritas. Enjoy your lovely newborn. I am very happy for you (and envious for myself)

It's nice to see some of the "old" crew here.

I haven't been around as I am trying to get used to the idea that a pregnancy for me is highly unlikely. My "baby" has just turned 6. I am really sad I wasn't able to give him a sibling close in age, but it wasn't for want of trying!

I am still ovulating, my cycles have shortened a bit, and having timed sex, but I am realistic about my chances at 47 (48 in Nov).

I would really love a baby, but knowing how hard it is to make to 12 weeks fills me with dread. However, I'll take a bfp in a heartbeat, then take one day at a time.

I have just ovulated, only BD'ed once in a couple of days before, but you never know....
08-26-2014 10:48 PM
saoirse2007
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Originally Posted by caritasrainbow View Post
Omg! How freaking grueling! Apparently it's normal for a grand multip to have an on again- off again labor that lasts several days? Man, I thought the last one would be easy! No such luck. Found out Monday I had a low lying placenta, which caused another freak out.
But in the end I finally had my fifth and final UC baby this morning at 2:05. 41 weeks exactly. No name yet.
Congrats!!!

Looks like old home week here ladies miss the old crowd!
08-22-2014 09:42 AM
tenzinsmama Hi Litmama! Thanks for your good wishes.
08-20-2014 07:28 PM
honeybunmom
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Originally Posted by caritasrainbow View Post
Omg! How freaking grueling! Apparently it's normal for a grand multip to have an on again- off again labor that lasts several days? Man, I thought the last one would be easy! No such luck. Found out Monday I had a low lying placenta, which caused another freak out.
But in the end I finally had my fifth and final UC baby this morning at 2:05. 41 weeks exactly. No name yet.
Big congrats to you and welcome to your little one!!
08-20-2014 05:34 PM
LitMama Congratulations, Rain! I'm sorry you had a tough labor but so happy your baby is here now. It would be great to see a picture when you're feeling up to it. You had a little girl, right? I'm trying to remember.

Congrats on your good news, Honeybun! That must feel like a relief.

Hi Tenzinsmama! I remember you from the old days. Glad to hear your cycle is back. I understand that desire for just one more. I'm trying to step back and move on, but the longing is still there. I also took a few years in my late 30s to focus on my education, so I understand that tinge of regret, too. Sending you good wishes.
08-20-2014 01:51 PM
orangemomma Congratulations Rain!
08-20-2014 12:55 PM
tenzinsmama Congratulations, Carita! Can't wait to hear the name of your little one. Is it a boy or girl? You give me such hope! Please come on back here when you are up to it and post an update, with maybe some pics?!

Honey, great news on your results!!!

Hi Waturmama! I recall your lovely and encouraging posts from 4 years ago when I first joined this thread. I wondered about you, how are you doing? xo

I am not doing so well with remembering what everyone is up to, with ages and cycles and challenges and good news and all... but I do follow along (although sometimes it's not regularly because for some reason with this new upgrade, it doesn't always notify me when there are new posts) and I'm rooting for everyone on their journey, whatever it may be.

AFM...I just got a positive LH surge today, my 3rd PP cycle, and I'm feeling hopeful that my body is still going strong when it comes to fertility. My hormones are a little wonky, as it is Day 27-- but at least I'm cycling. And last cycle I got my positive LH result on Day 32, so it looks like I'm getting more normal. It will be interesting to see if my luteal cycle is longer this time around, as last time I started my flow on Day 37. I had a pelvic ultrasound last month in which they did an Antral Follicle Count, and I go back to my doctor on September 8th to get the results. I'm scared because I don't know what I will do if it's showing a low count-- or worse, zero follicles. I only wish I could take back a couple of years in which I focused on my education in order to advance my career-- I put off ttc'ing with my current partner, and now although I am so grateful to have my three beautiful children I long for one more. It feels like 4 is my number at which I will feel complete... But is it too late? I hope not.
08-20-2014 11:58 AM
caritasrainbow
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Originally Posted by honeybunmom View Post
Hello ladies! Last night I received a call from one if my midwives with the results of my MaterniT21 test and wanted to share the results with you. They wee negative. No increased risk for any trisomies. I am very thankful. And the baby is a girl. My daughter will be ecstatic. My son, not so much. lol!
Congratulations!'
08-20-2014 11:57 AM
caritasrainbow Omg! How freaking grueling! Apparently it's normal for a grand multip to have an on again- off again labor that lasts several days? Man, I thought the last one would be easy! No such luck. Found out Monday I had a low lying placenta, which caused another freak out.
But in the end I finally had my fifth and final UC baby this morning at 2:05. 41 weeks exactly. No name yet.
08-19-2014 10:18 AM
honeybunmom Hello ladies! Last night I received a call from one if my midwives with the results of my MaterniT21 test and wanted to share the results with you. They wee negative. No increased risk for any trisomies. I am very thankful. And the baby is a girl. My daughter will be ecstatic. My son, not so much. lol!
08-15-2014 02:20 PM
LitMama WaturMama!!!!

What a lovely, lovely surprise to see you here! I just popped in quickly to see if any babies had been born and you could have knocked me over with a feather when I saw your name! Wonderful to see you. I'll send you a PM.
08-14-2014 11:18 PM
WaturMama HI!!! I haven't been here for a long, long time, but just felt the need to post something elsewhere, and thought I'd stop by here...and right there is my one of my 40+ TTC buddies LitMama!! Hi LitMama and everyone, I hope you are very well and that all your dreams come true.
08-14-2014 03:37 PM
LitMama Hi everyone! I'm really out of the loop here (not really TTCing anymore), but keep checking back to see if Rain has had her baby yet. Any news??
08-09-2014 07:03 PM
caritasrainbow Hunybunmom- so glad to hear everything is going well! Yay!
For some reason I stopped getting replies to this thread for a bit and missed your first two posts. I think I'm all caught up now.
Afm- my edd (naegle) is this coming Wednesday...
08-09-2014 06:14 PM
CarolynnMarilynn Hi honeybunmom!

Congrats on your lovely addition to your family. Sounds like we have a lot in common!
08-07-2014 01:35 PM
honeybunmom orangemomma, all is well here. Thank you for asking! The morning sickness is finally starting to diminish and last night I was able to do housework after 9 pm! I will be 11 weeks on Saturday. I bought a fetal doppler online a few weeks ago to preserve my sanity and occasionally listen to the baby's heart beat. I still haven't told my kids and my 5 year old found the doppler one night, so, we listened to their heartbeats! Tomorrow morning I go in for the MaterniT 21 blood draw.

Also, my partner has really stepped up in the sensitivity department. He surprised me and showed up at the 6 wk ultrasound after telling me he could not get away from the office. I am glad we were able to see the bean for the first time together. And he's been all around greatly improved in the thoughtless comments department. He wrote a beautiful card for me the other day and we have made 2 family trips (for my family) in the past few weeks requiring us to travel. This past Sunday we dropped my kids off 10 hours away at my mom's for their annual summer trip there and he took them and my niece and nephew who also came to the pool for several hours so my mom and I could spend some time together. The kids are 7, 8 and two 5 year olds. I don't want to be alone with the 4 of them for several hours!!

caritas rainbow glad to hear you are still hanging in there! I have been checking this thread periodically to see if there have been any updates from you as I mistakenly thought you were due. Continuing to hold good thoughts for you.

CarolynnMarilynn, welcome! It sounds like you have some really interesting things going on in your life!! I wish you all the best in conceiving your baby. I understand the desire as I, too, had wanted another child when I was still with my ex. I had a m/c with him at 41. I never expected to be out of my marriage and in love with someone new at this point in my life. I had assumed he did not want any more children since his one and only graduated from high school this past spring. But, no, he does with me and we started trying and here we are. I am 44 and will turn 45 4.5 weeks after baby is due. He is 48 and will turn 49 two weeks after baby is due.
08-07-2014 06:21 AM
CarolynnMarilynn Hi rain! Nice to meet you. Thanks for the welcome! Wow you must be so excited to meet your little one. I can't wait to be in your sandals (it's summer, right?) one day! LOL

And Happy Birthday! Hope you got a nice foot massage, or a nap as a present, or something good!
08-07-2014 06:15 AM
caritasrainbow Welcome! I'm rain. I had my first 5 babies at 21 (first husband), 28, 31, 35 & 39. I had my first mmc at 41 last year 5/13, second and third losses at 42- 9/13 & 11/13. The first two were around 11 weeks, the third was a chemical. I got pregnant again 11/13 (two weeks after my last loss) and now, at 43 (birthday was Monday) I am finally nearing the end of my journey as I am just past 39 weeks now. So my babies will range from 21-0.
I am huge and sick of being pregnant as I've been pregnant now for some part of every month for the last 18 with the exception of June '13. I'm also nervous about all the crap I've read about women our age going past 39 weeks, so I'm truly hoping lo comes now. I'm a UC birther, so there will be no dr induction and I must just continue to trust my body. (Gets harder to do!). ;^)
Good luck on your journey, I wish you well!
08-07-2014 05:54 AM
CarolynnMarilynn
42, IVF, adding to our blended family

Good morning!

I am so pleased to find this thread and come back to the Mothering community again.

Let me start with a little intro and about my journey: I am 42, and with a new partner. I have 3 kids (16, 14, 7) and he has twin girls (8). We have been blessed with great kids, and would like to have one together.

I have been diagnosed with DOR. Mr has lowish sperm count, but doesn't look critical. We recently started investigations prior to IVF. I feel like I am running out of time and perhaps IVF is our best option. We have gone to two other clinics on this journey, but it's about fit. It's a heck of a lot of money (all OOP) and we want to have our best chances. So we have started with Create in downtown Toronto, and got all our bloodworm and my US done. Next is full sperm analysis and a HSG. Then we meet again at the end of the month and see what is what.

I've had a couple of AMH tests which showed a really low level. However, the RE said my ovaries looked good in his opinion, with one obviously ovulated egg, and 5 more antral follicles. Not great for someone younger, but at 42 he thought it wasn't too bad. We haven't ruled out donor eggs, and we haven't ruled out going abroad to the Czech Republic for treatment. We really are in the planning and information stage. We don't have enough resources for more than about 2-3 cycles here.

Ultimately if we can't get pregnant I won't be totally devastated, but having another baby has been on my mind for the last 4-5 years, and even with my ex-DH. My reasons for wanting another baby are a little different this time: I'd love to see my partner's features in our little one, I'd love to carry a baby we made out of love together, and I'd love to see our little love baby in our arms. I adore my partner and want to have a baby with him. And I'd love to have a lovely big family!

A little about me: I am a midwife in Ontario and have practiced for more than 11 years. I live in the country just outside of Toronto and feel like I am finally home. I also work in comic book publishing as of more recently, and am editing several projects. I have a special interest in bringing many more comics to girls, with characters they want to read about, with characteristics that make my feminist heart happy to portray. We are part of a really big project right now, but contracts haven't been signed so it's still under wraps. :-)

I like to knit and crochet, sew and do crafts. It seems that I craft a lot more in winter! I can't wait to have a baby to knit and dye for!

The hardest part of this journey is waiting, and not knowing if all these emotional resources and hoping will result in my dream coming true.

I look forward to meeting you all, on this journey too!
08-07-2014 05:53 AM
caritasrainbow Not quite due yet. ;^)
08-07-2014 04:34 AM
orangemomma This thread is super quiet. How is everyone doing? Rain - did you have that baby yet? Hoping all is well for you honeybunmom - are things going well for you with the pregnancy?

My last cycle was only 25 days long and this menses is very light (CD3) - progesterone issue perhaps? I don't know - feeling discouraged but not completely defeated.

Hugs to all
07-17-2014 11:52 AM
LitMama
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mine will be 3 in the fall and starting to realize might not be a fourth
I BF my DD until she was 3 but wasn't TTC at the time. Wish I had tried, even though my marriage was breaking up, at least I could maybe have had another LO (although BF may have been totally suppressing ovulation in my case... I didn't get PP AF until DD was at least 2... by the time my cycle returned, I was single with no potential father for a second LO). 46 now and probably looking at not being able to have another and getting okay with that. Grateful for my one.
07-17-2014 11:47 AM
LitMama
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I will be 43 August 4th.
Anyway, I was right, I had it confirmed today, baby girl has turned and is in the perfect birthing position. My other worries, which related to age and parity, have vanished. I feel like I've done everything in my power to fix whatever issues those things may have caused (excessive bleeding postpartum, uterine atony, etc).
Also, while I am still anemic, I am just barely, so I'm comfortable with that.
So I am now looking forward to my 5th unassisted birth in less than a month!!!
Great news, Carita! Yay! So glad baby girl is cooperating and you will get to have the birth you wanted.
07-17-2014 11:45 AM
LitMama
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Originally Posted by zbugmama View Post
Well, just shy of 11 weeks, this little one has decided now is not the time.

I will be taking another break from the list but wish healthy and positive (in all ways) months ahead to you mamas.
Zbugmama, I am so, so sorry. As Chilee said, a lot of us have been down this road and are here for you. Take good care, sending love and light your way.
07-17-2014 09:33 AM
chilee zbugmama so sorry

please come talk when you want...a lot of losses here and a lot of heart and emcouragement
07-17-2014 09:32 AM
chilee
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Originally Posted by caritasrainbow View Post
I will be 43 August 4th.
Anyway, I was right, I had it confirmed today, baby girl has turned and is in the perfect birthing position. My other worries, which related to age and parity, have vanished. I feel like I've done everything in my power to fix whatever issues those things may have caused (excessive bleeding postpartum, uterine atony, etc).
Also, while I am still anemic, I am just barely, so I'm comfortable with that.
So I am now looking forward to my 5th unassisted birth in less than a month!!!
so happy to see this!!!!
07-17-2014 09:30 AM
chilee
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Originally Posted by orangemomma View Post
I am still breastfeeding as well. My DD is 3 but she still really wants that milk. I work outside of the home a lot and I just can't say no when I see that little face! I am 45, trying for #3 .
mine will be 3 in the fall and starting to realize might not be a fourth
07-16-2014 07:33 PM
honeybunmom zebugmama, I am so sorry for your loss! I am sending white light your way and praying for peace in your heart.
07-16-2014 01:11 PM
caritasrainbow Zbugmama- hugs and healing. So sorry mama.
07-16-2014 12:37 PM
zbugmama Well, just shy of 11 weeks, this little one has decided now is not the time.

I will be taking another break from the list but wish healthy and positive (in all ways) months ahead to you mamas.
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