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10-22-2014 06:52 PM
honeybunmom
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Originally Posted by nexxus View Post
Maternal age has to be added to the spontaneous miscarriage risk even after a good ultrasound reading (it said 20% chance of miscarriage after a good ultrasound reading). I found this:

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/uog.909/full

It has long been recognized that advanced maternal age is a risk factor for early pregnancy loss. The biological explanation includes the fact that meiotic non-disjunction during oogenesis is more frequent in older mothers and their offspring are at increased risk of trisomies 13, 16, 18 and 2112, 13. The incidence of chromosomal abnormalities in spontaneous abortuses during the first trimester has been reported to be as high as 61.5%14. In the current multivariate analysis, increasing maternal age demonstrated a trend towards an increased risk of subsequent miscarriage as expected (OR, 1.14; 95% CI, 1.03–1.27).

Maybe a baby with trisomy or monosomy appears normal in the early weeks, up to week 12? I would think PPQ would help for this and DHEA. So what raises DHEA naturally? Intense exercise. Gonna try it. I was just reading about ladies having babies in their late 40's after doing P90x and intense running. I was not very confident with this last pregnancy because I was sick for 2 weeks exactly 90 days ago, right when the egg was being created.
Interesting. I completed a 10,000 swing kettle bell challenge in December and continued with my kettle bell workouts through conception in early June. Maybe that was a contributing factor for my conception.

Previously, I have had 2 miscarriages. One btwn each live birth. The first was at 38, and was a missed miscarriage. I didn't have a dating u/s with that pregnancy. However, I experienced a single cramp that made me feel like something was wrong so my mw sent me for an u/s. This was around 10 weeks and I learned the baby had died. I ended up having to have am acupuncture treatment to get the expulsion going. I have a retro erred uterus which may have contributed to its failure to expel on its own.
10-22-2014 08:10 AM
nexxus
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Originally Posted by nexxus View Post
Congrats on your baby Rain

Thanks for that info. I'm new to this miscarriage thing. I'm still perplexed though because I thought the embryo is supposed to die before miscarriage. You said yours was healthy and had died right after ultrasound but miscarried a month later. Well I had ultrasound at noon....all looked good. Sudden miscarriage at 8 pm after 1 hour of painful cramps, no signs before then. I'm a little worried ultrasound had something to do with it. So either embryo died in those 8 hours or I miscarried a living embryo? Isn't embryo supposed to be dead first? But it's encouraging that you went on to get a baby after 3 losses. Maybe the time just wasn't right.

Thanks honeybunn...i'm so glad you made it past the first trimester
Maternal age has to be added to the spontaneous miscarriage risk even after a good ultrasound reading (it said 20% chance of miscarriage after a good ultrasound reading). I found this:

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/uog.909/full

It has long been recognized that advanced maternal age is a risk factor for early pregnancy loss. The biological explanation includes the fact that meiotic non-disjunction during oogenesis is more frequent in older mothers and their offspring are at increased risk of trisomies 13, 16, 18 and 2112, 13. The incidence of chromosomal abnormalities in spontaneous abortuses during the first trimester has been reported to be as high as 61.5%14. In the current multivariate analysis, increasing maternal age demonstrated a trend towards an increased risk of subsequent miscarriage as expected (OR, 1.14; 95% CI, 1.03–1.27).

Maybe a baby with trisomy or monosomy appears normal in the early weeks, up to week 12? I would think PPQ would help for this and DHEA. So what raises DHEA naturally? Intense exercise. Gonna try it. I was just reading about ladies having babies in their late 40's after doing P90x and intense running. I was not very confident with this last pregnancy because I was sick for 2 weeks exactly 90 days ago, right when the egg was being created.
10-21-2014 02:22 PM
nexxus
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Originally Posted by caritasrainbow View Post
Welcome to the newbies! I'm a recent graduate, having just given birth in August at age 43.
Congrats huny!
Nexxus, I am so sorry for your loss. The first one of the three losses I went through last year had a normal growth and normal heart rate. It was a missed miscarraige, but had to have stopped growing a day or so after that ultrasound, although it wasn't discovered for about a month.
Hugs.
Congrats on your baby Rain

Thanks for that info. I'm new to this miscarriage thing. I'm still perplexed though because I thought the embryo is supposed to die before miscarriage. You said yours was healthy and had died right after ultrasound but miscarried a month later. Well I had ultrasound at noon....all looked good. Sudden miscarriage at 8 pm after 1 hour of painful cramps, no signs before then. I'm a little worried ultrasound had something to do with it. So either embryo died in those 8 hours or I miscarried a living embryo? Isn't embryo supposed to be dead first? But it's encouraging that you went on to get a baby after 3 losses. Maybe the time just wasn't right.

Thanks honeybunn...i'm so glad you made it past the first trimester
10-21-2014 02:09 PM
honeybunmom
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Originally Posted by nexxus View Post
congrats honeybunn!

I unfortunately just had a violent cramping miscarriage 6 hours after seeing a healthy heartbeat, size was just right too, on ultrasound. I was 7 weeks 3 days (126 bpm). She said yolk sac looked great, implanted high, not on cervix and she even saw a cyst that was producing hormones for the pregnancy. I don't get it...any others here have miscarriage of a living healthy embryo? It was just very strange, my uterus just went into labor as I was sitting down. Now one thing wasn't right. I did have a slight brown discharge for the last 9 days which she said was old blood. But I said to her a constant flow of brown means a bleed some where. So she looked on ultrasound a did not see any place where there was an active bleed. The cramps hurt a lot and I remember thinking there's no way the pregnancy will survive these powerful cramps. Well 1 hour after the labor like cramps I see blood and it all came out. My uterus then fills up with blood 4 times (I think because the cramps just sheared the placenta right off the uterine wall), giant uterus size clots. Now I can't be totally sure it was healthy so I asked hospital to test for abnormalities, but I thought abnormal embryos had slow heartbeat and measured small. Has this happened to any one else? miscarriage out of the blue, even though everything looks good? Looks like we're back to try again. Sucks.

oh i found out something called "Welome Womb" that's supposed to stop a cramping threatened miscarriage. gonna have to get it.
nexxus, I am so sorry to read of your miscarriage! Praying for healing for your womb and heart.

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Originally Posted by sraplayas View Post
I'd like to jump in!
I have three LO's. BF several times a day/night which is why the delay in AF.

Finally, after 27+months PP, I had my first PPAF!

I'm 40 this year so this is my first time TTC in my 40's.

Thanks and looking forward to hearing everyone's stories.

sraplayas
Welcome sraplayas! Sending you baby dust!
10-21-2014 12:47 PM
caritasrainbow Welcome to the newbies! I'm a recent graduate, having just given birth in August at age 43.
Congrats huny!
Nexxus, I am so sorry for your loss. The first one of the three losses I went through last year had a normal growth and normal heart rate. It was a missed miscarraige, but had to have stopped growing a day or so after that ultrasound, although it wasn't discovered for about a month.
Hugs.
10-21-2014 12:12 PM
nexxus congrats honeybunn!

I unfortunately just had a violent cramping miscarriage 6 hours after seeing a healthy heartbeat, size was just right too, on ultrasound. I was 7 weeks 3 days (126 bpm). She said yolk sac looked great, implanted high, not on cervix and she even saw a cyst that was producing hormones for the pregnancy. I don't get it...any others here have miscarriage of a living healthy embryo? It was just very strange, my uterus just went into labor as I was sitting down. Now one thing wasn't right. I did have a slight brown discharge for the last 9 days which she said was old blood. But I said to her a constant flow of brown means a bleed some where. So she looked on ultrasound a did not see any place where there was an active bleed. The cramps hurt a lot and I remember thinking there's no way the pregnancy will survive these powerful cramps. Well 1 hour after the labor like cramps I see blood and it all came out. My uterus then fills up with blood 4 times (I think because the cramps just sheared the placenta right off the uterine wall), giant uterus size clots. Now I can't be totally sure it was healthy so I asked hospital to test for abnormalities, but I thought abnormal embryos had slow heartbeat and measured small. Has this happened to any one else? miscarriage out of the blue, even though everything looks good? Looks like we're back to try again. Sucks.

oh i found out something called "Welome Womb" that's supposed to stop a cramping threatened miscarriage. gonna have to get it.
10-15-2014 03:14 PM
sraplayas I'd like to jump in!
I have three LO's. BF several times a day/night which is why the delay in AF.

Finally, after 27+months PP, I had my first PPAF!

I'm 40 this year so this is my first time TTC in my 40's.

Thanks and looking forward to hearing everyone's stories.

sraplayas
10-14-2014 07:41 PM
Staylucid Thank you for your warm welcome and the baby dust!

Reading honeybunmom and nexxus' posts warms my heart. I am super excited for the both of you! I am not losing hope yet and appreciate you sharing with me.

LitMama I recognize how busy we all are and want to thank you as well for reaching out and taking the time to send me your recommendations. I was doing acupuncture at least once a week for a year and a half. I switched over to homeopathy in June and I had to stop acupuncture. Something about the pathways they work against one another. Eastern medicine isn't always easy to understand. My homeopath wasn't keen on DHEA at first and now she is saying in lieu of it I can cycle (alternate) the following herbs every two weeks 1 capsule 2xper day: Dong Quai, Black Cohosh, Wild Yam and Evening Primrose Oil. I feel like going back to the original plan of Vitamin D, ubiquinol, and DHEA 3x a day. Sometimes I feel so conflicted on who to listen to. What has made me feel better is going mostly gluten free. Intuitively it seems a good choice for me. Keeping gluten, sugar and caffeine in check has made me feel better and handle the roller coaster of emotions caused by the process and drugs with grace. My husband may beg to differ. Lol

Tomorrow I have my second opinion at Vally Health (they are affiliated with NYU) and Thursday with New Hope. I have to say RMA of NJ spoiled me with their high level of customer service. I too, have heard wonderful things about New Hope but as a potential new patient I can't speak to anybody live. I even had my husband try. They only respond to email. Therefore I sent an email asking for someone to call and... crickets! I think I want to go to the consultation to tell the doctor how awful their customer service is. In fact the worst I have ever encountered! They are coming across as arrogant. I had to call RMA today and cancel my pregnancy test since I got my period. I found out that RMA could perform the morning monitoring for New Hope since there is no way I can get to and from NYC and be at work on time.

Thank you for providing me with a forum in which I truly feel I am with people that can relate to me. I work with a few girls undergoing infertility treatments in their 30's. By the looks of the waiting room I see infertility does not discriminate.

Love and Light xo
10-14-2014 10:19 AM
honeybunmom Hi, Ladies, stopping in with an update.

Welcome, Staylucid! I am sending you lots of baby dust. I am the other 44 year old who is pregnant naturally nexxus mentioned. I will turn 45 about 4 weeks after baby is due. My maternal grandmother had her last 2 of 8 at 43 and 44. They were 18 months apart. My mom was number 7. I have not had any fertility assessments, so, I'm inclined to think genetics are at work here. One of my mom's cousins (on her mother's side) had planned number 2 at 43, 17 years after her first and a first cousin of mine, on my mother's side had her one and only at 48. After being unsuccessful in her previous marriage (so, who knows how much of the issue may have been hubby number 1 or the stress of an unhappy relationship).

Anyhoo, the update. I made 20 weeks on Saturday and we had our level II ultra sound yesterday and everything is developing as it should. All organs, limbs, no cleft lip, all good! She is currently tap dancing on my bladder, so, I am trusting that she will take a moment during the remaining half of this pregnancy to put herself in the correct position! Varicose veins are acting up something terrible and I am getting a little sciatica pain and the hemorrhoids have made their debut, but it is all a fair exchange for a healthy baby.
10-14-2014 04:28 AM
caritasrainbow Somehow I am no longer getting emails as posts are written. I have unsubbed and resubbed twice, but my thread subscriptions still reads zero. Any advice?

Missing hanging out over here!
10-13-2014 05:36 PM
LitMama Wow, congrats, Nexxus! That is sooooo awesome! Super happy for you

Staylucid, I've mostly tried naturally but did have two rounds of IUI and one round of IVF. I've had two clinical pregnancies in my 40s, an ectopic (normal baby) at 43 and a missed miscarriage earlier this year at 45. Both pregnancies were naturally conceived, no ART.

I would agree that low stims or no stims (natural cycle) could be the ticket for you. I've heard New Hope is amazing with over 40 patients, low ovarian reserve, etc.

There are some ways you may be able to increase your ovarian reserve / follicle counts, though. I would start by reading Randine Lewis (the fertile soul, the infertility cure), Julia Indichova (the fertile heart), and Jill Blakeway (making babies). All discuss diet, lifestyle, supplements, and Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM).

I've been able to preserve my ovarian reserve through my 40s... so far (knock wood) my numbers look like someone 10 years younger. It could be genetic, but it could also be the fact that I have weekly acupuncture, take TCM herbal formulas, and take supplements that are supposed to help. I only have a quick sec right now, but here are a few key supplements/practices you can do to possibly get more follies:

Vitamin D (new studies show it raises AMH and ovarian reserve)
DHEA (but ask your doctor first... serious side effects, not for everyone... but a woman I know on another board doubled her AMH after taking DHEA for a few months)
Ubiquinol (for egg quality, won't increase follies)
Lots of antioxidants, in diet and as supplements (for egg quality, won't increase follies)
TCM herbal formulas

And, anything that increases circulation to your ovaries will help them function better and produce more follies and better quality eggs, so try these practices:

Acupuncture
Warm water bottle on tummy before ovulation
Soaking feet in hot water before ovulation
Mayan abdominal massage before ovulation
Fertility yoga, qi gong, massage
Femoral massage (Randine Lewis explains how to do this in her books on has videos online)

Baby dust!
10-13-2014 08:01 AM
nexxus
Quote:
Originally Posted by Staylucid View Post
Northern NJ 44 aged women with low egg count
Calling out to my fellow infertile over 40 ladies to see what you guys are trying. Currently I am a patient at RMA in NJ and have undergone 3 IUIs. My insurance will no longer pay for any IUIs but will for IVF. The problem is RMA will not let me undergo IVF since I have not produced more than 1-2 eggs a cycle. Their minimum is 3 eggs. The protocol I have been following is 450 Follistrum and 15-20 low dose HGC. Doing it every month and expecting different results is causing me to start thinking it's insanity.

I am curious if any of you have been in a similar situation. What meds are you taking?

I have a second opinion this Wednesday with Valley Health (associated with NYU but located in NJ) and a third opinion with New Hope in NYC.

Wishing everybody luck and love in their journey
HI Staylucid, I've heard natural cycle IVF is best for older moms. I found this:
http://fertilegrounds.dominionfertil...iological-baby
In a Natural Cycle IVF, they do not expect you to get more than 1 or 2 high quality eggs. Now some have argued that why bother spend money on Natural Cycle IVF, it's the same as trying naturally...unless you have sperm swimming issues, or mechanical issues, (such as tubal issues) as to why the sperm and egg would not meet. But the key is not to harm the delicate eggs with harsh inductions, hence the benefit of Natural Cycle IVF for older moms.

I've been trying naturally and many others here are too, though some are doing IVF and donor eggs. I am also 44 and 7 weeks pregnant naturally (though I am using acupuncture), and there's another 44 year old mom on here who is now through her first trimester, pregnant naturally. I also have a friend who juts gave birth at age 48 to a little girl, an oops natural pregnancy!

I had an ultrasound done at the the beginning of week 6 and I have a heartbeat of 100 bpm, the sac and fetal pole measured right at 6 weeks. Over age 35 I read I now have only a 20% chance of miscarriage after seeing the heartbeat. Not going to be too optimistic yet though.

Best of luck to you!
10-12-2014 11:50 AM
Staylucid Northern NJ 44 aged women with low egg count
Calling out to my fellow infertile over 40 ladies to see what you guys are trying. Currently I am a patient at RMA in NJ and have undergone 3 IUIs. My insurance will no longer pay for any IUIs but will for IVF. The problem is RMA will not let me undergo IVF since I have not produced more than 1-2 eggs a cycle. Their minimum is 3 eggs. The protocol I have been following is 450 Follistrum and 15-20 low dose HGC. Doing it every month and expecting different results is causing me to start thinking it's insanity.

I am curious if any of you have been in a similar situation. What meds are you taking?

I have a second opinion this Wednesday with Valley Health (associated with NYU but located in NJ) and a third opinion with New Hope in NYC.

Wishing everybody luck and love in their journey
10-05-2014 08:32 PM
nexxus
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Originally Posted by honeybunmom View Post
Old as dirt! Lol! That's as bad as my 5 year old who keeps flatly stating, "You're fat". To which I respond, "The baby is growing!"

But yes, more years behind us that ahead most likely! I am due February 28 and will turn 45 on April 3. Just squeaking in there! When are you due? If you already stated above, I will see it when I scroll back up.

Happy to be on this ride with you!
Ha-Ha, that's cute! Wow you're in the safe zone, congrats! My due date is June 3. Happy to be on it with you too, first I've gotta get past Jan. 2015..
10-03-2014 09:50 AM
honeybunmom
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Originally Posted by nexxus View Post
MamadiRumi I don't know your age but my friend is 48 and pregnant naturally (she is 8 months preggo right now with a healthy little girl), she didn't do anything different other than a prenatal. I think you still can have another if you want to. I took progesterone cream too from OV to period and it really calmed me down but then I stopped taking all the supplements and cream since July because I was just getting lazy. I did the progesterone saliva test in August and it was DOUBLE as high as a premenopausal female. But even with the level being too high I still got pregnant. I think it was the acupuncture that gave me perfect 28 day cycles. Before I was 23-32 day cycles with later ovulation and shorter luteal phase. I did drink Pre-Conception tea this cycle but I don't think that would do it. You may want to try acupuncture.


Congrats honeybunmom! When are you due? I'll be just turning 45 if this works....due date is my 45th birthday! You know it's crazy I would consider another baby too. I figure what the heck, I'm all ready old as dirt and nothing gonna fix that, might as well jump in all the way LOL! But like you, I give nursing the priority so I'd have to be, gasp, 48!


Hi Carolynn, I just want to suggest that you may not need all that high tech stuff. It's very harsh on your body. Your FSH is low, you shouldn't need it. IMO It happens when the time is right. I used astrologers and they pinpointed both of my conceptions (one in Jan. and this one in Sept.) Her first response to my inquiry:

"The other big transit I see coming up is progressed Moon conjunct your descendant in Sept. 2014, very common for getting pregnant. Neptune, a tenant of your 5th, is trine to your asc in June 2015, so 9 months later.

Also I got preg twice this year with husbands low sperm count (Below 20 million), my FSH is 7. What he did do to fix his sperm is eat super healthy, tons of fruits and veggies, and I gave him Count Boost and FertilAid but the funny thing is we got pregnant twice before he had the 72 days of taking the pills to improve his count. Best of luck to you!
Old as dirt! Lol! That's as bad as my 5 year old who keeps flatly stating, "You're fat". To which I respond, "The baby is growing!"

But yes, more years behind us that ahead most likely! I am due February 28 and will turn 45 on April 3. Just squeaking in there! When are you due? If you already stated above, I will see it when I scroll back up.

Happy to be on this ride with you!
09-30-2014 08:46 PM
nexxus MamadiRumi I don't know your age but my friend is 48 and pregnant naturally (she is 8 months preggo right now with a healthy little girl), she didn't do anything different other than a prenatal. I think you still can have another if you want to. I took progesterone cream too from OV to period and it really calmed me down but then I stopped taking all the supplements and cream since July because I was just getting lazy. I did the progesterone saliva test in August and it was DOUBLE as high as a premenopausal female. But even with the level being too high I still got pregnant. I think it was the acupuncture that gave me perfect 28 day cycles. Before I was 23-32 day cycles with later ovulation and shorter luteal phase. I did drink Pre-Conception tea this cycle but I don't think that would do it. You may want to try acupuncture.


Congrats honeybunmom! When are you due? I'll be just turning 45 if this works....due date is my 45th birthday! You know it's crazy I would consider another baby too. I figure what the heck, I'm all ready old as dirt and nothing gonna fix that, might as well jump in all the way LOL! But like you, I give nursing the priority so I'd have to be, gasp, 48!


Hi Carolynn, I just want to suggest that you may not need all that high tech stuff. It's very harsh on your body. Your FSH is low, you shouldn't need it. IMO It happens when the time is right. I used astrologers and they pinpointed both of my conceptions (one in Jan. and this one in Sept.) Her first response to my inquiry:

"The other big transit I see coming up is progressed Moon conjunct your descendant in Sept. 2014, very common for getting pregnant. Neptune, a tenant of your 5th, is trine to your asc in June 2015, so 9 months later.

Also I got preg twice this year with husbands low sperm count (Below 20 million), my FSH is 7. What he did do to fix his sperm is eat super healthy, tons of fruits and veggies, and I gave him Count Boost and FertilAid but the funny thing is we got pregnant twice before he had the 72 days of taking the pills to improve his count. Best of luck to you!
09-29-2014 11:22 AM
honeybunmom
Quote:
Originally Posted by CarolynnMarilynn View Post
Good morning! Hi! I'm Carolynn - I've previously posted here. I'm 42, and have an amazing partner who is 39. He's the love of my life and my best friend, and we are super excited to begin the possibility of adding a baby to our crazy household of a blended family of 5 kids, 4 cats, and 3 dogs.

I am currently involved in two careers, one is in comic book publishing (our first book comes out in December - it's a Frozen movie comic), and the other is a midwife in Ontario (in my 12th year - just beginning to drop my caseload to part-time as I transition to publishing).

And we have started IVF in earnest! Yay! I have DOR, and my partner's sperm count is low to lowish.

This cycle started off well. On day 2 my estrogen was nice and low at 226, my FSH was 8.9 and my LH was 6. I had 6 follicles. Not the most, but not too very bad.

Yesterday was a day 7 appt and it went well. So we have started IVF in earnest! Yay!

I've been doing Femara, Repronex injections, and now Cetrotide. We are planning for an ICSI IVF, on a min-stim antagonist protocol, apparently.

This cycle started off well. On day 2 my estrogen was nice and low at 226, my FSH was 8.9 and my LH was 6. I had 6 follicles. Not the most, but not too very bad.

Yesterday was day 7. I have a total of 9 follicles (R: 17, 09, 20, 08, and L: 14, 11, 08, 09, 04. They have me Cetrotide (I think that's the name) and upped my dose of the Reponex to 225mg. My estrogen was still low at 486, by LH was 3, and my progesterone was 4.8. I think they are hoping to get a few more to grow, and to mature the larger ones. Any feedback? I'm going back Monday and told the retrieval could be mid-week (or was that the trigger? I forget). Decided to likely do the Embryoscope.

In Feb with my IUI I was triggered on only day 9 with 4 nice large follicles, and had the IUI on day 11, so I am thinking that I will be triggered soon with an ER mid-week. I am a midwife and my colleagues are being very supportive of needing to be away for appointments.

I would consider egg donation if we have several unsuccessful rounds, so I find it comforting to have a plan B. With a few cycles of my own and a back up egg donor plan, I am told my chances of a baby coming to our house is about 85%. I am really hoping that it will work with my own eggs.

My partner is being really supportive, including not minding that I have bought a few things. Fluffymail is too lovely. I am practical: if this doesn't work out, I certainly am hooked into the community and can find a mama who would love baby things.

Looking forward to hanging out here.

CM
Good luck CarolynnMarilynn!!
09-29-2014 11:21 AM
honeybunmom
Quote:
Originally Posted by nexxus View Post
Congratulations Rain on your baby!

Gumblossum I think this will cheer you up about your age:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_over_age_50

I am pregnant again at age 44. If it works I'll be 45 when baby is born. Well I'll just wait and see. I think that since I stopped nursing in June, upped my chances. We skipped trying for two cycles, so this was our second try since I stopped nursing. Also I noticed acupuncture changed my cycle to an earlier ovulation and and a longer luteal phase.

Oh also, scientists were wrong! They just found out females eggs are in fact the product of stem cells, which means we can create new eggs until menopause.
Congratulations, nexxus! I will turn 45 a month after this baby is born. And thank you for that information about nursing while pregnant. I had 2 miscarriages after age 38 while doing that. I had one successful pregnancy while nursing after age 38 as well. While I don't currently plan to have any more, DF and I are both open to one more. With this info, though, I can't see that happening as I will likely nurse the baby for over 2 years as I did my other 2.
09-28-2014 04:59 AM
CarolynnMarilynn Good morning! Hi! I'm Carolynn - I've previously posted here. I'm 42, and have an amazing partner who is 39. He's the love of my life and my best friend, and we are super excited to begin the possibility of adding a baby to our crazy household of a blended family of 5 kids, 4 cats, and 3 dogs.

I am currently involved in two careers, one is in comic book publishing (our first book comes out in December - it's a Frozen movie comic), and the other is a midwife in Ontario (in my 12th year - just beginning to drop my caseload to part-time as I transition to publishing).

And we have started IVF in earnest! Yay! I have DOR, and my partner's sperm count is low to lowish.

This cycle started off well. On day 2 my estrogen was nice and low at 226, my FSH was 8.9 and my LH was 6. I had 6 follicles. Not the most, but not too very bad.

Yesterday was a day 7 appt and it went well. So we have started IVF in earnest! Yay!

I've been doing Femara, Repronex injections, and now Cetrotide. We are planning for an ICSI IVF, on a min-stim antagonist protocol, apparently.

This cycle started off well. On day 2 my estrogen was nice and low at 226, my FSH was 8.9 and my LH was 6. I had 6 follicles. Not the most, but not too very bad.

Yesterday was day 7. I have a total of 9 follicles (R: 17, 09, 20, 08, and L: 14, 11, 08, 09, 04. They have me Cetrotide (I think that's the name) and upped my dose of the Reponex to 225mg. My estrogen was still low at 486, by LH was 3, and my progesterone was 4.8. I think they are hoping to get a few more to grow, and to mature the larger ones. Any feedback? I'm going back Monday and told the retrieval could be mid-week (or was that the trigger? I forget). Decided to likely do the Embryoscope.

In Feb with my IUI I was triggered on only day 9 with 4 nice large follicles, and had the IUI on day 11, so I am thinking that I will be triggered soon with an ER mid-week. I am a midwife and my colleagues are being very supportive of needing to be away for appointments.

I would consider egg donation if we have several unsuccessful rounds, so I find it comforting to have a plan B. With a few cycles of my own and a back up egg donor plan, I am told my chances of a baby coming to our house is about 85%. I am really hoping that it will work with my own eggs.

My partner is being really supportive, including not minding that I have bought a few things. Fluffymail is too lovely. I am practical: if this doesn't work out, I certainly am hooked into the community and can find a mama who would love baby things.

Looking forward to hanging out here.

CM
09-27-2014 06:51 AM
MamadeRumi HI ladies, I haven't been around much as I'm trying to come to terms with the idea that DS will be my one and only. If older mothers nursing = no pregnancy, then that could explain my problems. DS self weaned several months ago, just after his 4th birthday. Still, I don't regret nursing him for so long. If I'd weaned him I might still not have gotten pregnant, and at least I got to fully enjoy this part of our mother-child relationship. To be honest, I still sort of miss being a nursing mother. It was such a special bond, and also such an easy fix to all ills. And, several months after stopping, and after using progesterone cream, my cycles are still crazy irregular, often anovulatory, and I've got lots of signs of estrogen dominance and/or perimenopause. So, like I said, I am coming to terms with the fact that DS may be my only child. He's so wonderful, though, and just a joy to have, so I tell DH that if we only had one child, at least we did this one right.

Congrats to Rain, Honeybunmom and Nexxus.

Best wishes to all, either in TTC or in moving on.
09-26-2014 09:11 PM
nexxus
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Congratulations Nexxus! Hoping for a sticky little bean for you!

Unfortunate news for me about the older moms breastfeeding while TTC. My little one shows no signs of wanting to give it up. I have noticed a decrease in milk supply recently so I don't know how much longer my body will be producing milk..................

Just had a 25 day cycle - good grief!
Thank you! I know how you feel, they want to keep nursing so badly. It killed me to stop! But he was almost 4 so I could feel good about how far I went. Well the truth is we probably have until age 48 to have babies anyway, so you've got time.
09-26-2014 01:38 PM
orangemomma Congratulations Nexxus! Hoping for a sticky little bean for you!

Unfortunate news for me about the older moms breastfeeding while TTC. My little one shows no signs of wanting to give it up. I have noticed a decrease in milk supply recently so I don't know how much longer my body will be producing milk..................

Just had a 25 day cycle - good grief!
09-25-2014 02:18 PM
nexxus Thank you! so far so good, I have a triphasic chart and two implantation dips.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/i...p?d=2014-08-27

I want to warn older moms ttc not to be nursing when ttc. It caused me huge problems due to low progesterone. I was depressed, hot flashes, freaking out, couldn't sleep, even suicidal...it was like I had postpartum depression when pregnant. Oh and I should have suspected it because it was causing me to have some anovulatory cycles (30%). Here's some info I found:

low progesterone:
* Weight gain especially over the belly area
* irregular periods
* Abnormally heavy flow during periods
* Low sexual drive
* Infertility
* Pain in breasts
* Mood swings
* General body pain
* Hot flashes
* Varying degrees of fatigue
* Irritability
* Cravings of a wide variety
* Depression
* Mental stress
* Onset of insomnia
* Lowered immune system
* Hampered intestinal health
* Uterine and breast cancer as a long term effect
* Several heart diseases
* Osteoporosis
* Increase in cholesterol levels
* The formation of fibroids
* Frequent bloating and occurrence of gas
* Indigestion
* Migraines and headaches
* Snoring
* Miscarriage in the early stages of pregnancy
* No ovulation
* Formation of ovarian cysts
* Lowered body temperature
* Cramping during menstruation
* Excess water retention
* Puffiness in cheeks
* Formation of acne and tremendously oily skin
* Feelings of anxiety
* Lack of concentration
* Memory loss
* Problems in urination
* Night sweating
* Thoughts of suicide and exhibiting suicidal tendencies
* Vaginal dryness
* Joint pain
* Onset of urinary tract infection
* Changes in appetite
* Inability to lose weight

If you are TTC while Breastfeeding, PLEASE READ THIS!
Hey there, Ladies. I have been MIA for quite a while. Baby #6 is almost 7 weeks old. I just wanted to share something about TTC while breastfeeding.

I have had 5 miscarriages and a 24-week stillborn. 3 of the miscarriages were while I was breastfeeding. Nurslings were at least 10 months old every single time. I got an email a couple of months back while pregnant. wish I had saved it but I didn't. Anyhoo, I had always been told/read that breastfeeding while pregnant was fine. Not by doctors, but by books and lactation consultants. Well, the latest information I have read is that the hormones while nursing DOES interfere with a pregnancy by lowering hormone levels-- estrogen and progesterone, therefore, making the chance of miscarriage rise. (We know this is fact, just because of not having a period for months after having a baby, while we are breastfeeding). Further, the e-mail said that younger women may could nurse a baby through an entire pregnancy with no problems but that older women would be much more likely to miscarry. The email did not define "younger" and "older" but I, myself, am guessing younger means less than 28 and anything greater than that would be considered "older". There have not been extensive studies on this that I know of. Feel free to define "younger" and "older" however you like. I'm kind of going by some of my nursing classwork and my college bio professor. Once we get to about 30, and especially 35 years old, our bodies do not produce progesterone as well as they did before, hence the miscarriage rates go up as we age already.

I wish I could find the email and almost think it was from baby center but just don't have time to research right now. I know I was subscribed to it though and I don't subscribe to crappy things, lol.

I just wanted to put this out there in hopes that it could keep someone from having to suffer a loss, because I know how hard it can be. I wish I had the info myself 17 years ago when I suffered my first loss.

I think it is GREAT that you shared this! After #5 we started TTC and 15 months and 4 losses later I was referred to a RE. As soon as she found out I was nursing, she said that there is your problem. She said if we wanted she would do testing, but that she wanted me to wean first, wait 2 months, then start trying. She said if nothing happened or another loss she would for sure do the testing. She also said to wean whenever we wanted..not to rush, but that if we did not use protection we would keep having losses.

We were ready to wean at that point anyways, so we went ahead with it. 6 weeks later we found out we were expecting. When I went in for my early u/s (I am high risk for ectopic) she said that I was just one of those Mama's whos body puts the hold on any new babies while nursing. I said but all of my friends become pregnant while nursing and are fine...she said that is rare...especially after 30 and that my body was working as it should...protecting the baby it was feeding, by saying no to a new one....

I was shocked to say the least! She put me on progesterone this pregnancy as well, because it was lower that she would have liked, but so far all is going well!
09-25-2014 01:33 PM
tenzinsmama Nexxus, that's wonderful! I hope everything goes fantastically smoothly for you!
09-23-2014 01:28 PM
nexxus Congratulations Rain on your baby!

Gumblossum I think this will cheer you up about your age:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_over_age_50

I am pregnant again at age 44. If it works I'll be 45 when baby is born. Well I'll just wait and see. I think that since I stopped nursing in June, upped my chances. We skipped trying for two cycles, so this was our second try since I stopped nursing. Also I noticed acupuncture changed my cycle to an earlier ovulation and and a longer luteal phase.

Oh also, scientists were wrong! They just found out females eggs are in fact the product of stem cells, which means we can create new eggs until menopause.
09-06-2014 05:18 PM
gumblossom Hi everyone. Just dropped in to see how you all are.
Congratulations Caritas. Enjoy your lovely newborn. I am very happy for you (and envious for myself)

It's nice to see some of the "old" crew here.

I haven't been around as I am trying to get used to the idea that a pregnancy for me is highly unlikely. My "baby" has just turned 6. I am really sad I wasn't able to give him a sibling close in age, but it wasn't for want of trying!

I am still ovulating, my cycles have shortened a bit, and having timed sex, but I am realistic about my chances at 47 (48 in Nov).

I would really love a baby, but knowing how hard it is to make to 12 weeks fills me with dread. However, I'll take a bfp in a heartbeat, then take one day at a time.

I have just ovulated, only BD'ed once in a couple of days before, but you never know....
08-26-2014 10:48 PM
saoirse2007
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Omg! How freaking grueling! Apparently it's normal for a grand multip to have an on again- off again labor that lasts several days? Man, I thought the last one would be easy! No such luck. Found out Monday I had a low lying placenta, which caused another freak out.
But in the end I finally had my fifth and final UC baby this morning at 2:05. 41 weeks exactly. No name yet.
Congrats!!!

Looks like old home week here ladies miss the old crowd!
08-22-2014 09:42 AM
tenzinsmama Hi Litmama! Thanks for your good wishes.
08-20-2014 07:28 PM
honeybunmom
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Originally Posted by caritasrainbow View Post
Omg! How freaking grueling! Apparently it's normal for a grand multip to have an on again- off again labor that lasts several days? Man, I thought the last one would be easy! No such luck. Found out Monday I had a low lying placenta, which caused another freak out.
But in the end I finally had my fifth and final UC baby this morning at 2:05. 41 weeks exactly. No name yet.
Big congrats to you and welcome to your little one!!
08-20-2014 05:34 PM
LitMama Congratulations, Rain! I'm sorry you had a tough labor but so happy your baby is here now. It would be great to see a picture when you're feeling up to it. You had a little girl, right? I'm trying to remember.

Congrats on your good news, Honeybun! That must feel like a relief.

Hi Tenzinsmama! I remember you from the old days. Glad to hear your cycle is back. I understand that desire for just one more. I'm trying to step back and move on, but the longing is still there. I also took a few years in my late 30s to focus on my education, so I understand that tinge of regret, too. Sending you good wishes.
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