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08-08-2014 04:04 PM
3surfboys I think on another thread we were talking about some of us who have had strings of boys or girls. I had three boys in a row. Well my second cousin (who is about 15 years younger) is having her sixth child - and she is due the day after me, on Christmas Day. She has 5 boys and today annouced the gender of her next baby - another boy! I think its pretty cool, but her facebook posts leading up to today would suggest that she was really hoping for a girl. They did show celebration pics on facebook with blue balloons and happy faces all around.
08-08-2014 01:59 PM
Chapsie I am so tired. I worked last night, and our busy streak is continuing. We have had 87 babies in the first 7 days of August (so, still keeping up with the 12-13 births per day). I didn't get a chance to eat dinner until 11:30 pm (I ate right before driving home because I was starting to get lightheaded). It was impossible to eat before that-- I barely had time to wash my hands between births, let alone get a drink or eat dinner. And then, today, I took my kids on a field trip to a nature preserve for several hours and the heat and the hiking really got to me. Hoping to go to bed early tonight, but my son's birthday party is tomorrow and we have food prep to complete tonight.

Oh... being a mom and being a nurse. I love them both, but they are both so hard on the body!

I KNOW I need time to rest and do nothing. My body and pregnancy deserve some ME-time! Thankful for a weekend off of work and a husband who will be home to help me out the next couple of days.
08-08-2014 10:16 AM
Bracha04 @NaturallyMo Yay! It feels so good to actually sleep, especially when you are pregnant!

@NewBrooklynMama I know what you mean about feeling like a loner when it comes to rejecting certain treatments! It seems that there is a strong pull in American culture to conform to societal norms, which does not always lead to the best medical treatment. I am glad modern medicine exists and that it can be used selectively when appropriate, but I feel that it is often overused and it can cause harm, especial in pregnancy and during labor when many interventions disrupt the biological process instead of supporting and protecting it.

I think it is important that a mother feels comfortable with the choices she is making and that she is the one who is actually making the choices, which can only happen with a care provider who explains things clearly and thoroughly (informed consent) and who empowers the client to be responsible for her own decision making process. I think it makes a tremendous difference to have respectful individuals as care providers who practice thoughtful, evidence based and humanized care during the pregnancy and birth process!

I hope you hear only good news and you continue to enjoy your pregnancy!
08-08-2014 05:58 AM
NaturallyMo Talk about a great night of sleep! I finally got DS to sleep through the night last night with no wheezing or coughing issues. I was even able to get him to stay in his bed all night by sleeping in his room on an air mattress. Y'all, that was probably the best night of sleep I've had in DAYS! I'm sure DH was happy to have an entire bed to himself when he got in last night too. Either way, I'm well-rested today and ready to get through work and get out here a little early today.

As for my weekend plans, I'm hosting a "sprinkle" for my girlfriend on Saturday and I'm supposed to be doing a hospital tour on Sunday but I'll reschedule that so I can lounge around.
08-08-2014 04:34 AM
NewBrooklynMama Crunchymama, you voice a lot of my internal conflicts–"modern" science telling me more than I need to know and potentially making a not great situation worse. I'm truly torn, though, and to be honest neither choice makes me happy. To not get the US might only make me more worried (I think, but who knows), and since additional stress is the last thing I need right now probably it's better for me to know than not to know. And all the issues you mention w/r/t to US are true, so that's the ugly flip side. I'm the loner among my family when it comes to rejecting a lot of medical advances/treatments, so it would take no small amount of courage and stubbornness to say no to further USs. And though it may sound perverse I need to take my SO's needs into consideration as well... Anyway, I agree with what you say and appreciate your response. I'm hanging on to the fact/hope that there are only 3 more USs in my future, and that all is actually fine and will continue to go well!
08-08-2014 02:53 AM
crunchymama27
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This is a sunny set of updates! I appreciate the spirit, even when things are occasionally tough, as for badwolf. (And badwolf, I hope your luck takes a turn for the better soon!) I had a somewhat worrisome US this morning. I'm 20 weeks, and everything looks good, and the baby is healthy. The only catch is that my placenta seems to have attached directly over a fibroid. The fibroid is not very big I think (I should have paid closer attention to the measurements). The doctor didn't seem overly concerned, just said he would recommend that I come in for an ultrasound once a month until delivery. I still have to talk to my regular OB/GYN about this, hopefully next week.

Anyway, the US is expensive (it's not covered by my insurance) and stressful. I'd been hoping this would be the last, so that's a bummer. Otherwise, though, was nice to hear mostly good news, and to see the little face start to come into focus.

And I feel more productive than I have in a long time! Also more upbeat. I am definitely liking the second trimester.
Glad you are liking this trimester. It's my favorite! Sorry to hear about your worrisome scan and the emotional obstacles that go with it.

Fibroids are tumors. Science knows that ultrasound waves increase cell division/growth rates, but doesn't understand the mechanism- just that it makes cells divide and multiply faster. So do you want to treat your fibroid that is under your placenta with ultrasound waves, in the course of examining it monthly? If there is a treatment for what they are looking for, would you choose the course of action recommended? No need to spend time and money and increase risk if you know you wouldn't do the treatments, or that there is no treatment!

The emotional risks of scanning and the fact that in almost all cases I wouldn't do anything to treat whatever it was they found wrong- I wouldn't get an abortion, I'm not doing fetal surgery, and I wouldn't get a baby under 33 weeks cut out of my belly in hopes that it would survive better in the NICU- so I feel I'm better off not knowing till I need to know. But you may have a different perspective or set of values- perhaps some of the scans are useless to you, but others you'd feel were needed, essential. Maybe you need more information from another scan, like what type of fibroid it is, to understand what the risks are. I hope your regular OB has the answers you need to make decisions -you- feel good about, that he/she is supportive of your right and duty to ultimately make those decisions, and that you have the courage to stand up and make them.

(Even if your decision is to tell me I'm staying up too late and to piss off! Take what you like, leave the rest.)
08-07-2014 12:39 PM
LilyTiger I'm super lucky as a professor that we get a semester off at my university. That plus summer vacation means I'll have eight months off with this peanut. I got 12 weeks with my daughter, which was just about perfect. I can work from home some of the time and so only have to be on campus 3-4 days a week once leave is over. My husband is doing the SAHD thing for the forseeable future. We ran the numbers on his salary vs. two kids in daycare and it just didn't make any sense.
08-07-2014 10:05 AM
Chapsie I have only ever gotten 6-8 weeks off after all my kids. I only work part time, so I tell myself it is ok, but it's really not. 6 weeks is WAAAAYYY too early to leave my babies!! If I take more than the 6 weeks of disability, it will be totally unpaid and the first 6 weeks is only disability (no maternity leave to speak of). My husband can only take a few days to a week off as well. ::sigh::

I am planning to request extra time off this time. This will be our last and I want to milk it as long as I can! I am hoping to be home for 10 weeks with this little peanut. (Just have to start saving the $$ as I bring home half of our income).
08-07-2014 10:02 AM
Chapsie @goster , love the makeover pics, you are stunning!
08-07-2014 09:41 AM
3surfboys I also love the hair, goster! I have a similar hair style to your before pic and it's about time I did something with my hair. Its just so easy to put it in a ponytail and forget about it!
I've been thinking about my maternity leave and its a bit depressing. With my daughter I was able to stay home for almost 4 months, because my month off in July didn't count towards FMLA and I took an additional 12 weeks off from work. This time, I'm way low on sick leave and even if I take only 8 weeks, some of that will be without pay. So it looks like I need to return to work the first of March. My baby will be close by and I can visit at lunch (she'll be with my parents). Any other WOHMs making plans yet?
08-07-2014 07:56 AM
Galatea Love the hairdo, @goster ! Very pretty.
08-07-2014 07:06 AM
goster This has been a fun week for me. Last week I found out that I won a "new mommy makeover" from a new salon in my town. On monday I went in and got to get pampered with no kids for 4.5 hours!! It was a nice break. It is for a contest between their stylists. Here is the before and after. I am the blonde. https://www.facebook.com/ArtBoxxSalo...type=1&theater

On Tuesday I found out that I am going to be the newest member of the board of directors for Girls on the Run in my county which is also great news. I have been heavy on the job hunt for the past couple of weeks which is stressful, but takes away some of the stress of hating my current job. Today I have to drive an hour and a half by myself for a team meeting and I don't want to go. I will have to make sure to load up some good music so I at least enjoy my time by myself.

As for the baby things are going great. I saw my D.O. last week and I have some major sacrum displacement, and a significant upshear in my left hip that are quite painful, but getting better with a heating pad and ice. I even managed to run for about 5 minutes last sunday which is an improvement. Baby is getting big and strong, and DH even gets to feel him sometimes. Still lacking motivation but it will come in time I am sure. Also woah is my pregnant brain a mess. I forget EVERYTHING!!
@NaturallyMo I used this one for my first two pregnancies and it works very well. It is ugly and annoying but helps. I lent it to a friend who was pregnant with (very large) twins and she said it was the only way she could make it through the grocery store. [URL="https://www.google.com/shopping/product/4110398220460105853?q=maternity+support+belt&es_sm =93&bav=on.2,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.72676100,d.aWw,p v.xjs.s.en_US.QBCpDp2S7-8.O&biw=1366&bih=677&tch=1&ech=1&psi=0objU92bKsqNy AS98IH4Bg.1407420114900.3&ei=2objU9WqIYb-yQS88YKgDw&ved=0CMwCEKYrMA0"]

Good luck everyone, we are getting over the hump!!
08-06-2014 03:59 PM
NewBrooklynMama This is a sunny set of updates! I appreciate the spirit, even when things are occasionally tough, as for badwolf. (And badwolf, I hope your luck takes a turn for the better soon!) I had a somewhat worrisome US this morning. I'm 20 weeks, and everything looks good, and the baby is healthy. The only catch is that my placenta seems to have attached directly over a fibroid. The fibroid is not very big I think (I should have paid closer attention to the measurements). The doctor didn't seem overly concerned, just said he would recommend that I come in for an ultrasound once a month until delivery. I still have to talk to my regular OB/GYN about this, hopefully next week.

Anyway, the US is expensive (it's not covered by my insurance) and stressful. I'd been hoping this would be the last, so that's a bummer. Otherwise, though, was nice to hear mostly good news, and to see the little face start to come into focus.

And I feel more productive than I have in a long time! Also more upbeat. I am definitely liking the second trimester.
08-06-2014 01:11 PM
badwolf092087 Had my follow up appointment. All is well with Maddy. She's measuring almost 3 weeks ahead of schedule. And I had my first weigh in since my foot injury. 35lb weight gain... I know I've been on bed rest, but the max they wanted me to gain this pregnancy was 40lbs. Blah. Not much I can do at this point until I have clearance to start the prenatal yoga classes again. Also found out I have a minor hernia behind my belly button, so it might not pop. That explains the pain there! Other than that, everything else is great and she's getting so big! I go back on the 19th for the GD test and I get an in-depth measurement scan with the lady I like opposed to the idiots at the hospital. And if my placenta has moved (fingers crossed), I don't have to go back to the hospital obstetrics department next month. Lots of praying going on over here!
08-06-2014 05:45 AM
3surfboys nursing bras and tanks - bravado (there was a sale recently on baby steals, but it might have expired)
support belt - baby belly band
Amazon Amazon
- is the one that I had for my last pregnancy. I wish I had not given it away! I will definitely need to order another one.
08-06-2014 05:31 AM
NaturallyMo @Chapsie How about that? We're synced up again

I had my follow-up anatomy scan and the tech confirmed that this definitely a boy Despite my initial feelings, I'm excited and happy. I guess because now I can call him by his name (which we are keeping a secret). Thank you guys for letting me know I wasn't totally weird for not being excited at first. I was feeling horrible about that but I guess its normal. Now we can move forward with getting ready for our little boy in a few months. My mom is so ready to tackle designing the nursery so I am turning that project over to her completely. She loves a good decorating project and this should keep her busy for a few months while I sit back and watch

Other than that, I feel good today. I'm eating a hearty breakfast of veggie scrambled eggs, grits and a piece of smoked sausage while i'm typing this. My libido is through the roof right now (my poor husband ) and I'm in a generally good mood.

Quick question: can anyone recommend a good maternity support belt? My belly is feeling heavy and I some extra support.
08-06-2014 04:50 AM
Galatea
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Nursing bras are stressing me out right now. For some reason I can't remember what I used last time. I got mastitis with my 2nd, so I know that I was super careful about clogged ducts with my 3rd. I just can't remember my solution. I like the idea of a nursing tank, @Galatea . I'm not sure that they make them in my size though.

I'm also feeling the urge to clean things out. Organise, and get rid of clutter. I've done a little, but mostly I've just fantasized.
I wear a 34I now (ugh) and the Dynabelly L/XL fit well. In clothes, I can wear a M or L maternity size. I think Glamourmom goes big enough for me, but it is meant to be an actual tank top, and the Dynabelly is more like an undershirt.
08-06-2014 01:23 AM
maranapanda Nursing bras are stressing me out right now. For some reason I can't remember what I used last time. I got mastitis with my 2nd, so I know that I was super careful about clogged ducts with my 3rd. I just can't remember my solution. I like the idea of a nursing tank, @Galatea . I'm not sure that they make them in my size though.

I'm also feeling the urge to clean things out. Organise, and get rid of clutter. I've done a little, but mostly I've just fantasized.
08-05-2014 07:12 PM
Galatea I have had the throwing away urge. A few weeks ago I threw away tons of old broken and mismatched toys. Tonight I cleaned out the fridge and put tons of ancient condiments in the trash. I warned dh that he would have to split it into two bags, but he must not have done that because he started screaming swears from the kitchen and then told me with bitten tongue I did it wrong. Well, but the fridge is clean, and I didn't hear anything break, so I'm just staying away from him until he calms down.

I went to A Mother's Boutique today intending to get another bigger bra but instead got these great nursing and maternity camisoles that actually fit my huge boobs without wire and made my belly feel supported. Super excited to ditch bras altogether once it cools down a bit, and to have a good nursing tank with belly coverage for after the baby is born.

A plum before bed is bad. Heartburn.
08-05-2014 06:40 PM
girlspn bracha04, zjande, maranapanda, randic116-- I'm glad to know there's nothing weird with a floor bed! lol. My dd has fallen out of bed a few times, so it just makes sense to me to not bother with a bed frame.

lilytiger-- I felt like that in my last pregnancy and got rid of clothing and stuff I didn't use much. It IS liberating!
08-05-2014 06:19 PM
randic116 Hi all! I've been a bit absent due to the fact that my Kindle quit working right and I haven't had time to call Amazon and spend hours on the phone with them. :P

We have our bed on the floor too! Mostly because our old farmhouse wouldn't let us get the boxspring up the stairs so we had to chuck it. But it's really nice, especially since DD(2yo) still comes into our room every night. If daddy isn't home she sleeps with me, if he is, she'll bring her pillow and blanket and sleep on the floor. I don't mind it a bit. It will be somewhat of an adjustment for her when baby comes, but she's gotten a bit spoiled due to the fact that she was supposed to be our last. But God's plans are not our plans, thats for sure!

I hope ya'll are having a good week! Lots going on here! Canning green beans and pickles tomorrow, and having a garage sale on Friday! Purging my house feels wonderful!
08-05-2014 01:26 PM
maranapanda Our bed is in the floor too! It's been probably 8 years now. At first my husband was against the idea, now I don't think he'll ever want a bed frame again. He likes to run and jump on it.

My burn is better today, so that's something to be grateful for. It's still pretty awful, but a better kind of awful!

@zjande FTM is first time mom. My mom is gay, and works a lot in the community, I'm surprised that I didn't think of female to male sooner!
08-05-2014 12:25 PM
LilyTiger Hey everyone, I want to apologize that I haven't had much time to respond personally to people's posts. My posts have been "all about me", since I've had trouble keeping up with everything. I hope that changes in the near future, but I'm not sure how much it will. We officially moved into our new house and are in a flurry of unpacking and deciding what we should get rid of (LOTS). I don't know if it's nesting or what, but I'm really drawn to minimalism right now and I just want to throw everything away. I just reduced my closet by half, which was super liberating. Now I'm tackling the linens.

I also can't believe it's actually already August. I have so much to do to prepare for the upcoming semester and I have three speaking engagements in late August/early September and three articles I was going to try to get out for review before the semester started. All my books are packed away and stuck in the back of the storage unit, so I'm really stressed about getting access ASAP and getting organized. It'll be a whirlwind month for sure and I wouldn't even remember I'm pregnant most days if it weren't for the incredible pelvic pain unpacking has brought on.

Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well and surviving whatever weird weather August is throwing at you (here it's been raining all week. So weird.). Hope to catch up and read some posts soon.
08-05-2014 09:06 AM
zjande Galatea, that's so interesting/depressing about your clothing store experience! I'd never thought about that aspect of it. For the longest time I've thought having a baby/maternity store would be so fun! But ug...dealing with the general public is not always so fun.

I keep seeing "FTM". What is that?? Coming from San Fran the only thing I associate that with are "female to male" transgenders.

Chapsie my eldest had her birthday this week as well. She turned 23. and since I was only 17 and it was during dinosaur times without internet, I was completely naiave and my birth experience was also totally tramautizing. But all worth it. ❤️

Maranapanda, I burn so so quickly. I always joke about being the wimpiest skinned human on earth when it comes to sunburn. I'm sorry you got fried crispy! Ouch!

Grlspn, my husband and I just keep our mattress on the floor ,too. Otherwise babies and toddlers could be falling off left and right! That's weird your family doesn't understand that. It's basic child safety.

Mo, whenever we have found out gender beforehand, I tell nobody at all but my husband. Everyone else will find out soon enough! ❤️

Still enjoying our school break here. Just planning on catching up on tons of housework today before jumping in to the next batch of canning. Happy Tuesday everybody.
08-05-2014 06:50 AM
badwolf092087
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badwolf-- Oh my gosh, are you ok? You have had such a rough go of things lately!
I'm fine, but my OB wants to go back to our plan of the frequent visits because I've had a stroke of bad luck this summer. It happens. I spent pretty much my entire life beating up my body in soccer and hockey, and now is when I get injured. Who would've thought?
08-05-2014 06:46 AM
badwolf092087
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@badwolf092087 I would buy the outfit that far ahead! I hope you don't have any more injuries. I wish you the best of health for the rest of your pregnancy and beyond!
I think I am definitely going to buy the outfit. If I change my mind about her wearing it, there's always tag sales and re-gifting opportunities. I know she's going to be beyond average length, so a majority of her clothing is 3 months and up. It's just a debate of the size at this point.

Thank you for your well wishes. All I wanted to do was go and grab the package with my moses basket bedding in it, but nope. Had to fall. The massive amount of rain we've had has caused the foundation of our sidewalk to get messed up. There's still too much moisture for my husband to fix it. And it turns out the moses bedding was for the wrong basket type. Opps~!
08-05-2014 06:32 AM
Chapsie badwolf-- Oh my gosh, are you ok? You have had such a rough go of things lately!


Bracha, "I finally realized that his birth ultimately empowered me to become responsible for my choices and the experience provided me with the springboard for growth! " You are full of amazing quotes this morning! YES, this!! I would not have prepared so thoroughly or enjoyed and appreciated my VBACs as much if I hadn't experienced my son's birth, first. I plan to go back to school to be a CNM as well, and I know my personal experiences have shaped me tremendously and pushed me into this passion for birth and holistic living.

NaturallyMo-- happy birthday to your son! My son turns 6 today! (8/5/08 is his birthday). We were pregnant together at another time, too-- that makes me smile.
08-05-2014 05:37 AM
Galatea @maranapanda - We saw Guardians of the Galaxy. I never read the comics so I didn't know what to expect. It was fine, and kind of funny, but the plot was meh. I bet the second one will be better.
@Bracha04 - It was kind of fun to have a baby store, but it was also stressful, because pregnant FTMs are kind of crazy about stuff that doesn't really matter. Like, "I have all the colors of this diaper but orange and I'm due in 4 months and I need to have orange!" Ummm, well, we will probably get it back before 4 months is up, and anyway, I'm pretty sure your baby will still come out even without an orange diaper. And I got really tired of answering laundry questions and people being more concerned about their son's bloody penis ruining the diaper than why their son's penis should be bloody at all. Well, that's a depressing start to the morning.
08-05-2014 05:33 AM
NaturallyMo Hi everyone! I have had a dozy of a weekend. DS turned 6 yesterday and we had a huge party for him on Saturday, my in-laws came town to visit along with my 2 nephews. It was just a busy busy weekend that I'm still recovering from. I have a doctor's appointment today to finish up my anatomy scan and get a confirmation on the sex of the baby. I actually bought a gender neutral baby outfit this weekend. I've decided that outside of family, we are not telling anyone the sex of this baby. The people I work with are too nosy and run their mouths way too much. I can't even share the news on my own without someone running telling others. Why would you want to steal a piece of joy?

BTW, I'm 20 weeks now! Eeek!
08-05-2014 05:30 AM
Bracha04 @Chapsie My son has his birthday this week! His birth was also my most traumatic. It was followed by nightmares and stress that went untouched for a long time. I finally realized that his birth ultimately empowered me to become responsible for my choices and the experience provided me with the springboard for growth! I would also describe him as the sweetest boy ever and I'm amazed by him every day!

@Galatea That sounds really fun to own your own store!

@badwolf092087 I would buy the outfit that far ahead! I hope you don't have any more injuries. I wish you the best of health for the rest of your pregnancy and beyond!

@maranapanda Aloe plant regularly and slices of raw potato on the burns in-between application of the aloe could help. The potato soaks up the heat and promotes healing. I grew up in FL and the sun got the better of me too many times! I hope you feel better very soon!

@girlspn We've had our mattress on the floor for 7 years! We actually have a full and a queen together so that my other kids are welcome too. I love the arrangement! My doula came to walk through our home before our homebirth and she exclaimed, "WOW! This is what I will tell people now when they ask me how to have a family bed!"

The ancient traditions that promote rest and healing postpartum are very wise! I think a mother's helper is a great idea!
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