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Yesterday 06:14 PM
chuord Hope4light - well done you for sticking up for your kids... Not a fun situation, but bullies come in all sizes. My dh said something a while ago that stuck with me - people assume that ALL old people are nice (bear with me) he said they're not! He said if someone is an arse / mean when younger chances are they'll still be an arse / mean when old... Guess it's true for all ages and mothers too.
Hugs on the annoyance!
Yesterday 05:43 PM
hope4light hey ladies. I typically don't post on weekends, but had to post this because I'm still fuming mad about it. Totally OT, nothing to do with you beautiful ladies and your pregnancies

So today I met a good friend of mine about halfway b/t where we both live (so it was almost an hour for me). We met up and I gave her a bunch of hand me down clothes for her girls, we had lunch, and we decided to go to the local mall to let the kids blow off some steam at the indoor play place before we headed our separate ways.

When we got there, there was a number of kids there. Mostly pretty young, but a couple that were a bit older, and immediately I wondered if they were too big for the play area (it has a 42 inch cut off in height - if you're taller than that you're not allowed), I'm guessing they were maybe 8 - 10.

So these girls seemed to be running around a little crazy, so I was wary but wasn't too worried. So the kids start playing, and shortly after they started one of these bigger girls practically climbed over my 20 month old in the little space between the slide and the stairs to the slide.

Let me say this - I have no problem disciplining my BFF's daughter. Scolding her, telling her to stop, whatever necessary. But we've been BFF's for 22 years and I've known her daughter her whole life. It's different. Otherwise I am firmly of the belief that you don't discipline/scold whatever other people's kids.

But this girl didn't bat an eye, and neither did her mom. So I just gently said 'please be careful, he's very little' She looked at me and went on with her play. She and her friend were RUNNING like mad women at this point (and mind you, there's lots of little kids in there - I'd guess a few that were MAYBE 2 and a couple that were younger than that). So one comes running around the slide (that was like a big tree) and literally PUSHED my 20 month old out of her way. Before I even had a chance to process that the other girl (the one who climbed over him) ran him over as she ran past him, without blinking an eye.

Their mom? Sat there silently.

So I looked over at her and asked her to please request that her kids slow down (or something along those lines). Her response? To not get 'smart' with her.

I'm not typically an aggressive person. I try my best not to judge parenting styles - I'm not walking in their shoes. But this crossed a line to me.

I saw red.

I lit into her about her 'too big kids' running around rowdy and not watching for the little kids in the space. She made some other comment and I went on about how her kids pushed and ran over my 20 month old. I was pissed. I think there was some more exchange, but to be honest now that the adrenaline has worn off I don't remember everything. Either way, my friend and I decided to leave. So as we were putting the kids shoes on (she has 2 also) the women (who was sitting not far away from us) made a comment to my friend about 'you guys better not be leaving' and some snarky comment about me. My friend was just like yeah, whatever.

There was this older gentlemen standing right outside of the play space and he was talking to me about how rude other parents could be, and how big kids shouldn't be in there. He was there with his granddaughter, who had also gotten knocked down by one of these kids. She was 2.

Turns out this other mom's 3rd daughter was trying to pull on my friends 1 year old, and finally my friend picked her daughter up and the girl kept following them around and grabbing at the 1 year old.

As this other mom was leaving she had her 3 kids all stand by the stick that says 'you have to be shorter than this to play here' and 2 of them were taller than it.

UGH. Hours later I'm still fuming over it. I'm sorry, but when your OLDER children are coming into physical contact that way with my 20 month old, I'm apparently going to go all mama bear on you.

Sorry for my rant, had to get it out somewhere!!!
09-13-2014 09:43 PM
iixivboots Milk is right, your OB will refer you. It depends on your age and other risk factors for twins. It is also going to depend on whether your twins share a sac, share a placenta, etc. My OB had me have a consult with a perinatalogist but he said it was just once unless more complications arise. I have di/di fraternal twins though, and I've already carried a pregnancy to term so those things are in my favor, even though I'm 35.
My 18 week scan is Monday afternoon!
09-13-2014 04:52 PM
Milk8shake @chuord , I seem to remember that @tracyamber is at risk of uterine rupture, hence the need to deliver early.

@adiejan , the US system is very different from here in Oz, but I gather that your OB would refer you when needed. Here, you would only be seen by an MFM if you have a history that indicates it's necessary, or if your pregnancy is identified at high risk for a particular reason. While I don't think that most OBs classify twin pregnancies as high risk straight off the bat, I suspect that identical twins might see you fall into that category. However, they might not do so until you are out of the first trimester.
09-13-2014 04:29 PM
adiejan I have a random question. How do you know when to see and MFM or Perinatologist? Will my OB refer me if/when I need that? Thanks for your @chuord I am still learning. I feel like I have A LOT to learn!
09-13-2014 01:58 PM
chuord Tracy - are we allowed to ask about you going early? Mainly cos I care, lol but also I'm still learning!
09-13-2014 08:10 AM
Fertility Challenged Graduates Thread - Spring/Summer 2014

Not only are we bump buddies but
Likely to deliver around the same time as I have to go early too. I know I will be having this baby in January even though due date is February. I'm glad all is uneventful for you

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09-12-2014 10:08 PM
Milk8shake @monkeyscience - texting doctor is awesome

@alivewithyou hope you are feeling better in time for your weekend away!

@Xerxella , you're doing a great job hanging in there 24 weeks is inching closer.

@chuord yay for a good scan

AFM: No news is in fact, no news. I'm channeling @Xerxella and just concentrating on baby staying put. My next scan is 25/09 and it's the "official" anatomy scan - I'll be 19+5. My next milestone is 20w, so it's getting closer. Two weeks tomorrow.

@monkeyscience I don't really know what to say for a blurb. My official due date is mid February but even if everything goes perfectly, it's likely to be January at the very latest. (By the way, we have quite a big February group!)
09-12-2014 05:05 AM
MindlessChrissy Babies!!!
09-11-2014 08:43 PM
chuord Attachment 5513
09-11-2014 08:42 PM
chuord Baby 1 is top left, baby 2 bottom right. Hard to see details they're not into sharing the limelight lol.
09-11-2014 08:26 PM
tracyamber @chuord
So glad everything is going great mama!

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09-11-2014 07:12 PM
alivewithyou Good to hear @Xerxella , just know we are still thinking of you.
@chuord : glad to hear your appointment went well! Can't wait to see pictures of your babies. Can't believe you are 8 weeks already, wow!
09-11-2014 07:04 PM
chuord Thanks for the update Xerxella, I think we've all been wondering... You are doing a great job!
Milk? How are you?
Alive with you - enjoy the relaxing r and r!
Adie - lol stalker!
Just home ish - all great baby 1 was on a strange angle so measured 2 days behind, heart 151, baby 2 was perfect at 8wks, heart 161. I could just see them wriggling, and the yolk sac looked great
As soon as I work out how I'll attach a pic!
09-11-2014 06:37 PM
Xerxella @alivewithyou and anyone - I'm fine. Still pregnant. I'm kinda cocooning and focused on making it to 24 weeks. But, I'm following along and cheering you all on!
09-11-2014 03:51 PM
alivewithyou @Xerxella : any news? Worried about you and your babies.

@Milk8shake : any news from you?

Good on my end.. Had check up on Tuesday and everything still looks good. I'm struggling with some anxiety and stomach issues but nothing I can't handle. Going out of town all weekend for camping and fishing so super excited and happy about that.
09-11-2014 03:07 PM
adiejan @chuord - When is your scan? With the time difference isn't it soon? Just stalking!
09-11-2014 02:44 AM
chuord Monkey science - I'll just wait till my scan tomorrow if that's ok, then send my blurb.
09-10-2014 08:30 PM
adiejan @monkeyscience -I PM'd you my blurb
09-10-2014 04:21 PM
Fertility Challenged Graduates Thread - Spring/Summer 2014

I wrote you on the challenge thread!

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09-10-2014 03:54 PM
monkeyscience And my doc just texted me - iron looks okay - she thinks it's 11.something, but will check later. Can I just say, I love her?? Never had a doc text me lab results before, especially without even asking! Now I must go make dinner for the people who are showing up at my house in 30 minutes!
09-10-2014 03:10 PM
monkeyscience Day has not gone as planned, so a quick AAM so as not to worry you ladies - hopefully I'll get roster updates and personals done tomorrow!
@adiejan , @Milk8shake - Can you give me an EDD (or at least a month you want me to put you in) for the roster? And a blurb if you want one (chuord, too). Also, anyone who knows boy/girl and wants it added to the roster, can you let me know?

AAM - appointment was fine, I am not crazy in thinking my belly is suddenly much huger - 3.5 cm gain in fundal height and 3 lb weight gain in the past two weeks, after plateauing on weight gain and uterus growing slightly less the previous 3 weeks. So that assuages my concerns from my last visit. Since my sinus infection is still lingering, I'll be starting on Augmentin tonight. Hopefully that means I'll actually be able to breathe through my nose at night soon. And not get random head/teeth/jaw aches. Also got blood drawn to check my hemoglobin and vitamin D. I think the doc thinks I'm a little nuts for the vitamin D thing, but she went along with it anyway. (Just trying to decide if I need to up my supplementation to make sure that I/the baby get enough, especially once winter hits.) I declined a cervical check, and didn't ask the doctor about the baby's position. I know she's still wiggling. Probably no more internal checks until 40 weeks. What will be, will be. Met with the back up doula yesterday, and meeting with our main doula tomorrow. Washed the newborn and 0-3 month stuff and put it in a drawer today. Set up the cosleeper, and am using it as a temporary holding place for burp cloths and swaddling blankets and other stuff that don't fit in the drawer.

Still always following, even if I'm not responding. Assuming that no news is at least not bad news from @Xerxella and @Milk8shake .
09-10-2014 05:09 AM
hope4light adie!!!! YEAH for identicle twins!!! that is amazing!!! I knew it

All these twins lately, this is awesome ladies!!!

Monkey - are you going to get checked? good luck, hoping you have some thinning and dialating moving... I know you're ready

AFM - I know someone asked how I was doing a few pages back Things are good. Last week we had our at home assesment with the local school district to get DD some extra help with her speech, and we have 'made' it to the next level, which is a play assesment at the school where a few people watch her and then compare their notes. After that we'll find out what kind of services they will give her. She turned 4 in July. She's hanging in big girl underwear all day, but still having lots of poop accidents (but turned out she had strep that her ped ignored until we saw a different ped in the office after 3 times of having her regular ped look at her butt - yeah, we're changing peds because the case was apparently really bad and she was starting to hold her poo b/c it hurt so bad to go ). DS is doing awesome. Potty training woes with DD may not pass to him, at 20 months he's already waking up dry in the morning and telling us when he's gone so we can change him. Still not starting anything until he's a bit older, but it gives me hope. He is also starting to talk up a storm, and it's so freaking adorable. Since we didn't get this type of talking at this stage with DD it's so new to us, and I love it. Otherwise life is insane, I'm in my 3rd week of going back for my MBA. Fun times!!
09-10-2014 02:30 AM
Milk8shake @adiejan Awesome news! How very exciting

@tracyamber Congrats on a little boy!
09-10-2014 02:24 AM
chuord I'm April 24, but am guessing it'll be when they're ready
09-09-2014 09:45 PM
tracyamber @adiejan and @chuord
What are your due dates??

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09-09-2014 08:06 PM
alivewithyou I couldn't see a placenta at 8 weeks.. not sure when it showed up but it was there are 14.5 weeks. Mine still had a yolk sac at 8 weeks.
09-09-2014 07:55 PM
chuord Monkey - look after you!
Boots - I had my first scan at the same gestational age as adie all the could see was gestational sack, yolk sack, foetal pole and heart flicker... Will be interesting to see the difference at 8 weeks...
09-09-2014 07:45 PM
iixivboots You would think I would know more about this, but I think this early they can only tell if they share a sac (which means identical?) they have to wait until the 12 week scan to see the placentas I think.
09-09-2014 05:49 PM
monkeyscience Just popping in to say congrats, Adiejan! Crazy that you'd end up with identical twins after putting in 3 different embryos. I'm guessing they must at least share a placenta or amnion if they're sure they're identical?

AFM, busy busy busy... toddler was sick over the weekend, doing some work for my dad to earn a little extra cash. 37 week appointment tomorrow, I'll try hard to catch up on personals and give a better update after that!
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