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09-24-2014 01:29 PM
jr37
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Originally Posted by Kels08 View Post
Any advice is welcome.
Just do the best you can and REALIZE that your kids will have an opportunity to take your examples of parenting and apply them, as is, to their own kids or change things as they see fit. Then their kids will have an opportunity to do the same when it's their turn, etc., etc. on into the future. It's called Evolution and has been going on since time began. My siblings did a vastly better job of parenting than our parents or their parents did and their kids seem to be even better parents than my siblings were so I've seen it happen right within my own generation.
good luck
09-19-2014 07:53 PM
Kels08 Son back home and doing much better. =)
09-15-2014 08:24 PM
Kels08
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Originally Posted by Polliwog View Post
I've thought that all along.
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Maybe it's just me.....
It isn't.
Awesome, then don't respond or prove otherwise. I didn't realize the updates caused such an issue.
09-15-2014 08:22 PM
Kels08
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Local ER is beginning to get to know us by face. Son was admitted into the hospital he had a seizure while taking a shower fell hit his head and almost drown if it isn't one thing it is another.
I mean absolutely no disrespect but, this is starting to seem a bit unbelievable. You join in August, find out your son is having sex, then she's pregnant, then he develops a seizure disorder from which he almost drowns a few different times, then the GF gets into a serious car accident, son almost drowns again, back in the hospital.

Something doesn't sound right. What you're describing with the medication doesn't sound right. I can't imagine any doctor leaving a patient comatose, nearly dying several times due to the dosage.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me but, I've been around far too long and have seen far too many of these threads getting people all stirred up to not think something is going on. Even the constant one line updates that seem to just be used to bump the post back to the top of the page so the story can continue.

Maybe it's just me.....
Comatose? Maybe for a few days. But starting the seizure meds can cause that. Every time you have commented it's been to say something like this. I am sorry you don't believe it but you also don't have to respond. Also he didn't drown a few times just the once so if you are going to try and accuse at least get what you are talking about correct. I didn't realize updates were a bad thing. Also nearly dying a few times? Again only once. If you don't like our believe me fine don't respond.
09-15-2014 07:55 PM
Polliwog I've thought that all along.
09-15-2014 06:38 PM
blessedwithboys
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Originally Posted by amcal View Post
Maybe it's just me.....
It isn't.
09-15-2014 06:13 PM
amcal
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Originally Posted by Kels08 View Post
Local ER is beginning to get to know us by face. Son was admitted into the hospital he had a seizure while taking a shower fell hit his head and almost drown if it isn't one thing it is another.
I mean absolutely no disrespect but, this is starting to seem a bit unbelievable. You join in August, find out your son is having sex, then she's pregnant, then he develops a seizure disorder from which he almost drowns a few different times, then the GF gets into a serious car accident, son almost drowns again, back in the hospital.

Something doesn't sound right. What you're describing with the medication doesn't sound right. I can't imagine any doctor leaving a patient comatose, nearly dying several times due to the dosage.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me but, I've been around far too long and have seen far too many of these threads getting people all stirred up to not think something is going on. Even the constant one line updates that seem to just be used to bump the post back to the top of the page so the story can continue.

Maybe it's just me.....
09-14-2014 06:18 PM
Kels08 Local ER is beginning to get to know us by face. Son was admitted into the hospital he had a seizure while taking a shower fell hit his head and almost drown if it isn't one thing it is another.
09-13-2014 11:38 PM
Kels08
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Son won't leave his girlfriends side this weekend and has been waiting on her hand and foot.
The accident sounds terrible, but what I quoted sounds positive. Has your son been doing better on the meds? I am hoping that if he is capable of waiting on her and taking care of her, that it means that his seizures are lessening and the fatigue and other side effects is also going down.

Amy
His seizures have been down but he is still really fatigued but he is fighting it.
09-13-2014 09:50 PM
AAK
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Son won't leave his girlfriends side this weekend and has been waiting on her hand and foot.
The accident sounds terrible, but what I quoted sounds positive. Has your son been doing better on the meds? I am hoping that if he is capable of waiting on her and taking care of her, that it means that his seizures are lessening and the fatigue and other side effects is also going down.

Amy
09-13-2014 09:04 PM
Kels08 Son won't leave his girlfriends side this weekend and has been waiting on her hand and foot.
09-13-2014 10:44 AM
Kels08 Thanks son was honestly terrified that she was hurt or lost the baby.
09-13-2014 07:58 AM
AAK
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My son called me sobbing saying his girlfriend is in the hospital. She was in a car wreck. She and the fetus are fine.
I am glad to hear that everyone is fine. When it rains, it pours. . . hopefully you will look back at 2014 and fondly remember it as a year that made you stronger and closer as a family.

Amy
09-12-2014 09:19 PM
SparklePony Certainly is a whole lot going on with you and your family... hope all is well....
09-12-2014 06:53 PM
heyxxmcfly I'm sending prayers. I hope everything works out *hugs*
09-12-2014 01:26 PM
Kels08 My son called me sobbing saying his girlfriend is in the hospital. She was in a car wreck. She and the fetus are fine.
09-12-2014 10:56 AM
AAK
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His girlfriend is getting so hormonal he called me and asked me if it was normal.
I think that is the most normal part of your lives right now!


Amy
09-11-2014 12:30 PM
Kels08 His girlfriend is getting so hormonal he called me and asked me if it was normal.
09-10-2014 03:06 PM
katelove
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I would talk to him about not having his girlfriend over while he is in charge of your younger child. Imagine if your daughter had been the one to walk in on your son and his GF having sex instead of you? or what if your daughter already knows this is going on. This is what your son is teaching to your daughter at a very young age. Not to mention if this GF of his gets pregnant then your family will be supporting a grandchild and they may not last long term as a couple, as most teenage lovers do not last long term and if they do marry they have a higher chance of divorcing.

I personally wouldn't condone my children having sex in my home, ever. They can find places to have sex. I was a teenager once and had sex before 18 and you have to be clever but you can find a place if you really wanna do it. My oldest son is 19 and there's no way I'd allow it and he knows better than to do it anyway. He has always been mature for his age.

I'm guessing you only read the first post ;-)


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09-10-2014 03:00 PM
Kels08 Much better day today he has been able to stay awake and actually interact with his girlfriend which she has been missing last week or so he said feels like a blur.
09-10-2014 02:19 PM
mommy68
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They are both the same age. I had a talk with him this morning and i un-grounded him. He also said she is on BC.

But it is YOUR house and you do not have to allow children to have sex in your home, especially when they are in charge of a younger child at the same time. If they are going to BE adults and have sex to begin with then they need to learn how to find places to have sex on their own and not use your home as a motel.

And he needs to use a condom. Girls will miss pills and sometimes they do it on purpose. I'm sorry but girls do screw around on guys. I had plenty of friends that did it. In fact, my best friend fooled her first boyfriend in to believing she was a virgin and had sex with another boy long before him. I can't believe how naive the parents on here are. It baffles my mind. Yes sex happens! Yes our children are having sex as teenagers sometimes, but no you do not have to allow it inside your home and can tell them to take it elsewhere and you do need to discuss with your son being responsible for himself and not trusting a girl to keep herself from getting pregnant, not to mention an STD from another boy she is boinking on other days of the week. Again, if they want to behave and do adult things then they need to act like adults when they do it.
09-10-2014 02:15 PM
mommy68
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I am a Single mom have been for a few years well i have two kids a 17 year old son and a 10 year old daughter. Well my son has been with his girlfriend for the better part of 4 years a long time for teenagers and proud of the both of them. Well during the summer and school year i have always trusted my son to watch his little sister. Because i tend to work till about 5-7Pm give or take. Well the other night while he was supposed to be watching his sister i got home earlier then i thought and my daughter was watching TV which is pretty normal so i went upstairs to find my son and walked in on him and his girlfriend having sex. I am not entirely sure what to do about this i have been thinking about telling her parents i haven't talked to my son yet about it yet either, other then grounding him for a while until i deal with this. What should i do? Any advice is welcome.
I would talk to him about not having his girlfriend over while he is in charge of your younger child. Imagine if your daughter had been the one to walk in on your son and his GF having sex instead of you? or what if your daughter already knows this is going on. This is what your son is teaching to your daughter at a very young age. Not to mention if this GF of his gets pregnant then your family will be supporting a grandchild and they may not last long term as a couple, as most teenage lovers do not last long term and if they do marry they have a higher chance of divorcing.

I personally wouldn't condone my children having sex in my home, ever. They can find places to have sex. I was a teenager once and had sex before 18 and you have to be clever but you can find a place if you really wanna do it. My oldest son is 19 and there's no way I'd allow it and he knows better than to do it anyway. He has always been mature for his age.
09-10-2014 12:18 AM
MadameXCupcake I'm sorry you are going through so much! My little guy had seizures for awhile but nothing like what you are going through. What about getting your hands on CBD to try? I have watched a few documentaries where it helped for seizures, even when nothing else did. It seems the meds aren't helping much and are making him extremely exhausted. It might be worth a try, I am not sure what state you are in?
09-09-2014 06:41 PM
SunshineRocket
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Originally Posted by moominmamma View Post
What is he on, that's producing drowsiness that's verging on unconsciousness, and why is his dosage being changed without testing his serum levels? It sounds a little "off" to me.

Miranda
Yeah, something is not right here.
09-09-2014 03:25 PM
Kels08 Well it's either higher dose or seizures. He is on a combination of meds his nuro said the drowsiness should wear off by this weekend.
09-09-2014 03:07 PM
moominmamma What is he on, that's producing drowsiness that's verging on unconsciousness, and why is his dosage being changed without testing his serum levels? It sounds a little "off" to me.

Miranda
09-09-2014 10:27 AM
Kels08 Son told me this morning he wants to go back to school then feel asleep. I can't send him like this.
09-09-2014 06:38 AM
lalalovely I've been following this thread and I want to say that I am praying for your son during this difficult time. I wasn't going to contribute to the conversation, but I wanted to let you know, in case you haven't found out already, that it is normal to be very sore after having a seizure. My husband has had one, it was the scariest experience, and he was sore for a few days afterward. I hope everything works out for you, and soon!
09-08-2014 06:54 PM
Kels08 Trauma and stress was the given reason. And only the nuro.
09-08-2014 06:39 PM
meemee are they still trying to find out why he is having these seizures?

are they running some tests on him?

do you need to go see a specialist apart from the nuro?

do you feel like you need a second opinion?

gosh this would scare me a LOT. he is at a point where he cant even really function. falling asleep in the middle of a shower is scary.
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