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07-08-2005 12:36 AM
bamamom
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Originally Posted by dynamohumm6


Cully doesn't seem to have reflux, but he gets REALLY REALLY angry if he's comfort nursing and I have a let down. I've been offering him a suckie during those times, but so far no dice.

Emmy have you tried holding him close to you and turn him like he's nursing? It's sometimes the only way I can get him to calm down.......I tuck his legs under my arm, and let him rest his head on top of my boob. I usually have him laying in a blankie, cause he has baby acne right now. If he's held sortof confined..... sometimes it works.

Also, I tried different pacis to find the one he liked. Do you have a Soothie, maybe from the hospital?? Dd would only take those. And they don't confuse them. Ds didn'twant them, but she loved them.

If you would like to try one, I'd be glad to send you one to try......
07-08-2005 12:32 AM
bamamom Angel give the Naturalatch Playtex Disposable a try.......you might find he likes it better than the avent.
07-07-2005 11:00 PM
angel04345 I have an avent pump but since using the medela harmony one I haven't touched it! It takes forever compared to the new one! With the medela one I can pump about three to four ounces out of one breast in about five min! But he won't take it from the avent bottle! I was going to try a playtex bag bottle since they are a little easier to suck from and I think they are closer to a breast. I don't want him to use a bottle all the time by any means! To be honest I was scared he would take right to it and find it better than me!! But he didn't!

We are up right now because he wanted to comfort nurse and I had a let down! He started screaming and DH has to go to work tomorrow so I thought I should let him sleep! Wish I could sleep! Its almost the weekend! Maybe Nolan will go to sleep soon and I can sleep too! He is only 15 days old! (I remind myself of this when I start thinking he may never sleep!)

Well I have to wash dry the dipes! I love those wonderoos! A little big on him still (bulky) but they are soooo cute on him! Well have a lovely evening girls!
07-07-2005 08:52 PM
dynamohumm6
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Originally Posted by bamamom
I have convinced ds to take a nuk paci, he seems to have reflux and can't tolerate too much milk in his tummy.he cries like he's in pain if he eats too much, so I try to give him the Nuk paci when he wants to comfort nurse.

I don't know what else to do.........the paci seems to satisfy his comfort sucking needs. Sometimes when one breast seems really empty I can let him nurse for comfort, but not all the time.


Cully doesn't seem to have reflux, but he gets REALLY REALLY angry if he's comfort nursing and I have a let down. I've been offering him a suckie during those times, but so far no dice.
07-07-2005 07:45 PM
bamamom I use a hollister pump.

I wouldn't want him bottle fed full time, but I DO want him to take a bottle if he needs to. I have convinced ds to take a nuk paci, he seems to have reflux and can't tolerate too much milk in his tummy.he cries like he's in pain if he eats too much, so I try to give him the Nuk paci when he wants to comfort nurse.

I don't know what else to do.........the paci seems to satisfy his comfort sucking needs. Sometimes when one breast seems really empty I can let him nurse for comfort, but not all the time.
07-07-2005 05:17 PM
dynamohumm6 Michelle, if you are only pumping for the car, I would suggest the Avent Isis. It's a manual pump, goes for about $45 (set usually comes with everything you need, including bottle & a couple nipples). I pump on one side when I'm nursing on the other, and can quickly get 4 oz or so that way.

Avent Isis Pump
07-07-2005 05:01 PM
mcs Dani- I am the same with the pacifier. Eisa has some very stress filled evenings when she wants to nurse, but just can't keep her little wolf mouth where it should be- in desperation, I have tried the pacifier and she has twice taken it- I just stare and think how silly she looks with it on her pretty face, and then let out a secret sigh of relief when she spits it out and looks again for my nipple.
Also, a friend was telling me just the other day that a new study shows that men suffer from ppd just as often as women do, but have not ever had a voice for it. It is nice that you can recognise that these life changes are effecting him too. He is lucky to have you.
For the bottle, we don't even have one, but are also going on a long car ride in a few weeks and I was thinking the same- about pumping for the car. I don't think that we can afford to buy a pump though- you can rent through LLL, right? Has anyone done this?
mcs
07-07-2005 04:50 PM
dynamohumm6 Cully can't quite figure out the bottle. I had to go to a going-away dinner the other night for a co-worker, at a very not-baby-friendly sushi restaurant, and alex tried to give him a bottle (we use avent isis). He did okay, but couldn't always remember to swallow :LOL
He apparently had a pool of milk in his neck, where he'd just let it run out of his mouth.
I don't mind pumping--I do it in the morning and get 4 oz and am done for the day, but I also want a stash to take in the car with us. I am visiting my family in a couple weeks, it's a 6 hour drive. My friend is driving me up, and I'd like to be able to give the baby EBM while we're driving, especially through the mountains.
07-07-2005 04:47 PM
dani76
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Originally Posted by almostfey
Plus I like it as an reason not to be able to leave the baby with the grandchild-starved family members
I totally agree! My MIL wants me to pump so she can babysit the baby. I'm just not ready to pump yet! Actually, I'm not ready for her to use a bottle. One night I was feeling overwhelmed by the crying and gave her a pacifier. I cried when she sucked on it. And I was happy when she spit it out.

As far as PPD goes, I am more upset about my Dad passing away, than being a new mom. But, my dh is dealing with some ppd. New dad, new job, being the only income. He's feeling the stress. So, we are going to move closer to family. But we're doing okay.

I can't believe my 6 week visit is next week!! Time sure flies.
07-07-2005 04:35 PM
fuzzypeach Angel, before Elaina was born I'd thot about getting a pump/bottles so somebody other than me could feed her at times... and I admit I would like the freedom. I love nursing her but have felt frustrated at times because I -have- to do it, nobody else can... of course at other times that is a thought that fills me with great pride and happiness!

But that seems like an awful lot of trouble to go through -for me. I can't keep up with all the stuff I need to be keeping up with as it is. Plus I like it as an reason not to be able to leave the baby with the grandchild-starved family members
07-07-2005 04:16 PM
angel04345 When does ppd show up? I have never even considered that I would get that I would assume I'm in the clear at two weeks post partum. maybe not.....But I think I'm doing pretty well.

DS slept fairly well last night and could have slept a little better! He fell asleep around 930 and woke at 130! That was fabulous! he skipped the staying up for three hours! But he pooped after he fell asleep so I changed him and then it took an hour to get him back to sleep! Still thats better than three hours!

DH tried to give him a bottle of Bmilk last night. He did not want that! I wonder if it was to cold? He just moved his head all around like we were nuts and get that out of his face! It would be nice to get him to take a bottle though so that I could go grocery shopping sometime child free! That would be fabulous! We will try again next week.

Well have to get going told DD we could go play with the neighbor children. I will talk with you all later! Hope everyone is well!
07-07-2005 03:49 PM
miamommy Take care bama - thinking of you.
07-06-2005 01:26 PM
Pepper bama, have you checked out the ppd forum at MDC? Please go over there if you feel up to it. They have a sticky thread at the top with a test you can take to see of you are indeed showing signs of ppd. You might find some good resources and of course, support.

Many hugs to you, mama
07-06-2005 01:18 PM
bamamom I am starting to feel the overhang of PPD. I had hoped that having such a great birth experience would keep it from happening.

And a new one this time: It makes me feel ungrateful. How could I possibly be sad after having the birth of my dreams??

Yes, dh went to work again, so I am home alone at night with both babies. It is hard, but at least dd sleeps through the night mostly.

My mom and nanny are on their way over to clean and help out with kids. Mom says she'll make supper, too. I have also been having gallbladder issues. Apparently pg makes some women have spasms. I have ordered a Liver/GB cleanse, it won't arrive for three days. gotta run
07-06-2005 01:14 PM
fuzzypeach Wow... I'm really, really tired.

Elaina sleeps a lot a night but some nights she also wakes up a lot. Usually other than getting her to sleep at first she goes right back to sleep after nursing... and I do too.. but still, I'm just really tired. I feel bad complaining cause I know I have it easy. But I'm real tired.
07-05-2005 05:54 PM
miamommy Oldest dd having a lot of issues, tons of anger, frustration and I am so tired it's tough to deal with. She was an only for so long I know this must be hard for her but her anger is just over the top.

Also, dd1 is still nursing. I thought I would love tandem nursing but its driving me nuts! Oh little one woke up - gotta go!
07-05-2005 05:34 PM
Pepper Random things I'd like to report: ( :LOL )

My milk came in yesterday. Baby is HAPPY but I'm feeling so big!

I finally had a postpartum poo, it only took me 4-1/2 days

I'm feeling so much better each day and even did a bit of housework yesterday.

Hemmies are freaking killing me but I think maybe they are getting a bit smaller. hopefully. :

I can see my ankle bones again (swelling is going away!!)

Belly has shrunk considerably and if I suck it in almost looks normal (says dh )

My two older children are making me crazy. Suddenly they seem so loud and boisterous and....loud and boisterous Trying to be patient and understand that it's me that's sensitive and they are just being the sweet children that they always have been.
07-05-2005 02:25 PM
Pepper s bamamom. How are you feeling today?

I would certainly never trivialize the very real feelings of depression (I had ppd after my son was born ) but as long as it doesn't get too bad try and think of it as a roller coaster ride....you go up and you feel blissed out when nursing or looking at your baby and marvel at your new family and then you go down and feel overwhelmed, missing your old body, not being able to keep the house up the way you want, feeling life passing you by as you're trapped in the house....and then it levels out again and then the ride starts all over again.

I'm trying to just ride it right now because I've been here before and know that this is all normal - but still not easy.

Keep talking and know you are not alone
07-05-2005 01:38 PM
mcs almostfey- sorry to hear that your dh is not helping as much as he should. i think that it is hard for men sometimes to find the right balance. We (dh and i) are both having trouble with it- in my family, being a good mother means overcoming the idiot husband and hilger's mother was a sahm by his fathers choice and her sadness had a huge effect on his childhood. i think that he really doesn't want me to feel like i'm sacrificing too much, and i feel like sacrifice is my job (while i know in my knowing mind that this is just outragious.) But, after a blow up yesterday when he wouldn't "let" me make the birth announcements, we have come to a better place. i think that i am still hormonal too....
and i did have a nice cry yesterday and recomend it too- hope that you are feeling better bamamom.
mcs
07-05-2005 10:40 AM
dynamohumm6 Oh, bama...
Have yourself a good cry. It helped me feel a bit better when the hormones would surge. Did your dh go back to work today?
07-05-2005 10:34 AM
bamamom Oy, I have started feeling like an egg eady to crack....My hormones are apparently spazzing out
07-04-2005 01:17 PM
angel04345 Just got DS off to nap and now I get to type for a minute before grabbing a shower and getting DD dressed! WHEW!!!! Never took me this long to get everyone dressed before! :

My DH has been marvelous! For the last two days he has let me sleep until eleven am! He watches Ali and I just stay in bed with Nolan! With Ali he would tell me that I could go take a nap but she was taking one too! He would NEVER offer to watch her while I took a nap and at this point with her she was still having formula! I guess hes grown up a little! It has been nearly three years!

OMG Its like because men can't have it thats when they want it! I'm still not right! I don't want to even think about that bad word! Hes flirting with me a lot! Makes me feel good but still like I said I'm so not ready for that yet! Not to mention I am sooooo not eager to do that again! I still remember having to push him out like it was yesterday!

Well I am so glad that everyone is doing so well! Pepper you are doing great to be online already! I think I was still in the hospital! (gbs positive you know! : )

Well I am going to get going to get that shower now and then get DD dressed! She says shes cold and its like 80 degrees outside! HMMMMM

Have a great fourth ladies!
07-04-2005 12:12 PM
dynamohumm6 Oh, we're not DOING anything. Just, you know..."cuddling". It's very one-sided :
07-04-2005 12:01 PM
bamamom Emmy if you had labial tears on each side, and one was stitched, you really need to be careful!!!
07-04-2005 11:55 AM
dynamohumm6
07-04-2005 11:53 AM
bamamom Emmy, I hope Alex is just looking and not touching the "megabooty"!!!!

:LOL :LOL :LOL :LOL
07-04-2005 11:50 AM
dynamohumm6
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Originally Posted by bamamom
I told dh that if nothing else I wanted sexy underwear to go with a nice nursing bra...

I also intend to invest in some good lingerie.........

I am so ready to be normal again, but at the same time I don;t want to rush these early days. I'll never get them back....
good point. *sigh*
At least Alex is enjoying the "megabooty".
07-04-2005 11:49 AM
bamamom sorry
07-04-2005 11:46 AM
bamamom I told dh that if nothing else I wanted sexy underwear to go with a nice nursing bra...

I also intend to invest in some good lingerie.........

I am so ready to be normal again, but at the same time I don;t want to rush these early days. I'll never get them back....
07-04-2005 11:32 AM
dynamohumm6 mcs--I sympathize. I *hate* asking Akex for stuff. When I'm nursing (which is constantly), I have to ask him for something & I hate it.
As far as body--I'm 3 weeks now. My belly is flat, but "toneless". My thighs don't really look or feel fatter, but I can't get into any pre-prego jeans. With my first, a 10 lb whopper-sized baby, I was totally back to normal after 2 weeks...but I was also 21, and ended up with hips (I was shaped like a 12 year old boy before I had Sammy).
I'm really ready to have my body back.
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