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06-25-2006 11:06 AM
mkoontz oh mt god, those pants are too cool.

I'm sending lots of healing vibes like everyone elce and try not to do too much too quickly - yoy don't want to make things worse.
06-25-2006 09:49 AM
Geofizz Oh Panth, I'm still catching up on your updates.

I'm glad the surgery went well. I'm glad they got the right leg.

You have the world's most awesome daughter. I hope my children grow up to be as caring and considerate individuals as your daughter has clearly become.

Got Netflix?
06-24-2006 11:51 PM
aisraeltax sweety you have the right to whine. so just whine away. we are here to listen.

i am sure your DD is going to understand. no, she probably wont be happy all the time and things may get a little tense, but when they do, just remember how she was at the hospital and she really does care for you and knows that you need her. sometimes i think its good for teens to realize they are actually needed,kwim?

just vent if you need to. we are here.

im sure it bites big time.

have you found anything about home health?

how is the baby doing? is he with you? or is your dh stepping up?

let me tell you, if i were in your situation, i woudl be worried about Es life...i KNOW my dh could never stand up to that challenge.

i know things suck...and im so sorry. you already know what a great family you have so i dont need to tell you.

focus on getting well. if that means venting, then vent away. we are here!!!

06-24-2006 11:30 PM
Panthira OK, thanks. I should have thought of that with the Yes thing. I was hoping it was more of a Yes, look how fine this one is. Or Yes! Score, we did this surgery right! But I'll take the the Yes, we did the right leg, too.

And thanks about the Monster shorts. My DH got them for Grey from Cranky Pants on Hyena Cart. They are so cool, my 14 yr old DD begged me to write the WAHM and ask her if she would make her a pair. LOL
She said she couldn't.

And, I'm bored of laying around with my foot in the air already. This bites the big one. I cried to DH about why did I deserve this, like a big baby. There's so many more awful things that could have happened, I should be grateful.
It's just I want to carry my baby around and take cool videos and pics to share with you all, and hike. I had plans on getting my exercize routine going when we got back from vacation. (I'm now down 20 pounds, but I'm not sure why and I'm sure it'll come creeping back). My DD had camp plans but now I can't drive her and the poor girl will be stuck caring for me and her bros some of the time. Whine, whine, whine. I need a large glass.
06-23-2006 10:44 PM
Thursday Girl
Originally Posted by aisraeltax
they wrote "yes" on your leg b/c they have often operated on the wrong leg b/4 so they make sure they write on your leg to be operated!! !
that was my thought, in my area they have done that quite a bit. One guy had the wrong leg amputated, and then they had to go get the one they were originally supposed to take.
I love the monster pants, i was expecting some of those 80's MC hammer pants, like "hey i don't care what i am wearing b/c this SUCKS" type thing, but wow, cuteness.
06-23-2006 09:01 PM
aisraeltax they wrote "yes" on your leg b/c they have often operated on the wrong leg b/4 so they make sure they write on your leg to be operated!! !
06-23-2006 06:21 PM
Originally Posted by Panthira
: Those have got to be the funniest shorts I've ever seen!!!
06-23-2006 05:51 PM
Panthira I'm hopped up on some stuff and feeling sorry for myself, so I thought I'd post some random pics.

Before Surgery

After surgery - What do you think they wrote "Yes" on me for?

The day before my Big Break

Does anyone really care? Monster pants!
06-23-2006 05:47 PM
allnaturalmama Oh, Shana, I soooo wish I were local so I could come and give you a hug in person and help you out around the house and with the kids. It hurts me to think of you going through this all by yourself! You are such a strong mama, hang in there. I hope the home health aide works out, and that the stress about DHs job turns out to be for nothing...

You are on my heart and prayers every day!

Keep posting. We're all here caring for you, and it's good for you to communicate all the struggles...
06-23-2006 01:35 PM
aisraeltax thats just so hard Pan. im so sorry. i wish i were closer and could come help you out. allow yourself to weep when you need to...try not to hold it in.
i cant imagine maintaining a bf'ign r/s with all taht you have gone through and i really admire you for doing it. thats just incredible.

i know this is of little solace, but they cant fire your dh b/c of your medical reasons. of course, teh law and reality are sometimes 2 different things, but hopefully his employer will be understanding.

all i can say is taht you are in my thoughts...and i wish there was more i could do than tell you that.

06-23-2006 01:05 PM
Panthira I just got home last night. Thank you all for your thoughts and wishes for me. It means a lot to me that people actually care. I'm going to look into the Home and Health Aide thing, as I think I might need it.

I've been a rollercoaster of emotions. I'm not sure who this is I'm living with but it sure doesn't seem like me. One minute I'm "normal" the next I'm crying to my husband that he's going to torture and abandon me again today. Huh? I want to snuggle with my baby and the next minute I can't stand being touched by another human being. I have kept the BFing relationship going, though I'm not sure how I managed that one.
My DH is going nuts with me. I'm on 4 different pain meds (and I NEED every one right now), a shot DH has to give me in my belly to thin my blood, a stool softener (although too TMI: I haven't gone number 2 since an hour before my accident 2 weeks ago!!). I'm weepy and irritable and the worst thing is, I'm needy. Ewww yuck!!
I also use this death trap walker thing old ladies use to get to the bathroom or pretty much anywhere I want to go. Did you know they hurt your hands like hell, though I guess old ladies have lost most of the nerves there so they don't seem to mind. Same is true with broken bones. It's better to break 'em when your old so your nerves are deadened to most of the pain.

I'm not allowed to bear weight on my stainless steel attached ankle for another few months, where, if I've jumped through the right hoops and been a good girl, I can get a lightweight cast and maybe even a WALKING cast. Oh, I dream big. A walking cast!

DH goes back to work part time next week and then full time the week after. He's irritable too because I think between the birth, gall bladder surgery, and now this, he's taken a lot of time off and he's afraid he might lose his job.
We don't have family here to speak of, and I'm not sure how we're going to handle this. I can't even carry my own baby around.
06-22-2006 11:27 AM
Jeanne_L Adding my healing vibes to the mix

Thinking of you, Shana!!!
06-22-2006 10:18 AM
spiralmg Just catching up on this thread- Have been thinking of you Shana and sending good vibes. I hope you can find someone to help you....anyone have other ideas? Doulas in training, perhaps? I don't know the bay area very well...
06-22-2006 09:48 AM
Spark Sending her easy healing vibes!
06-22-2006 07:51 AM
aisraeltax i wonder how long she will be in the hospital. surgery was is Thursday. i hope that is normal recovery. i forgot to ask how long she thought she would be in.
06-20-2006 10:31 PM
xmasbaby7 Oh Shana, what a terrible ordeal you have been put through.

I have been thinking about you the last few days and I was reading something lat night that I thought of you. I am reading Superimmunity for Kids, and the basic thesis is Essential Fatty Acid Omega-3's from flax seed oil.

It made me remeber that the one coal miner who survived in West Virginia's disaster was given outrageous amounts of omega 3 by the doc upon admittance.

So I was thinking that someone should get you a bottle to drink 2 tablesppons a day to boost your healing. You can just stir in it your OJ or whatever. it is a natural for joint support anyway. So is Borage oil.

If someone can't get any for you, I would be happy to send you some. Just PM me.

Sorry for the random suggestion, but I thought of you when I read this book and what you were going through.

Be well, and I wish you a beautiful silver lining to this nasty cloud.
06-20-2006 10:16 PM
anonymous4_20 I just saw this today--I hope you are recovering well. Take it easy--the anesthetic can take a long time to clear your system, so you'll be fighting that making you groggy as well as the pain. Make sure you can get enough rest. I think getting someone in to help is a good idea. Or do you have somebody who could watch your 2 year old for a while during the day while you camp out in bed with the babe? Do you have a bassinet or pack and play that you could put by the bed in case you get too drowsy on the drugs?

Thinking of you!
06-20-2006 01:46 AM

How are you holding up? How is the family?

Healing energy your way...

06-20-2006 12:51 AM
allnaturalmama Shana,

You've been on my heart and prayers all day. I don't expect you'll be online anytime soon, but I'm wondering how your surgery went today. I hope you're not in a lot of pain!!!

You are such a strong woman. I really admire your attitude through this most difficult trial.

Hang in there, mama!


PS Wish I had some suggestions about what to do. I think the suggestion about checking with insurance about a home health aide. What about hiring a young boy or girl from the neighborhood to work a few hours a day as a mother's helper?
06-19-2006 05:51 PM
mamanurse Pan-
I'm not sure if you have insurance, but you should look at home health as an option. They were a g-dsend when my mom was housebound. Her insurance covered a nurse to come in every few day and do nursing stuff. It also covered a CNA to come in and help her bathe. A home health aide was also covered. She did light housework like cooking and cleaning. I don't have a solution for taking care of your babe, but at least the extraneous stuff might be able to get done.
06-19-2006 05:46 PM
kgrfcharlton Sending you hugs & hoping you get better faster than expected!
06-19-2006 01:23 PM
iris0110 Pan . Thinking of you and hope you make a swift recovery. Dh smashed his ankle up like that when he was a teen. But of course he didn't have nearly as much to take care of back then. Can you afford to maybe hire a nurse to come in and help? Some insurance companies will pay part or even all for a home health care worker. That way the nurse could help take care of you and your dd could help with the kids. Or could a relative come to stay with you? I'm sure you have probably already thought of these things though.
06-19-2006 12:19 PM
aisraeltax sending hugs and good surgery vibes. so so sorry you are feelign isolated. thats not good. make everyone come to you more often!
find a peaceful place for yourself before surgery.
you are in my thoughts,
06-19-2006 12:11 PM

wishing you peace & quick heealing!

we can talk entertaining toddler with a broken leg when you get back.
06-19-2006 11:21 AM
IncaMama oh wow...i'm thinking of you today, pan...: can you hire extra help while you recover? i'm sure your DD will be a great help, but even more would be better...:
06-19-2006 11:03 AM
Panthira Going in today for surgery. Scared. No help except my husband and DD. Thanks for the thoughts and wishes!

ETA: We have a guest bedroom downstairs, thank goodness. It's been ok down here, except isolation from the rest of the house. Still, I'm very grateful!
06-19-2006 10:24 AM
Spark :bighug

Oh you poor thing! Sending love & light to you & your family. being broken and doing ki8d care is no fun. do you have help?
06-18-2006 09:57 AM
aisraeltax while your dh is home, get him to set up beds downstairs. i dont see any other way you can do this after he goes to work. if you cant get the mattresses downstairs to a particular room, then get air mattresses to sleep on. its a good thing its summer so you will have your dd's help. with what you have said, i doubt she will be going far from your side when you get out of surgery.
after my 2nd c/s (so not the same that you are experiencing right now and prob. a piece of cake compared to your pain), they wouldnt let me climb stairs and we lived in a 3 story house. i had to convert the living room into our bedrooom for a month. my dh actually brought the entire bed down into the living room. i hated it b/c im OCD and it was just not in "its place" but its what we had to do.
let us know what you need to work through. we are here for you Pan! im so sorry you are going through this.
06-18-2006 03:42 AM
Panthira Thanks, my daughter IS amazing! I'm very lucky to have her...

I broke a toe before, so I guess I have technically broken a bone before. The same toe several times, but just worked through it and it hurt but it was no big deal.
This time though, my ankle is shattered, and by shattered I mean I have bone fragments and not much of solid bone left there. When I pick up my leg to move it down near the floor to use the walker, I feel things shifting unpleasantly in there with clunk and clicks. They basicaly have to rebuild my ankle using stainless steel pins, rods, and plates. I can't put weight on my leg at all or I could cause more bone to splinter off.

Forgive my ramblings. I'm getting kind of sick of the drugs they have me on. I sleep all day. Oxycodone , Tyl 3, Valium especially. Want to sleep again.

Mostlhy, I'm looking for advice on how I'm going to raise the kids daily. DH has to go t=back to work in a week. They said I'll be in a lot of pain for several weeks. No weight bearing. Do I just not leave the house? Yuck! We live in a two story too.
06-17-2006 11:50 PM
mamanurse I'm sorry you hurt yourself Pan! That royally SUCKS!!! Your dd does sound like a truly amazing daughter.
I hope you have a successful surgery on Monday and a quick (as possible) recovery Panthira! : : :
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