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Forum: Single Parenting   Today, 09:46 AM
Replies: 5
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Posted By alpenglow
Agree with above. If he confiscates the photo...

Agree with above. If he confiscates the photo albums, that is child emotional abuse/DV by proxy and needs to be documented (ETA: I try to avoid the term parental alienation. Attached article does...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   Yesterday, 08:47 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 508
Posted By alpenglow
Crazyms,I get what you are saying. I would read...

Crazyms,I get what you are saying. I would read the other responses. Sometimes peace is priceless. Legal fees can be a lot more expensive than what the support would be..negating the impact of the...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   05-18-2015, 09:44 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 663
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with PP. 50/50 is almost always for the...

I agree with PP. 50/50 is almost always for the adults. 50/50 "quality time" with both parents, but with one parent having primary residence is another story. 3 yr olds don't keep track of time.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   05-15-2015, 07:24 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 663
Posted By alpenglow
I think an earlier poster said it well....that...

I think an earlier poster said it well....that breastfeeding is just one part of a close bond with mom. If it weren't breastfeeding it would be something else that he gets, and then doesn't get. ...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-13-2015, 03:52 PM
Replies: 36
Views: 1,622
Posted By alpenglow
I completely agree with Vocal Minority. ...

I completely agree with Vocal Minority. Something is very strange about xh spinning things that he is somehow protecting you from wrath of his family. It's fishy at best.
Forum: Single Parenting   05-11-2015, 06:11 PM
Replies: 36
Views: 1,622
Posted By alpenglow
Oh that is scary! With support, sounds like he...

Oh that is scary!
With support, sounds like he is playing passive aggressive games. I am lucky I keep enough emergency cushion in case of late support.
But if not doing so, I would be documenting...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   05-08-2015, 09:52 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 508
Posted By alpenglow
Yeah, having experienced the legal system and how...

Yeah, having experienced the legal system and how expensive and stressful that is....I really don't know that it's worth pursuing support in all cases. I know this won't be a popular opinion...but...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-08-2015, 09:24 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 418
Posted By alpenglow
Aw, mama - it's so hard to be separated from our...

Aw, mama - it's so hard to be separated from our babies...especially when we lived and breathed for them (and literally for 9 months in womb). It's so against my nurturing nature to be apart from...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-08-2015, 05:09 PM
Replies: 41
Views: 1,755
Posted By alpenglow
Good point. Kids deserve consistency and...

Good point. Kids deserve consistency and predictability. So if xh can't consistently hold up his commitment to court ordered parenting time, then perhaps the order needs modification.

The flip...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-06-2015, 06:07 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 378
Posted By alpenglow
Oh yes good point! Meant to say originals plus...

Oh yes good point! Meant to say originals plus have copies of all his financial documents, statements, etc. if he is an abuser, guaranteed he will hide assets and force her to get an expensive court...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-03-2015, 09:05 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 378
Posted By alpenglow
Ditto Rubelin's advice. Do not leave the family...

Ditto Rubelin's advice. Do not leave the family home, and especially do not leave them there without mom. If there is imminent fear for her physical safety, then she needs to get a restraining...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-03-2015, 02:59 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 599
Posted By alpenglow
The issue, imo, is one of neglectful parenting,...

The issue, imo, is one of neglectful parenting, inadequate supervision (just like any other neglect issue such as having a pool without a fence and no life jackets and letting kids run around it...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-02-2015, 04:38 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 599
Posted By alpenglow
If you have any concerns about yours or the...

If you have any concerns about yours or the childrens' immediate safety, then I might contact the police and ask for their advice in this situation. They may decide they want to take a statement...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-28-2015, 10:09 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 456
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with all PP's. I remember an earlier...

I agree with all PP's.
I remember an earlier thread of yours that made it pretty clear that he is very hostile and not to be trusted, and I was wondering to myself when he would return and create...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-26-2015, 08:01 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 511
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with PP's. I'm not sure about...

I agree with PP's.

I'm not sure about policies in your area, but CPS is normally not allowed to disclose the source of the call. So as far as your sister would know, it could have been a...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-25-2015, 08:57 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 511
Posted By alpenglow
Yes, I agree someone needs to call CPS. Are...

Yes, I agree someone needs to call CPS. Are there other witnesses as well?

That situation sounds so heartbreaking.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   04-24-2015, 10:42 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 679
Posted By alpenglow
I lurk a bit here because of the valuable insight...

I lurk a bit here because of the valuable insight shared in some of these discussions that can also apply to single parenting (without blended family issues). I hope that's okay....

A man who...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-24-2015, 10:15 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 382
Posted By alpenglow
This situation almost makes me want to cry. ...

This situation almost makes me want to cry.

Neglect is a form of emotional abuse. It's often not recognized as such, and has such lifelong lasting effects.
If her dad's behaviour is...
Forum: Special Needs Parenting   04-24-2015, 09:56 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 288
Posted By alpenglow
Someone close to me has a son with Autism. She...

Someone close to me has a son with Autism. She is also a teacher. She doesn't really give a hoot if he has a label or not - doesn't change the unique beautiful person he is to her. But for...
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-23-2015, 02:54 PM
Replies: 78
Views: 7,141
Posted By alpenglow
JuliaDDTLaw....if you are a lawyer, please read...

JuliaDDTLaw....if you are a lawyer, please read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft, and "Splitting" by Bill Eddy.
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-23-2015, 02:17 PM
Replies: 78
Views: 7,141
Posted By alpenglow
Yeah, and comments that blame the women and...

Yeah, and comments that blame the women and assume they "provoke" or annoy get really old after a while...

Abuse is the fault of the abuser.
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   04-22-2015, 10:35 AM
Replies: 35
Views: 4,595
Posted By alpenglow
It should be sterile, but a lot of people carry...

It should be sterile, but a lot of people carry antibiotic resistant bacteria in their urine, and a lot of people are walking around with undiagnosed UTI's. Peeing on the shower floor is just...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-19-2015, 03:39 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 275
Posted By alpenglow
Your local family resource organization or child...

Your local family resource organization or child development centre (most communities have something like that) might be a good place to start. But since there are so many different books out there,...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-15-2015, 05:50 PM
Replies: 36
Views: 1,622
Posted By alpenglow
Yes congrats on standing up for your kids! ...

Yes congrats on standing up for your kids! Walking on eggshells sucks:-( but you handled this one well I think.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   04-14-2015, 09:34 PM
Replies: 22
Views: 1,163
Posted By alpenglow
Good points. I can relate to dss in school...

Good points. I can relate to dss in school having been easy with lots of reward and identity in being 'smart'. I suddenly found myself failing a class in senior year because I just didn't give it...
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