Mothering Forums - Search Results

Showing results 1 to 25 of 126
Search took 0.13 seconds.
Search: Keyword(s): ; Posts Made By: mary934
Forum: Gentle Discipline   03-11-2014, 07:45 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 2,993
Posted By mary934
The problem with L@L is that it may feel L@L  to...

The problem with L@L is that it may feel L@L  to the parent , the kid may not buy into - that the earn to get - economic relationship is logical and the way to love kids. I prefer to be an...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   12-16-2013, 11:28 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 274
Posted By mary934
I think we can share the idea I love my work and...

I think we can share the idea I love my work and that is really an ideal most of us want - to love and find meaning and purpose in what we do. We get paid once a month, so our minds are not on the...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   12-15-2013, 04:02 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 274
Posted By mary934
Hi, I always take a collaborative problem...

Hi,
I always take a collaborative problem solving approach perspective 
 
so what are her concerns - a reward is solution to a problem or concern - what are her concerns ?
what are your...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   10-21-2013, 01:14 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 358
Posted By mary934
I recommend checking out the collaborative...

I recommend checking out the collaborative problem solving approach - see Ross Greene's livesinthebalnce site. The philosophy is children do well if they can and not if they want to so no rewards or...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   10-15-2013, 11:44 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 311
Posted By mary934
saying its mine is a solution to a concern - is...

saying its mine is a solution to a concern - is she worried she won't get it back etc we can try to help a kid express their concerns and we can address them
Forum: Gentle Discipline   09-22-2013, 02:59 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 188
Posted By mary934
I am sorry about your hand. I try to be very...

I am sorry about your hand. I try to be very much on top of things, so I don't loose my guard and get the unexpected kick, punch or bite. If you check out cps - collaborative problem solving...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   08-08-2013, 01:45 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 328
Posted By mary934
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachel-macy-staffor...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachel-macy-stafford/the-day-i-stopped-saying-hurry-up_b_3624798.html
Forum: Gentle Discipline   08-04-2013, 11:14 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 177
Posted By mary934
hi, I think your child  needs the support of...

hi,
I think your child  needs the support of all the adults involved - you , stepmom and your ex.
Not the trying to ' motivate her' to behave but trying to solve the underlying problem. Hitting is...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   08-02-2013, 09:14 AM
Replies: 169
Views: 7,815
Posted By mary934
 a teen kicked a ball that hit a teacher in the...

 a teen kicked a ball that hit a teacher in the face and the teacher fell . the teen ran away , why 
parents and teachers are the last to know if kids screw up - why 
 
because punishment teaches...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   08-01-2013, 12:07 AM
Replies: 38
Views: 2,528
Posted By mary934
For some Gentle discp comes easy because our...

For some Gentle discp comes easy because our kids are easy wired and maybe natural for us, but most it has taken a paradigm shift and the understanding that parenting and education is a process that...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-30-2013, 12:34 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 479
Posted By mary934
Hi, I am the one here who recommends taking a...

Hi,
I am the one here who recommends taking a look at Ross Greene's cps - collaborative problem solving approach. best to solve problems out of the moment. Focus on problems - not behaviors . Start...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-25-2013, 01:27 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 485
Posted By mary934
Hi, Don't be so hard on yourself . The problem...

Hi,
Don't be so hard on yourself . The problem is that we try to solve problems in the moment. Try to find a time when your are connecting and bonding with your dd and then ask her what she likes...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-16-2013, 05:57 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 586
Posted By mary934
I like the suggestion above - getting him...

I like the suggestion above - getting him involved in something before you start with the younger kid or having the younger kid take a nap in a pram while you walk
Out of the moment when you have a...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-15-2013, 08:59 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 333
Posted By mary934
It is not easy to try and solve the pile of...

It is not easy to try and solve the pile of unsolved problems ' in the moment '. Out of the moment , when you have a good connection with your son try and collaborate with him and solve problems....
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-10-2013, 12:59 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 207
Posted By mary934
Hi,   The link on the blog  is ' Resolving...

Hi,
 
The link on the blog  is ' Resolving the heart of conflict'  in blue. Instead of a traditional http link people use a title
 
Mary  
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-09-2013, 06:08 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 377
Posted By mary934
Maybe you can help your old kid be more...

Maybe you can help your old kid be more responsive to her sisters cues, needs etc or learn to distract her. you can also try to work out what is actually bothering her - seeing what problems occur...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-09-2013, 05:13 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 207
Posted By mary934
Hi,   I want to share imho an amazing Ted...

Hi,
 
I want to share imho an amazing Ted talk. The blog itself hopes to help people of faith to see GD principles in the Bible. The blog shares a story from an article by the speaker not in his...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-31-2013, 01:04 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 318
Posted By mary934
Books By Ross Greene - latest editions as the...

Books By Ross Greene - latest editions as the cps approach is always evolving 
Myrna Shure books on problem solving and thinking kids 
Alfie Kohn - unconditional parenting 
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-31-2013, 01:02 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 380
Posted By mary934
Here is acps -collaborative problem solving...

Here is acps -collaborative problem solving approach take on your post. 
It is extremely difficult to deal with problems ' in the moment'. At most we can try and defuse a situation , help him calm...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-28-2013, 12:19 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 523
Posted By mary934
Thanks for sharing your story. Far from bragging...

Thanks for sharing your story. Far from bragging you are giving people with challenging kids lots of hope. I liked your comments on consequences and discipline. Someone said that consequences is...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-26-2013, 12:23 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 602
Posted By mary934
I had a chance to read the whole article. Thanks...

I had a chance to read the whole article. Thanks for sharing the article. 
 
The title is at most an attention grabber and has very little to do with the article. In a sentence the article is...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-23-2013, 08:49 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 250
Posted By mary934
Besides finding a good time to try and...

Besides finding a good time to try and collaborate with him to find out why it is so hard for him and trying to come up with solutions speak to your pdoc about melatonin - a natural substance that...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-23-2013, 08:44 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 602
Posted By mary934
Failure - there is plenty of research showing...

Failure - there is plenty of research showing how failure can be devastating to self esteem and success. The real question is how kids experience success and failure.
 
Jerome Bruner said this -...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-12-2013, 04:27 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 981
Posted By mary934
Stickers - I am not one for stickers , but if...

Stickers - I am not one for stickers , but if you use them , make it very, very, easy to get so there is momentum and don't take away stickers or points when the kid behaves inappropriately 
 ...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   05-06-2013, 12:05 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 981
Posted By mary934
The problem with rewards is they do sometimes...

The problem with rewards is they do sometimes work in the short term. When it kid learns that it pays to be nice, you are teaching him to ask what's in it for me and not what kind of person I want...
Showing results 1 to 25 of 126

 
Forum Jump: