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Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   Yesterday, 10:42 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 401
Posted By alpenglow
I lurk a bit here because of the valuable insight...

I lurk a bit here because of the valuable insight shared in some of these discussions that can also apply to single parenting (without blended family issues). I hope that's okay....

A man who...
Forum: Single Parenting   Yesterday, 10:15 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 136
Posted By alpenglow
This situation almost makes me want to cry. ...

This situation almost makes me want to cry.

Neglect is a form of emotional abuse. It's often not recognized as such, and has such lifelong lasting effects.
If her dad's behaviour is...
Forum: Special Needs Parenting   Yesterday, 09:56 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 204
Posted By alpenglow
Someone close to me has a son with Autism. She...

Someone close to me has a son with Autism. She is also a teacher. She doesn't really give a hoot if he has a label or not - doesn't change the unique beautiful person he is to her. But for...
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-23-2015, 02:54 PM
Replies: 76
Views: 6,192
Posted By alpenglow
JuliaDDTLaw....if you are a lawyer, please read...

JuliaDDTLaw....if you are a lawyer, please read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft, and "Splitting" by Bill Eddy.
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-23-2015, 02:17 PM
Replies: 76
Views: 6,192
Posted By alpenglow
Yeah, and comments that blame the women and...

Yeah, and comments that blame the women and assume they "provoke" or annoy get really old after a while...

Abuse is the fault of the abuser.
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   04-22-2015, 10:35 AM
Replies: 34
Views: 4,154
Posted By alpenglow
It should be sterile, but a lot of people carry...

It should be sterile, but a lot of people carry antibiotic resistant bacteria in their urine, and a lot of people are walking around with undiagnosed UTI's. Peeing on the shower floor is just...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-19-2015, 03:39 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 169
Posted By alpenglow
Your local family resource organization or child...

Your local family resource organization or child development centre (most communities have something like that) might be a good place to start. But since there are so many different books out there,...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-15-2015, 05:50 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
Yes congrats on standing up for your kids! ...

Yes congrats on standing up for your kids! Walking on eggshells sucks:-( but you handled this one well I think.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   04-14-2015, 09:34 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 904
Posted By alpenglow
Good points. I can relate to dss in school...

Good points. I can relate to dss in school having been easy with lots of reward and identity in being 'smart'. I suddenly found myself failing a class in senior year because I just didn't give it...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-13-2015, 02:14 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 647
Posted By alpenglow
I do think OP needs to be careful. If xh was...

I do think OP needs to be careful. If xh was abusive at all, then going after support will result in drama, that could hurt everyone in the long run. I really don't know enough about OP's...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-13-2015, 11:02 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 647
Posted By alpenglow
I am going to chime in and say that only a couple...

I am going to chime in and say that only a couple hundred per month is probably not enough to warrant court costs and risk a 'retaliation' of 50/50 to get out of paying full support anyway. If you...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   04-12-2015, 11:10 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 642
Posted By alpenglow
Pepin, I am glad you have some external...

Pepin, I am glad you have some external validation. Many people from around the world have communicated with me warmly without knowing much English at all....using universal body language and non...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-11-2015, 06:47 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 647
Posted By alpenglow
Agree with all above. And I would suggest...

Agree with all above.
And I would suggest counselling to deal with fears of confrontation and assertiveness. Compassion and empathy are wonderful things.....but even better is compassion and...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-11-2015, 01:22 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with Linda. The border guards for Canada...

I agree with Linda. The border guards for Canada and Mexico should have something on file to ensure they are alerted to call authorities if he tries to cross by land. Kids don't always need...
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-11-2015, 10:12 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 687
Posted By alpenglow
Mama I am sorry you and your dd are going through...

Mama I am sorry you and your dd are going through this.
You really need to be communicating EVERYTHING by email with her father. An in-person conversation needs to be followed up with an email...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   04-09-2015, 03:21 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 904
Posted By alpenglow
I'm going to chime in and say I would be inclined...

I'm going to chime in and say I would be inclined to dial it back....it doesn't seem that a teenager with poor grades and who is apparently not trustworthy should be promised a car half paid for in...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-07-2015, 12:06 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
No is the only word he needs to hear. No...

No is the only word he needs to hear. No explanations, no apology. Just a flat no. He has pathological personality traits...so anything said will get twisted and used against you. Definitely smart...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-07-2015, 10:55 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
Absolutely no way would I ever agree to him...

Absolutely no way would I ever agree to him leaving with the kids. Anger brings out true colours. He has shown you his.
Forum: Family Safety   04-03-2015, 11:53 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 444
Posted By alpenglow
It depends on the leaders. If they have and...

It depends on the leaders. If they have and enforce strict rules (e.g. stay together, buddies, no running or balls, etc. near traffic), head count every ____ minutes, then perhaps it can work. If...
Forum: Family Safety   04-03-2015, 11:46 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 150
Posted By alpenglow
I just noticed you have no replies. I'm bumping...

I just noticed you have no replies. I'm bumping this up.

My opinion - a trailer will almost always be safer than a seat on the bike. The trailer has a cage/frame that can protect little one from...
Forum: Family Safety   04-03-2015, 11:34 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 444
Posted By alpenglow
I would research what your local daycare...

I would research what your local daycare licensing officer would have to say about swimming pools. I'm an ex lifeguard, and when I worked in summer camp/day camp, only one of us could be in the...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-03-2015, 10:49 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
I'm modifying my opinion - I agree with this. ...

I'm modifying my opinion - I agree with this. It's just a niece and it's not the end of the world if the children miss this wedding. Their presence or absence is probably not going to make one lick...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-01-2015, 10:04 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,142
Posted By alpenglow
Did he agree to you going? If so, I think he...

Did he agree to you going? If so, I think he should pay your expenses. That's a significant sacrifice for you to consider making for something that was his idea (the trip). I personally think 4 is...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-01-2015, 09:52 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 429
Posted By alpenglow
Wow Crunchy, that's almost unheard of that an xh...

Wow Crunchy, that's almost unheard of that an xh would voluntarily disclose a significant pay increase. He must actually have a conscience and that would explain why it went smoothly! A...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-01-2015, 09:45 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 661
Posted By alpenglow
I think you might be wise to ask around for good...

I think you might be wise to ask around for good lawyers to consult about the likelihood of the courts granting a move, and if you could relocate, the likelihood of xh getting away with kidnapping...
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