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Forum: Frugality & Finances   03-04-2011, 09:13 PM
Replies: 124
Views: 54,799
Posted By Kiernan
COL is 145 here. I'm very comfortable at $125K -...

COL is 145 here. I'm very comfortable at $125K - able to cover needs, aggressive savings, and a reasonable amount of wants - but then again I bought my condo 12 years ago for half what it would cost...
Forum: Parents as Partners   11-01-2010, 09:33 PM
Replies: 26
Views: 1,914
Posted By Kiernan
It sounds as though on some level, you are still...

It sounds as though on some level, you are still hoping that he will come back and make everything right. This is a perfectly natural reaction, but from his actions over time it doesn't sound...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   10-08-2010, 11:45 AM
Replies: 58
Views: 2,627
Posted By Kiernan
I have a 2005 X3 that went off warranty last...

I have a 2005 X3 that went off warranty last summer. I didn't do the extended warranty and so far, have only paid for an oil change. The car runs beautifully and has never given me any trouble. Now,...
Forum: Parenting   07-20-2010, 10:14 PM
Replies: 159
Views: 13,444
Posted By Kiernan
Quote: Originally Posted by ThisCat...

Quote:
Originally Posted by ThisCat http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15645449)
But even if your parents divorced sooner,...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-19-2010, 08:50 AM
Replies: 24
Views: 1,312
Posted By Kiernan
When you're a responsible person, it's natural...

When you're a responsible person, it's natural to assume that other people would meet their responsibilities if only they could. But some people, like your ex, won't step up unless they have to. Let...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-17-2010, 10:42 PM
Replies: 24
Views: 1,312
Posted By Kiernan
Asking a parent, sibling or friend to contribute...

Asking a parent, sibling or friend to contribute financially to your child's well-being would be asking for help. Expecting your co-parent to support the children he created is not. He's had a...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-13-2010, 11:45 AM
Replies: 26
Views: 2,694
Posted By Kiernan
I can definitely empathize. My son's dad passed...

I can definitely empathize. My son's dad passed away last fall so I am 100% a solo parent. Sometimes I get unbelievably tired not just doing all the physical parenting but all the mental parenting -...
Forum: Personal Growth   06-06-2010, 11:11 PM
Replies: 134
  Nm
Views: 11,419
Posted By Kiernan
Good for you for catching this and addressing...

Good for you for catching this and addressing it. My late husband could have written your original post about 3 years ago. He liked to drink a little too much, he couldn't have just one, he thought...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-12-2010, 04:01 PM
Replies: 45
Views: 3,475
Posted By Kiernan
He's just flailing about, trying to find an...

He's just flailing about, trying to find an approach that will get you to react the way he wants. As best you can, stay calm and consistent and don't let yourself get rattled. It's very unlikely...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   04-13-2010, 09:55 PM
Replies: 48
Views: 2,267
Posted By Kiernan
I had to pay. Far less than I did when I was...

I had to pay. Far less than I did when I was part of a two-income family, but still about $450.

I don't qualify for any credits but making use of my company-sponsored FSAs for childcare and...
Forum: Single Parenting   03-23-2010, 11:24 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 1,628
Posted By Kiernan
http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smili...

http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif

I hope you can find your way to a more peaceful life.
Forum: Frugality & Finances   03-12-2010, 02:14 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 463
Posted By Kiernan
I do get Social Security survivor benefits for...

I do get Social Security survivor benefits for my son, but not for me (I make too much to qualify). Those benefits are considered his income, not mine.

I kept my exemptions the same - I claim 1...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   03-12-2010, 12:52 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 463
Posted By Kiernan
So, I finally got around to changing my taxable...

So, I finally got around to changing my taxable marital status at work now that my husband passed away (which I should have done when it happened but ... just didn't). And yikes - my paycheck this...
Forum: Ask-An-Intuitive   03-06-2010, 02:34 AM
Replies: 1
  My son
Views: 431
Posted By Kiernan
Hi Jamie, My 3-year old's dad passed away...

Hi Jamie,

My 3-year old's dad passed away last fall. Will he be OK growing up without a father figure?
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-27-2010, 05:18 PM
Replies: 22
Views: 1,203
Posted By Kiernan
I'd probably put about $200 into the debt so you...

I'd probably put about $200 into the debt so you can continue to see that amount go down, and the rest into savings.
Forum: Parents as Partners   02-23-2010, 01:54 AM
Replies: 36
Views: 844
Posted By Kiernan
A civil lunch sounds perfectly healthy and...

A civil lunch sounds perfectly healthy and appropriate in this situation.
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-22-2010, 05:42 PM
Replies: 69
Views: 3,199
Posted By Kiernan
Quote: Originally Posted by Jane91...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jane91 http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15101237)
What was the intended purpose of the life...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-19-2010, 07:40 PM
Replies: 26
Views: 1,479
Posted By Kiernan
Are you assuming no support from your husband?...

Are you assuming no support from your husband? He ought to be paying for half of childcare, at least, even if you share custody. I think I've seen in your other threads that he pays quite a lot in...
Forum: Parents as Partners   02-18-2010, 11:32 AM
Replies: 363
Views: 14,690
Posted By Kiernan
Mary Beth, I have been there. Almost exactly...

Mary Beth, I have been there. Almost exactly there ... my xh had a very intense emotional affair (possibly more, I'm not sure) with a colleague. They were in constant contact, texting hundreds of...
Forum: Single Parenting   02-17-2010, 02:08 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,600
Posted By Kiernan
I'm very sorry. My ex was an alcoholic as well,...

I'm very sorry. My ex was an alcoholic as well, and unfortunately his illness got the best of him and he passed away last October.

I think a restraining order is your best option. Do you have...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-16-2010, 11:26 PM
Replies: 69
Views: 3,199
Posted By Kiernan
This is a good discussion so here's some more...

This is a good discussion so here's some more info/food for thought:

In terms of job stability, I'd say I'm a 7 on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most secure). The industry is doing well, the...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-15-2010, 01:28 PM
Replies: 69
Views: 3,199
Posted By Kiernan
This is great, I have a lot of notes to discuss...

This is great, I have a lot of notes to discuss with my financial planner when we meet next month.

Quote:
Originally Posted by nd_deadhead...
Forum: Single Parenting   02-14-2010, 09:33 PM
Replies: 63
Views: 7,448
Posted By Kiernan
You're not being too protective! My DS is only 3...

You're not being too protective! My DS is only 3 but I can't imagine letting him go into a locker room alone in three years.
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-14-2010, 05:36 PM
Replies: 69
Views: 3,199
Posted By Kiernan
Some great points, thanks! I'll add a bit more...

Some great points, thanks! I'll add a bit more detail because I am really appreciating all the perspectives (although I will definitely consult a professional as well):

My mortgage is a 30-year,...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   02-14-2010, 10:46 AM
Replies: 69
Views: 3,199
Posted By Kiernan
Quote: Originally Posted by Delicateflower...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Delicateflower http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15067459)
I would pay it off, then invest the...
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