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Forum: Special Needs Parenting   10-14-2016, 06:27 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 411
Posted By MamaRuga
Suspecting DD may be on the spectrum

My girls' father was diagnosed with aspergers two years before we split up. That was an incredibly tough relationship, but I learned a lot about how brains can work differently. I had thought that...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-15-2016, 07:53 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,412
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the feedback. It sounds like...

Thanks for the feedback. It sounds like killsthecat may have her own experience that is coloring the way she sees my situation. There seems to be reading into my story more than is actually there. ...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-14-2016, 05:02 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,412
Posted By MamaRuga
I can see how my reply came across as sounding...

I can see how my reply came across as sounding like I'm just looking for a dad for my girls. That's actually not the case. I'm perfectly happy being a family of three with just me and my girls if...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-13-2016, 05:31 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,412
Posted By MamaRuga
I think the main thing is that I really would...

I think the main thing is that I really would like to have a step dad for my girls. Their dad isn't really very involved (he sees them one afternoon a week). But my BF is an awesome dad figure in...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-12-2016, 08:14 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,412
Posted By MamaRuga
Is it worth trying to become a blended family?

I'm with a wonderful man who I love and with whom I am deeply compatible. We have a very loving and supportive relationship. It wasn't meant to turn into a long term relationship. But, two years...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-20-2014, 12:43 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 596
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the feedback. It was also helpful...

Thanks for the feedback. It was also helpful just to write my thoughts on the post here to hear myself thinking. I woke up this morning realizing that it is just going to be too much stress on my...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-19-2014, 10:04 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 596
Posted By MamaRuga
BF moving into extra room?

This is going to be long, but I feel like I need to give background context for my question.

I've been out of my marriage for 2 years. Since my youngest had just been born when things ended, I...
Forum: Single Parenting   01-22-2014, 08:55 PM
Replies: 40
Views: 2,481
Posted By MamaRuga
I was married for 11 years before STBX left....

I was married for 11 years before STBX left.  We've been separated over a year and finally getting on with the divorce.  My New Year focus for this year is to get "ready" to be ready to date.  The...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   01-02-2014, 11:25 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
I'm looking forward to having that space back....

I'm looking forward to having that space back. I'm feeling ready to shed the residue of the marriage and really make my home my very own space from top to bottom.  The 2013 challenge really gave me...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   01-01-2014, 11:07 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
Ok, a day late since we were out of town, but I...

Ok, a day late since we were out of town, but I DID IT!!!!
 
http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/joy.gif
 
Before I left I was able to get everything out of the house (or down into my...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-29-2013, 11:42 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 435
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the explanation.  That is very...

Thanks for the explanation.  That is very helpful!  
 
Sounds like I should move ahead with the court order as suggested by my lawyer.  It means we might have to wait a bit longer to get things...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   12-29-2013, 08:34 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
I think I've made it!!!   We are leaving...

I think I've made it!!!
 
We are leaving tomorrow to visit my brother and his family for New Year.  So that means I have to get my 2013 done before we leave.
 
I did an intensive clearing out on...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-29-2013, 07:36 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 435
Posted By MamaRuga
My xh and I are doing our separation agreement...

My xh and I are doing our separation agreement as a contract rather than a court order.  However, my lawyer says that most of the child custody agreements go into a court order and recommends that...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   12-14-2013, 09:09 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 505
Posted By MamaRuga
I have a lovely yet challenging nearly 6 y.o....

I have a lovely yet challenging nearly 6 y.o. daughter who is very headstrong.  She must do everything her very own way and will not follow my directions 9 times out of 10.  It is very exhausting...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   12-05-2013, 10:22 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
Trying to do a little bit every day.  I set a...

Trying to do a little bit every day.  I set a goal to do find 25 things to let go of every day.  But I was only able to keep it up for a couple days.  Over the past week I've thrown out about 45...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   11-26-2013, 12:16 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
Gave away some maternity and baby stuff to a...

Gave away some maternity and baby stuff to a super great older mom-to-be.  30 things total.  Tossed another 10 things. 
 
1305/2013 
 
708 left to go.... I think I can make it by Dec. 31 if I...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 07:48 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 668
Posted By MamaRuga
Thank you for the thoughtful and very helpful...

Thank you for the thoughtful and very helpful suggestions!  
 
Mama41, you give some wise advice.  We area blessed to have my parents living next door as well as a wide community of friends.  It...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 07:31 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 937
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks amber3902, I think that is good advice....

Thanks amber3902, I think that is good advice.  Now that our youngest is getting older I think that one afternoon a week is doable.  He has been saying that he wants to have more time with the...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 07:06 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 712
Posted By MamaRuga
Turned out my lawyer thought he was waiting for...

Turned out my lawyer thought he was waiting for info from me, so he got on our changes right away.  But now it has been a few weeks again.  We are so close to getting this wrapped up.  I just need...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-28-2013, 10:12 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 937
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the encouragement, justmama.  It is...

Thanks for the encouragement, justmama.  It is nice to hear that things can change. 
 
Rainface, it is great to hear from someone else who has been in an AS marriage too.  It was so surprising...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-25-2013, 08:36 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 937
Posted By MamaRuga
It has been a year since stbx moved out because...

It has been a year since stbx moved out because he wanted to focus on work and not put energy into relationship and family.
 
Well, now that he has his freedom he finds that he does want a new...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   10-18-2013, 09:25 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
It's been a while since I've checked in but I've...

It's been a while since I've checked in but I've still been clearing things out.
 
Our school had a big rummage sale which helped get me motivated again to start counting stuff.  
 
Donated 300...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-21-2013, 06:30 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 668
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the replies.  STBX is a workaholic...

Thanks for the replies.  STBX is a workaholic (main reason he left was that family was too distracting from his work) and also lacks the ability to have empathy (he has aspergers syndrome).  So both...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-11-2013, 06:40 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 668
Posted By MamaRuga
I'm looking for ideas in how to encourage my...

I'm looking for ideas in how to encourage my girls dad in parenting.
 
He left because he didn't want a family life and wanted to be able to devote himself to his life's work. I have full custody,...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   05-29-2013, 06:59 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 12,654
Posted By MamaRuga
STBX came over tonight and took a lot of stuff I...

STBX came over tonight and took a lot of stuff I had collected for him, plus some boxes out of his library.  25 items. 
 
915/2013
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