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Forum: Single Parenting   Today, 09:08 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 2,224
Posted By alpenglow
OP - if it's working for you, then probably no...

OP - if it's working for you, then probably no need to fix it. But I would wonder why a man who only sees his kid once per week would not be able to work enough to at least pay for gas. Is he being...
Forum: Single Parenting   Today, 09:05 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 2,224
Posted By alpenglow
Kata07, if this is an issue for you and your dh,...

Kata07, if this is an issue for you and your dh, then just buy a set of shoes/clothes for your house. Child support paid is generally to support parenting time at dh's ex's - not yours. Your dh is...
Forum: Parents as Partners   Yesterday, 11:07 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 451
Posted By alpenglow
Thanks Pokey! No inconvenience to me going...

Thanks Pokey! No inconvenience to me going on...but it's just reassuring for privacy reasons.
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-20-2014, 07:23 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 405
Posted By alpenglow
No one said he is bad. But I do find some of the...

No one said he is bad. But I do find some of the things you described about him as seeming rather controlling.
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-20-2014, 07:24 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 405
Posted By alpenglow
It does take more effort to supervise using pens,...

It does take more effort to supervise using pens, lol, so they don't write all over the walls! But that wouldn't stop me from letting a child use them in a child friendly spot as long as they...
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-19-2014, 08:16 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 405
Posted By alpenglow
I am sensing that he is trying to control things...

I am sensing that he is trying to control things that are probably not that realistic or helpful to control. Unwillingness to consider counselling is concerning to me. Is he willing to listen to...
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-19-2014, 06:25 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 451
Posted By alpenglow
Kestreldream, this is exactly why forums like...

Kestreldream, this is exactly why forums like this are needed. Thank you for speaking up.

Admins/mods... Are you out there? Can you look into restoring some privacy in this forum?
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-17-2014, 10:42 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 487
Posted By alpenglow
I think it all depends on the individuals. If...

I think it all depends on the individuals. If the spouse one is considering leaving has enduring traits of lacking empathy, grandiosity, hostility, passive aggressiveness, alcohol/substance abuse,...
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-16-2014, 04:33 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 487
Posted By alpenglow
Good point a & a. Reminds me of the time xh was...

Good point a & a. Reminds me of the time xh was trying to blame me for his health issues and alcoholism and numerous other things. For any marriage or relationship I think it's very important to...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-15-2014, 12:13 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 314
Posted By alpenglow
This is what makes that style of abuser so...

This is what makes that style of abuser so dangerous and damaging. It would be one thing if he was a jerk to everyone else too. But when it's targeted bullying, it serves to further isolate the...
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-14-2014, 11:14 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 487
Posted By alpenglow
I would definitely see a lawyer (and do not share...

I would definitely see a lawyer (and do not share that with him at all) to get a very realistic idea of what would be involved in separating. In the absence of abuse, there is no rush. You could...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-14-2014, 08:13 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 668
Posted By alpenglow
I realize I am a little late chiming in here (and...

I realize I am a little late chiming in here (and perhaps this is something you already know - but if so, then maybe it will help someone else who is lurking?). I am wondering OP if you have any...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-08-2014, 03:31 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 192
Posted By alpenglow
It's scary to not know what's wrong. Like pp...

It's scary to not know what's wrong. Like pp said, lots of things can cause blood in stool....e.g. milk allergy/intolerance. Try a post in the allergies forum - lots of mamas there have been...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-07-2014, 10:30 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 261
Posted By alpenglow
Welcome back! I underwent a little name...

Welcome back!
I underwent a little name change while you were gone...
I will never forget your advice and caring comments (regarding that person who turned out to be an everyday sociopath...)....
Forum: Parents as Partners   07-06-2014, 09:44 AM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,809
Posted By alpenglow
I think was good was that she was able to make...

I think was good was that she was able to make the distinction between what is her responsibility vs. his and take it less personally (which would help with her own emotional healing).

However,...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-05-2014, 02:43 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 365
Posted By alpenglow
That's a challenging situation. You definitely...

That's a challenging situation. You definitely don't want to put agreement in writing....but not saying anything can also imply agreement. I would consult a lawyer, show the emails and ask for...
Forum: Parents as Partners   06-27-2014, 05:17 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 451
Posted By alpenglow
Me too. It was a safe place for frank...

Me too. It was a safe place for frank disclosure, knowing that there were at least some restrictions that wouldn't allow threads to be found by google search, or snooping h's who join MDC just to...
Forum: Parents as Partners   06-26-2014, 07:57 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 451
Posted By alpenglow
Anyone Concerned that this Forum is now searchable and accessible to new members?

I just noticed that when I was logged out, I could still view the content in this forum. It used to be that one needed to be a member for 60 days (I think?) and have a minimum number of posts, and...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   06-25-2014, 03:53 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 447
Posted By alpenglow
"Your Money or Your Life". It's dated now, but...

"Your Money or Your Life". It's dated now, but the basic philosophy is sound.

"Cash Trails" is a good i-phone app for tracking spending and income. I highly recommend some sort of app like that...
Forum: The Mindful Home   06-22-2014, 05:43 PM
Replies: 0
Views: 135
Posted By alpenglow
Forum: Parents as Partners   06-16-2014, 05:38 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,809
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with Linda - I didn't like the excusing...

I agree with Linda - I didn't like the excusing and rationalizing the dad 's neglect of his family and his children. It is ok to need space from a partner but never ok, IMO, to also distance oneself...
Forum: Life with a Toddler   06-13-2014, 06:53 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 24,356
Posted By alpenglow
It's really important to learn the signs of...

It's really important to learn the signs of respiratory distress in toddlers - because they can't tell you when it's happening. Night coughing is an early sign of reactive airways disease (or...
Forum: Personal Growth   06-09-2014, 01:30 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 893
Posted By alpenglow
I know it probably goes against instincts to keep...

I know it probably goes against instincts to keep plans from a partner...but he has shown you who he is already, breaking into phone and emails. If you give him advance warning that you file, it...
Forum: Personal Growth   06-09-2014, 12:59 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 893
Posted By alpenglow
Keep your plans completely secret. Don't tell...

Keep your plans completely secret. Don't tell him anything. Get in touch with a DV shelter or get a safe leaving plan in place. Get copies of ALL financial documents and take them to your...
Forum: Parents as Partners   06-07-2014, 11:21 PM
Replies: 30
Views: 1,809
Posted By alpenglow
Thanks for updating. No surprises there. ...

Thanks for updating. No surprises there. Passive aggressiveness, contempt, stonewalling, non-listening husband...all behaviours that predict divorce. At least it ended amicably. I wonder if the...
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