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Forum: Unschooling   10-12-2016, 02:22 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 765
Posted By Alexander
Expect some amount of decompression (the time...

Expect some amount of decompression (the time that kids resist doing 'real' work).

The more pressured their past, and the longer you have left it, the more time it will take, sometimes years.
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Forum: Unschooling   10-12-2016, 01:43 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 994
Posted By Alexander
It seems to me that bullying occurs when the...

It seems to me that bullying occurs when the participants percieve that they are in a closed social system (such as a school or an office) where choice is missing, and a mechanism for justice is not...
Forum: Unschooling   10-12-2016, 01:20 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 3,017
Posted By Alexander
Thanks. I've been lurking too long! ...

Thanks. I've been lurking too long!

Recording is actually a good idea. Someone is actually coming to do that.

Perhaps I should begin with DDs double choco cookies and a coffee. The nervous...
Forum: Unschooling   10-11-2016, 07:54 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 3,017
Posted By Alexander
I must be getting old.

I am giving a talk next week. This is the third time I am running it, and have spent a lot of time collecting the slides for the new version.

But I am a procrastinator!

Usually I just open my...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   10-11-2016, 07:12 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 2,088
Posted By Alexander
Are you not missing a trick?

Why train out the carefree? She is 5. An idyllic age.

Although my DDs are older now, I don't regret resisting the "train 'em up" philosophy of yesteryear. I found in observing mine that the...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   10-11-2016, 06:44 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 1,169
Posted By Alexander
Is there a SO on the scene? Boys pick up on dads...

Is there a SO on the scene? Boys pick up on dads offering to help mums, without reference to the issue (ie not -> "See? Dad helps mum, you should too." ) Pre-plan with SO, this should be a joint...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   10-11-2016, 05:42 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,216
Posted By Alexander
I tend to agree with the OP. Being...

I tend to agree with the OP.

Being consistent is very important, but we have to look at what we are being consistent about.

I would say that we need to be consistent in our principles in very...
Forum: Unschooling   10-11-2016, 05:20 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 3,017
Posted By Alexander
Wow! Absolutely a brilliant example of "real...

Wow! Absolutely a brilliant example of "real Maths" in action!

And your self restraint... I bow to you.

Respect!

a
Forum: Gentle Discipline   11-27-2014, 03:59 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,800
Posted By Alexander
Basically, you are doing it right.

As I say, I think you are firmly on the right path.

Some hints to those who are trying this for the first time;

1) please remember to stick to a fixed timeout (eg, 1 min, 2 mins, whatever you...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-09-2010, 05:27 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 1,253
Posted By Alexander
PennyRoo. For me, you are obviously the norm....

PennyRoo. For me, you are obviously the norm. And if that is not the norm, then it should be. Certainly what you are doing in allowing a child to develop uninterrupted at what you think are...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-08-2010, 12:56 PM
Replies: 25
Views: 1,253
Posted By Alexander
well, we started by doing the jobs with the...

well, we started by doing the jobs with the kids. This helped them slide into doing independently.

Now 11 & 14. They hang up the washing. clear the table. pick the tomatos and berries. make...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   07-08-2010, 12:26 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 780
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by flower01...

Quote:
Originally Posted by flower01 http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15597786)
Can anyone help me with a good phrase he can...
Forum: Preteens and Teens   07-06-2010, 11:42 PM
Replies: 45
Views: 3,104
Posted By Alexander
This question depends so much on your child,...

This question depends so much on your child, their maturity, type and their ability to manage themselves socially.

In January, I banned ALL child sourced computer games and ALL youtube due to the...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-12-2010, 12:48 PM
Replies: 24
Views: 1,609
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by LynnS6...

Quote:
Originally Posted by LynnS6 http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15508895)
Children were given a bulb to squeeze (or a...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-11-2010, 12:28 AM
Replies: 24
Views: 1,609
Posted By Alexander
Yeah? It can get worse after it gets better!! ...

Yeah? It can get worse after it gets better!!

Mine are 10 and 14, and both are steadily becoming deaf!http://www.mothering.com/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-11-2010, 12:21 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 664
Posted By Alexander
first, hugs to you. . . . Of course, I...

first, hugs to you. . . .

Of course, I don't know what else, if anything is going on, (recently moved? changed school?), but given all things are =, here are some ideas:

1) It's a phase.
...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-10-2010, 10:46 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 754
Posted By Alexander
oh! BellinghamCrunchie... I think I love you. ...

oh! BellinghamCrunchie... I think I love you.

The only thing I'd add is interdiction.

Adults should be "tuned in" to what is going on in the room. I don't mean that they should be...
Forum: Dads   06-10-2010, 10:34 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 5,681
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by justKate...

Quote:
Originally Posted by justKate http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15505260)


Maybe Huz doesn't want her in the bath...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-07-2010, 11:20 AM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,965
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by olien...

Quote:
Originally Posted by olien http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15490698)



I got the UP video a yr ago for us...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-04-2010, 12:53 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 829
Posted By Alexander
Sighhhh! Ahhh! Chemicals! Sorry, I agree...

Sighhhh! Ahhh! Chemicals!

Sorry, I agree with nextcommercial. This is a crush.

Maybe worth having a little word with the young man (appologise for the phases she is going thru, no need to feel...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-04-2010, 12:42 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,371
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by FatherOf2...

Quote:
Originally Posted by FatherOf2 http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15480266)
Solely performance based child rearing is a...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   06-03-2010, 09:40 AM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,965
Posted By Alexander
Echoing some of the comment above, "don't beat...

Echoing some of the comment above, "don't beat yourself up".

Hitting any child shows a deep lack of understanding of parenting and the roles and responsibilities of adults and roles and abilities...
Forum: Dads   06-03-2010, 09:21 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 5,681
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by FatherOf2...

Quote:
Originally Posted by FatherOf2 http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15475849)
gnomes

hahahahaha too funny!
Forum: Special Needs Parenting   05-27-2010, 01:11 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 611
Posted By Alexander
Quote: Originally Posted by BetsyNY...

Quote:
Originally Posted by BetsyNY http://www.mothering.com/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif (http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/post/15442271)
Folks have said that before....I just don't...
Forum: Co-sleeping and the Family Bed   05-27-2010, 12:08 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 1,703
Posted By Alexander
Horrid! The Ezzo philosphy pops up like a...

Horrid!

The Ezzo philosphy pops up like a many headed hydra.

Those that promote it should be ashamed of themselves.
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