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Forum: Single Parenting   09-05-2007, 02:10 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 289
Posted By kathleenE
Oh, I feel so bad for you! Your post could just...

Oh, I feel so bad for you! Your post could just as easily have been written by me. (in fact, I'm sure there's an almost identical one in the archives here--probably several). I didn't get my heart...
Forum: Single Parenting   09-03-2007, 02:57 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 892
Posted By kathleenE
Gosh--In California, paying child support is not...

Gosh--In California, paying child support is not optional. In any divorce or legal separation where there are children, a child support order will be made by the judge. The judge makes it--the...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-30-2007, 09:18 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 335
Posted By kathleenE
so sorry to hear this, Sweeney. I have had...

so sorry to hear this, Sweeney. I have had similar experiences; but my advice would be to keep asking. Yes, as Vypros said, you *could* do it all on your own and feel stronger that way. But the fact...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-30-2007, 02:55 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 1,362
Posted By kathleenE
Quote: I know that I got myself here, so I'm...

Quote:
I know that I got myself here, so I'm not looking for any sympathy.
You know, Rubymoon, just because you had a hand in getting yourself where you are now DOESN'T mean that you don't deserve...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-29-2007, 01:58 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 1,362
Posted By kathleenE
Hugs to you! Every day is so hard; just feel...

Hugs to you! Every day is so hard; just feel triumphant each night as you go to bed that you made it through another day.

I wanted to comment on the women's studies thing. It's a hot field in...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-29-2007, 01:45 AM
Replies: 180
Views: 8,216
Posted By kathleenE
Haven't posted in several months, but here I am...

Haven't posted in several months, but here I am again. Still in Ventura, CA, still only separated from stbx because of my need for his health insurance. We share custody and have three boys: 14, 11,...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-19-2007, 12:10 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 711
Posted By kathleenE
We could never have split up our children,...

We could never have split up our children, because they are all boys, and my two oldest are each other's best friend. To have them lose that comfort and constant companionship, along with their...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-19-2007, 03:35 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 393
Posted By kathleenE
It sounds to me like he needed to get something...

It sounds to me like he needed to get something out of his system, and did it, and saw the value of what he had with your sister--thus the proposal. If he did have a few-weeks fling with somebody,...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-19-2007, 01:33 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 464
Posted By kathleenE
Your vengefulness is *not* harmless--it harms...

Your vengefulness is *not* harmless--it harms YOU!

I know, because I still feel it towards stbx. And I'm the only one suffering for it.

In my case, it's all about the events and non events of...
Forum: Single Parenting   01-02-2007, 02:54 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,937
Posted By kathleenE
Thank you so much, all of you, for your...

Thank you so much, all of you, for your encouragement and support. This depression thing is so strange. I was almost catatonic yesterday all day, though I had all three of the kids and had to tool...
Forum: Single Parenting   01-01-2007, 04:21 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,937
Posted By kathleenE
It has been almost a year now since stbx and i...

It has been almost a year now since stbx and i decided to part ways (I wanted it to end; he was very angry); and though I have battled depression on and off for the last 25 years or so, I expected...
Forum: Single Parenting   01-01-2007, 03:52 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 443
Posted By kathleenE
Uh....do you live anywhere near me by some 1 in...

Uh....do you live anywhere near me by some 1 in 10,000,000 chance? I desperately need someone to help me with my out of control house, and would hire you in an instant!

People are always looking...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-31-2006, 04:11 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 485
Posted By kathleenE
Yes, I am lonely and have been throughout this...

Yes, I am lonely and have been throughout this whole ordeal--the marriage, the separation last May (I was the one who couldn't bear it anymore); a move, a new job, no friends, and now, the holidays....
Forum: Single Parenting   11-05-2006, 12:10 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 370
Posted By kathleenE
I have *decided* not to feel bad about the...

I have *decided* not to feel bad about the financial help I get from my parents. They bought the house I am living in, and are not charging me a dime for rent, even though there's a mortgage on the...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-25-2006, 10:45 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 618
Posted By kathleenE
Why were these funds simply not deducted from...

Why were these funds simply not deducted from his wages continually? You don't need his consent for that; the court order goes directly to his employer. Honestly, this guy needs to be dragged into...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-17-2006, 10:51 PM
Replies: 81
Views: 2,223
Posted By kathleenE
Stbx has a Ph.D. From Yale. He pays the minimum,...

Stbx has a Ph.D. From Yale. He pays the minimum, and makes little enough that it all adds up to less than $2500 a year for me, with my own income put into the equation. He's 54. It's true that...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   10-16-2006, 01:54 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 491
Posted By kathleenE
I have raised one stepdaughter, who is now 26,...

I have raised one stepdaughter, who is now 26, and now am a newly-single mom with 3 boys, 13, 10, and 3. I would, if I were you, NEVER ask your stepkids to babysit your 6 yr. old. It is not their...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-11-2006, 02:46 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 635
Posted By kathleenE
Oh, if you're having unprotected sex all the...

Oh, if you're having unprotected sex all the time, and he doesn't know you were using birth control before; in fact, you haven't discussed it at all, then, pardon my saying so, "Duh!!!" Go ahead and...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-08-2006, 01:46 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 423
Posted By kathleenE
I'm so sorry, Dakota's mom. That's what I meant...

I'm so sorry, Dakota's mom. That's what I meant when I said it all depended on your resources. I stayed in a bad marriage for a long time partly because it seemed financially impossible to leave it....
Forum: Single Parenting   10-08-2006, 01:34 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 283
Posted By kathleenE
I really am trying not to fuck it up. That's why...

I really am trying not to fuck it up. That's why we moved to CA after I got sick--so that I could have some family support, work on regaining my health, see what happened, see if I could find a less...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-07-2006, 08:11 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 423
Posted By kathleenE
The real question is, why is he still your...

The real question is, why is he still your husband? You must have posted on this forum for a reason. Care to join us in single parenthood? It sounds like you *and* your son would be better off that...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-07-2006, 07:34 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 283
Posted By kathleenE
Have you guys read "Are you my Mother"? Where...

Have you guys read "Are you my Mother"? Where that baby bird pops out of the egg and goes off to look for his mother, and keeps thinking that a dog, or a cow, or an airplane is this mother? Well,...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-07-2006, 01:58 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 732
Posted By kathleenE
Just to add to the roster of complaints here, my...

Just to add to the roster of complaints here, my stbx was IN grad school for the entirety of our marriage--15 years! (he did work part-time, and full time for 3 years to put his daughter from a...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-06-2006, 12:52 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 676
Posted By kathleenE
I wish I had ever been in your position,...

I wish I had ever been in your position, actually! I spent years having sex with stbx only because I felt it was my wifely duty. And I was too stupid/scared/busy lying to myself, as well as being...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-05-2006, 02:18 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 398
Posted By kathleenE
Hey, I cry in the shower too! It really helps to...

Hey, I cry in the shower too! It really helps to have a good, hysterical crying session. It's even better if your kids are not there; you can really sob into a pillow with complete abandon.

We've...
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