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Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   05-29-2012, 07:09 AM
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Posted By alwayslearning66
We did one internationally and one through the...

We did one internationally and one through the foster care system. For the international process, there were educational groups operated by our agency that were most helpful, if not just to be with...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   05-01-2012, 09:07 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 260
Posted By alwayslearning66
I'm sorry to say, but patience and acceptance...

I'm sorry to say, but patience and acceptance are my suggestions. I say this from the experience of having a 9 year old girl we got at 3.5 from a Russian orphanage. Our 5 year old who has been with...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   03-27-2012, 10:49 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 897
Posted By alwayslearning66
I had a similar situation with my foster child...

I had a similar situation with my foster child in that my older child was in the exact class of a bio cousin upon placement of our younger child. The bio cousin stood up and announced to everyone...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   03-02-2012, 09:17 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 272
Posted By alwayslearning66
Getting that birth certificate with your names...

Getting that birth certificate with your names on it is one of the best feelings!
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   03-02-2012, 07:58 AM
Replies: 32
Views: 1,400
Posted By alwayslearning66
One piece that hasn't been said is what same sex...

One piece that hasn't been said is what same sex (potential) parents go through. I realize not everyone may be supportive of this family model, but our choices are restricted by jurisdiction far...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   02-03-2012, 08:40 AM
Replies: 12
Views: 466
Posted By alwayslearning66
Not that you need my input after the wise things...

Not that you need my input after the wise things already said, but I'd say you should absolutely feel free to turn down this referral. There's always a knee jerk response on the first referral of,...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   02-01-2012, 10:17 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 372
Posted By alwayslearning66
Ours was 3 when he came. We met him one time the...

Ours was 3 when he came. We met him one time the day before in a kinship placement that was very short term. They helped with the transition by talking us up and providing all his things neatly...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-24-2012, 07:31 AM
Replies: 48
Views: 5,939
Posted By alwayslearning66
Holy Cannoli! What about the GAL? Is s/he any...

Holy Cannoli! What about the GAL? Is s/he any help? The AAG was even in our speed dial for awhile, so maybe they could be of help?
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-24-2012, 07:20 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 575
Posted By alwayslearning66
Sagewinna mostly answered you. I just meant that...

Sagewinna mostly answered you. I just meant that if I felt I was innocent (i.e. the tables were turned), no matter how awful my actions have been, I'd want to know  my right to challenge a TPR. 
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-24-2012, 07:13 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 575
Posted By alwayslearning66
Oh I am so sorry you are waiting so long. The...

Oh I am so sorry you are waiting so long. The courts here received more judges during our wait through an appeal which caused it to shorten to 9 months. Our state actually has a statute on how long...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-20-2012, 10:14 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 575
Posted By alwayslearning66
The shrugging piece is infuriating. One thing...

The shrugging piece is infuriating. One thing our GAL told us that helped change our perspective a bit is that the bio fam has a right to due process under the law. Whether or not they have a...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-20-2012, 10:05 AM
Replies: 48
Views: 5,939
Posted By alwayslearning66
I am so sorry you're going through this. We've...

I am so sorry you're going through this. We've had some issues of lesser proportion in the past and have been told we can simply said, "No." It's amazing what power we have as the primary care...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-20-2012, 08:22 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 575
Posted By alwayslearning66
I've been there, and did have an appeal put in....

I've been there, and did have an appeal put in. We were assured they wouldn't win and by golly, DHHS was right. We were still plagued by doubt and a low level anxiety, so I understand your position....
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   01-18-2012, 08:47 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 389
Posted By alwayslearning66
How absolutely awful! I suppose you've already...

How absolutely awful! I suppose you've already begun treatment, but know that the quickest way to reduce a poisen ivy break out is a cold shower with a simple soap. Jewel weed and the like have no...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-21-2011, 07:51 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 532
Posted By alwayslearning66
DD is now 8, nearly 9, which is taking us into...

DD is now 8, nearly 9, which is taking us into new territory. A school mate came over yesterday and talked about getting a DS (hand held video game, I think) for her "Gotcha' Day". She's from China...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-20-2011, 06:53 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 237
Posted By alwayslearning66
He is able to calm down after separation. I'm...

He is able to calm down after separation. I'm working really hard to curb all of our negative behaviors. I feel like I have all the information I need, I just have to DO IT (better). Thanks for your...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-16-2011, 10:50 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 237
Posted By alwayslearning66
Hi. Our foster child is acting out against...

Hi.
Our foster child is acting out against authority increasingly. He's been with us nearly 2 years and is preadoptive (paperwork all in and we're waiting to fingerprint). We started him at a small...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-13-2011, 09:43 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,272
Posted By alwayslearning66
Yes, red flags are everywhere with her. She also...

Yes, red flags are everywhere with her. She also sent a thinly veiled threat by saying that she knows where we live and hasn't bothered us yet. You can see why the caseworker the other day spoke to...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-13-2011, 09:30 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,272
Posted By alwayslearning66
That was the plan - a CANEP (?) - until birth...

That was the plan - a CANEP (?) - until birth mom made a major error that caused it to be moot. 
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-09-2011, 07:34 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,272
Posted By alwayslearning66
I have to say I was surprised by the therapist...

I have to say I was surprised by the therapist who argued so deftly against seeing her so young. He sounded quite together and it may have more to do with the intracacies of her case at that time....
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-09-2011, 06:48 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 532
Posted By alwayslearning66
Uh-oh, I didn't realize my first response...

Uh-oh, I didn't realize my first response posted! 
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-09-2011, 06:48 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 532
Posted By alwayslearning66
I see your points, Queen Jane and Polliwog. We...

I see your points, Queen Jane and Polliwog. We use Family Day as a way to bring together the many emotions that may be involved. My kids came to us at 3.5, so there is no way we could ever erase th...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-09-2011, 06:32 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 532
Posted By alwayslearning66
This is why we use Family Day as our primary...

This is why we use Family Day as our primary term- to bring into discussion the idea of family and how all the players lead up to where we are now. Yes, it means there is sadness as well. Having a...
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-08-2011, 09:11 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,272
Posted By alwayslearning66
Pumpkingirl, how do I find that thread? I'd be...

Pumpkingirl, how do I find that thread? I'd be very interested in reading it as well.
Forum: Adoptive and Foster Parenting   12-08-2011, 09:02 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 532
Posted By alwayslearning66
Not sure if I was clear in my last message. I...

Not sure if I was clear in my last message. I meant to say that we recognize that many use Gotcha Day and refer to the same day using both that and Family Day. We know many families formed through...
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