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Forum: Single Parenting   07-28-2015, 07:32 AM
Replies: 7
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Posted By alpenglow
It's about living in a world that values...

It's about living in a world that values accountability and personal responsibility.

And what Mummoth said - a protective barrier from Dad suddenly reappearing and wanting full custody one day...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-18-2015, 11:23 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 226
Posted By alpenglow
I have found that when the kids are around, I...

I have found that when the kids are around, I hold it all together (well mostly) because I have no choice. They need me to be strong and the best role model I can be. But the first time they were...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-13-2015, 10:09 PM
Replies: 83
Views: 2,717
Posted By alpenglow
Thanks for updating us. I had been wondering how...

Thanks for updating us. I had been wondering how you were doing. The first year is the hardest, especially when things aren't settled financially and legally. It would be so difficult seeing the...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-08-2015, 06:32 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
That's really annoying (and lazy on his part),...

That's really annoying (and lazy on his part), especially if she is going to be going to school regularly and needs to maintain a sleep routine and wake up at a consistent time each day. I know you...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-08-2015, 06:28 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 287
Posted By alpenglow
I don't know anything about tax law in your...

I don't know anything about tax law in your area....but if you were in my area, there is the option for a transfer of funds from RRSP in his account, to an RRSP in your name - it's a tax sheltered...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-06-2015, 05:34 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 309
Posted By alpenglow
I totally agree with Puma. It can be difficult...

I totally agree with Puma. It can be difficult to set boundaries, but in the end respecting yourself and setting healthy boundaries is the most loving action over the long term. Your sister has no...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-06-2015, 05:15 PM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
If it helps you, then I see nothing wrong with...

If it helps you, then I see nothing wrong with seeking support here without disclosing identifiers. Parents as Partners forum has slightly higher security in that members only can view it.

If...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-05-2015, 10:56 PM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
Hmmm...if it was such a good conversation, then...

Hmmm...if it was such a good conversation, then why the secrecy? That's really odd.
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-05-2015, 10:20 PM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
Is it the 'everyone around me must always be...

Is it the 'everyone around me must always be positive and never show any emotion that isn't positive' thing? It's one thing if "I can't" is an automatic pattern and obstructing/opposing ideas...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   07-05-2015, 06:47 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 842
Posted By alpenglow
Mylie that's me too! I just hand sew a patch or...

Mylie that's me too! I just hand sew a patch or mend a tear here and there. (Or slap on a piece of duct tape, lol). Haven't figured out how to set up that sewing machine in a box-actually haven't...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-04-2015, 01:26 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
This concerns me....

This concerns me....
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   07-04-2015, 12:59 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
I will never forget how my xh went around to...

I will never forget how my xh went around to whoever he could, confiding in how "concerned", he was for me...and asked a couple closer friends to support me, but not validate my stories. I was...
Forum: Frugality & Finances   06-30-2015, 09:36 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 842
Posted By alpenglow
Cool thread! I took dd2's old too small...

Cool thread!

I took dd2's old too small sleeper with a fun print on it, and used parts of it to patch dd1's holes in her jeans. So she had little owls on her knees :-)

Duct tape to match the...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   06-30-2015, 10:06 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,296
Posted By alpenglow
He is triangulating. Just because he claims...

He is triangulating.

Just because he claims you are negative and pessimistic doesn't mean you actually are. It's how he is perceiving you. I don't like that he specifically targeted SIL to...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   06-30-2015, 09:54 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 556
Posted By alpenglow
Add to this the fact that the government in...

Add to this the fact that the government in Canada is giving higher priority to potential terrorism threats, than to the very real threats and terror faced by aboriginal women every day, made worse...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-29-2015, 05:21 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
:yeah

:yeah
Forum: Single Parenting   06-27-2015, 11:36 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
Yes! If you are not exercising your right of...

Yes! If you are not exercising your right of first refusal, you risk it not being ordered again in the future if and when xh goes after more custody. I have learned with these entitled...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-25-2015, 10:01 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
I just reread this. Wow? She can't even get it...

I just reread this. Wow? She can't even get it together enough to come to your house to pick up?

I think you need to be firm that he is responsible for transportation to and from your home for...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-25-2015, 09:55 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
And about tonight - who is picking them up or...

And about tonight - who is picking them up or dropping off? I think you could backtrack a bit and say (in text or whatever form of verifiable written communication you use, "please let me know what...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-25-2015, 09:51 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 567
Posted By alpenglow
Aw, crunchy, what an awkward situation for you. ...

Aw, crunchy, what an awkward situation for you.

A number of things concern me here:
1. Parentification - it sounds like the kids are fulfilling the girlfriends' needs....not the other way...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-21-2015, 03:15 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 341
Posted By alpenglow
Jojo - sounds like a very difficult situation. ...

Jojo - sounds like a very difficult situation. It sounds like you have a lot of fears about what will happen if you go after support. I think the place to start is with some free legal advice to...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-20-2015, 08:25 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 288
Posted By alpenglow
I agree with Spring. And sometimes we have to put...

I agree with Spring. And sometimes we have to put our own stuff on hold for the big picture. Do you want your son raised by an abuser? That's what I see happening here. Read anything by Lundy...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-16-2015, 06:29 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 783
Posted By alpenglow
I still do think it is disrespectful of the gf to...

I still do think it is disrespectful of the gf to insist on going to the game, without insight for how it can impact the mother-daughter dynamic. If I were a step mom, there is no way I would go to...
Forum: Single Parenting   06-16-2015, 06:13 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 269
Posted By alpenglow
Welcome back to MDC! Single parenting is tough....

Welcome back to MDC!
Single parenting is tough. It's nice to imagine ourselves as strong, but the reality is burning the candle at both ends much of the time. The first year is the toughest, so if...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   06-13-2015, 11:24 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 689
Posted By alpenglow
If they were following a policy of least...

If they were following a policy of least restraint, then walking away from spitting would be a good action. PIECES is a program that facilities often use in managing self protective behaviours (what...
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