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Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   Yesterday, 03:15 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 193
Posted By Mummoth
That's not good. It can be hard for a parent who...

That's not good. It can be hard for a parent who has been doing it all on their own for a while, whose previous partner was perhaps not trustworthy or reliable, to give up some of the control of how...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-29-2014, 01:13 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 193
Posted By Mummoth
What happens when you talk to your wife about...

What happens when you talk to your wife about this? I'm a bio mom who has been with my kids' step-dad for 5+ years. We've got sort of a game-plan that's been talked through, so whenever there's an...
Forum: Preteens and Teens   09-09-2014, 06:16 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 527
Posted By Mummoth
I have a friend who adopted a 'mom', and...

I have a friend who adopted a 'mom', and 'grandma' for her kids. She has parents but they live far away, my friend needed emotional support and the 'gramma's kids weren't going to have babies, so she...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-09-2014, 12:16 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 995
Posted By Mummoth
That sounds like a really good idea. As he steps...

That sounds like a really good idea. As he steps into a parenting role, it's going to be an adjustment for everyone. He's not going to do everything the same way you do, and that's okay, as long as...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-07-2014, 11:23 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 995
Posted By Mummoth
Is he usually like this? I'm not sure that nuking...

Is he usually like this? I'm not sure that nuking the whole relationship over one incident is necessarily the right choice. I think we are all guilty sometimes of being disappointed when an event...
Forum: Stay at Home Parents   09-05-2014, 12:08 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 304
Posted By Mummoth
I first would look carefully at what battles you...

I first would look carefully at what battles you want to pick and what you can let go... one thing with new parents is, they can tend to get entrenched in the way they do things, even between the...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-01-2014, 03:42 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 270
Posted By Mummoth
My kids were 5 and 7 and with me 100% of the time...

My kids were 5 and 7 and with me 100% of the time when they met their step-dad, and they were both excited to get to know him. My son is now 12 and I think it would be a completely different scenario...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   08-26-2014, 06:28 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 326
Posted By Mummoth
You can't afford to pay for a plane ticket for...

You can't afford to pay for a plane ticket for her, period. It's unfortunate that she might not get to see her brother in his final days, but she can go into debt/add to her own credit card debt to...
Forum: Stay at Home Parents   08-26-2014, 04:19 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 699
Posted By Mummoth
Sometimes it helps to do little bits of jobs...

Sometimes it helps to do little bits of jobs instead of thinking of entire rooms needing to be cleaned. And lots of things don't need to be cleaned perfectly to look better. An example is, lots of...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-25-2014, 11:18 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 937
Posted By Mummoth
My ex has pulled this one, the difference being...

My ex has pulled this one, the difference being that he successfully convinced my son it was a good idea. He is 12 and doesn't like our rules so sees it as an escape from everything he doesn't want...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-22-2014, 04:14 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 426
Posted By Mummoth
Wow, I think I've said this before but... she...

Wow, I think I've said this before but... she *really* needs to find a better hobby. Is that going to be a big mess to straighten out?
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-16-2014, 01:43 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 390
Posted By Mummoth
If she's an adult I would have a lot less...

If she's an adult I would have a lot less patience for that kind of behaviour than a teenager or kid. I'd lay it out there that if she succeeds in driving you away, she will be partially responsible...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-16-2014, 12:53 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 256
Posted By Mummoth
Hmm, I'd try working on it from the boundaries...

Hmm, I'd try working on it from the boundaries angle. That sounds like it's the core of the issue... she sounds like she might just be a touchy-feely kind of person so she's going to have to learn to...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-08-2014, 11:29 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 845
Posted By Mummoth
Would it be possible to have the guardian ad...

Would it be possible to have the guardian ad litem call him and/or his mom at this point? I guess he's missed picture day and orientation by now, unfortunately. Though if he still wants to get the...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-06-2014, 02:45 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 845
Posted By Mummoth
It's sickening that he's got to go through that....

It's sickening that he's got to go through that. Parents are supposed to be mostly concerned with what they can do for their kids, not what they can get from them. Kids are super forgiving and...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-05-2014, 09:58 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 845
Posted By Mummoth
Wow. The only thing I can think is, why would he...

Wow. The only thing I can think is, why would he ever go back now that this has happened? He must feel that he's being held hostage.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-05-2014, 12:15 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 476
Posted By Mummoth
Have you talked to your husband or any of his...

Have you talked to your husband or any of his girls about it? Do your girls wish they were included more? Do they invite his girls over to their places? Is it possible that a few of them don't get...
Forum: Preteens and Teens   08-01-2014, 02:27 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 682
Posted By Mummoth
Ugh, this is my son. He's been so nasty with his...

Ugh, this is my son. He's been so nasty with his 10 year old sister that on a few occasions we've left him at home when we went swimming or shopping, just to give her a break. I've flat-out told him...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-26-2014, 01:48 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 444
Posted By Mummoth
He may or may not get better, but you can...

He may or may not get better, but you can minimize how it affects your life. When he refuses to bring the kids to camp, what happens? That is the kind of thing where I would completely disengage. My...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-21-2014, 06:38 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 2,831
Posted By Mummoth
How old is your step son? My son was super hard...

How old is your step son? My son was super hard on shoes for a long time... probably the worst between age 3 and age 10? I would buy him new shoes every 3 or 4 months and he would completely destroy...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-20-2014, 07:28 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,079
Posted By Mummoth
This is all just perfect, wonderful advice. ...

This is all just perfect, wonderful advice.

Being open about communication has helped in my family as well. When planning a visit, my ex usually says he's available for a certain number of nights,...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-17-2014, 04:29 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,079
Posted By Mummoth
That is terrible. Hopefully it's obvious to a...

That is terrible. Hopefully it's obvious to a judge what he's trying to do.

My ex sees the kids about once a month, for a weekend. He often goes off to visit friends or ??? while the kids are...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-17-2014, 11:28 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,079
Posted By Mummoth
No, not at all! I think the court tries to treat...

No, not at all! I think the court tries to treat the biological parents equally... for most people, the kids spend a significant amount of time out of the parents direct care... they go to school and...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-16-2014, 11:05 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 257
Posted By Mummoth
If I was concerned I was going to get stuck with...

If I was concerned I was going to get stuck with the entire bill, I would be pretty forward about it right now. "What did you have in mind for a budget?" or "I am able to contribute $X toward...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-15-2014, 11:55 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 5,662
Posted By Mummoth
I don't think there's anything wrong with telling...

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling them you tried to call. The details of why aren't important for them to know.

My ex doesn't answer his phone, either. The kids call him from...
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