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Forum: Single Parenting   01-22-2014, 07:55 PM
Replies: 40
Views: 1,939
Posted By MamaRuga
I was married for 11 years before STBX left....

I was married for 11 years before STBX left.  We've been separated over a year and finally getting on with the divorce.  My New Year focus for this year is to get "ready" to be ready to date.  The...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   01-02-2014, 10:25 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
I'm looking forward to having that space back....

I'm looking forward to having that space back. I'm feeling ready to shed the residue of the marriage and really make my home my very own space from top to bottom.  The 2013 challenge really gave me...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   01-01-2014, 10:07 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
Ok, a day late since we were out of town, but I...

Ok, a day late since we were out of town, but I DID IT!!!!
 
http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/joy.gif
 
Before I left I was able to get everything out of the house (or down into my...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-29-2013, 10:42 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 154
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the explanation.  That is very...

Thanks for the explanation.  That is very helpful!  
 
Sounds like I should move ahead with the court order as suggested by my lawyer.  It means we might have to wait a bit longer to get things...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   12-29-2013, 07:34 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
I think I've made it!!!   We are leaving...

I think I've made it!!!
 
We are leaving tomorrow to visit my brother and his family for New Year.  So that means I have to get my 2013 done before we leave.
 
I did an intensive clearing out on...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-29-2013, 06:36 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 154
Posted By MamaRuga
My xh and I are doing our separation agreement...

My xh and I are doing our separation agreement as a contract rather than a court order.  However, my lawyer says that most of the child custody agreements go into a court order and recommends that...
Forum: Gentle Discipline   12-14-2013, 08:09 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 186
Posted By MamaRuga
I have a lovely yet challenging nearly 6 y.o....

I have a lovely yet challenging nearly 6 y.o. daughter who is very headstrong.  She must do everything her very own way and will not follow my directions 9 times out of 10.  It is very exhausting...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   12-05-2013, 09:22 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
Trying to do a little bit every day.  I set a...

Trying to do a little bit every day.  I set a goal to do find 25 things to let go of every day.  But I was only able to keep it up for a couple days.  Over the past week I've thrown out about 45...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   11-26-2013, 11:16 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
Gave away some maternity and baby stuff to a...

Gave away some maternity and baby stuff to a super great older mom-to-be.  30 things total.  Tossed another 10 things. 
 
1305/2013 
 
708 left to go.... I think I can make it by Dec. 31 if I...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 06:48 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 401
Posted By MamaRuga
Thank you for the thoughtful and very helpful...

Thank you for the thoughtful and very helpful suggestions!  
 
Mama41, you give some wise advice.  We area blessed to have my parents living next door as well as a wide community of friends.  It...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 06:31 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 554
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks amber3902, I think that is good advice....

Thanks amber3902, I think that is good advice.  Now that our youngest is getting older I think that one afternoon a week is doable.  He has been saying that he wants to have more time with the...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-10-2013, 06:06 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 467
Posted By MamaRuga
Turned out my lawyer thought he was waiting for...

Turned out my lawyer thought he was waiting for info from me, so he got on our changes right away.  But now it has been a few weeks again.  We are so close to getting this wrapped up.  I just need...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-28-2013, 09:12 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 554
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the encouragement, justmama.  It is...

Thanks for the encouragement, justmama.  It is nice to hear that things can change. 
 
Rainface, it is great to hear from someone else who has been in an AS marriage too.  It was so surprising...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-25-2013, 07:36 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 554
Posted By MamaRuga
It has been a year since stbx moved out because...

It has been a year since stbx moved out because he wanted to focus on work and not put energy into relationship and family.
 
Well, now that he has his freedom he finds that he does want a new...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   10-18-2013, 08:25 AM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
It's been a while since I've checked in but I've...

It's been a while since I've checked in but I've still been clearing things out.
 
Our school had a big rummage sale which helped get me motivated again to start counting stuff.  
 
Donated 300...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-21-2013, 05:30 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 401
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks for the replies.  STBX is a workaholic...

Thanks for the replies.  STBX is a workaholic (main reason he left was that family was too distracting from his work) and also lacks the ability to have empathy (he has aspergers syndrome).  So both...
Forum: Single Parenting   08-11-2013, 05:40 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 401
Posted By MamaRuga
I'm looking for ideas in how to encourage my...

I'm looking for ideas in how to encourage my girls dad in parenting.
 
He left because he didn't want a family life and wanted to be able to devote himself to his life's work. I have full custody,...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   05-29-2013, 05:59 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
STBX came over tonight and took a lot of stuff I...

STBX came over tonight and took a lot of stuff I had collected for him, plus some boxes out of his library.  25 items. 
 
915/2013
Forum: Organize & Declutter   05-27-2013, 08:27 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
Yikes, I've been so bogged down over here.  We...

Yikes, I've been so bogged down over here.  We had family for Easter, a full house for DD2 baptism, my grandmother died, then another full house for her service, then a month-long house guest.  It...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-06-2013, 07:19 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 467
Posted By MamaRuga
Thanks!  Yes, I'm getting good support.  All I...

Thanks!  Yes, I'm getting good support.  All I really need to is get more sleep and I'm sure I could be more on top of this lawyer thing.   Its just a hard combination to push through the legal...
Forum: Family Safety   05-05-2013, 06:57 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 726
Posted By MamaRuga
I know that the recommendation is to get a new...

I know that the recommendation is to get a new mattress for baby #2 to decrease chances of SIDS.  I'm sure that many families just reuse their first one, though.
 
I've got DD #1 mattress that she...
Forum: Single Parenting   05-05-2013, 06:24 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 467
Posted By MamaRuga
Ok, thanks for the encouragement.  I will call...

Ok, thanks for the encouragement.  I will call and email them again tomorrow.  I just really would like to not have to hound them.  I have enough on my plate as it is.  But, since I paid the money I...
Forum: Organize & Declutter   05-02-2013, 07:32 PM
Replies: 676
Views: 8,738
Posted By MamaRuga
Well, I didn't meet my goal of 1000 by May 1....

Well, I didn't meet my goal of 1000 by May 1.  We've had a crazy past few weeks here.  I'm cutting myself some slack.  Maybe I'll set a new goal of June 1.  
 
I did give away a sweater today....
Forum: Single Parenting   05-02-2013, 07:19 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 467
Posted By MamaRuga
That makes sense.  I guess I didn't mean having...

That makes sense.  I guess I didn't mean having the SA agreement signed and finalized but rather just having it in hand so that STBX could review it with a lawyer.  I'm just wondering if I shouldn't...
Forum: Single Parenting   04-30-2013, 06:34 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 467
Posted By MamaRuga
STBX and I are in agreement about most...

STBX and I are in agreement about most everything for our separation agreement and custody (at least at this point we are, but nothing is signed yet).
 
I did end up hiring my own lawyer to write...
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