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Forum: Single Parenting   Today, 10:47 AM
Replies: 8
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Posted By alpenglow
Smart move to write that in!

Smart move to write that in!
Forum: Single Parenting   Today, 09:43 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 98
Posted By alpenglow
He can't claim you duped him. He signed it. ...

He can't claim you duped him. He signed it. It's his problem he didn't read it, and frankly that looks like a pretty silly admission to make! Don't be surprised if that story does change though,...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-20-2014, 03:57 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 200
Posted By alpenglow
Lots of good thoughts here. I really think...

Lots of good thoughts here.

I really think consulting several family law lawyers in your town is warranted before considering doing anything. Get informed with facts and your local laws.
Forum: Personal Growth   12-16-2014, 02:16 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,856
Posted By alpenglow
11. Staying up too late and getting sleep...

11. Staying up too late and getting sleep deprived trying to take care of numbers 1-10....
Forum: The Childhood Years   12-15-2014, 12:26 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 88
Posted By alpenglow
Any sort of video game that involves 'getting...

Any sort of video game that involves 'getting killed' sounds violent to me. Not sure how much the TV is on in background at home, but this can overwhelm young brains, bombarding with images of...
Forum: Personal Growth   12-13-2014, 11:14 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 70
Posted By alpenglow
Is he open to marital counselling? If you...

Is he open to marital counselling?
If you haven't already read it, Codependent No More might be a helpful resource.
Forum: The Childhood Years   12-13-2014, 11:04 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 263
Posted By alpenglow
Is mom angry? Is dad angry at mom? How is...

Is mom angry? Is dad angry at mom? How is their communication? That could be the key. Also EOW is not very frequent contact for dad. Is there are least some midweek access for dinner, etc.? ...
Forum: The Childhood Years   12-13-2014, 10:52 PM
Replies: 28
Views: 357
Posted By alpenglow
I wouldn't be comfortable. Legal or not, it is a...

I wouldn't be comfortable. Legal or not, it is a still a mind altering substance. Maybe some people aren't affected as much as others....but without doing actual objective standardized testing, you...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-07-2014, 09:57 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 86
Posted By alpenglow
Starting with saying no to demands is a good one....

Starting with saying no to demands is a good one. There are lots of variations on the 1-2-3 Magic program (that involves timeouts for 'stop' behaviour - e.g. whining, namecalling, etc.). But they...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-05-2014, 09:03 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 522
Posted By alpenglow
If he is manipulative, then HE could be the one...

If he is manipulative, then HE could be the one implying you are high maintenance (a projection). Often a manipulative person wants a person to control, and implying you are high maintenance and...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-03-2014, 04:59 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 127
Posted By alpenglow
Sorry mama you are going through this. I don't...

Sorry mama you are going through this. I don't see anyone has responded yet, so I'm bumping this up.

My vote on coping strategy is to try to build a support network of single moms and other...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-03-2014, 04:52 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 522
Posted By alpenglow
Ugh. I have to say that my "covert narcissist"...

Ugh. I have to say that my "covert narcissist" radar is totally spinning right now. He is viewing his own potential kids as little mini-me extensions of himself, ignoring yours or favouring one...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-03-2014, 04:41 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 522
Posted By alpenglow
I love that quote! It's by Maya Angelou. An...

I love that quote! It's by Maya Angelou. An amazing strong woman.
Forum: Single Parenting   12-03-2014, 04:39 PM
Replies: 32
Views: 522
Posted By alpenglow
Honestly, he doesn't sound so amazing to you if...

Honestly, he doesn't sound so amazing to you if he is rude and stonewalling your children. The man doesn't like kids. Watch how he treats yours - and that's how he would treat his own.

I...
Forum: Single Parenting   12-03-2014, 12:20 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 235
Posted By alpenglow
Yes, be very careful about using money as a...

Yes, be very careful about using money as a negotiation tool. Support is a completely separate issue from other things, and it could hurt you legally. There may be other ways to negotiate through...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-28-2014, 09:53 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 235
Posted By alpenglow
Agree with above. If you let pride win, he wins...

Agree with above. If you let pride win, he wins and your dd loses out on much needed support. You are playing right into his hands and manipulations. RESP's are a great idea, especially in Canada...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   11-25-2014, 01:14 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 99
Posted By alpenglow
I think boundaries are a big part of how much of...

I think boundaries are a big part of how much of other people's stuff to own as your own. A lot of negative feelings can come from allowing your boundaries to be crossed, or having expectations...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-25-2014, 12:08 AM
Replies: 20
Views: 331
Posted By alpenglow
I'm kind of reading the situation like...

I'm kind of reading the situation like blessedwithboys. I would think you just want to have the necessary paperwork to move, and then perhaps deal with the costs of airfares once over there? (and be...
Forum: The Childhood Years   11-22-2014, 10:34 AM
Replies: 70
Views: 5,520
Posted By alpenglow
Anonamom, thank you so much for updating us. ...

Anonamom, thank you so much for updating us. Your posts have haunted me and I wish I could send some guardian angels to give you comfort and healing. Congratulations on the birth of a healthy baby,...
Forum: Personal Growth   11-19-2014, 01:33 AM
Replies: 31
Views: 1,594
Posted By alpenglow
I relate to having had difficulty asking for help...

I relate to having had difficulty asking for help in the past - grew up in a family with lots of female martyrdom (in a stoic and strong way, not a manipulative way) modelled and a primary role model...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-18-2014, 11:54 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 19
Posted By alpenglow
Good idea. Subbing. If I find any, I will share.

Good idea. Subbing. If I find any, I will share.
Forum: Single Parenting   11-18-2014, 11:48 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 121
Posted By alpenglow
Aw, hugs, Mama. What a challenging situation. ...

Aw, hugs, Mama. What a challenging situation.

The answers to your questions about custody will vary depending on the legal climate in your area. Some places are pro primary residence for young...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-17-2014, 10:00 PM
Replies: 53
Views: 593
Posted By alpenglow
I wanted to add - in case you aren't already -...

I wanted to add - in case you aren't already - please protect and guard your privacy. (you seem very astute....so maybe I will say this in case it helps a reader). If he knows your MDC username, or...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-17-2014, 09:51 PM
Replies: 53
Views: 593
Posted By alpenglow
I echo this. I never thought my x would become...

I echo this. I never thought my x would become as intimidating as he did. And the lies he tried to pull after separation! My walking on egghshells was so unconscious until the end when I finally...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-17-2014, 11:44 AM
Replies: 53
Views: 593
Posted By alpenglow
Bug hugs. This is why so many people stay. I...

Bug hugs. This is why so many people stay. I think the thing to do is to empower yourself with some solid legal advice from a very experienced family law lawyer in your area, who can give you an...
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