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Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   Today, 03:42 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 124
Posted By Mummoth
My kids were 5 and 7 and with me 100% of the time...

My kids were 5 and 7 and with me 100% of the time when they met their step-dad, and they were both excited to get to know him. My son is now 12 and I think it would be a completely different scenario...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   08-26-2014, 06:28 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 236
Posted By Mummoth
You can't afford to pay for a plane ticket for...

You can't afford to pay for a plane ticket for her, period. It's unfortunate that she might not get to see her brother in his final days, but she can go into debt/add to her own credit card debt to...
Forum: Stay at Home Parents   08-26-2014, 04:19 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 279
Posted By Mummoth
Sometimes it helps to do little bits of jobs...

Sometimes it helps to do little bits of jobs instead of thinking of entire rooms needing to be cleaned. And lots of things don't need to be cleaned perfectly to look better. An example is, lots of...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-25-2014, 11:18 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 328
Posted By Mummoth
My ex has pulled this one, the difference being...

My ex has pulled this one, the difference being that he successfully convinced my son it was a good idea. He is 12 and doesn't like our rules so sees it as an escape from everything he doesn't want...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-22-2014, 04:14 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 291
Posted By Mummoth
Wow, I think I've said this before but... she...

Wow, I think I've said this before but... she *really* needs to find a better hobby. Is that going to be a big mess to straighten out?
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-16-2014, 01:43 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 303
Posted By Mummoth
If she's an adult I would have a lot less...

If she's an adult I would have a lot less patience for that kind of behaviour than a teenager or kid. I'd lay it out there that if she succeeds in driving you away, she will be partially responsible...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-16-2014, 12:53 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 187
Posted By Mummoth
Hmm, I'd try working on it from the boundaries...

Hmm, I'd try working on it from the boundaries angle. That sounds like it's the core of the issue... she sounds like she might just be a touchy-feely kind of person so she's going to have to learn to...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-08-2014, 11:29 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 720
Posted By Mummoth
Would it be possible to have the guardian ad...

Would it be possible to have the guardian ad litem call him and/or his mom at this point? I guess he's missed picture day and orientation by now, unfortunately. Though if he still wants to get the...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-06-2014, 02:45 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 720
Posted By Mummoth
It's sickening that he's got to go through that....

It's sickening that he's got to go through that. Parents are supposed to be mostly concerned with what they can do for their kids, not what they can get from them. Kids are super forgiving and...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-05-2014, 09:58 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 720
Posted By Mummoth
Wow. The only thing I can think is, why would he...

Wow. The only thing I can think is, why would he ever go back now that this has happened? He must feel that he's being held hostage.
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   08-05-2014, 12:15 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 381
Posted By Mummoth
Have you talked to your husband or any of his...

Have you talked to your husband or any of his girls about it? Do your girls wish they were included more? Do they invite his girls over to their places? Is it possible that a few of them don't get...
Forum: Preteens and Teens   08-01-2014, 02:27 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 586
Posted By Mummoth
Ugh, this is my son. He's been so nasty with his...

Ugh, this is my son. He's been so nasty with his 10 year old sister that on a few occasions we've left him at home when we went swimming or shopping, just to give her a break. I've flat-out told him...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-26-2014, 01:48 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 360
Posted By Mummoth
He may or may not get better, but you can...

He may or may not get better, but you can minimize how it affects your life. When he refuses to bring the kids to camp, what happens? That is the kind of thing where I would completely disengage. My...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-21-2014, 06:38 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 2,620
Posted By Mummoth
How old is your step son? My son was super hard...

How old is your step son? My son was super hard on shoes for a long time... probably the worst between age 3 and age 10? I would buy him new shoes every 3 or 4 months and he would completely destroy...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-20-2014, 07:28 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 954
Posted By Mummoth
This is all just perfect, wonderful advice. ...

This is all just perfect, wonderful advice.

Being open about communication has helped in my family as well. When planning a visit, my ex usually says he's available for a certain number of nights,...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-17-2014, 04:29 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 954
Posted By Mummoth
That is terrible. Hopefully it's obvious to a...

That is terrible. Hopefully it's obvious to a judge what he's trying to do.

My ex sees the kids about once a month, for a weekend. He often goes off to visit friends or ??? while the kids are...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-17-2014, 11:28 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 954
Posted By Mummoth
No, not at all! I think the court tries to treat...

No, not at all! I think the court tries to treat the biological parents equally... for most people, the kids spend a significant amount of time out of the parents direct care... they go to school and...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-16-2014, 11:05 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 229
Posted By Mummoth
If I was concerned I was going to get stuck with...

If I was concerned I was going to get stuck with the entire bill, I would be pretty forward about it right now. "What did you have in mind for a budget?" or "I am able to contribute $X toward...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-15-2014, 11:55 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 4,818
Posted By Mummoth
I don't think there's anything wrong with telling...

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling them you tried to call. The details of why aren't important for them to know.

My ex doesn't answer his phone, either. The kids call him from...
Forum: Stay at Home Parents   07-14-2014, 03:18 PM
Replies: 20
Views: 953
Posted By Mummoth
Welcome! I'm sorry you're having such a...

Welcome!

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I don't know if this will come as any consolation, but when you have a baby is one of the hardest parts of a marriage. Even with a supportive,...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-14-2014, 10:02 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 324
Posted By Mummoth
When he's asking for ideas, give them! You don't...

When he's asking for ideas, give them! You don't need to comment how how he has done things in the past, just go "This sometimes works..." or "Some people try..." Being super passive was probably the...
Forum: Single Parenting   07-14-2014, 12:46 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 462
Posted By Mummoth
Forward the email to yourself and make a note of...

Forward the email to yourself and make a note of your thoughts on his comment. I agree that his claim won't make much difference in court but it might give you peace of mind to document your opinion...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-14-2014, 12:22 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 954
Posted By Mummoth
In court is a whole other story. Even given all...

In court is a whole other story. Even given all my husband does for the kids, he is pretty much irrelevant to them.

The court isn't going to expect your ex to spend all of his custody time with...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-12-2014, 04:02 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 954
Posted By Mummoth
I think it depends on how involved they are in...

I think it depends on how involved they are in the kids life, but that goes the same for bio parents. If you aren't doing any parentING, then how can you call yourself a parent? My husband is a...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   06-24-2014, 08:54 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 713
Posted By Mummoth
Yeah, I think you nailed it... the material he...

Yeah, I think you nailed it... the material he needs from me to 'spin is anything that supports the sob story he tells himself and his girlfriend that I don't let him see the kids. He doesn't get...
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