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Forum: Parents as Partners   04-12-2014, 06:57 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
Mamatoabirdie, I appreciate your perspective. I...

Mamatoabirdie, I appreciate your perspective. I would be interested in hearing more if you want to share, either here or by pm.

While I understand that he is responsible for his actions, and...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-11-2014, 11:21 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
It makes perfect sense. And intellectually I...

It makes perfect sense. And intellectually I agree with what you are saying, but emotionally it doesn't feel like that. I was vulnerable and unguarded with him. I felt very loved and accepted. I had...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-11-2014, 08:39 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
I feel like I'm done digging. After yesterday's...

I feel like I'm done digging. After yesterday's new round of confessions, and my talk with the stripper, some gaps in his story are filled in and I feel like I know enough. Maybe he was just a...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-11-2014, 12:52 AM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
He also said (when I said he never loved me,...

He also said (when I said he never loved me, because THAT is not love):

I felt incredible love for you. I also felt entitlement. I was an asshole. Huge understatement.
I made incredible...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-10-2014, 10:18 PM
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Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
He said this: I dont know what i was...

He said this:

I dont know what i was thinking. it was a false reality that i could exist in and escape responsibilities i guess. but nothing ever happened. I deserve whatever pain is waiting for...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-10-2014, 10:01 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
I called the stripper he made business cards...

I called the stripper he made business cards for. It was easy, her phone number was right on the card and the image was in his email. I left her a message identifying myself and telling her that I'm...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-10-2014, 01:48 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
He couldn't afford it! It was killing us! We...

He couldn't afford it! It was killing us! We were having a hard time even making rent, and I was desperately trying to rein in our grocery spending, talking to him about. Not going to the coffee...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-10-2014, 11:19 AM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
He's told me a lot more. And I was able to...

He's told me a lot more. And I was able to recover that email account. There were two women he tried to contact for sex. The prostitute two days before I found out (he emailed her 3/17, she emailed...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-10-2014, 10:58 AM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
Thanks, ladies. My baby is almost 7 months old....

Thanks, ladies. My baby is almost 7 months old. He's just started eating some solids, though not everyday. I have some breast milk in the freezer, not much, maybe 20 oz in 2oz bags. It's good for...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-09-2014, 05:53 PM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
Aggie Pop, you're so right. I learned my lesson...

Aggie Pop, you're so right. I learned my lesson the hard way. All I had to say is I don't want to live- not even a specific threat, and that was enough. Yes, choose your words carefully...
...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-09-2014, 09:20 AM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
I'm moving this weekend, I think. So unprepared...

I'm moving this weekend, I think. So unprepared and I need his help. Haven't started packing yet, but I can't wait to get it over with. I spoke with my old boss, who has become a dear friend, and my...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-08-2014, 10:00 PM
Replies: 76
Views: 2,126
Posted By Jennyanydots
Yeah to the above. I had a great attorney who...

Yeah to the above. I had a great attorney who advised me to have papers drawn up giving me the right to move with the kids without regard to geographic location, and just hope he didn't notice. He...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-08-2014, 02:13 AM
Replies: 101
Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
I'm having such a hard time managing my emotions...

I'm having such a hard time managing my emotions about his cheating. I feel like a fool. I feel invalidated as a woman, and I am so scared of the future. I don't honestly know what I want out of...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-08-2014, 01:57 AM
Replies: 101
Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
Fine. Whatever. But the constant push to focus...

Fine. Whatever. But the constant push to focus on that completely ignores the very painful feelings I am dealing with. The betrayal and lack of awareness of my own life. The humiliation and shame of...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-07-2014, 03:20 PM
Replies: 101
Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
I find the tunnel vision focus on the physical...

I find the tunnel vision focus on the physical aspect of this situation, and the one size fits all, oversimplification of physical abusers unhelpful and somewhat offensive. I didn't post here to...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-06-2014, 10:56 PM
Replies: 101
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Posted By Jennyanydots
I feel like I hesitate to believe anything less...

I feel like I hesitate to believe anything less than the worst, partly because I hate the thought of being a gullible fool all over again. However, a few things are making me start to believe his...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-05-2014, 09:35 AM
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Posted By Jennyanydots
I would want 50/50 custody, just to be clear....

I would want 50/50 custody, just to be clear. He's a good dad, and I have no interest in being the only or primary parent- btdt. Thanks for the advice. I'm really looking for help sorting out my...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-04-2014, 07:39 PM
Replies: 76
Views: 2,126
Posted By Jennyanydots
Yes, kitteh has a good point. It reminds me of a...

Yes, kitteh has a good point. It reminds me of a time when my best friend tried to give me bad news about what my ex was up to- I rejected the news and her along with it. We didn't talk for a while...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-04-2014, 01:20 PM
Replies: 76
Views: 2,126
Posted By Jennyanydots
in this case, I think I WOULD tell the other...

in this case, I think I WOULD tell the other wife. I can imagine many situations in which I would look the other way, and hope for the sake of the other couple that they work through whatever led to...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-04-2014, 10:13 AM
Replies: 101
Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
Thanks. I'm not ready to delve into custody...

Thanks. I'm not ready to delve into custody stuff yet. Perhaps we will have problems with that, but I doubt it. Time will tell. He's genuinely repentant and willing to do whatever it takes to get me...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-04-2014, 08:51 AM
Replies: 76
Views: 2,126
Posted By Jennyanydots
I'm so sorry. I'm going through something...

I'm so sorry. I'm going through something similar right now, and I'm absolutely devastated. I started a thread in parents as partners a few days ago and just updated it. I agree that for the money...
Forum: Parents as Partners   04-04-2014, 08:33 AM
Replies: 101
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Posted By Jennyanydots
thanks for all of your thoughts, ladies. He's...

thanks for all of your thoughts, ladies.
He's in counseling. I'm in counseling. We're in counseling together. I'm moving in a couple of weeks, more convenient place, easier to manage finances. I...
Forum: Talk Amongst Ourselves   03-30-2014, 11:34 PM
Replies: 55
Views: 6,675
Posted By Jennyanydots
Yes, no problem. I have had lots of good male...

Yes, no problem. I have had lots of good male health care providers, and this would be no different to me.
Forum: Preteens and Teens   03-29-2014, 11:56 PM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,314
Posted By Jennyanydots
I had small breasts- A cup- before kids, and I'm...

I had small breasts- A cup- before kids, and I'm tall with curvy hips so I was very insecure about my perceived "inadequacy". After breastfeeding they were gone and sad, so I also got implants a few...
Forum: Parents as Partners   03-29-2014, 11:36 PM
Replies: 101
Views: 3,028
Posted By Jennyanydots
I read up on narcissistic abuse and ever day...

I read up on narcissistic abuse and ever day sociopathy, and while some aspects of what he did do resemble narcissistic abuse, he definitely doesn't fit the profile of a narcissist or a sociopath....
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