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Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   05-19-2017, 11:14 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 218
Posted By VocalMinority
If I had it to do over again...

If I could go back - knowing what I know now - and create this stepfamily again, would I?

No.
Forum: Single Parenting   01-26-2017, 05:39 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 2,113
Posted By VocalMinority
My ex never asked for my ring back. We were...

My ex never asked for my ring back. We were young, and I walked away with the vast majority of the day-to-day care responsibilities for our special-needs twins (age 2 at the time). I wasn't sure...
Forum: Single Parenting   01-11-2017, 11:55 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 974
Posted By VocalMinority
Isn't it bizarre that after one person damages...

Isn't it bizarre that after one person damages relationships by doing something clearly and unmistakably outside what's socially acceptable, a second - normal - person who wants to repair the damage...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   01-05-2017, 07:35 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 982
Posted By VocalMinority
I just realized that was the final visit. Wow.

Update: I posted earlier, seeking advice about visits following DSS's non-custodial mother's sudden move to Mexico. DH did not get him a passport or fly him to Mexico for Christmas Break, as Mom...
Forum: Special Needs Parenting   12-13-2016, 05:22 AM
Replies: 1
Views: 767
Posted By VocalMinority
"Rescue" son, or let him learn naturally?

To try to make a long story short...

I have twin 21-year-old sons who were born at 24 weeks, who have ASD and mild-moderate developmental and cognitive delays. I sought legal guardianship of them...
Forum: The Childhood Years   11-18-2016, 05:18 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 703
Posted By VocalMinority
Do you parent similarly to - or differently from - your parents?

I'm reflecting this morning on how different some of my parenting instincts are, from my mother's. Since I relate to many of the core ideas I see in Mothering, I'm curious whether others here feel...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   11-15-2016, 06:55 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,115
Posted By VocalMinority
Without knowing what you complain about, or what...

Without knowing what you complain about, or what people are specifically saying to you, it's hard to answer.

In general, I'd say people have almost impossible expectations of stepmothers, without...
Forum: Single Parenting   11-01-2016, 03:01 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,234
Posted By VocalMinority
Re: Mom paying for the difference in airfare......

Re: Mom paying for the difference in airfare... Unfortunately, no. It was always so excruciatingly difficult working out even the simplest, most straightforward-seeming details, that DH agreed to...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-31-2016, 05:24 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,234
Posted By VocalMinority
It's not completely clear. She is required to...

It's not completely clear. She is required to notify DH by certified mail 90 days before a move, with specific info. including her reasons for moving; and to file the same notice with the court. ...
Forum: Single Parenting   10-29-2016, 01:16 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 1,234
Posted By VocalMinority
Any advice re NCP moving to Mexico? (X-posted from Blended Families)

My DH has had sole custody of DSS (17, HS senior) since DSS was 8; following a nasty, high-conflict visitation and custody battle with his ex-wife that started when DSS was just a baby. There were...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   10-29-2016, 01:10 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,013
Posted By VocalMinority
Any advice re NCP moving to Mexico?

My DH has had sole custody of DSS (17, HS senior) since DSS was 8; following a nasty, high-conflict visitation and custody battle with his ex-wife that started when DSS was just a baby. There were...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   10-27-2016, 03:30 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,034
Posted By VocalMinority
When kids are already dealing with hurtful...

When kids are already dealing with hurtful circumstances involving the people they ought to be able to rely on, for love and stability, I think it only makes it worse to confuse them with dishonesty,...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   10-18-2016, 07:08 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,502
Posted By VocalMinority
Allow me to suggest a book (even though you...

Allow me to suggest a book (even though you weren't asking)...

I wish I had read "Stepmonster" by Wednesday Martin earlier in the family-blending process. Don't be thrown by the title. It...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   10-18-2016, 04:12 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,502
Posted By VocalMinority
No. You're not being petty. You're being human.

I feel your frustration. I was also the custodial stepmom of a 10-year-old, because his mother did everything she could to physically distance him from, and emotionally alienate him from, my...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-17-2016, 06:56 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 751
Posted By VocalMinority
I'll assume you're asking because you're...

I'll assume you're asking because you're genuinely reflecting on what you wrote and whether that was the best way to express yourself. (Although it's possible you were only looking for us to pat you...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-15-2016, 05:55 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 618
Posted By VocalMinority
It is nicer for the kids, if all the parents...

It is nicer for the kids, if all the parents (bio- and step-) are friendly. Not simply the absence of sniping behind each other's backs to the kids, but being able to chitchat pleasantly - like...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   09-04-2016, 03:32 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 757
Posted By VocalMinority
http://gnat.wtf/2015/08/is-your-child-being-aliena...

http://gnat.wtf/2015/08/is-your-child-being-alienated-a-checklist-for-alienated-parents/ (This link) has some decent lists of symptoms, both of a child who has been alienated; and of a parent who is...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   07-01-2016, 08:16 AM
Replies: 3
Views: 753
Posted By VocalMinority
Mom sent DSS home a month early!

I haven't been on in a while, so for anyone who hasn't seen my previous polemics about my blended family...DH and I have been married ~8.5 yrs. and are raising:

> My ASD, developmentally-delayed...
Forum: Learning at School   05-09-2016, 07:02 PM
Replies: 86
Views: 15,408
Posted By VocalMinority
I'm curious whether there's a measurable...

I'm curious whether there's a measurable difference between TV and computer screen time. I know a number of wealthy parents who give their young kids what I consider inordinate time in front of...
Forum: Learning at School   05-07-2016, 07:13 PM
Replies: 86
Views: 15,408
Posted By VocalMinority
You've really asked two different questions: "Do...

You've really asked two different questions: "Do kids need preschool?" and "Will attending preschool make kindergarten easier?"

Having taught preschool on and off for over 20 years, I say no,...
Forum: New Member? Introduce Yourself!   04-26-2016, 05:45 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 388
Posted By VocalMinority
Welcome! I have micropremie twin sons, born at...

Welcome! I have micropremie twin sons, born at 24 weeks...almost 21 years ago! They struggled with developmental delays, and also both turned out to be on the Autism spectrum (which may run on...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   04-26-2016, 02:26 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,012
Posted By VocalMinority
Throughout our marriage, DH and I have both been...

Throughout our marriage, DH and I have both been the custodial parents of our kids from prior relationships (3 kids, total). Then we had one child, together.

My older kids have special needs...
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-17-2016, 08:21 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,205
Posted By VocalMinority
I went ahead and did what I described at the end...

I went ahead and did what I described at the end of my original post, before anyone had a chance to respond. So it's interesting to read your responses, now.

Although I didn't request any...
Forum: The Childhood Years   04-14-2016, 06:03 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 1,205
Posted By VocalMinority
Further report "missing" 5-y-o?

Sorry for the inadequate title. I'm in a hurry and had a hard time summarizing.

Last night, around 8:15pm (dusk) I had to slam on the brakes on a busy 4-lane road, to avoid hitting a 5-year-old...
Forum: Blended and Step Family Parenting   01-17-2016, 04:59 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 845
Posted By VocalMinority
I'm so sorry! It must really hurt, to have your...

I'm so sorry! It must really hurt, to have your mother treat you that way. Maybe I'm biased, because all my uncles are rednecks and I adore them, but there is nothing wrong with your husband's...
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